losing identity

Some of the things that are hard about motherhood, we simply can't change. The newborn no sleep season, the exhausted new mom season, the getting used to your body again season, surging hormones season, toddlerhood, fighting siblings, potty training, regulating emotions... there are so many things that we just have to go through as moms. 

But there are some hard things we can change, or at least make easier, when we make changes to take control of our motherhood. We've done this by choosing to find ways to work from home, which has allowed us to take back control of a lot of things in our motherhood, like spending intentional time with our kids, having money for date nights, having control over your family's routine, working with people you enjoy, making extra money, etc. 

In today's podcast episode, we sit down with fellow mama (of 2!) Kayla Hoffmeier, who we met back in 2020 before she started her Virtual Assistant career. She's recently welcomed her son, the newest additional to her family, and shares how life has been since she made the change in her career 3 years ago. Join us for our conversation with Kayla if you're looking for some encouragement in your motherhood or need some motivation to take steps to even just start making goals to get you where you want to be!

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In this episode, we dive deep into the challenges, emotional regulation, and self-discovery that we're all facing during this unique season of life.

Alyson Hempsey brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the table as a skilled psychotherapist and life coach, she has a Bachelor's degree in Psychology and a Master's in Clinical Social Work. She is not only the founder of @thehonestpeach but also cohosts the No Mama Left Behind Podcast which gives her a unique perspective on various aspects of motherhood.

But, it's not just Alyson's professional credentials that make her an expert on this topic; her personal journey as a mother adds an authentic touch to the conversation. As a fellow mom, she truly understands the complexities and joys that come with motherhood, making her insights even more relatable and valuable.

Join us for an enlightening and inspiring discussion between three moms, as we offer guidance, empowerment, and inspiration to navigate the beautiful chaos of motherhood. Whether you're a new mom, an experienced parent, or just curious about the transformative journey of motherhood, this episode promises to provide valuable insights that will help you reclaim and redefine your identity amidst the challenges and joys of raising a family. Don't miss this opportunity to gain a fresh perspective and embrace the beauty of growth and self-discovery during this season of life. Tune in now to be part of this uplifting conversation!

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Do you feel like you lost your identity and you are unfulfilled in a certain area of your life? 

Early on when my son was born as a single mother was working and taking care of my child I completely lost sense of who I am and what my goals were, my passion, my interests - I basically identified myself as a single mom, someone who worked and took care of my son. To be honest, there wasn’t a lot of time to take care of myself or do anything I was interested in, at least I thought there wasn’t time. I felt like I completely lost myself. 

So if you've lost your identity this podcast is for you If you are unsure of who you are anymore or if you have lost your sense of being let's talk about that How can we get that back?

Here are some steps or things you can do to recover your identity, or to even create or shape a new identity, 

• Give yourself permission to figure it out - give yourself time. Sometimes we also have to deal with specific emotions in between, could be allowing yourself time to grieve, to feel and handle sadness, anxiety, to push through getting services or schedules set up for your child - there could be some things in the way that you need to move through and navigate before you can really start the work to determine your identity
• Think about things that have shaped your identity in the past. What are things you enjoyed doing - things you loved doing? What are your hobbies? 
  • For me, I enjoyed exercising, running, playing volleyball, being active in the community by volunteering, hiking, sleeping
  • Find your people - there are so many groups out there now on Facebook, meetup - you can really find people in your area who have the same passions as you. Get connected, pick up a class - interact with others who share your passions will bring so much joy to your life and focus your attention on so much positivity. 
  • This is your chance to take back what you feel like you have lost and to shape it into your life, potentially in a different way
  • Embrace change 
• Think about what you want to be in the future - what are your goals? 
• Trying to resurrect previous passions and hobbies, or to create goals for the future takes work - so get a pen and paper and start writing. Get it all out of your head and see what it looks like on paper. 
• Make a plan - How can you achieve these goals or start incorporating your passions and hobbies into your life - into your schedule. A lot of people have thoughts in their head about what they wan tto do, but don’t always put a plan together. Even a bulleted list of things you’re going to do to achieve your goals or to get out there to build back your identity. So, take this step - the more clarity you have, the better you’ll be able to reach your goals and start feeling whole again. 

Here’s the thing - Identify doesn’t have to be set in stone. 

People can grow, change, and fall in love with new ideas and out of love with old ones. Allowing yourself the opportunity to go through that process isn't a betrayal of your true identity. It may be an opportunity to find a new version of yourself you never knew was out there.

On this episode I'm joined with Livia Almeida. We discussed her journey moving from Brazil to the UK, the difference in cultures and how she often experiences a loss of her identity. She talks about how she has brought her South American culture to the UK by opening her own cafe and gives her advice to people wanting to move countries or start their own business in the UK.

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Motherhood has a way of making you start to question who you are, what you’re doing and whether what you’re going through is even normal. 

Leigh and Tegan chat to Courtney Thorpe, a mum of a 10-month-old, a stepmum and also a former Miss World, about how having a baby can affect the way you see yourself as a person and even how something as simple as dressing “mum appropriate” can have a big impact on your identity.  

Plus, Tegan’s WTF is a bit of a funky one… literally. It includes the words ear and stink. You’re welcome.

CREDITS

Hosts: Leigh Campbell & Tegan Natoli

Guest: Courtney Thorpe

Producer: Pariya Taherzadeh

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