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Liminality, Transition, and Games
On today’s episode, we’ll discuss the concepts of Liminality, Transition, and Games. The term “liminal space” may not be familiar to you. But if you’ve ever made a transition from a physical place; a mental space; or experience anything that you would ever consider “life changing” or “transformative” then you may have already experienced “liminality.” But what exactly is liminality? Why is it important? How does it relate to games, learning, and games-based learning?
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Support the showWhat do our wounds want us to know about the world? What do you need to bring with you into your personal underworld? What do your hidden parts desperately want to share with you, if you were willing to listen?
In this offering, I'm sharing my personal notes and contemplations about the week ahead. With the invitation of astrology as the portal and with the guidance from my sacred ancestors, I hope these messages will serve you as you walk your path.
While this contemplation was inspired by the energy and the astrology of the week of 11.13.23, I also offer the possibility that the message here is relevant for you - even if you found the episode sometime in the future.
This week, we have a New Moon in Scorpio conjoining Mars and opposing Uranus. In addition, Mercury sextiles Venus, and the Mars cazimi trines Neptune.
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How might hope serve as the bridge between our past and our future, our nightmares and our dreams, our pain and our love? What might practicing hope look like in our everyday lives?
In this offering, I'm sharing my personal notes and contemplations about the week ahead. Combining astrology, tarot, the Akashic & Cosmic Body perspectives, and guidance from my sacred ancestors, healing guides and my own spirit, I hope these messages will serve you as you walk your path.
While this contemplation was inspired by the energy and the astrology of the week of 11.06.23, I also offer the possibility that the message here is relevant for you - even if you found the episode sometime in the future.
This week, Venus enters Libra and Mercury enters Sagittarius.
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How do we welcome and integrate the messy parts of our experiences as humans? How might we create pathways of communication for our physical bodies and our emotional bodies, for our selves and the web of life that hold us?
In this offering, I'm sharing my personal notes and contemplations about the week ahead. Combining astrology, tarot, the Akashic & Cosmic Body perspectives, and guidance from my sacred ancestors, healing guides and my own spirit, I hope these messages will serve you as you walk your path.
While this contemplation was inspired by the energy and the astrology of the week of 10.30.23, I also offer the possibility that the message here is relevant for you - even if you found the episode sometime in the future.
This week, Venus trines Uranus and opposes Neptune, the Sun opposites Jupiter, and Mercury opposes Uranus. Saturn stations direct.
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Macy talks about the rock that helps to teach us that all that glitters is not, in fact, gold, because we're talking granite. Charlye talks about maintaining spiritual hygiene when traveling, as well as reasons for why we might have an uptick of spiritual activity in places of travel.
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Jade and David enjoy a damn fine cup of coffee and discuss the tonal landscapes of David Lynch’s work. Topics covered include baguettes, Tibetan monks, and car alarms.
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How might we tend to the tenderness that lies beneath our protective layers? How do we honor the desire to stay soft in a harsh world? How do we work with the quickness of our visions and the slowness of our bodies?
In this offering, I'm sharing my personal notes and contemplations about the week ahead. Combining astrology, tarot, the Akashic & Cosmic Body perspectives, and guidance from my sacred ancestors, healing guides and my own spirit, I hope these messages will serve you as you walk your path.
While this contemplation was inspired by the energy and the astrology of the week of 10.23.23, I also offer the possibility that the message here is relevant for you - even if you found the episode sometime in the future.
This week, the Sun enters Scorpio. We also have a Partial Lunar Eclipse in Taurus.
If you have enjoyed these contemplations, I encourage you to check out my new offering. EYES ON THE EDGE is an 8-week exploration of Mars through energetic experiments, self-inquiry, and embodiment practices. We start the journey tomorrow on October 24, 2023. Registration will stay open until the end of today, Monday October 23, 2023 at 11:59 PST. If you identify as intuitives, mystics, artists, and dreamers who would like to cultivate passionate, skilled leadership - this is for you.
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What might we learn from cultivating a devotional praxis with Mars? How might cultivating this devotional praxis with Mars assist those who are feeling the call? How do we shift our fears and assumptions of Mars, and begin collaborating with Mars on life-giving and nourishing endeavors?
A few weeks ago, I announced EYES ON THE EDGE - an 8-week container to explore Mars through energetic experiments, self-inquiry, and embodiment practices. In this episode, I shared about:
We begin our journey on Tuesday, October 24th.
Registration will open until Monday, October 23rd or until the container is full.
I read the works of Vattius Valens, Richard Tarnas, and Kristin Mathis's translation of the Orphic Hymn to Mars (used with permission).
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Join Leilani and Kimberlyn as they explore the science, lore, and many ways that the power of the eclipse can be used in witchy practice, and just generally lose their minds.
Their check-ins Kimberlyn has rediscovered the joys of karaoke; Leilani officiates a wedding and gets a ‘thank you’ gift that captures her sparkly essence.
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If the only constant is change, how might we practice change as a way to honor our existence? What can Virgo teach us about reveling in our process of decay? How might we invite the essence of our past selves to be trusted allies in welcoming change?
In this offering, I'm sharing my personal notes and contemplations about the week ahead. Combining astrology, tarot, the Akashic & Cosmic Body perspectives, and guidance from my sacred ancestors, healing guides and my own spirit, I hope these messages will serve you as you walk your path.
While this contemplation was inspired by the energy and the astrology of the week of 09.11.23, I also offer the possibility that the message here is relevant for you - even if you found the episode sometime in the future.
This week, we have a New Moon in Virgo. Mercury stations direct, the Sun makes a trine to Uranus, and Venus squares Jupiter.
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Welcome back to Ramblings of a Grey Witch Podcast! After a short break, I'm excited to catch up with you as we continue our spiritual journey together. I share with you some of my recent dream experiences and would love to hear your thoughts on these! Are they messages? What do you think the message is? Let's unearth the secrets of the dream world and unmask the inexplicable, as we journey further into the realm of the unknown. I also update you on the outcome of my recently discussed curse jar.
Venture further with me as, in the second half of this episode, I introduce you to a captivating and enigmatic deity - none other than the revered Goddess of Witches, Hekate. Our exploration takes us through the mythology, symbols, and profound significance that Hekate embodies. Together, let's offer our homage - Hail Hekate!
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What does being in a body teach us about the nature of being in process? How might our lived experiences serve as connective tissues linking our artistic and spiritual practices?
Recorded in November 2022 - towards the end of The Lovers year, where the lunar nodes were in the Scorpio-Taurus axis - my conversation with Rachel Blodgett continued to work its potent medicine through me. Rachel is a kindred spirit and an artist whose work I dearly admire. You may know her from her Serpent & Bow garments.
As I'm thawing out of a period of hibernation from creating and sharing conversations, this one feels ripe to share.
We discussed about the secret body (a term Rachel came up with during our conversation), holding space for the human process, creating art, and symbols.
It's a fertile, rich conversation that keeps on giving. The conversation unfolded in magical, nonlinear time, and I feel deeply that the themes we covered here are more present now in the collective than ever.
May this conversation serve as a catalyst and a reminder for you, too.
Here's Rachel's bio:
Established in 2012, Serpent & Bow is the full time ritual art practice of Rachel Blodgett.
Working with natural materials and visual magic, Serpent & Bow explores transformative and liberatory embodiment through the creation, wear, and use of ritual artworks.
Rachel Blodgett (she/her) is an artist and poetic spellcrafter from Santa Rosa, California.
She is devoted to the mystery of being human, and to courtship with artistic expression as a method of communicating with the universe.
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Diese Folge dreht sich um liminale Räume: Orte, die uns gleichzeitig vertraut und doch fremd sind, die uns surreal und gleichzeitig gespenstig erscheinen, wie zum Beispiel leerstehende Büros, verlassene Schwimmbäder oder die bekannten, sogenannten “Backrooms”. Kim und Denise erforschen, wie Liminal Spaces ein Gefühl der Entrücktheit und (Alb-)Traumhaftigkeit erzeugen. Dafür hat Kim sich das Spiel “Control” (2019) ausgesucht, in dem Protagonistin Jesse Faden unverhofft ein paar Stufen der Karriereleiter überspringt und die Direktion des FBC (Federal Bureau of Control) übernimmt. Im Oldest House schlägt sie sich nicht nur durch seltsame Flure und verlassene Räume, sondern reist auch zwischen den Dimensionen. Denise hat den Kurzfilm “Heck” (2020) von Kyle Edward Ball aka BitesizedNightmares dabei, der ihr noch Tage später Gänsehaut über den Rücken jagt. Der knapp 30-minütige YouTube-Film, in dem ein kleiner Junge in der Nacht alleine im Elternhaus aufwacht und seine Mutter nicht finden kann, führt die Zuschauer*Innen durch einen liminalen Fiebertraum, der einfach nicht enden will… Seid ihr bereit?
Achtung!
- Diese Folge enthält kleinere Spoiler zum Spiel Control und dem Kurzfilm Heck.
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Waiting. No one likes it.
But we all have to wait sometimes, lots of times during life.
Rushing on in our minds just makes us unhappy, dissatisfied, grumpy.
How can we wait well?
Find out in this episode!
This episode follows Chapter 3, Section 4: "Activate Responsibility" of Anxiety... I'm So Done with You! The idea of responsibility may stress you out because it feels like an obligation or a trap. In this episode, I debunk that idea and explain how responsibility brings freedom. You'll learn how
Stepping closer to adulthood could be daunting, but I'll show you how accepting responsibility is good for you.
Adolescence is a time of transition. Many traditional cultures have rites of passage designed to help youth transition from childhood to adulthood, also known as liminal time. In Western society, many of us have been disconnected from our ancestors' rites of passage ceremonies, which could make youth feel adrift. In this episode, I acknowledge that loss and make suggestions to smooth the process of stepping into responsibility.
You'll learn the benefits of responsibility in so many areas of your life. Let me show you how responsibility is your ally. It'll help you become empowered, invigorated, and purposeful. Most importantly, it has the potential to give you control over your anxiety.
"Responsibility makes you feel good about yourself. You'll feel accomplished, relieved when the task is off your plate, or happy if you helped someone. Plus, if you had a challenge when doing that task, you will feel proud for overcoming that challenge." - Dr. Jodi Aman
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About Dr. Jodi Aman
Therapist | Author | Spiritual Mentor
Dr. Jodi Aman is a Leadership and Spiritual Coach who has spent 25 years as a trauma-informed psychotherapist. She earned a Doctorate in Social Work in ’23, focusing on Leadership, Social Justice, Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Social Work acknowledges the person in their environment and understands how humans react to situations. Work with Jodi.
“After 25 years of clinical experience, I feel deep resonance and empathy for the complexities of others’ pain and am compelled to stand against the context of injustice that causes it. Using this keen understanding of how and why people suffer, my unique and varied training, rooted ethics, as well as decades being a trauma-informed psychotherapist, I help sensitive souls release what they don’t want, recover their energetic bandwidth, and grok a socially conscious life of overflowing joy. More about me.”
Her doctorate thesis project addresses the current teen mental health crisis. She is designing a psychoeducational curriculum for improving teen mental health. This program, called COMPASS, will help young people navigate human emotions, giving them the information to understand what is happening and the tools to heal themselves and their communities. If you care about, work with, love, and/or are concerned for teenagers and are worried about the devastating mental health crisis too many of them are living through, you may be interested in my research and plans for this classroom-based, culturally-sensitive curriculum for high school health teachers to facilitate during their mental health units. Learn More.
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Hey, you're here with Dr. Jodi, and this is Season 3 of "Anxiety… I'm so Done with You!" This podcast is a teen and young adult guide to ditching toxic stress and hardwiring your brain for happiness. If you're new here, grab a copy of my book "Anxiety… I'm so Done with You!" because this series goes section by section through the book, going a little bit deeper, giving more examples, and telling more stories. Season 3, which goes along with Chapter 3, expands hope by looking at your skills and abilities.
You are amazing! You have many skills and abilities. However, anxiety does not want you to know that. It tries to block your view of them. But not anymore! This season, we'll bring them out into the open, giving you more access to them when you need them the most. As this season progresses, you're going to envision yourself in a new way––as a person who is able, caring, confident, and determined. Thank you for listening, subscribing, and leaving me five stars on Apple Podcasts. Mental health problems are skyrocketing, especially among young people, and this series will help them cease judging, stop questioning, and start healing!
Welcome to Chapter 3, Section 4: Activate Responsibility. In this episode, I'm going to discuss how:
Before we dive into all that, remember that I go live every Monday on YouTube and Facebook. You'll find me on YouTube and TikTok at @DoctorJodi.
"Responsibility" may have a bad rap, especially for teenagers! And that's because you're trying to individuate and become your own person. Developmentally, you are supposed to rebel. As you move along this process of individuating––
(I find the word "individuate" interesting because it doesn't mean be on your own or be a single, individual person; it comes from the word indivisible, meaning undivided. That means, as you grow into adulthood, you realize you are part of a whole. It's so convoluted that the word that means indivisible has a connotation of a person being on their own. It's supposed to be a person being a member of a whole community and connected to that community. Or even beyond the community––connected to the energy field and the land. Connected as in being one with all of that.)
As you travel your life path from kid to adult, you are transitioning to this new identity––the adult you. In many older societies, older than Western culture, cultures that still connect with the land and are more communal, there are Rights of Passage rituals that young people go through to mark this transition into adulthood and their community. In these ceremonies, they accept the responsibility of adulthood. They take their position in society. There's a big hole missing in Western culture because most young people don't have these rituals to help them get through this time psychologically.
An anthropologist named Arnold van Gennep studied rites of passage around the world. An anthropologist is someone who looks at human culture and humanity. He suggests that rites of passage and rituals follow the three-stage process described below.
1. In the first stage, you are changed from something you were to something new or different. That's called separation. You leave childhood––your young identity––and transition into adulthood.
2. In the second stage, you remove yourself from society temporarily because you're in a period of transition called liminality; sometimes, I refer to this as the caterpillar's cocoon.
3. The third stage is when you re-enter society as a new person, which is called incorporation.
In adolescence, you are going through this process. If your family doesn't have a cultural ritual for this, you will have to feel your way through the process on your own. In the second stage, the liminal space is a betwixt-and-between place where you pull back from your parents and are in your head a lot. You're trying to figure out who you are and your position. In non-individualized cultures, you might be in the forest on a vision quest. If so, you would have a guide for this experience––the medicine person from the community or a spiritual elder would guide you through this process.
As a young adult, you may be going through this liminal time. You might feel like you're in caterpillar soup, releasing that caterpillar body and growing a new body with beautiful wings. If you're here in this liminal space, having one or some adults in your life that you can trust makes it more accessible. If you don't yet have one, find a trusting adult to support you. Let them help you. Humans are not meant to do things alone, especially something as big as becoming your own person. You want an adult to show you that adulthood isn't that bad, that the responsibility that comes with it is freeing and connecting, and that it gives you a sense of purpose and position in the community, which provides you with belonging and lifelong happiness.
Studies from all over the world show a correlation between purpose and living longer and happier. We'll discuss that more in Chapter 5, but as a preview here, I'm letting you know that a sense of purpose gives you a reason to live. It gives you a feeling of worthiness. You deserve/need that because people without a sense of purpose feel lost and untethered.
How does responsibility equal freedom?
Think about your life. In particular, think about a time when you're around well-functioning adults. (Sadly, I have to specify "well-functioning adults" because many of you have adults who are not functioning that well.) If not your parents or grandparents, there should be some good adult somewhere in your sphere; aunts, uncles, someone at school, a neighbor, or one of your friend's parents. Think about how you feel when you're around them. Reflect on when you helped them with something like holding the door for them, acting politely, or doing something kind. When well-functioning adults witness you being responsible, they want to give you things like compliments, privileges, support, and opportunities. They recognize you and are so happy that you're doing those things they want to give you whatever they can. That is how well-functioning adults act around young people who are responsible.
I don't mean that they give you everything that you want. (That's not well-functioning to give someone everything that they want.) However, they want to give you rewards and privileges when they see your responsibility. And those rewards and privileges equal freedom to do the things you can't do if you hadn't earned them.
People with rewards and privileges without having earned them usually don't appreciate them the same way as people who have earned them. The people who earn privilege through their behavior––and by behavior, I mean kindness and actions, and by actions, I mean, they are responsible, conscientious, ethical, and do what they say they're going to do––are usually nicer people to hang out with. They feel more grounded and comfortable with themselves. And because they're comfortable with themselves, they treat other people around them better. The amount of responsibility you embody is relative to the freedom you get.
(There's a relationship, but not a guarantee. Because our world is very unfair, many injustices marginalize people in our society, keeping them from the opportunities they deserve. Then, bullies, criminals, and accidents hamper people's freedom, too. In general, though, responsibility is highly correlated with freedom.)
It's helpful to consider responsibility low-risk and high-reward because it's absolutely worth the effort. For example, if you showed commitment at a job, you'd get promoted faster and earn more money. Plus, responsibility won't only earn you rewards and privileges; it also makes you feel good about yourself. You feel:
On the other hand, being irresponsible makes you feel bad about yourself. You may not think you care about being "responsible," but often, even if it is below your awareness, there is shame and guilt about being irresponsible. Then, you have to overcompensate to convince yourself that you don't care, and the guilt and shame eat you up inside anyway, even if you deny them. Plus, being irresponsible hurts relationships. It gets you into fights and conflicts, makes you put walls up, keeps people away, and makes you distrust yourself and others. Unfortunately, this isolates you.
Responsibility, though, connects you to people. It gives you a sense of belonging. People need you, and you need them. They help you, and you help them. For example, when you participate in your family chores, you are part of helping your house run. Even if you don't consciously care about that, your brain feels settled in that belonging. It enjoys the safety that comes with belonging to a group. Another benefit is that managing and completing tasks robustifies your prefrontal cortex. (I just made up the word "robustify," but I have not found another word that really portrays the same meaning––to make it fuller, richer, and more invigorated.)
Anytime you build up your prefrontal cortex, your anxiety, and depression go down. I recently listened to a news segment with Sanjay Gupta, which I'll link to in the blog post that goes with this episode. He was referring to some studies of the teenage brain where they took MRIs before and during the COVID-19 pandemic. On those scans, they found an overall shrinkage of the participant's prefrontal cortex, which they attributed to the lack of activity during the social isolation of the lockdowns. When the prefrontal cortex is under-stimulated, anxiety and depression increase.
Remember, the prefrontal cortex is the mammalian brain that can override any false beliefs that the anxiety (the reptilian brain) tells you. That means the more robust the prefrontal cortex is, the less power anxiety has. The prefrontal cortex is the brain's executive functioning, where you make meaning and decisions and recognize your agency and authority. Now that we are post-pandemic, your prefrontal cortex desperately needs stimulation.
The prefrontal cortex is stimulated through activities like problem-solving, challenging yourself, learning new things, and being creative. Responsibility makes you feel better! Anxiety and depression want you to pull away from any responsibility. Plus, they have you too exhausted to do anything. However, that not only keeps anxiety and depression in your life, but it makes them worse. Don't listen to the anxiety and depression. They do not have your best interests at heart.
Do something little, even when you're exhausted, or the anxiety wants you to pay attention to its lies. Do something little, even if it's clean out one drawer. That might be all you can do if you're exhausted. Try that one little task. Then, celebrate it! Look at it. See how good it looks all organized. This will help you feel good about it. That's what we discussed in the last episode: celebrating anything you do. And it will feed you energy for the very next task. Then you get more energy to do the next task; you use the energy you get from that task to do the next task, the next task, and the next task.
When you are unmotivated, you are an "object at rest" (inertia= object at rest stays at rest; an object in motion stays in motion). To get out of "rest," you must slowly transform yourself into an object-in-motion with your prefrontal cortex. Your mammalian brain has to make you engage in the first small task. You can't go from 0 to 100 (rest to super speed). You have to accelerate slowly. Luckily, once you are in motion, the inertia carries you, and it takes less effort to stay active.
The other thing about responsibility to remember is that you see yourself reflected off the people around you. So, when they see you as responsible, it affirms and acknowledges you. You feel really good about yourself. That acknowledgment, acceptance, appreciation, and being noticed? It lifts you, energizes, and invigorates you. Without positive feedback like this, you start to feel shriveled up. You stop having your dopamine release, and then you stop caring about anything. You feel increasingly exhausted, saying, "I'm so tired all the time. I'm so tired all the time."
In that state, you feel like a victim of everything anyone asks you to do. The requests feel like demands and obligations. You feel powerless and out of control, so what do you do? You protest those things, but the protest itself can be more effort, while at the same time, you are losing your potential rewards or privileges from the conflict caused by protesting. (You don't win anything here. You just stay suffering.)
Instead, I want you to think about responsibility as you being in a power-role. You are choosing to do anything that you do. It's true! Everything you do is a choice. (Even if it doesn't feel like a choice, like when you are doing it because you don't want to get in trouble. You are choosing not to get in trouble.) When you feel empowered, that is your choice; it will feel totally different to do that thing. This is a mindset shift. It's always your choice; you just have to see it that way. Besides, sometimes doing the task is much less energy than protesting it. Plus, you get the benefits from doing it!
Kind in mind: if responsibility gives you freedom, then responsibility gives you power. Tasks will seem more manageable when you think of it this way. They will take less energy to start because you're not fighting yourself as much. As time passes and you get used to doing things, your calorie-conserving resistance will decrease. When your brain gets used to tasks, it stops protesting them. The task becomes easier and worth the effort (since there's less effort.) Life is so much easier when you don't oppose the little actions you must do to manage your life. When you're used to doing them, they get easier, and you will get more opportunities. And you'll be able to handle bigger challenges that come your way.
Before we close this episode, let's talk about negotiation. Negotiation is an excellent skill for anyone to have. The world works through relation and cause and effect. People have needs and wants, and also things to offer others. Humans are social beings, and we can't do everything that we have to do in our life alone. We can barely do a small portion of the things that we have to do in our life alone. We need other people, and other people need us. Therefore, you have to learn how to negotiate for those needs. When you were a child, people met your needs without you having to ask, but now that you're entering adulthood. You are in this liminal space. You have opinions about what you want and how you want it. So, you must start learning how to negotiate to get those things. What's important to know about negotiating is that it's a two-way street. You have to give something to get something in a negotiation.
You're older now and can be responsible. You have to give what the other person needs to get what you need. "Giving" can sometimes merely be acting responsibly. For example, you have to clean your room before going out or do some extra chores to earn a few bucks. Here's a hot tip about negotiating: If you know the other person well, you know what they want, which will help you understand what you can offer them. Offer something first, something that you would absolutely do, before making your request.
Keep in mind, though, if you offer something that you promised before but didn't do, it won't work. If you still need to build up trust, then you'll have to do something that you said you do before you get what you want. Expect you need to build trust before that kind of negotiation works. If you're saying, "I'll do this if you do this for me," they have to count on you that you will do that thing. If they can't count on you, you must do your thing first to earn what you want. That's where the responsibility comes in. When you're responsible, it gives you tons of negotiation power. That means you can ask for more things with fewer things you have to offer! They trust you already!
I will link to more negotiation tactics in the blog post that goes along with this episode because this skill will help you so much in life. You'll use it in every single relationship: friends, romantic partners, kids, and in every career. No matter what you do, having a good understanding of negotiation skills will benefit you. The link to the blog post is in the show notes.
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In this episode of The Discussion I’m joined by digital identity thought leader Dave Birch and Senior Principal at Liminal, and host of the State of Identity podcast, Cameron D’Ambrosi to discuss the digital identity landscape.
We cover the push towards integrated identity platforms, the vision for reusable identity and the differences between centralized and decentralized systems and how those often reflect national culture. What is the state of Digital ID in the UK? Will the wallets offered by Big Tech win out in the USA? And how might eIDAS or the EUDI approach evolve across the EU?
Also to what extent do the public really understand (and trust) these identity systems which look like they are about to become part of our everyday lives?
Liminal website
2023 Digital Identity Landscape from Liminal
The State of Identity podcast
Cameron D’Ambrosi on Twitter @dambrosi
Dave Birch’s website https://15mb.ltd/
Dave’s Substack https://dgwbirch.substack.com/
Dave’s books The Currency Cold War and Identity Is The New Money
Read him on Forbes
Dave Birch on Twitter @dgwbirch
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The guides bring through encouragement and help for us to let go of limitations on what we're manifesting - in this quick, easy way.
Inviting their support in to let us manifest from beyond the limits of our imagining.
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