Run Your Own Race & Avoid the Comparison Trap
“Never compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” – Jon Acuff from his book Start.
I often allowed comparison to paralyze me from becoming the person I’m supposed to become. Much of that comparison stems from the social world of the internet.
I have a love/hate relationship with social media. I feel fortunate enough to know how life worked before it, as well as experience the rise of it.
In high school, I was on the early days of MySpace and felt the dopamine rush that notifications give you.
When I graduated in 2006, I joined the new wave of Facebook. You actually needed a college email to get access, long before your parents and grandparents were on that shit.
In 2013, I joined Instagram. In 2o14, I shifted to using it as a business portfolio. That’s when my life as a creative drastically changed, as I started to take my craft and message more seriously.
The Beautiful Toxicity of Social Media
Social media is a huge blessing in my life. It gives me confidence in myself and my work after spending the majority of life with none.
It has helped me find my creative community. This community lets me cultivate incredible relationships with like-minded nerds and freaks that geek out over the weird shit I do.
It’s given me a platform to spread good vibes, cast a spotlight on others, and speak up for things I believe in.
At the same time, though, social media has become a trap—not to mention a time suck when we don’t intentionally use it as a tool.
Social media truly is a beautiful thing. At the same time, it can be toxic as fuck.
It trains us to compare our lives and our work to our peers or to the legends we idolize.
We operate from a mindset of lack and have become the it’s never enough culture.
We constantly seek what someone else has and easily lose sight of what’s important—what we already have.
Who cares if we have 500 followers when Sally Jane has 5,000?
Sally Jane feels shitty because Billy Bob has 50k.
Billy Bob is bumming hard because Gertrude Baggins has 500k.
We’re forever running in a hamster wheel trying to play “catch up” when, in reality, we’re running our own race.
Marathon > Sprint
You’ve probably heard this a hundred times, but the race we’re running isn’t a sprint—it’s a lifelong marathon. It’s not a microwavable 100-meter sprint, it’s a slow, day-by-day grind that requires lots of practice, patience, and persistence.
You have your own starting point, no matter your age and experience.
You run at your own pace. Sometimes times you need to push the pedal through the floor and bust your ass. Other times, you have to pump your breaks and deal with the ebb and flow of life.
Your destination is different as your finish line is unique to you. There’s no GPS that’s going to give you step-by-step directions.
Your race is your own, so run your own race.
Stop Robbing Yourself
Teddy Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the greatest thief of joy.” We are constantly sticking ourselves up with the gunpoint of comparison.
Don’t let the cool shit others do rob you from making the cool shit you’re supposed to be creating.
Don’t let the incredible things people within and outside your circle are doing rob you from becoming incredible too.
Erase the comparison you’ll face in your dream that you chase. If that’s the case, you gotta embrace that you’re running your own race at your own pace to a different destination or place.
P.S. I hate running.
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