noshame

This title came to me as I was working out at the gym today and so did the silly rap I decided to record at the beginning of this episode;) Too often shame is something that is tied to getting an ADHD diagnosis! Let's get rid of that ASAP!!

ADHD can feel like a game sometimes, doesn't it!? Trying to figure out how to play, what move to make, which tool/piece to use, and there is always strategy to figure out too!! One card that we need to make sure is not a part of our game is SHAME! This is a very intense emotion, often triggered by those fixed thoughts we talk about!

As ADHD warriors we can combat ways in different ways...Here are 5 ways that will hopefully help lead you down a path of progress from shame to shining your beautiful bright light!

1. Bring any shame thoughts/feeling into the light/ share with trusted adult/friend. 

2. Unravel and pick apart shameful feelings to compare it to what is true! 

3. Detach what you do from who you are! What do you place your identity in!?

4. Recognize triggers...What are your shame triggers? When you identify those triggers, then you can put them to rest.

5. CONNECT with others! Shame often occers when feeling disconnected, so do the opposite and intentially connect with those you love and trust.

When you throw away the card of shame...you can play the card of confidence, the card of self- compassion, and the card of caring for others! That sounds like a pretty awesome game!! 

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Love you all! 

I used this article below as a reference and guide while applying it to living with shame as an ADHD warrior! 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/where-science-meets-the-steps/201501/5-ways-silence-shame

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

This episode, we welcome special guest Renata Taravski, a spiritual mentor who helps people become themselves without shame, especially empaths. Take time for yourself to tap into your energy. We all get distracted by people telling us who we are, but it’s up to us to figure it out ourselves. Once we have our own identity, we should live our truth unashamedly. All of us need to connect with ourselves when we are overwhelmed with the world around us.

#203: Shame is Not the Answer

In this Friday facts episode, I am addressing the thoughts that shaming ourselves is not the answer to creating change.  It is the first week of January and I encourage you to call out any criticism or shame you are placing on yourself for falling off your goals and for being human.  We are so critical of ourselves and quick to jump to judgment on our abilities (or lack of abilities) to succeed.  These behaviours will not produce change, change will ultimately come from changing the behaviours.  

In this episode we discuss:

1. What is your default or go-to story that you continually repeat with yourself? Recognize what it is and then create a mantra or a saying to break the pattern.
2. This is also known as re-writing the script. Give your brain something else to focus on and believe in.
3. Give yourself a fighting chance by re-writing your sentence, believing in your future self and give yourself a fighting chance.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others

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John Grooters is on location in Romania filming his new feature Sabina. In this movie he captures the lives of Richard and Sabina Wurmbrand before they met Christ and how their transformation took them from young yuppies to people whose faith, courage, and above all, love has inspired millions of believers.

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Jason Jones is a film producer, author, political philosopher, activist, and human rights worker. He’s also the president of Movie To Movement, and the Human Rights Education Organization. Known for his work on films such as Bella,The Stoning of Sayruri M, and Voiceless, Jason is active in the fight against hunger and democide all over the world today.

Todd Shaffer is Animation Director for commercials and major Hollywood projects for the Montreal firm TONIC DNA. His life is art – his family is full of artists, and his work is across multiple platforms. Classically trained in his craft, Todd is a strong advocate for learning the right things from the right people. 

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