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You want to be liked, and at the core, you know people like you, but you still wonder if you fit in and if people really like you. You've accepted that there will be people who don't like you, but you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do, and you wonder why you still struggle with some of the same social insecurities that plagued your mind when you were in middle school. This episode on social confidence, and knowing how to belong and feel confident in any social situation is for you.

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It is not uncommon for relationships to come with some anxiety; it is part of the process of opening up and building trust between two people. However, if the anxiety starts to become overwhelming, or gets you stuck in a cycle of worrying and mistrusting your partner's intentions, then it's time to take steps to get out of that loop. In this week’s podcast episode we will be discussing how relationship anxiety can quickly start dominating our thoughts and actions, as well as practical solutions that you can use right away -allowing us to reclaim self-confidence and let go of stressors so we can focus on creating healthier relationships. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/533

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Did you know that there is a bit of a formula to falling in love? Well - sort of. There was a study done centered around 36 questions where people asked an answered these thirty-six questions to fall in love. And the craziest part... it actually works. In this episode we are talking about the 36 Questions to Fall in Love Study, why it works, walking through the process and answering some of the questions. So whether you are looking to fall in love with someone new or want to know how to fall more in love with a current partner, this episode is definitely for you.

Per usual, after our topic discussion, we throw out some music recommendations before heading into our spicier Dish Bish segment at the end.

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This episode covers: 

• What is the 36 Questions to Fall in Love Study? 
• Can you actually fall in love with someone by asking certain questions? 
• How does the 36 Questions to Fall in Love work? 
• How to do the 36 Questions to Fall in Love
• What questions are included in the 36 Questions to Fall in Love? 

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Links/Resources

• 36 Questions to Fall in Love New York Times article: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html 
• The Study - The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0146167297234003 

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The inner self-critical voice has the power to keep you from your fullest potential and from your ability to experience pure happiness in your journey. When you learn how to pursue progression and not perfection, the self-critical voice starts to lose it's power, but you still need to learn how to get rid of the bully for good. This podcast will teach you exactly how to talk back to your negative, self-critical thoughts so that they don't hold you back any longer. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/510

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Equipping your children with the tools of confident thinking will give them the ability to create a life of impact, and a life they love. The good news is that you can teach confidence while you are also learning to be more confident yourself. This podcast will teach you 15 specific ways to instill, encourage and inspire confidence in the kids you know. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/503

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The questions 'Do I really love the person I am with?' or 'Do I still love my partner?' are often asked in therapy.  In the early stages of the relationship one or both partners might be unsure whether they have made the right choice. In a more established relationship where there is a lot of conflict, partners may start to question whether there is still love in the relationship.

There is no one definitive definition of what love is; love can be defined from a biological, sociological or psychological perspective. In our earlier podcast What the Greeks can teach us about relationships - seven types of love we discuss the many forms that love can take.

We are often presented with ideas about love that present us with an unattainable ideal. Love in romantic films is often portrayed as the end goal of an arduous journey; once we are at the end point we will live happily ever after.

When loving another person we make an active choice; we decide that we are deeply interested in the other person and that we continue to be open to the process of engagement with the other.  Love is not a finished product but a continual process. When loving someone we opting in; we have to want to love someone.

In this episode we discuss how your drivers and attachment style also come into play when feeling unsure about loving another person.

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Dating gets better results when you date with confidence, curiosity and courage. Marriage is better when the relationship is approached with confidence, curiosity and connection. Get coaching on how to add the spark of confidence to the relationships in your life, either the relationships you already have, or the ones you hope to have. A life with confident, life-giving relationships is a life well lived. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/480

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The pain from past rejection keeps many of us from our fullest potential in life, both personally and professionally, but it doesn't have to when you learn how to reframe rejection. You deserve better than to expect to get hurt, to expect things not to work out or to expect disappointment. This podcast coaching session will inspire you with the tools for rejection reframing so you can start being more brave with your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/470

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You "know better" to care so much what other people think about you, but you're still feeling stuck in the people-pleasing, perfectionistic, desire-to-be-liked thought loop? This podcast episode is for you! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/455

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You're not alone in feeling insecure about how you engage and interact with others physically. But there's no reason to stay stuck in this avoidance of or minimization of physical intimacy. No matter your background with others or with yourself, you can learn how to safely and comfortably connect with yourself and others with confidence in a physical way. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/452

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Black and white thinking, or all or nothing thinking, is a thought strategy often used by highly driven people that actually stunts progress, deteriorates happiness and limits potential. If you have ever described yourself as an "all or nothing" person or as a "black and white" thinker, this podcast coaching is for you. It will help you with the steps to take on how to get out of the black and white thinking loop and how to have more mental flexibility and self-kindness in the process. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/451

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Hardship and suffering are unavoidable in life, but how do you walk through them with faith, confidence and unwavering hope? Special guest and extraordinarily inspiring human being, Tony Nunez shares powerful insight through his experience as a young man with ALS. Husband, father of three young girls and youth pastor, Tony 's passion for people and his ability to see the good in life no matter what will change how you see your own hardships and suffering. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/427

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Trying to please others puts you on a hamster wheel of inadequacy, powerlessness and in insecurity. People pleasing makes us co-dependent and cautious with how we appear to others. It makes us addicts to caring what people think and keeps us stuck in a life of stagnant averageness - average happiness, average success, average relationships. You were made for more. This podcast episode will give you 27 ways to confidently start breaking the chains of people pleasing that is holding you back from all that God has for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/421

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The courage to be disliked is a mark of confidence. When you learn to stop caring what people think, you will unleash your fullest potential. Thankfully, this year has given us an unique perspective on how to stop caring what people think. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/419

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To learn how to actually like yourself, you have to first figure out who you are and spend time with yourself. This podcast episode peers into how to go deep in self-identity and how to trust who God created you to be. When you know that the Maker made you the way you are and that what He makes is good, then you can trust that He wants you to actually like yourself. The best part is that when you like yourself, you are more effective at everything you do in the world - from achievements to relationships, to just living life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/412

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If you struggle with comparison, self-criticism, or have a hard time being nice to yourself, then this episode is for you and you will learn how to stop beating yourself up unnecessarily. Undue pressure and unrealistic expectations can sabotage your confidence and happiness, and you'll get 4 easy-to-apply strategies that you can start implementing right away today in this episode. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/410 

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Appearing more confident than you are is a decision, and there are a few small tricks you can do to hack this habit for yourself. Confidence is not a destination, but rather a journey - so it's natural for your confidence to ebb and flow. Thankfully, you don't have to always feel confident to be confident. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/408

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Going all-in on your goals feels harder than it needs to be - all you need to do is learn how to have confidence as you take risks and lean into the "what if's" of the unknown ahead. If you've ever found yourself self-sabotaging, stuck in excuses, or holding back over something, then this episode is for you. In it, you'll learn how to go be all-in on what you want without fear of failure. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/404 

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So what REALLY happened between Jada Pinkett Smith and August Alsina? Is Will really cool with all of this? Can the Smiths still be considered "relationship goals?" This week we give our unfiltered thoughts on the controversy surrounding Jada Pinkett Smith's relationship with August Alsina, whether or not we think folks should have "relationship goals", and whether or not societal views on traditional marriages are still relevant in 2020. Join the conversation by using #gooduptuesday on social media or tagging @gooduppod. 

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Being confident in relationships is a manifestation of small, daily habits that everyone can do. Confidence will increase the quality of communication and connection you have with others. This podcast episode will dive into how to be strong, contributing, and confident as a partner in your relationships, how to date with confidence and how to be in a relationship that leaves a legacy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/403

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