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Sherold is a certified master life + business coach + mindset mentor devoted to helping women become more confident, resilient and happy. Sherold and I last spoke for an interview on my old poddy in 2015!!  Two years later at age 65, she was in a near-fatal car wreck, needed 6 abdominal surgeries in 15 days and had to learn to walk again. For some, that would be a slippery slope into thoughts of “why me” or “I’ll never walk again” but Sherold had an experience that led her to clearly and consciously choose love and gratitude to heal.

We speak about:

• Sherold’s near-death experience where a voice asked her “You get to choose how you go through this experience, what will you choose?”
• The experience of being free from the mind and ego, and how this allowed Sherold to be an objective observer of her hospital stay
• How differently Sherold and her husband experienced her recovery, and our resulting deep dive into suffering
• What Sherold now knows to be true about money and all sorts of other illusions in our outer worlds
• How nature is Sherold’s cathedral and how she used visualisation to go from being unable to walk to hiking 7 miles on the Pacific Crest Trail just a few months later
• A moment of remembering how Sherold so loved her new post-accident scars, the truth about our bodies’ innocence and how it’s just our ego stories that create the suffering about our bodies.
• How Sherold found awakening to deep truths about life and death is not a static space, and how the voices of ego and fear re-emerged in time, but each time this happens her recovery and awareness takes less and less time to come back to her.
  
  

You can find the beautiful, wise and wonderful Sherold online here and keep your eyes peeled for the release of Sherold’s memoir in 2024.

And listen in to this ep and more at https://www.kpkreative.com.au/pod 

What a perfect way to wrap up Season 2 of the podcast, a deep warm and rich conversation about Life, the Universe and Everything. Thank you so much for listening in this season, and I look forward to being back in your ears and hearts in 2024.  

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Sheree Clark is a Midlife Courage Coach, television show host, inspiring speaker and accomplished author. Sheree has written and presented on topics ranging from finding your passion to overcoming career burnout. Her Fork in the Road coaching practice keeps her busy working with clients one-on-one and in groups on creating an authentically fulfilling life. In her personal time, Sheree and her cat Lotus work on their yoga poses. 

This episode with Sheree Clark is such a gold mine of wisdom, including:

• Sheree's journey from a 25-year stellar run in the world of advertising and triple martini lunches to her deeply satisfying career as a Midlife courage coach
• How different careers fit us in different life stages and how Sheree’s reflection on what her now 67-year-old self would say to her 53-year-old self who was contemplating putting a pin in her successful advertising agency
• Sunk opportunity cost and how investing a lot of time and energy into a career or a marriage can make creating change or contemplating leaving feel too hard or too heavy
• The concept of self-identity and how we can unconsciously reinforce something we are ready to let go of or evolve through
• A simple exercise from Sheree to check in with messages in your environment and spot anything out of alignment
• The two types of courage:  reactive courage when you're responding to something that's happened versus proactive courage where the impetus for change and self-trust must be  powered from within
• And the perfection of Sheree’s concept of not living a flatline life, and we can avoid settling rather than mining for joy or deep satisfaction

You can find Sheree online at Fork in the Road here

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Revealing the Richness of the Rose with Dee Light

Dee Light has the gifted knack of seeing the biggest picture, and distilling it into sizable, easy-to-digest steps. Her capacity to take a dilemma and uncover the way out, is an everyday challenge she sees as part of her role in these dynamic times. For Dee, there is always a solution. A path forward. Dee has studied and applied many modalities over the last forty years and has distilled them down to the basic steps that get results. So, you can respond to life, not react; engage with life and not shrink back.

An author, a speaker, a spouse, a CEO, a mother, an insightful listener; everything she says, she uncovers, comes from deeply lived experience. She’s the living, breathing example of walking your talk. She walks with you, not to ‘fix’ you, but to help you find and open your own door, to your new life.

Connected via a mutual friend and podcast guest, this chat is as ripe and rich as Dee herself. We cover so much in this fireside ep, including:

 - Life transitions of feeling like you are being threaded through the eye of a needle, in an invitation to let go of all that is not authentic

- the powerful purging, cleansing, clearing that Dee went through as a result of tapping into her unfelt anger and the alchemy this provided and

- defragmenting lower energies so we are free to come into the resonance of the very heart of us

Dee's car rally analogy for the adventure of life and using your "cat's whiskers" aka felt sense to guide you

- how as we go through our own journey, we do not heal ourselves, we reveal our true Self

- how Kylie does not have a reference point of a well-resourced woman and how Dee is an expander for the younger women coming through

Find Dee and her work in the world at www.lightandco.earth and manifestooflight.earth

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Relational Rupture and Repair with Thea Baker

Thea is a counsellor and body-based (somatic) psychotherapist with special interests in all aspects women’s health, trauma (PTSD, C-PTSD) and couples/relationship therapy. She works collaboratively with her clients to find a place of healing and recovery.; and she's in it for the long-haul and doesn’t give up easily. Thea is not the kind of therapist that is ok with “feeling better” if better is still a long way off being truly well.

Wellbeing is about much more than the absence of disease or illness. It’s a multidimensional mix of getting your physical, mental, emotional and social health in balance. Thea is a noisy advocate about mental health being a part of whole-person health – she believes that we have somehow got into a place where we see physical health in terms of strength and fitness whilst mental health is viewed through a lens of stigma, dysfunction and illness.

Thea and I chat about so many aspects of women's health and the transition points of a woman's life, including:

- the compounding effect of what we bring to motherhood, including the way we were attached as children and the relational trauma we have experienced

- how motherhood and the experience of trying to provide something we did not receive can trigger the wounded parts of us

- Internal Family Systems, the functions of our manager and firefighter parts and how it feels to live from our Authentic Self

- how attachment will always trump authenticity, and a tiny snapshot of how understanding this unravelled some deep anger towards self for Kylie

- the concept from Gabor Mates' body of work "not why the addiction, but why the pain"

- creating safe relational spaces, which include both the inevitable rupture and repair of relationships

- the function of oestrogen in caretaking and how and why we shed female friendships in midlife.

You can find Thea and her Thea Baker Wellbeing practise here.

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S12E20 Metabolism, Sleep & Energy: The Midlife Trifecta with Lisa Walker

Lisa is Eir’s co-founder and resident left-brain thinker/big-picture planner. She crossed paths with Eir co-founder Kate working in marketing, and water-cooler chat became a friendship, glued together by their ability to find hilarity in (almost) every situation that comes with feeling constantly foggy/fatigued/frazzled and managing the mental load. The idea for Eir simmered in the background, but eventually the two decided to create a solution for the issues they—and all their friends—were silently battling with.

The knowledge she’s creating something transformative for women is what’s propelled Lisa through about 105875 false starts/mistakes/steep learning curves. Her passion lies in helping women feel normal again (because it’s possible!), and to add a feeling of lightness into every life stage (peri-menopause and menopause included).

I loved this chat with Lisa, such a beautiful conversation about life, grief, growth, values and good-ole-fashioned living your life purpose!  We chatted about:

- the unexpected 2022 loss of Lisa's husband, and how Lisa made significant life changes as a result (despite the external "this is how you SHOULD grieve" messages she received)

- How the idea of Eir Women, a supplement brand Lisa co-founded with friend and ex-colleague Kate, evolved over time through COVID lockdown and how this has been the most brilliant thread for Lisa to anchor to while going through one of life's greatest challenges

- The journey from idea to research to market research to formulation which led Eir to be anchored by pillars of metabolism, energy and sleep, rather than the menopausal most-wanted list of hot flushes and night sweats usually bandied about as the most trying pain points of menopause

- Plans for the future including women's sexual health support, and how the breaking down of sexual health taboos has opened the door to real conversations about midlife sexual function

- Why Lisa and Kate have decided to allow Eir time to unfold and grow organically and just how important it is to them that women have a positive frame of this midlife transition, rather than be smacked in the face by fear-mongering menopause marketing

A gorgeous, heart-felt exchange, and what an honour to be able to share Lisa's story.

 You can find Lisa and Eir Women online at www.eirwomen.com.au

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What if the signs of perimenopause were staring you right in the face and you didn't even know it?

Get ready to unpack the unfamiliar terrain of perimenopause with our guest, Maria Doyle, as she shares her journey of awakening to her own symptoms, the challenges she faced due to the global pandemic, and the positive changes she made in her life. Maria's story is not just an enlightening look at perimenopause but also a testament to resilience, authenticity and self-care.

Maria's life, split between the sun-soaked beaches of Perth and the snowy landscapes of Norway, took an unexpected turn when the pandemic hit. The stressful experience of moving between countries, handling bureaucracy from afar, and the emotional strain of family separation added layers of complexity to her life. Alongside these challenges, she began to experience the overlap what she now knows was perimenopause.

In the latter part of our conversation, Maria opens up about her journey towards embracing authenticity, liberation and balance in her work life. We delve into her decision to take a sabbatical, challenging the status quo, and redefining the role of a middle-aged woman. 

Get ready to be inspired by a story that is a powerful reminder of the importance of self-care and resilience in the face of adversity.

You can find Maria online here https://mariadoyle.com/
And the book we mention - The Upgrade: How the Female Brain Gets Stronger and Better in Midlife and Beyond Paperback here https://amzn.to/3XI4sWC

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Nikki Parkinson, 56, is a former journalist-turned blogger, author and now fashion designer. At the core of all that she does is her love of helping and supporting women to find greater confidence through their everyday style and the life they lead.

 In 2019, Nikki launched her own fashion label, Styling You TheLabel, offering Australian-made, non-boring wardrobe basics that take the stress out of the what-to-wear question. She has long advocated for a disruption in the way that fashion is marketed to women. Styling You The Label is the first label globally to invest in showcasing its designs on every size that it sells–size6-20. Not only does that increase customer confidence but it flips the idea that fashion should only be seen on one size, height, age, colour, belief or ability.

 
In this enlightening episode, we explore the intricate relationship between perimenopause and mental health. Nikki opens up about her tumultuous journey through perimenopause, likening it to the intense transition period of childbirth. She emphasises the importance of education and research in helping women understand these changes and ask the right questions, and shares her experiences with hormone treatments and the significant role they play in managing perimenopause symptoms.

We further venture into the significance of advocating for women's health and the future. As women, we often sideline our own needs, which can be detrimental to our health and well-being. We discuss the importance of breaking this cycle, for our own benefit and that of future generations. Nikki shares her thoughts on how we can approach the topic of menopause with our daughters and help normalise these conversations.

The conversation then shifts to Nikki's experiences running a business and the challenges she faced, particularly with the changing economic landscape. She offers valuable insights into maintaining mental health while adapting to these changes. Nikki also shares her unique perspective on the relationship between women's bodies and fashion, and her commitment to inclusivity through her fashion label.

Wrapping up the discussion, we talk about the power of sharing experiences and the importance of having a support network, especially during challenging times such as menopause. Listen in as we explore these issues and more.

You can find Nikki and Styling You online at www.stylingyou.com.au

And read one of Nikki's many vulnerable and so helpful posts here here: https://www.stylingyou.com.au/2021/03/soberish

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Motivated by her own debilitating & lonely experience with PMDD, Heidi is on a mission in her clinical practice to support other PMDD peeps to regain power over menstrual mood cycles, get off the emotional rollercoasters and balance body & mind naturally so they can feel calm, confident and empowered in themselves, in relationships, work and Life.

Having been reading about the link of ACE (Adverse childhood experiences) and increased risks of significant mental health episodes, risk of MDD (Major Depressive Disorder) and PMDD (premenstrual Dysmorphic Disorder) I knew there was going to be so many a-ha moments for me when I chatted with Heidi. 

We cover a lot of ground in this episode, including:

• Heidi’s own journey through feeling ashamed by her “just PMS” all the way to her PMDD diagnosis and how other women have described this as one week of hell and three weeks of cleaning up the mess
• How stress plays a role in all mental health disorders, and how to manage and where possible remove stressors from your life
• Cycle awareness, and how understanding the “seasons” of each part of our cycle, and the strengths of each season, even the inner critic filled time of autumn just before our bleed
• The parallels between the autumn inner season just before our bleed time and the autumn inner season of perimenopause, and how a feeling of needing to “clean house” is totally normal
• How Heidi works with her clients both 1:1 and in groups to help them better understand and regulate their own cycle and use self care to ease their way through PMDD
• How food and mood are linked, and the part environmental toxins play in influencing our hormonal state

You can find Heidi and her work in the world here. and her Facebook Group PMDD Holistic Support here.


Also mentioned:
Wild Power: Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and Awaken the Feminine Path to Power Book by Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer
Period Queen: Life hack your cycle and own your power all month long by Lucy Peach 

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Deb Benfield has helped hundreds of women heal their relationship with food, eating, and their bodies in her 35-year career as a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist specialising in preventing and treating disordered eating.

She brings her wisdom, passion, and lived experience to the intersection of pro-aging and body liberation, and her work is rooted in helping her clients shift their body relationship from their life’s project to their life’s partner.

In this deep conversation, we cover:

• The hierarchy of bodies, and the system of oppression any “other’d” bodies live in (including anyone who is NOT slim, white, young and beautiful) and the damage this does to our relationship with our bodies as we age
• Deb's beautiful description of what body liberation feels like to her, and the sense of freedom and expansiveness this has opened for her in midlife
• How to befriend out bodies and truly listen to their needs, needs which naturally change during transition points in life
• The incidence of eating disorder remission in perimenopausal women when normal and natural body changes trigger a need to try to control as a result of feeling more vulnerable and less safe
• The sea of ageism we are living in, the internal ageism inherent in the stories we have about what growing old means and a completely different way of framing age and ageing.
• Fascinating research on our attitude to aging and how this impacts our actual experience of ageing

Find Deb online here. 

Also mentioned in this episode:

Sonya Renee Taylor’s work and her book Your Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love 

 Jane Fonda’s interview on Wiser than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfuss 

 Breaking the Age Code: How Your Beliefs About Ageing Determine How Long and Well You Live by Becca Levy

Ageism Unmasked: Exploring Age Bias and How to End It by Tracey Gendron 

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An internationally recognized expert on ageism, Ashton Applewhite is the author of This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism. She speaks widely at venues that have included the TED mainstage and the United Nations, and is at the forefront of the emerging movement to raise awareness of ageism and to dismantle it.

Here’s an excerpt from her website home, which hit me smack between the eyes, and was a spectacular leaping off point for our chat:

"It’s not HEALTHY to go through life dreading our futures.

It's not being women that makes life harder for women, it is sexism.
It is not loving a man that makes life harder for gay guys, it is homophobia.
It’s not the passage of time that makes getting older so much harder than it has to be, it is ageism.

DISCRIMINATION IS THE PROBLEM, NOT AGING. Makes barriers acceptable. Shame and fear creates markets, and capitalism always need new markets.

Aging is not a problem to be fixed.
It is a natural, powerful, lifelong process.

In this ep, we speak about:

- Who benefits from ageism and all other isms
- Ashton’s response to the concept of “anti-aging” in the beauty industry
- Her perfectly put response to someone asking “Is that appropriate at your age?”
- How the older the person, the less their age reveals about them — because we grow more different from one another over time.
- Challenging the status quo of aging is negative to “aging is living”

And so much more status-quo challenging gold.

Listen in to this episode at:


Listen to Ashton Applewhite’s TED Talk “Let’s End Ageism” here
Read Ashton’s Book “This Chair Rocks: A manifesto Against Agesim”  here
Check out Old School: The Anti Ageism Clearinghouse here

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After being over medicated with HRT 2017, Somatic and Cognitive Psychotherapist Paula Rastrick joined the dots between childhood trauma, being a highly sensitive person and the mental health impacts her experience when multiple life stressors and perimenopause collided. She is on a mission to raise awareness and empower women to understand the links between childhood trauma, nervous system sensitivity and menopause transition.

This was such an enjoyable chat, and confirmed a lot of the dots I have been forming in my own personal history and perimenopause experience. We cover:

- Paula's own experience of being overmedicated for her perimenopause symptoms and the dire impact this had on her mental health

- the concepts of neurodiversity and neurotypical brains, and how the traits of ADHD, autism, and Highly Sensitive People overlap

- Long-lasting impacts that CPTSD and developmental trauma have on the nervous system, and how we need to utilise the biopsychosocial model to better understand the root cause of symptoms attributed to menopause which may have different origins

- how stress ages the brain, how we need to change our focus from stress reduction to building stress resilience, and the important of the brain body connection in building our window of tolerance

- How anxiety and the freeze states are survival mechanism and how living in a state of chaos or lack of safety in our younger years can lead to difficulties coping when life feels "too calm"

You can find Paula online (including the HSP quizzes and other resources mentioned) here https://thebrainbodymethod.com/

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Lori Saitz is the founder and CEO of Zen Rabbit and host of the podcast “Fine is a 4-Letter Word.” An award-winning author, speaker, and broadcaster, Lori is on a mission to teach the world to be calm and grounded no matter what’s going on.

High achievers come to her because they have a strong drive to be productive, but at the end of the day never feel accomplished enough. As a nationally recognised gratitude and meditation expert, Lori guides those entrepreneurs and business leaders from stressed and chaotic to peaceful and focused and shows them how to live a sabbatical life. Then they then start seeing sales increase, relationships strengthen, and overall health improve.

In this episode we cover:

- Lori’s decision to take a summer sabbatical with her 19 year old cat Panther (see cover of this ep for their road trip selfie) and how this has shifted the way she lives and works, plus the concept of leading a “sabbatical life”

- The difference between wanting more ease and flow in life, and actually being open to trusting that you can have it

- Her shifts from marketing and networking to becoming a gratitude and meditation leader, and how to create a feeling of being calm and grounded, no matter what 

- How high achievers are conditioned to stay in the “familiar hell” of busy-ness, and end up feeling like they’re spinning their wheels and getting nowhere, always on the edge of burnout

- How using the trilogy of gratitude, connection and courage to build self trust and shift us from working hard at the outer work to focussing on the inner work

- The difference between being busy and “in motion” to taking inspired acton based on our connection to our inner voice, and how this action builds self trust over time

Find Lori online here

Download her Gratitude Meditation here

Lori wrote about her sabbatical road trip in a chapter called Fine is a 4-Letter Word (also the name of her podcast) in this book Love Warriors: The Conscious Expert’s Guide to Healing, Joy, and Manifestation  

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Over the past 25 years Rebecca Sparrow has earned a living as a travel writer, a television publicist, a marketing executive, a magazine editor, a TV scriptwriter, a radio producer, a newspaper columnist and as an author.

She is the author of three best-selling novels The Girl Most Likely, The Year Nick McGowan Came to Stay and Joel and Cat Set The Story Straight (co-authored with Nick Earls). Since 2009 Rebecca has focused on writing non-fiction books for teenage girls to help them navigate those tricky high school years.

In episode 25 of season 1, we met author Emma Grey and we shared a heart-cracking conversation about a deep love and the devastating loss of Em's husband Jeff.

Emma mentions a conversation with Bec, when Bec tells Emma that the loss of her stillborn daughter Georgie was going to "turn the light UP in my life, not down" and that becomes an anchor for the way Em navigates her own grief.

Following my conversation with Em, she kindly introduced me to Bec. In our rich conversation, Bec and I cover:

• the loss of Bec's stillborn daughter Georgie, and her decision to not allow her first daughter Ava to feel like the loss of Georgie was more important than her
• the sometimes jarring concept of post traumatic growth, and how common it is to feel that trauma delivers positive outcomes
• how we tend to rank relationships, the power of female friendships, and how Bec's friends walked alongside her through her grief 
• The Friendship Project, cohosted by Bec and Sarah Wills and Lise Carlaw, and the themes around adult women's friendships, and a simple tip Bec shares to turn towards nurturing your friendships
• Bec's online program The Lighthouse Plan, inspired by her work with teen and tweens girls
• Bec's beautiful parenting tip for finding the glitter in amongst the rest of life.

Find Bec online here 

Read the blog about Post Traumatic Growth here 

Listen in to Episode 23 with Emma Grey here 

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France Forde is a Craniosacral Therapist, Intuitive Channel and Facilitator who provides her services In person (London, UK) and Worldwide (via Zoom). Fran happens to also be neurodivergent and coming to us from the "other side” — yes indeed people, Fran is post menopausal!

Fran generously gifted me a craniosacral session with her prior to our interview and you can tell from my voice just how chilled my nervous system as a result. The session felt to me the perfect blend of the anatomy and straight science behind the nervous system and the intuitive woo woo side that Fran has naturally had from a young age where she speaks to your spirit guides and support team. My Dad turned up in my session saying he always has my back and Fran told me exactly where he was touching me - the same place that I have two previous experiences of the sensation of being hugged from behind by him whilst driving. 

The session was delicious and all sorts of relaxing and soothing and I feel like shifted the physical remnants of some deep, deep trauma releasing work I have been working through via talk therapy and my own somatic process. I highly recommend you experience a session for yourself. 

In this episode, we cover 

- Fran’s turning point where her perimenopause symptoms, a break up, memory and concentration issues and hating her job all collided in a cry out for change one night whilst speaking with a friend; and how as a result Fran left her relationship, shifted homes, and changed careers

- The mental health symptoms, together with always running hot, putting on weight, not feeling in control of her physicality which all culminated with her daughter telling her “you look like you’re dying” - and how in a way, she was (in terms of old self death, new self in process)

- The mental health impacts of perimenopause we need to be speaking about: including panic attacks, depression, anxiety, loss of confidence, memory and condition issues and questioning our lives and identities.

- Our nervous system: what it is, how it becomes dysregulated and simple ways to tend to our nervous system ourselves on a day to day basis

- How trauma is stored a cellular level, so whilst we can “think” we are over something, our body may have a very different opinion

- how our systems can be so attuned to living in chaos, we do not recognise we are in a heightened state, the lasting impacts of the pandemic on our nervous systems 

Find Francine and her work in the world on Facebook here:  and on Insta here: or reach out directly by email here

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Samantha Nolan-Smith believes we can reshape the world when more diverse voices and perspectives are shared and heard. She knows that as we break through the silencing influences that have been plaguing women for millennia (hello patriarchy), new ways of living, working, and relating to one another and to the planet, will become apparent. What she also knows is that we cannot do this individually. The collective voices of women must be expressed.  It's time for us to speak up.

Our rich conversation covers:

- Samantha’s shift from a 20 year old high functioning, type A young woman who battled on the inside with depression and anxiety, and did not feel safe in her body to the 50 year old thought leader full of quiet power and deep self trust, anchored in her own identity and intrinsic value.

- How the patriarchy (which is first evidenced almost 4500 years ago in writings from the Sumerians which speak about a woman being hit in the mouth with a brick for speaking out) influences and shapes both our boys and girls and forms a system of oppression

- Samantha’s journey through chronic fatigue and how she was forced to feel the emotions from big T and little t traumas in earlier life, her gentle path forward and the way this has informed her quiet, safe, simple environments she has created for herself - including the way in which she does business.

- The important of not only healing our individual stories around not taking up too much space but also healing the collective stories we have been conditioned to believe 

- My own personal chiropractic adjustment of the soul moment when Samantha says “It is a radical act to centre yourself in your life and then take up space from there”. I don’t know about you, but that will stay with me for a very very long time indeed.

You can find Samantha and the work she does in the world online here
And listen to her podcast mini-series on Taking Up Space here
Also mentioned: Carol Gilligan book “Why Does the Patriarchy Persist?”

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Dr. Kelly Teagle is a GP in Canberra specialising in Women’s health. She is the founder of WellFemme, a ground-breaking Telehealth menopause service. She graduated in Medicine from the University of Queensland in 2001 and worked in the Royal Australian Air Force as a Medical Officer until 2010. 

Hold onto your hats perimenopausal people - this is a long and rich conversation covering so many meno-essentials:

- Kelly’s own menopause experience when symptoms hit at 42 (and collided with being mama to a one year old and a serious relationship breakdown)

- the “threshold” Kelly uses as a guide for women to know when to seek professional help for their symptoms and how to make sure you are informed and advocate for yourself at your GP appointment 

- menopause mental health and mood swings and the impact that have on our relationships, plus the importance of being open and honest with our partners

 - rural and regional women and access to menopause, sexual and reproductive health care and what Kelly decided to do about it in the form of WellFemme. 

- the deep courage Kelly pulled from to overcome her doubts about menopause telehealth and the huge success of this service five years on

- how the WellFemme service works - using simple internet and phone-based solutions and GPs who specialise in menopause health so specialist menopause health care is far more accessible to women across Australia 

- the “pro-HT” vs “anti-HT” divide we both keep seeing out there and our call for the sisterhood to stop judging each other for individual experiences and individual treatment choices

- how age really is our superpower and that once we embrace this, getting older is such a blessing of wisdom, power and potential 

And so much more!

Find WellFemme and complete the MenoPause Assessment Tool we speak about here or view the WellFemme free “Menopause Bootcamp” on-demand webinar here

Book a free trial discovery meeting with a WellFemme doctor by selecting “Next Available” doctor and “Free Trial” in the booking window at the bottom of this page 

Listen in to WellFemme webinars here, including Hormonal Treatments in Perimenopause and Menopause here and Mental Health at Menopause here 

Find a doctor who is a member of the Australasian Menopause Society here




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As CEO and Founder of Powerful Steps, host of podcast Powerful Stories and founder of brand and communications agency Torstar, it comes as no surprise that Tory Archbold has met some of the world’s most influential celebrities, entrepreneurs, and CEO’s.

But the reason for Tory’s long-lasting connections is not for the many accolades she has under her belt. It’s because of her authenticity and genuine care she shows for others. Through sharing her story of survival, of being a single mother determined to succeed, she has encouraged others along the way.

I found Tory when I was researching for a book project on Perspectives, connected online and reached out to have her on the show. I loved this chat with Tory and was so inspired by the real openess and heart-connection with which she shared her own journey to power and the big why behind the work she does in the world. 

We chat about:

- A young Tory, her early big visions for life which led to a European adventure and a stellar career, and how she was always supported by her grandmother, who told her she could achieve anything she dreamt of. 

- How building a super successful PR company from age 24 led Tory to downsize two decades later, and how the launch of Flower (drew Barrymore’s brand) in Australia played a role in this game-changing decision 

- The three key blocks to women standing in their power: playing the victim card, a lack of self trust and fear of being judged - and how they get in the way of creating their desired life and business

- How one of Tory’s key beliefs “evolution is possible for everyone” has inspired and influenced her daughter’s own life experience

- Tory’s book just released “Self Belief is Your Superpower” and the advice from a Hollywood A-lister about releasing a book with a pink cover, which she was very happy to later disprove!

Find Tory online here and 

her book Self Belief is Your Superpower here

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Amanda Thebe is a Fitness and Women’s Health Expert. She is the author of the Amazon best-selling book, Menopocalypse: How I Learned to Thrive During Menopause and How You Can Too! With nearly 30 years of experience in the fitness industry, Amanda is a highly-regarded expert on women’s fitness and health.

She is Canada’s first menopause workplace educator. Through menopause advocacy and education, Amanda provides on-site or virtual presentations in the workplace to improve productivity, retention and attendance for female employees. Helping companies to normalise the conversation around menopause and provide support which impacts 100% of their female employees.

This was a divine chat with a woman I see as one of the trailblazers breaking down barriers which have impeded women entering perimenopause educated, informed and empowered to advocate for themselves.

We chat about:

- Visiting multiple doctors and specialist in the search for answer when early perimenopause symptoms delivered Amanda a cluster of neurological symptoms out of the blue, how a routine gynae health check finally gave Amanda some real answers, and how this has led to her Menopausal crusade

- Amanda’s experience of losing confidence earlier in her perimenopause journey (a common symptom for many of us) which found her sliding down a ski mountain on her arse, feeling embarrassed and swearing her head off

- The emotional and mental health benefits of strength training and a powerful client story of breaking down the story of “I don’t trust myself” which had ripple effects in all areas of this client’s life

- The story behind Amanda’s concept about “not letting the old lady in” and how this influences the way she approaches ageing in general and

- Amanda’s current project developing an My Nyah - the modern women’s app for navigating modern menopause and how this project will continue her mission of breaking down the barriers for women across the globe for perimenopause and beyond.

Find Amanda online here 

And on Insta here 

Find Amanda’s book MENOPOCALYPSE: How I Learned to Thrive During Menopause and How You Can Too here 

Also mentioned in this episode: Nyah - Modern Menopause App for Modern Women (Amanda is a co-founder)
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What you would do if you walked into a room and a baby is shrieking with distress alone in its crib. 

Your VERY NATURAL response is going to be:

- Pick the baby up and snuggle it close

- Use your voice to soothe and calm

- Cuddle / rock / sway / change movements to settle

- Respond to actual physical needs - hunger, thirst, nappy change

- If it’s in an environment which cool be uncomfy (too loud, hot, cold, exposed) move to somewhere new

- Take baby to their mum/dad/familiar caretaker

What you WOULD NOT do is:

- Ask that baby to earn your care

- Tell the baby to get over itself

- Ask the baby to look after you instead

- Get angry or upset that the baby needed care

Why then do we do this to ourselves?

We withhold love + acceptance + self care for so many reasons.

Feeling into SOOTHE self care immersion and the convos I am having with women who are on the cusp of investing in their own self care, and there are themes in the surface objections why this is not available / possible / ok to do, so I recorded a solo ep on just that.

Here’s the Top Ten reasons Why Women Won’t Take Care of themselves: 

- Numbing

- Conditioning

- Identity

- Leaky Boundaries

- No reference point

- Poor self worth

- Feeling Selfish

- Have to Earn it 

- No bandwidth 

- Thinking feels safer

All very real, all very “sensible” objections. 

But what if I told you the very way to unravel old hurts

to let go of stuff that ins’t you anymore

to ride the waves of this discombobulating peri rollercoaster with more ease

to take care of your own needs as readily as you would that baby was to 

Have the courage to turn inwards. 

To connect to your heart. 

To gently ask your soul “how can I honour your right now?”.

And have the tools, the support, the community to be able to respond. 

Gently.

Mindfully.

Respectfully?

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Ezzie Spencer’s vision is a world in coherence. She started as a human rights lawyer, and completed her Ph.D in therapeutic jurisprudence for women subjected to abuse. Over the past decade, she has created a body of work in the trilogy of Power, Love and Peace — with a touch of magic - and yes our chat is just as delicious as all of that sounds.

We speak about:

- A huge Universal curveball at the age of 22, and the recovery process which led Ezzie to study many different forms of alternative healing including Vipassana, meditation, cosmology and Kabbalah, and how Ezzie feels tremendously grateful for this first initiation point in her life which sent her on the path to the magical life she has created today

- Ezzie’s background in law, her PhD in Therapeutic Jurisprudence (FYI, that means using the law as a vehicle for healing for those of you who like me had no idea that word means!) and the golden threads which connect her early work with the work around power and love to the deep work she does with her clients now around self love and relationships

- Her early period of burnout during her law career, and the thirst for feminine wisdom and how this, together with an early connection to the lunar cycles, led to Ezzie writing her first book, which was a runaway success

- The second initiation point in Ezzie’s life when her business took off like a fast train, the confronting reality of wanting to be of service to the thousands of people who arrived in her orbit very quickly, and how this led Ezzie to go on a journey to unlock self forgiveness, and ultimately self love, and realise the power of being a true creatrix

- Ezzie’s next level work in the Unconscious Vows, and the emotions which can indicate blocks or unconscious barriers to self power (guilt and shame) and personal power (anger and fear) and the process of resolving internal discord to come to a place of living from the Authentic Self

- Her delicious feeling of being in fulfilment and contentment, a deep knowing that she has done what she came her to do, and the grounded feeling of being able to both trust herself and trust life.

Oh my stars, this one will land in your hearts and ears and reverberate its wisdom for a very long time indeed.

Enjoy and go find Ezzie and all her magic online here.

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