ask for what you want

If Nicoa had a $1 for every time she has asked someone the following questions:
"But have you asked?" or "Did you ask?" or "What about asking?"  What if asking the question you aren't asking actually gets you what you want? A LIFE BY DESIGN starts first and foremost with asking questions - not only of others, but of yourself!  And don't assume what others are thinking. You know what that does... GO FORTH AND ASK!


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Leadership is not just about the position you hold but the impact you make. 

In this episode, we uncover five transformative lessons every female leader should know to redefine and excel in their leadership journey.

As we approach the end of the year, it's the perfect time to reflect and prepare for what's ahead. In this heartfelt episode, our host shares personal experiences and invaluable advice she wishes she had known at the start of her leadership path.

Here’s today’s episode at a glance:

1. Embrace Your Unique Voice:

Learn why your natural communication style, whether empathetic and collaborative or otherwise, is a key strength in leadership. Understand the power of authenticity in a leadership role.

2. Trust Your Instincts:

Discover how trusting your instincts, informed by your experiences and knowledge, is crucial for making sound decisions in leadership.

3. Setting Clear Boundaries is a Strength:

Understand the importance of setting boundaries for respect, balance, and effective leadership.

4. Ask for What You Want:

Explore the empowering act of voicing your ambitions and needs, and why waiting for opportunities to come to you isn't always the best strategy.

5. Embrace Risks and Failures:

Find out why taking calculated risks and learning from failures can be transformative, leading to growth and innovation in your leadership journey.

These lessons are more than advice; they are pathways to becoming a bolder and more impactful leader. As women, we can redefine leadership, starting with these five pillars.

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Call to Action:

Choose at least ONE piece of advice you’d like to adopt in the next 30 days, and be intentional with following through. How will it transform your leadership?

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By now, you’ve made significant progress in breaking through the fears and paralysis that have kept you constrained through the years. You’ve learned how your fears hold you back and keep you from doing the things you want to do. You’ve learned to explore new arenas and avenues for self-expression by creating a vision and working toward it.

We are going to discuss taking actions toward the vision and the notion of getting to the edge of your comfort zone and the ability to move beyond it by taking the next step in the gap. This idea of getting to the edge and pushing yourself beyond it can feel like risk taking. Pushing yourself to take a risk deals with your confidence to drop the self-doubts of the past and take responsibility through action for who you want to be and are becoming.

An important aspect of gaining self-confidence and eliminating self-doubt is expressing what you want and speaking from a voice of certainty. It is a key method to break through certain inhibitions and the need to control the responses of others. Expressing what you want provides you an opportunity to assert not only your thoughts but also your rights and what you want in the face of your own anticipatory fear that you might offend people or be rejected.

An important aspect of gaining self-confidence and eliminating self-doubt is expressing what you want and speaking from a voice of certainty. It is a key method to break through certain inhibitions and the need to control the responses of others. Expressing what you want provides you an opportunity to assert not only your thoughts but also your rights and what you want in the face of your own anticipatory fear that you might offend people or be rejected.

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#assertiveness  #power  #lawofattraction

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• How men are not mind readers, and communication is key.
• Why women should express their needs and desires to their partners, despite conflicting messages
• The importance of expressing appreciation and guiding each other to be a partners in each others’ life
• How to let a partner know their importance and suggest ways they can contribute
• Personal experiences and the importance of expressing needs for a fulfilling partnership
• The importance of balancing positive and negative feedback in relationships:
• Gottman's research, and the 5:1 ratio rule

Key quotes:

• “Having this conversation in the right way and at the right time is an invitation to deeper intimacy. It is an invitation for a man to come closer to you." — Lisa Shield
• “One of the issues of asking for what a person needs is to be able to have that conversation that either moves the relationship forward or she has to know that this isn't working for her for what she ultimately wants." — Benjamin Shield 
• “Women need to ask for what they want in a loving, kind, compassionate, non-shaming, non-emasculating way; in a way that is positive and inviting and allows the right men to come closer to her." — Lisa Shield 
• “If he has this discussion just before in his bedtime, he's going to be up, he's going to be ruminating." — Benjamin Shield 
• "The single most important thing we can do with our time is be looking for love." — Lisa Shield 

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Do you find yourself leaving meetings dissatisfied, like you didn’t get your point across or were unprepared to answer tough questions? This is a sign that you’re not communicating with intention, and most likely need the guidance of my 6 P’s of Powerful Communication.

Powerhouse leaders are defined by the ability to execute, handle conflict, and influence. 

In this episode, I’ll explain how to plan, prepare and practice communication so you can be a confident leader that inspires those around you. You’ll learn why each step is unique and necessary for reaching your desired result, whether it’s in the workplace or in your personal life.

Then, I break down strategies to present your information, process key takeaways, and pursue those goals. From active listening to dealing with anxiety over addressing tough topics, I’m sharing tips that will transform how you become an effective communicator.

Regardless of your current skill set, this episode is a must-listen for all leaders!

TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why communication is so important
• Making a game plan
• Preparing yourself and content
• The practicing phase
• Presenting and being present
• Evaluating yourself and learning lessons
• Following up and making new goals

Have questions beyond our discussion about how to become a powerhouse leader? Book a call with me here and let’s talk!

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Do you find yourself leaving meetings dissatisfied, like you didn’t get your point across or were unprepared to answer tough questions? This is a sign that you’re not communicating with intention, and most likely need the guidance of my 6 P’s of Powerful Communication.

Powerhouse leaders are defined by the ability to execute, handle conflict, and influence. 

In this episode, I’ll explain how to plan, prepare and practice communication so you can be a confident leader that inspires those around you. You’ll learn why each step is unique and necessary for reaching your desired result, whether it’s in the workplace or in your personal life.

Then, I break down strategies to present your information, process key takeaways, and pursue those goals. From active listening to dealing with anxiety over addressing tough topics, I’m sharing tips that will transform how you become an effective communicator.

Regardless of your current skill set, this episode is a must-listen for all leaders!

TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why communication is so important
• Making a game plan
• Preparing yourself and content
• The practicing phase
• Presenting and being present
• Evaluating yourself and learning lessons
• Following up and making new goals

Have questions beyond our discussion about how to become a powerhouse leader? Book a call with me here and let’s talk!

Download my eBook, The 3 ‘Must-Have’ Myths for Success, here!

Connect with Bernadette:

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Kelly Myles and I go back many years. I am very grateful to have been with her on her journey to become an author and watch her courageously transition out of many decades in the hairdressing industry and into a coaching career that she is loving. Kelly is now having a powerful and profound impact on many lives through her coaching business. It's interesting how many of her clients are finding challenges with their relationships and sex life. So, in this conversation we discuss it.

We all love sex, and we all want great sex, yet for so many people - including myself for many years - sex has been more a source of stress and anxiety than one of joy and pleasure. Whilst there are many short term, quick-fix, and gimmicky suggested solutions out there to help people improve sexual performance, the key seems to have very little to do with sex at all. It's all about communication and connection.

Kelly talks in detail about some very simple things we can all do to improve connection, improve communication and significantly improve intimacy. None of which involves tablets, toys, or toe-touching! This is one of those conversations that is relevant to every person, no matter age, gender, or relationship status. This is a wonderful conversation with Kelly that I enjoyed immensely and hope you do also, 

Find out more about Kelly here.

My website is www.andrewjobling.com.au

If you want something for yourself but don't have it, you feel it.  What you think about not having it will determine how you feel and I think for most uncoached brains, it's unpleasant. Our thoughts influence how we feel so if we focus on how it's never gonna happen, we're going to feel BAD. 

Some people pretend they don't want what they want because, why bother... But that desire is bound to come up and reveals itself as shoulda and coulda.  It feels like regret. Regret is haunting.

Today's episode is about no longer denying yourself the life you experience you want. A life experience that feels good, that feels BETTER and more you, right now. Today is an opportunity to affirm what that life is like.

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In this episode Donna Thomson shares her experience with caregiving and how her journey has shaped her views on leadership. She speaks to the power of imagination, bravery and asking for what you need when leading a life as a caregiver. She references the need to have both power and love for self, for change and for the emergence of leadership.

Donna Thomson is a caregiver, author and advocate.  Her experience was shaped by caring for her son who has cerebral palsy and for her mother who died at age 96 after living the last part of her life with dementia. Donna is the co-author (with Dr. Zachary White) of The Unexpected Journey of Caring: The Transformation of Loved One to Caregiver (Rowman & Littlefield, 2019) and author of The Four Walls of My Freedom: Lessons I’ve Learned From a Life of Caregiving (The House of Anansi Press, 2014). Donna is a co-designer and co-instructor of The Family Engagement in Research Course and the facilitator of the Caregiving Essentials Course both at McMaster University. Donna is a co-author of Time to be counted: COVID-19 and intellectual and developmental disabilities—an RSC Policy Briefing  and for the Ontario Ministry of Health, Donna sat on The Expert Group on Home and Community Care and on the Working Group on Complex Care for Adults with Developmental Disabilities. Follow her on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Continuing with our ASK Challenge, we interview Maxwell Ivey (aka, The Blind Blogger)

Maxwell is a "blind blogger," podcaster, speaker, life coach,  author, self-taught web developer, and chuck full of wisdom and a delight to talk too.

Max helps people "ask for what you want and need in life and get it."

"Because if you don’t Ask, They Can’t say Yes!
This applies to everything in life.
It all starts with asking.
You will have to ask yourself if you have the courage to try.
And you will have to ask others for support, encouragement, information, and more if you want to succeed."

Max's "Rule of Four" to help you achieve your dreams
Remember and follow my Rule of Four, which goes like this:

1. If you can do it, then take action right away.

2. If you can’t do it, then can you learn it?

3. If you can’t do it or learn it, can you get someone to do it for you?

4. If you can’t do it, learn it, or get someone else to do it; then ignore it and focus on the things you can do something about.

Here is a link to Max's book we dig into during the interview "A Blind Bloggers NYC Adventures"

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• We believe in change
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• We believe you can become the best version of yourself

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"We put ideas to work in real life to get real results."

We help you build confidence...

• By keeping promises to yourself.
• By taking daily steps forward.
• By creating habits that improve your life and move you forward.

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Amy Fish is the author of I Wanted Fries With That. In her book, Amy encourages standing up for yourself (and others) by complaining effectively.

Her suggestions will appeal to anyone who wants to speak up and isn’t sure where to start, including managers navigating workplace disputes, couples who argue about the same things over and over, and even someone with a friend with bad breath.

Illustrating her points with funny real-life stories, Amy reveals pragmatic methods to redress grievances with civility, honesty, and fairness for everyone involved — whether you’re trying to right the wrongs of the world or just claim the french fries you ordered.

Amy is also Chief Complaints Officer, known as the Ombudsperson, at Concordia University in Montreal, Canada. She is responsible for promoting fairness and making sure everyone's voice is heard.

Amy regularly teaches, speaks and writes about how to complain effectively (i.e., stand up for yourself and ask for what you need.) She also teaches writing workshops at the Quebec Writing Federation, Hippocamp Conference for Creative NonFiction and at her kitchen table. She specializes in humour writing and memoir.

Amy's work has been published in Hippocampus Magazine, Readers' Digest, Huffington Post and several other journals.

In this episode, we touch on successfully communicating one's needs, speaking up for yourself, effective conflict resolution, focusing on what you can control, the power of listening, and more.

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