playing the game of life

In today's episode, Glenn and I had the delightful opportunity to hang out with spiritual coach, founder of Awaken and Rise Coaching, fellow ministerial classmate, and all ‘round lovely, joyful, and fun-loving soul, Nicolle Star. 

Nicolle’s response to our question was simple: “I am Divine. I am Spirit, God. I am all of it.” She offered that we are all playing in this game of life as one. 

We talked about seriousness vs. laughter, playfulness, and fun of being spiritual. We talked about revealing, not seeking for, who we truly are. We talked, connection, responsibility, ministry, integrity, and values. We talked judgement, knowing truth, intention, and awareness. 

Nicolle also reminded us how much we can learn from kids; how boredom is an amazing opportunity to embrace the creativity we are; that there is no limit to the possibilities of creativity. 

She also talked about her spiritual studies so far, with Dr. Erin Haskell and now Dr. James Mellon. About online vs. in-person community and intentionality. About creating something for herself. 

Alan Watts, “Why do we attend church?,” the temple within, the Centre of Love, experiencing vs. being taught, and conscious conversations. This and so much more... 

Plus, there's the super fun Rapid Fire Question Round at the end! Today’s “prize” was, “Becoming” a poem from “Elemental Magic: Poetic Chapters of Wild Self Love” by Sara Rogers. 

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To get in touch with Nicolle please visit: https://nicollestar.com/ . 

To learn more about the “Divine Purpose Project” beginning in March, 2023: https://nicollestar.com/divine-purpos.... 

Follow her on Instagram and Facebook: @NicolleStarXO. 

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With Infinite Love & Gratitude, Lesia

The Playbook outline comes to a complete final draft in this episode.

Wonder Woman as a Guide

From an early age, remember the most that superpowers are revealing themselves.

Jumping bravely off of cliffs is a great start as long as you are immortal. 

Living in a nurturing environment is crucial for emotional intelligence, guidance, and support.

Tapping into that 'je ne sais quoi' is the epitome of confidence.

Superman as a Guide

Learn the how-to's of life from Superman. 

Sometimes you need to be the alter-ego like Clark Kent

Weaknesses must be avoided like Kryptonite. Survival is key if you are going to save the world.

The Playbook Outline Finalized

1. The Objective of the Game
2. The Playing Field
3. Skills, Talents, and Essence
4. Connection, Inspiration, and Support 
5. Playing the Game 
6. Improper play, Illegal action, and misconduct
7. Outside the Playing Field

Both Wonder Woman and Superman had a way to discover and embrace their neverending greatness. Learn the dos and don'ts from your favorite superheroine!

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As you probably already know, in each episode of the Playbook I attempt to do a bit of a review to help in two ways. #1 it reminds us of where we have gone in order to continue to where we need to go and #2 it recommits me to the mission and the purpose of the playbook. It gives me a chance to remember what the objective and the ultimate goal are. And it challenges me to build integrity into the guidelines. From the positive psychology perspective, it provides the opportunity for micro-adjustments to fine-tune the precision of hitting our target. Otherwise, it is not useful or it is not as useful as it can be. That would be a disappointment for me. 

Really what I’m hoping for is to create something that can stand the test of time from any different perspective and still hold true. With this particular facet, it is definitely challenging for me to look at how humans actually play the game of life. This is probably drastically different from how humans think they play the game of life. And here is where the magic either happens or it doesn’t. Most people do not understand this crucial part.  

The Playbook is an opportunity to look at happiness and success in a bigger way and hopefully a more beautiful way for everyone. I love it! I do, I love to be challenged. I love to learn. I love to grow and that’s really the whole point. I actually believe that there is a way to see life that offers true abundance where there is room for everyone to experience that joy in life. 

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https://www.netflix.com/title/80244479

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seven_deadly_sins

This sealed my fate for the part of my journey to discover a new mission in life. I started an endless search for new information and experiences that could answer many of the new questions that were building up in my mind. It created a new source for questions of a different nature and a different quality. I grew to understand Einstein's quote, you cannot solve problems with the same thinking that created them. I was changing, my thinking was changing and my ability to solve problems was changing. 

This was my massive attitude adjustment. Once I learned this framework so many things fell into place. 

It was evident that I had created the change that I was seeking. I was beginning to answer that question my Uncle inspired so many years ago ‘‘how can I like myself more so that I can find or attract people who like me more too’? 

During this time, I am consuming leadership development like it is a full-time job. On my path, I pivot from prioritizing fun and adventure and making more money than my parents to creating impact, justice, and making a contribution to the world. 

As I consume knowledge and experience in an effort to change myself and others, I refine and improve my attitude adjustment skills.

Today, I look back on the moment when I first heard the word attitude. It was a significant moment for me. That may have also been the first moment when I felt I needed to stick up for myself. There was a quality about that moment that I knew what I believed was right at the moment. And that was an act of radical self-love. I was too young to understand most of it. My life makes greater sense when I look at a series of significant moments, when I connect the dots between them, and when I realize that my experiences are driving thought-provoking questions that put me on a path to live a life that answers those questions and solves problems. 

We are playing the game of life. Our attitude is everything in this game. We have two types of energy or attitudes to choose from which can help or hamper our success and happiness in life. We can further refine our attitude into seven different levels. 

When we live in the helpful levels without stress or conflict, we drive success and happiness in a helpful direction toward positive change in the world. 

When we operate with stress or conflict we hamper our ability to solve problems. Staying in stress and conflict makes it more difficult to heal from these moments. It becomes more harmful when we endure too much time in stressful situations. 

The trickiest part is that we can easily become entrained into a certain attitude as it becomes a comfortable place to exist even when it is hampering our progress toward success and happiness. It takes effort and commitment to change. The reward for change is priceless and worth the effort to achieve it. 

An Everyday Heroine is committed to the greater good which requires a personal transformation. That personal transformation offers insight, compassion, and motivation to pursue her life mission and to help others transform the world. 

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Skills, Talents, and Essence for Playing the Game of Life

Let’s get into facet #3.0 – Skills, Talents, and Essence which is the equivalent to Major League Baseball’s – Equipment and Uniforms. Yes, I know sounds like more fun!

For The Everyday Heroine’s Playbook, I chose skills, talents, and essence because they seem fitting to the general idea around this facet. You can ask yourself, what do I take with me to play the game of life?

In your career or business, this is either your resume, your CV, your business plan, your qualifications, certifications, or licenses.

In the game of life this is like having a resume for each role you play – professional, sister, mother, neighbor, pet owner, good Samaritan, charity worker, volunteer, auntie, grandmother, community member, let’s not forget human and steward of the planet earth, the list goes on and on. 

You get the picture from a conceptual standpoint. I’m not actually suggesting that you create a resume for each role you play in life. Just be aware that you play many roles and you have many skills and talents that go with each!

Skills

Skills are probably self-explanatory and because most professionals have a resume, I’m sure I don’t need to explain this part. Although I must say that most women underestimate themselves, so it is important to get feedback from others to make sure you are properly representing yourself.

Talents

Talent is defined as a natural aptitude or skill. It is typically something that cannot be manufactured if you do not naturally have the ability already.

Talent is a little different and it may show up for highly talented humans in the form of achievements. For MLB talent, you could be in the Baseball Hall of Fame. Or any sports Hall of Fame recognized.

For talents like chemistry, physics, physiology or medicine, and literature you may achieve a Nobel Peace Prize.

Essence

And then there is Essence. This one is more nuanced because it allows for uniqueness. This is a place where we describe a person’s attitude and leadership qualities and some of the more intangible attributes that define a person. It is the sum of the natural aspects that make you who you are and therefore it is part of what you bring with you to play the game of life. This can include your values, beliefs, philosophies, and life experiences which are part of who you are.

So for the Everyday Heroine who wants to play the game of life, we must also minimize the undue socialization and culturalization that holds us back from being an individual that is fully expressed and sovereign of herself.

Celebrating the milestone of women in engineering as a result of the many recent efforts from supporters of all kinds. Here's the article I mentioned in the podcast. 

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In this episode of The Everyday Heroine, we define the Playing Field for Playing the Game of Life.

There are three main components defined for the playing field for playing the game of life.

The Playing Field for Playing the Game of Life

Let’s get into facet #2 from the Playbook outline – The Playing Field

Just for reference, here’s how Major League Baseball breaks it down. They have five aspects of the field: The layout of the field, home base, the bases, the pitcher’s plate, and the benches interestingly enough.

That is well and good for playing a very specific game in a very specific place and in a very specific way.

So I am challenged with playing the game of life in an equally specific place and a specific way. But keep in mind that when I created the outline, I intentionally left room to handle all situations when I included facet #7 called – Outside the Playing Field.

Container

Container – this is like the white room where Neo and Morpheus trained as one example. In the movie the Matrix, you understood that people could travel from one container to another container when they answered a ringing phone in a phone booth. You don’t completely know how they travel, but you accept it as a known truth as something that is possible. The container where they slept and ate was some sort of vessel like a ship or an aircraft combination. I’m not sure how it was all connected… but they did have different containers.

Major League Baseball clearly defines a baseball playing field including the benches as the container.

As a coach, I may define the container between me and a client as a phone call or a
Zoom meeting.

In a workshop, the container may be a conference room or webinar.

As a speaker, the container may be an auditorium.  

Activity

Defined activity – with Neo and Morpheus, the activity was necessary training for the chosen one. MLB the activity is baseball. As a coach, the activity is coaching. As a keynote speaker, the activity is speaking.  

Classification

Classification for existence – further defines the activity meaning that sometimes we use the container for practice or for play and sometimes we use it for work or for competition. And even for competition, there may be additional attributes that further define the work or competition. In baseball, that means the difference between regular season play and world series competition.

Descriptive Attributes

When I’m coaching a client on negotiation skills, we use role-playing as an activity in the container we create. Then, the client changes the container when she performs the same activity in a work environment or container. If she needs to escalate the negotiation activity inside her organization then the container and the classification for existence may also change as she continues the same activity through to the end.

So the playing field is defined as a container where the defined activity can be held in a safe space for the given classification for existence and where other attributes may be further defined.

I’m pretty happy with that facet of the playbook… once again, I’m always open to feedback and would love to hear your thoughts!

For now, enjoy your adventures and journey responsibly!

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

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