marriage problems

Did you cheat on your spouse, get caught, and now you don't know what to do?

Your mistake doesn't have to last a lifetime and it doesn't have to define you. No matter how you feel right now, this isn't how you will feel forever.Consider all the years you've put into this marriage. Look at all that you have invested into it. Look at who you were before you committed this particular act of cheating and think, which person do I want to be? The person I was before, who was faithful to my spouse, or the person I was when I did that thing which was unfaithful to my spouse.

Your marriage can be saved. This doesn't have to be the end.

Start by being honest with yourself and your spouse.

Join us as we discuss what to do when you've been caught cheating.

We have a free mini-course we are offering to all our listeners of this podcast. It's called the How To Fall In Love Again mini-course.  Another way that we have termed it is the How To Get Your Spouse Back mini-course.

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On episode 6 of Season 4 we are talking to Brandi Miller about Spiritual Wellness. Brandi is the host of the “ Reclaiming my Theology” podcast and is a staff member and justice program director with InterVarsity. Formally penning an op-ed for the HuffPost at the intersection of faith, justice, and politics, she seeks to curate content that moves the Church forward in living out the holistic gospel. Her current focuses are deconstructing white supremacy in the church, ethnic identity development, and creating more just faith organizations. Three things to listen out for in today's podcast are the 4 part quadrant, spiritual numbness, and the feelings wheel. As we are talking about wellness in this podcast series: mind, body, and now soul; Brandi talks us through why she believes the spirit and the soul is so important in our wellness journey.  Wherever you land on the spiritual spectrum, we believe this conversation is important, and we can’t wait for you to listen.

Welcome to the Love or Work Podcast, hosted by Andre Shinabarger (Physician Assistant, Grady Hospital) and Jeff Shinabarger (Social Entrepreneur and Founder of Plywood People). They are asking the question: Is it possible to change the world, stay in love, and raise a healthy family? 100 interviews where Jeff and Andre learn from other working families in the journey of marriage, purpose, and parenting.

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What do you do if your spouse says they don't love you anymore? We know it hurts, but it's not time to panic. We can teach you a way to bring love back to life. We call it the LovePath.

Over decades, we have worked with so many couples where that very statement was made and these couples are now very much in love.

Love can be built.
Love can also be rebuilt.

We know that when people follow this process, they can fall in love, and fall back in love even after a crisis.

Join us as we discuss what to do when you are in a loveless marriage with your spouse.

On episode 5 of Season 4 on the Podcast we are talking to Dr. Lexie Kite.  Dr. Lexie Kite is a co-author with her identical twin Dr. Lindsay Kite of the book More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined. She received a PhD from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and has become a  leading expert in body image resilience and media literacy. Lindsay and Lexie help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their significant social media reach, online Body Image Resilience course and facilitator program for dieticians and therapists, their popular book (More Than a Body), and regular speaking engagements for thousands of people of all ages. We hit on alot of new topics today around body image, a couple to look out for are body image resilience and body neutrality. Lexie teaches us how to get back into our bodies and view them as so much more than an ornament and reshape our thinking to view our bodies as an instrument. Can’t wait to hear what you learn!

Welcome to the Love or Work Podcast, hosted by Andre Shinabarger (Physician Assistant, Grady Hospital) and Jeff Shinabarger (Social Entrepreneur and Founder of Plywood People). They are asking the question: Is it possible to change the world, stay in love, and raise a healthy family? 100 interviews where Jeff and Andre learn from other working families in the journey of marriage, purpose, and parenting.
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You're in marriage counseling with your spouse, but maybe it's not going exactly as you expected. 

Maybe it seems to be making things worse instead of better.

I believe that there are great things that can come from marriage counseling. Still, the number one thing that people need to understand is that marriage and family therapists; licensed professional counselors, are humans.

You're not going to get the same experience from one counselor to the next. One person has a different goal for why they're in counseling, and that becomes an ethical issue for the counselor because the counselor has to decide who the client is. Is it you, your spouse, or the marriage?

Remember and realize that when you're looking at getting marriage counseling, it is great, number one, that you have decided to get help with something. There is no shame in that.

Number two, you can quit a therapist. You do not have to stay with them. Instead, you can find someone you feel is good at what they do that will approve and encourage your spouse and your marriage.

And, no matter what happens with counseling, if your spouse is going to a counselor, if counseling is or isn't working, you can continuously work on being the best that you can be.

Today on the Love or Work podcast we have Monica DiCristina. Monica DiCristina is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than a decade of experience in individuals and couples therapy. She walks with people as they process difficult experiences, helping to bring healing to their relationship with themselves and others. Through her podcast, writing, speaking, and counseling work, Monica carries out her heartfelt mission to guide and collaborate with others in their process of becoming who they were made to be. Monica runs a private practice in Atlanta, GA, where she lives with her husband and three children.

Here are the three things to listen out for in this episode, anxiety, rituals and being married to an anxious partner. This episode is for the partners who are in need of a guide on how to approach and engage with your partner that is struggling with mental health. Don’t miss this important message.

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Welcome to the Love or Work Podcast, hosted by Andre Shinabarger (Physician Assistant, Grady Hospital) and Jeff Shinabarger (Social Entrepreneur and Founder of Plywood People). They are asking the question: Is it possible to change the world, stay in love, and raise a healthy family? 100 interviews where Jeff and Andre learn from other working families in the journey of marriage, purpose, and parenting.

Order the Love or Work Book!
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Instagram: www.instagram.com/loveorwork
Love or Work is a project of Plywood People.
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Today we are hearing from Chanel Dokun. Chanel is an Author, Life Planner, and a Relationship Expert, trained in marriage and family therapy. In addition to launching the Women of Consequence organization to help women get clarity on their life purpose, she is also the Co-Founder of Healthy Minds NYC.

Here are three things to listen up for in today’s episode: what does it mean to have a thriving family, reclaim the morning, drowning in shallow water. In this episode Chanel talks alot about how to find your purpose in life by naming your unhappiness and stepping into the next right thing. Let’s get to it!

You can connect with Chanel at http://chaneldokun.com and on Instagram @ https://www.instagram.com/chanel.dokun/

Welcome to the Love or Work Podcast, hosted by Andre Shinabarger (Physician Assistant, Grady Hospital) and Jeff Shinabarger (Social Entrepreneur and Founder of Plywood People). They are asking the question: Is it possible to change the world, stay in love, and raise a healthy family? 100 interviews where Jeff and Andre learn from other working families in the journey of marriage, purpose, and parenting.
Order the Love or Work Book!
Website: www.loveorwork.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/loveorwork
Love or Work is a project of Plywood People.
Plywood is a non-profit in Atlanta leading a community of start-ups doing good. www.plywoodpeople.com

In this episode, we're exploring nine of the most commonly rated relationship issues that people experience and the steps you can take to address these issues. You may experience one or more of these issues at different times in your relationship. We'll explore these issues and also strategies to help you overcome them.

The biggest challenges people tend to face in relationships that we discuss in this episode are:

1. Lack of effort/Taking the partner for granted: your enthusiasm for your partner has faded over a period of time, other demands take over and you have become more distant from each other. You don't regularly check in with each other and there is a lack of communication.

2. Emotional Fusion: You are too enmeshed with each other and struggle to have a sense of separateness and independence in your relationship.

3. Stress: one or both of you are struggling with the demands of work, childcare or other chores that need doing. You are each wrapped up in trying to manage this stress and lack capacity to focus on the needs of your partner and/or the relationship.

4. Overwhelmed by partner's demands: you may struggle to meet your partner's demands and experience them as too critical. You feel that your partner is constantly nagging and/or requiring too much attention.

5. Parenting related issues: you may struggle to adjust to the new reality of becoming first time parents and the associated tasks. Or you may have different ideas to do with parenting, e.g. with regards to discipline or education.

6. Sexual desire/physical contact: you may have different ideas about the frequency or nature of your sexual and physical intimacy. One of you may want more, the other less sexual/physical contact.

7. Wider family relationships: you may struggle with your partner's relationship with parents or siblings. There may be a sense that their influence is not a positive one and you may not like them very much. Conversely you may find it difficult that your partner does not like your family. There may be too much or too little contact.

8. Addiction problems:  one or both partners struggle with addictions issues, e.g. alcohol, drugs or porn addiction. In addition to the dependency of the partner with the addiction issue, there is often a need to consider co-dependency related issues of the other partner.

9. Infidelity: one or both partners is having an affair. Unless there is an agreement by both partners that it's ok to not be monogamous, infidelity seriously shakes up a relationship and often leads to separation. It is considered a serious boundary violation. Infidelity can be survived by the couple but requires careful consideration.

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In this episode, we give you the #2 most important relationship advice. Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, you cannot miss this episode. Putting this information into practice will greatly enhance your experience in living your best life, dating or marriage. For a refresher, it would be helpful to listen to episode 2, the #1 most important relationship advice, first. 

Dr. Christian Maciel & Bethany take aim at how perfectionism can sneak its way into your life and ruin not only your life satisfaction, but also your relationships or marriage. Hear some fascinating insights into how perfectionism can be a friend and foe at the same time.  Is perfectionism something that is killing you and your relationships slowly and you don't even realize it?   

We hear from people who say things like, "My spouse is involved with another person, but also seems interested in me. Is this something other people face?"

The answer is... Absolutely. As a matter of fact, we have a name for it. We call it "The Valley."

Your spouse is having a good relationship with the affair partner as well as with the spouse that is being abandoned. This double life has pros and cons.

The pro can be that he or she is spending time with you, and if it appears to be working well. As long as you can tolerate this, it may well be to your advantage. It can with time bring him home.

The con is that he is still with the other woman or man, and that relationship may be going well also. If so, he won’t feel any need to change anything.

If your spouse is in The Valley, you may be feeling confused.

Your spouse is doing things that lead you to believe your marriage is going to end. Yet, at the same time, they may be showing signs they don't want to let go of you.

The Valley is about your spouse being in-between two things and not having to make a choice right now. People may say they are getting the best of both worlds.

You may be asking yourself, "Should I allow my spouse to be in the valley?" Or, "Should I set a boundary for myself and  force my spouse to make a choice?"

If you want your spouse to finally make a choice, ultimatums typically do NOT yield the results people are hoping for.

Instead, we will share with you practical steps to bring you the sense of peace you are searching for.

If you are ready to learn what TO DO and what NOT TO DO when your spouse is in The Valley, listen to this 50 minute episode where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share what has worked best in the thousands of marriages that have been saved.


Links Mentioned:

• Should I Have Sex With My Husband During His Affair Video
• Free How To Get Your Spouse Back Mini Course

All the time people come to us saying, "We tried to reconcile, but it's just impossible. We got back together thinking we can do it, then it didn't work.”

You know why? Because they didn't know how.

Think about it like this… Imagine you want to replace the spark plugs in your car. You can have every intention of doing it. But if you don’t know how or where the spark plugs even are... You’re gonna fail.

People are blindsided because they think they’re reconciling when they're not. So how can you know if you’re actually reconciling or not? Or how to make it happen?

These people struggled but figured it out with our help:

“We had been to three different marriage counselors in the first 10 years of our marriage. We got like one decent takeaway. There was just so much pain, so much hurt. It just seemed impossible.”

“We're sitting here seven years later, and it is a daily impact on our marriage, on our children, regardless  of how lost, how broken, how hopeless you believe the circumstances. If you're just willing to invest a little bit of time, it's incredible the long-lasting impact that it can have.”

“At the end of the day, he chose not to even show me the divorce papers. He took them with him and he  chose to continue talking. So for the first time, in a long time, I face the future of our marriage with hope.”

Do you want to know how to have a complete breakthrough right away? No years of counseling necessary. In fact, bringing up the past is the worst way to fix a marriage.

Instead, there’s a MUCH better way to reconcile… Even when it seems impossible, and like your marriage is still falling apart despite your best efforts.

If you want to know how, listen to this 41 minute podcast where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share how to get back the marriage you first had when you said “I do."

Suzy's life went from bad to worse after leaving her violent ex. She dealt with the awful reality by blaming him and others, wondering when relief or help would come after losing her job and hitting rock bottom.  A profound statement by her mailman led her to realize that she had more control of the horrible situation she was living in than she ever realized. 

Suzy now helps others to see, feel, and believe their full potential, serving as a Light Worker. As a shop owner and international best-selling author, she is changing the world. Suzy knows what it is like to be completely lost, no identity, no purpose, to becoming a sought after healer and touching lives throughout the world. 

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#008   You didn’t get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage.

But sometimes “working” on your marriage can feel like another tiring chore--one that you’re all alone in. If you’ve ever felt that way, or asked yourself,  “Why do I have to be the one to put effort into this relationship?”, you likely aren't seeing much success or positive change from your efforts. 

If that’s the case, it’s because you’re using the wrong emotional fuel (or you may have just run out of gas entirely!). 

Trying to create brighter love from a sense of burden and resentment will never work. 

Motivation? Tenacity? Applying what you’ve been told could work? Not gonna happen --at least not effectively.

You CAN have the deeply loving relationship you want. 

But you need access to the right fuel to be truly powerful and effective .

In this episode, I share the key to gaining access to the emotional fuel you need to position yourself optimally to make your marriage what you want it to be. 

I share how I provide myself the essential fuel to continually  improve my marriage every single day--- with joy, passion, and feeling like it’s a sacred honor that I GET to do. 

Like my clients and me, you, too, can fall in love with doing the sometimes uncomfortable yet deeply joyful rewarding work of creating real change in your marriage. It can even be FUN.

Get inspired and set yourself up for the biggest best change in your marriage this upcoming year by listening in and applying what I offer here.

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What does the Bible really say about sex? Marriage? Intimacy? Relationships? Should the church really talk about these topics or are they “too private” or taboo? Today, we continue to take a look at what it means to walk in wisdom in our romantic relationships and explore some #relationshipgoals that are actually helpful in finding, building, and sustaining deep and meaningful relationships.

TEXT: Proverbs 5:3-14

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Jennifer and Andy are currently Eternal Warrior Mentors. They met in Jr High & just celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary. They have 6 kids & 8 grandkids. After 25 yrs of marriage they felt like their marriage fell apart. Andy thought Jennifer didn’t love him. The Eternal Warriors program has helped them learn the difference between truth and lies, become aware of their feelings & has given them tools necessary to help fight the adversary instead of fighting each other. First Recorded Feb 2, 2017.

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Special guest Yumi joins the podcast to give the guys a new perspective on life in Japan.  In this episode full of laughs, our podcasters learn about the growing exercise trends taking over the land of the rising sun, and also discover the great lengths to which Japanese women will go to avoid the wrath of their mothers-in-law, and even other women, as they struggle to maintain the image of being the perfect mother and wife. Also, why do Japanese girls and women find it easier to express their true feelings with foreign guys? Listen to the episode to find out now!

Conversation highlights:

•  Is exercising at a sports gym popular in Japan like it is in western countries?

•  What are the benefits of yoga versus the benefits of CrossFit?

•  Why did Yumi decide that she wanted to join CrossFit?

•  How are the bodies and mindset of the people in the gym different in Japan?

•  Why are many Japanese guys intimidated by girls with athletic bodies?

•  Why are the podcasters infatuated with the Japanese female body?

•  Why do Japanese women feel so much pressure to be a perfect mother and perfect wife

•  Why do wives in Japan feel like they need to ask for permission from their husbands just to go out with their girlfriends, or even hang out at a friend's house!?

•  Why don't Japanese married couples share the responsibilities around the house?

•  Why can Japanese women express themselves better with foreign guys?

•  What is the best way to flirt with a Japanese girl at the bar? Is there a perfect pick-up line?

Believe it or not, even though many Japanese people appear to be much thinner than their western counterparts, working out in the gym has only recently started to grow in popularity. But are most Japanese people that you see walking down the street actually fit and in shape?

Also, shouldn’t Japanese women be happy that they can stay home with the kids and not work, and is there any real pressure that comes with being a housewife? Can Yumi keep her cool as she patiently tries to educate the guys on the difficulties of being a Japanese woman? Fortunately, the conversation remains very light-hearted while touching upon some fairly sensitive topics. Listen now to compare your own thoughts on what should be considered acceptable in this conservative yet evolving culture.  

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