kindsight 101

What you believe about yourself dictates everything about your life; your success level, your perceived failures, and your quality of life.

Are you struggling with perfectionism, people pleasing, and believing you’re not enough? Do you feel like a failure despite your successes? Do you have a video playing over and over in your head of something that broke your heart? Are you living in shame of your shortcomings? Are you stuck in unhealthy relationships? 

Do any of these sound familiar?

WHAT IF YOU COULD...

• Let go of the past, so that you can heal and move forward?
• Accept your uniqueness, so that you feel more confident?
• Learn to make decisions based on your core values, so that you trust yourself?
• Set healthy boundaries, so that you have relationships that feel good?
• Forgive yourself for your past mistakes, so that you can love yourself?

HOW WE'LL WORK TOGETHER & COURSE DETAILS

In this 8 week course I’ll personally walk you through each step. This is a live, private coaching program.

• Week 1 - We identify what's got you stuck. We "clean out" your purse from the junk you've been holding onto. (the lies)
• Week 2 - You decide who you'll be when you let go of the past and create a new vision for yourself.
• Week 3 - We talk about your thoughts, triggers and managing your emotions.
• Week 4 - Define your values and deal breakers.
• Week 5 - How to create confidence and feel good in your skin
• Week 6 - How to practice self grace
• Week 7 - We focus on your purpose and unique gifts
• Week 8 - We put it all together and choose what you want in your purse!From the desk of Sharon Hughes' : 

"I understand first hand how hard it is to break unhealthy mindset patterns and to believe you deserve more.

I suffered through years of silence, hiding the shame of what I’d been through, until I realized I didn’t have to believe the lies anymore and that I deserved to be free, happy and loved.

Identity coaching is about helping you uncover what you believe about yourself and taking steps to stay in truth, while letting go of lies.

Some of the things I went through are; an abusive past that included physical/emotional abuse, abandonment, homelessness, parental abduction and date rape. Yeah, it’s a lot…but I made it through these dark times and so can you."

I’m a certified Life Coach and certified in Critical Incident Stress Debriefing/Management. 

You don’t have to struggle anymore, there’s help and there’s hope.

I had the great pleasure of being interviewed by Morgane Michael on her brilliant show KindSight 101, recently nominated for a Canadian Podcast Award.

Listen to that conversation in its entirety here. Then check out Morgane's work at the links below:

• KindSight 101 Podcast
• SmallActBigImpact.com
• Morgane on Instagram

If you enjoyed this conversation, tag us both on Instagram @bmillermagic and @smallactbigimpact and use hashtag #onenewperson so we can both find you and say hello!

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

Have you ever wondered what it takes to overcome a pivotal career crisis like getting fired? Well, my accomplished guest takes us through the 4 steps to creating confidence in the face of catastrophe. She also tells us the keys of closing a sale, a skill she says every student in North America should be learning at school. We live in a global world and Heather Monahan believes that in order to succeed, we need to know how to sell ourselves effectively.

Heather Monahan - Confidence Creator/Boss in Heels
Heather Monahan is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, entrepreneur and founder of Boss In Heels. Having successfully climbed the corporate ladder for nearly 20 years, Heather Monahan is one of the few women to break the glass ceiling and claim her spot in the C-suite.
As a Chief Revenue Officer in Media, Heather Monahan is a Glass Ceiling Award winner, named one of the most Influential Women in Radio in 2017 and Thrive Global named her a Limit Breaking Female Founder in 2018.
Heather’s new book Confidence Creator shot to #1 on Amazon’s Business Biographies and Business Motivation lists the first week it debuted on Amazon.
Heather is a confidence expert and is currently working with Fortune 500 companies and professional sports to develop confidence in the workplace and on the court. She’s also a member of Florida International University’s Advisory Council to further serve as a mentor and leader in the South Florida Community. Heather’s new show, Creating Confidence with Heather, can be found on Apple podcasts.

Heather most recently added Guest Professor at Harvard to her list of accomplishments. Heather and her son Dylan reside in Miami.

She will be speaking at TEDx in Boca Raton in October 2019.

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

Brian Miller is a magician, speaker, and author of personal success book Three New People: Make the Most of Your Daily Interactions and Stop Missing Amazing Opportunities. For 12 years he has shared his magic and his message with thousands of audiences in 11 countries across 4 continents. Based in Connecticut, Brian now performs his interactive blend of jaw dropping magic and laugh-out-loud comedy at 200+ events each year.

You can find out more about Brian's Magic on his website or his speaking as a Connection Specialist here.
There is a special discount code located here on Brian's website associated with KindSight 101, whereby you can get his amazing book for a whopping 40% off!

As a child, Brian suffered from a debilitating social and speech anxiety. He was bullied and mostly friendless through middle school. Though he loved magic tricks, he couldn’t muster the courage to perform for anyone. Brian got a fresh start in a new school for 9th grade, where he met another student who was also into magic. Through magic and friendship, Brian developed self-confidence for the very first time.

Founding his business at the early age of 16, Brian worked as a professional magician while completing a dual Bachelor’s of Science in mathematics and philosophy, achieving a 4.0 in philosophy and receiving two international awards for presenting original work. He was accepted into a PhD program for Philosophy of Language, but turned it down in order to pursue a career in entertainment.

Brian quickly found a following with college students on the national campus activities circuit, earning two nomination’s for “America’s Best Campus Artist” (Campus Activities Magazine) by the age of 24.
As his act evolved, so did the demand for his work. Brian developed a reputation for mixing world class entertainment with an engaging personality and the ability to adapt to any group. He began accepting invitations to entertain at exclusive private events throughout New England, such as bar/bat mitzvahs, weddings, company holiday parties, and corporate events.

Military Entertainment and More

In April of 2016, Brian partnered with Navy Entertainment to bring magic to the American troops and their families stationed overseas on military bases. He has since completed 3 tours for the troops in Europe, the Middle East, Africa, and Asia. Brian calls these tours the most rewarding work of his career. Read about his most recent tour across Asia here.
Brian’s work has been featured in the Hartford Courant, The Huffington Post, MAGIC Magazine, Genii Magazine, and The Society of American Magicians Magazine. He was also showcased in the 2016 documentary film The Get Together about the legendary Abbott’s Get Together magic convention held annually for the past 80 years in Colon, MI.

Beyond Magic
Brian’s experience as a magician make him a dynamic and engaging corporate keynote speaker and youth motivational speaker. His TEDx talk “How to Magically Connect with Anyone” has been seen and shared by 3 million people worldwide.

Outside of magic Brian is a passionate musician. He has achieved critical acclaim as a singer, guitarist, and songwriter as half of the group Escher’s Enigma, a unique studio project with his father Russ Miller.
Brian lives in Connecticut with his wife Lindsey.

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

If you are an educator, school administrator, parent, camp counsellor, or employer, chances are you've had experience with challenging behaviours.

So often, we focus on crisis-management and behaviour-modification to attempt to make challenging behaviours "go away," but as we know, sticker charts and reward systems do little to encourage intrinsic motivation and, furthermore, do not address the underlying problems that cause the problematic behaviours. 

I sat down with Dr. Ross Greene this summer to discuss his Collaborative and Proactive Solutions model in order to learn how we can solve some of the most challenging school behaviours. 

Here are some things we discuss: 

The Four Main Philosophies that guide Collaborative Proactive Solutions:

• Kids do well if they can. 
• Your explanation guides your intervention.
• Be responsible to the hand you've been dealt.
• Challenging behaviours occur when certain demands and expectations exceed a kid's ability to respond adaptively to their environment. It's a method of communication.

The Three Main "Umbrella" Lagging Skills

• Flexibility/ Adaptability
• Frustration Tolerance
• Problem Solving

Inclusion through the lens of teaching lagging skills and taking an empathic approach to adapting to problems integrating 100% of the time within the classroom for 100% of tasks

**The Most Important Skill for an educator to lead with **

**A Step-by-Step Framework to Implement CPS  **

• Empathy Step: Information gathering from the student- "What is hard for you about_? How does that make it hard for you to ?"
• Define Adult Concerns: Explain and articulate adult expectations 
• Invitation: Collaboration on a solution (having the student come up with some possible solutions to the problem and coming to a realistic, mutually satisfactory solution. "I wonder if there is something we can do about do that you can ? Do you have any ideas?"

A Real World Example of CPS in Action: Dr. Greene takes us through a step-by-step example of the process

**Dr. Ross Greene answers 2 audience questions related to: **

Teen peer pressure
School-Family Partnerships

Dr. Ross Greene's book recommendation: Sara Laurence Lightfoot's The Essential Conversation

Dr. Ross W. Greene is the author of Raising Human Beings, Lost and Found, Lost at School, and The Explosive Child. Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over twenty years, and is now founding director of the nonprofit organization Lives in the Balance (LivesintheBalance.org), through which he disseminates the model of care—now called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions—described in his books. Dr. Greene’s research has been funded by the US Department of Education, the National Institute on Drug Abuse, the Stanley Medical Research Institute, and the Maine Juvenile Justice Advisory Group. He speaks widely throughout the world.

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

Practice some of the KindSight 101 strategies, meditations, and tactics to help you be more self-compassionate, more altruistic and generous in your assumptions about others, and to truly step into the life you hope to have by bouncing back from adversity and challenges using these bi-weekly strategies. #smallactbigimpact #kindsight101

What a treat I have for you today!

Dr. Darryl Stickel is an executive coach and the founder Trust Unlimited. He has a PhD in Business from Duke University and worked as a consultant with McKinsey & Company.

He has served clients ranging from senior military professionals deployed in Afghanistan, to senior wealth advisors and family offices providing valued advice to some of North America’s most wealthy families to chief executive officers running multinational corporations. His specialty and passion is “Building trust in hostile environments.”

We know that trust is the number one leadership quality...but how do you build trust? Whether you are a leader, a teacher, a parent or someone who works with people on a regular basis, you’ll come away from this podcast with practical, tactical and easy-to-implement strategies to make you better! Enjoy!

Topics we touch upon:

• Trust (theory and science)
• Two essential questions every leader should ask themselves when starting off the year
• the importance of storytelling in leadership
• The three levers that enable excellent leadership
• Developing trust as it relates to educational leadership
• Developing relationships and trust with students (within our classrooms)
• Practical tips that can help us in developing trust with those around us personally and professionally
• The connection between vulnerability and uncertainty when it comes to creating trust bonds

Orly Wahba is an educator, entrepreneur, and activist who is passionate about inspiring people to embrace the power of kindness. She began her career as a middle school teacher in Brooklyn. For 15 years has worked with youth and local charities. Wahba is known for incorporating kindness love and respect into curricula. She founded life vest inside in 2011 and is the writer and director of Kindness Boomerang an inspiring video about kindness with more than 100 million views, the author of the book Kindness Boomerang, and is a TED speaker.

Dr. McAdam is the founder of Resilient Generations, a social enterprise based in Canada with a specific focus on Africa which seeks to help unemployed youth in Africa, increase the diversification of the employment market for youth, and increase trade from Africa.

Dr. McAdam is a professor, coach, speaker in the area of developing resilience.

In this conversation, you’ll learn the three keys to resilient people as well as simple ways to build your resilience and that of your students.

You can find more information about Dr. McAdam and her work at Resilient Generations.

We also discuss:

• The difference between hope and despair
• Luck vs preparation
• How to foster psychological safety for our students
• The surprising nature of choice
• Resilience in the context of protective factors vs. risk factors
• The three P's of resilience (Martin Seligman)
• Roots of Empathy
• The power of gratitude

Prepare to come away inspired!

About Tamara
She is a mom.
Raising three children provides endless opportunities for reflection as you discover what works (and what doesn’t!) for each of the little personalities you are trying to shape. Tamara’s parenting stories are sparked by observations and interactions as her children learn and grow.
She is an educator.
Tamara began her teaching career in 1997 with Clark County School District in Las Vegas, NV. Since that time, she’s educated children, teachers, parents and district leaders through my work with Shelby County Schools in Memphis, TN, Staunton City Schools in Staunton, VA, and Hanover County Public Schools in Ashland, VA. Her professional experiences include serving as an elementary classroom teacher, a Differentiation Specialist and a technology integrator. She was named 2019 Mechanicsville Elementary Teacher of the Year and an R.E.B. Award for Teaching Excellence finalist (with final designations announced November 2018!)
She currently hold a masters degree in Educational Leadership with administrative licensure for grades PK-12 that she received from James Madison University in 2006. She presents at local, state, and international conferences to include EdTechRVA, Virginia Society for Technology in Education (VSTE) Conference, and the International Society for Technology in Education (ISTE) Conference. In 2018, she was a keynote speaker for the Clarke County Innovation Conference and serve as Social Media Chairperson for the annual VSTE Conference.
She is passionate about student choice and voice and will often share stories of her lessons to inspire educators or perhaps strike a conversation that will engage others to delve deeper into the topic at hand. She is also passionate about kindness, hosting the annual Kindness Share Fair at Mechanicsville Elementary School. Being an educator to other parents’ children is tightly woven into her own parenting style.
She is a writer.
In 2012, she created her first blog, sharing her journey of completing 40 random acts of kindness for others in celebration of her 40th birthday. After presenting an Ignite session at the 2014 ISTE Conference in Atlanta, GA, she expanded her passion for writing to include various publications with organizations such as ISTE, Tech4Learning, and Christian Educators Association International. Her repertoire now includes book collaborations, web posts, magazine articles, screencasts, webinars, digital learning guides and more. She is currently writing a book about kindness to be published in 2019 by Dave Burgess Consulting, Inc.

Laurie McIntosh is an incredible kindergarten educator based out of Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada who dedicates herself to teaching her students to be kind through kindness cape superhero missions. A kindness superhero herself, she has been featured on The Ellen Show and has started The Kind Club, an international kindness club that any teacher can join with their class. She mobilizes kindness through her blog and social media where you can find her @lauriesmcintosh @MrsMacsKinders @the_kind_club. I hope you feel as inspired as I did after this conversation!

Here's a clip of her Ellen Show appearance.
Here's her class being featured in 2018 for the great work they do in their community.
Here's a link to her blog.
Follow her on Twitter and Instagram to keep up with all of the amazing work that she does!

In my interview with Morgane Michael, host and producer of Kindsight 101, we discuss why kindness gets a bad rap; the research that shows how kindness and compassion actually increase creativity and productivity; how Pixar and Disney are embracing kindness practices in their work cultures without lowering their standards; how to counter the 'live or die' mentality of perfectionism and achievement; the contagious impact of kindness, affecting our physical and mental wellness as well as the dominant culture; how social media can be damaging, leading to depression and anxiety; how we can find ways to be more 'real' and risk being more authentic and vulnerable in our public personas; and why play is the antidote to perfectionism.

Learn more about the stuff we talk about!

Morgane Michael: https://smallactbigimpact.com/tag/morgane-michael/

Kindsight 101: https://smallactbigimpact.com/our-podcast/

Pixar: https://www.pixar.com

Brene Brown: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

Carol Dweck: https://www.mindsetonline.com

Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org