stepparents

This week Keeley has the goods on this second episode of the 2 part series.  Anyone that has been a teen at one times will remember the teenage angst, the emotions, the dramas, and the heartache. This episode is the one to listen to if you have a teen in your life.

If this sounds like something you’ve experienced email us at keeleyace@gmail.com. This is a safe space to share your personal stories that may be read on the podcast. Remember we are in this pit-of-dispair together, let me help you ARMOR up! 

No Chick Flick Moments

Scott Pinyard is the owner and coach at Modern Coparent, a company dedicated to helping people find peace while coparenting. He has years of coaching experience both in private practice and as the Head Coach of This Naked Mind. Scott’s focus is in helping people through challenging growth with compassion, patience and humor.

Scott shares his personal story of modern coparenting and how he came to be a coach in this area. He explains how our lives are built on story and how these stories inform how we parent and coparent. Wendy and Scott discuss some of the most common coparenting stories, why we often get stuck in patterns that don’t serve our kids, and how we can step into personal responsibility once we get clear on our stories and replace them with new beliefs that serve us better as individuals and parents. Scott provides some accessible, practical tips for parents who are currently in conflict and seeking more peace around how they are coparenting.

If you are coparenting, step-parenting, or love someone else who is, this episode is a must-listen.

Find out more about Scott or contact him at www.modern-coparent.com

Watch Here: https://youtu.be/dd8dDX2JcA4

WHAT CAN I EXPECT BECOMING A STEPPARENT?

On this episode we are joined by Amy Stone. Amy is a certified life coach who helps stepparents and adults in blended families create a home life they love. On this episode we discuss:

• Being a stepparent before being a parent

• What to expect as a stepparent

• What to expect from kids when blending families

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Amy’s website: https://www.amysaysso.com/

Amy’s Instagram @amysaysso

About Amy

Amy Stone is a certified life coach who helps stepparents and adults in blended families create a home life they love. She is a mom, a stepmom, and a grandma. Her personal experience as a wife and stepmom pushed her to create a unique path to happiness. Today she shares that method with others who are beginning a similar journey.
When she’s not coaching she’s usually running or swimming or biking - Amy is a 7-time Ironman Triathlon finisher and an avid marathon runner.

This week Keely has a heartbreaking story following her wedding and the drama that unfolds. Her message about the pain, trials, and tough moments should inspire anyone to get out to vote this month for whatever you believe in. Find out in this crazy amazing episode of true grit from The Skinny Of It...

If this sounds like something you’ve experienced email us at keeleyace@gmail.com. This is a safe space to share your personal stories that may be read on the podcast. Remember we are in this pit-of-dispair together, let me help you ARMOR up!

No Chick Flick Moments

Audio - Stepparents, Pat Yourself on the back.  You are doing a great job.  Continue to be self-aware about your weaknesses and flaws.  Learn to let go of your expectations regarding your biological parent and your stepchildren.  Listen at my practical experiences, learn from my mistakes, and be a better stepparent.

Stepparents are important to God.  Your journey as stepparent will be filled with rejection and some hurt.  The more that you are self-aware about your short comings, the better able to deal with your family.  Your healing is necessary as a parent.  You must be healed inorder for your family to walk in healing.  You must see that you have an important role to play.  

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Pt 3 of 3, Christopher hosts Richard Capriola, author of “The Addicted Child’s” A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse”.   In this segment we start the conversation about success.  He believes that treatment does work.  Treatment needs to sought out and applied.  The success is found by finding what is best for the child.  It’s very important that the parent gets a complete picture of what is going on with their child through the use of assessments.  The assessments help diagnose the condition.  Dr. Capriola is working to get this book into everyone who has a child to have this information at their finger tips to feel better prepared to deal with this issue if it presents itself in their lives.  He also has a parent workbook to help them work through their needs. Listen to this segment or watch the video - click here.

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Pt 2 of 3, Christopher hosts Richard Capriola, author of “The Addicted Child’s” A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse”.  Mr. Capriola worked with parents who have dealt with substance abuse issues.  Mr. Capriola notes an alarming revelation that the number of opiod overdoses and deaths has increased during the pandemic.  He believes that we are beginning to see the effect of the pandemic not only on adolescents but on adults as well.   CDC has noted that there have been an increase in emergency room visits by grade school children as well as an increase of teen agers who are in need of some type of mental health care.   We discuss what’s in the Parents guide.  He talks about some of the newest drugs but alcohol and marijuana remain the principle uses.  He discusses vaping and the use of substances in vaping.  He discusses some assessments that you as a parent may need to get for your child in his book.  We close this segment with discussions of types of treatment. Listen at this discussion or view the video - click here.

visit his website - click here

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Pt 1 of 3, Christopher hosts Richard Capriola, author of “The Addicted Child’s” A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse” In this segment we discuss Mr. Capriola’s background.  He has a wealth of experience and knowledge dealing with this topic.  His experience has found that many different things  draw kids into abusing substances.  Some kids use substances to medicate an underlying anxiety and some are just using for the purpose of experimentation.  We talk about substance use disorder.  We talk about the education community and medical community in relationship to helping with this issue.  We talk about short term and long term effects of marijuana. 

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visit his website - click here

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(Entire Interview) Stepparents listen as Richard Capriola and I discuss his new book.  This is a new book for parents and anyone interested in adolescent substance abuse. Mr. Capriola has over two decades of experience working with adolescents and adults diagnosed with mental health and substance abuse issues. The book is called, "The Addicted Child: A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse.

In this interview we discuss the following topics: a review of street drugs, how drugs work in the teen brain, warning signs every family should know about, assessments important for a diagnosis, treatment options and much more.  

Listen to what Mr. Capriola says, he offers hope for change to all parents.  

or Watch the video of this interview - click here

review his website - click here

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{Part 4 of 4} Christopher concludes the article by Ron Deal, "Stepparenting:  It Takes Two" with discussion and practical experiences centered around understanding that you as a stepparent need to recognize the losses of your stepchildren.  This section is eye-opening and will help you see the needs of your stepchildren from their perspective.  Listen and learn how to be a better stepparent.

Listen at Part 1 - click here

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This week I want to focus an episode on blended families and the many shapes they take. I decided to talk to my cousin Whitney about her experience losing her father at a young age (my uncle) and what her life has been like since gaining a step father. 

{Part 3 of 4} Christopher continues to share the article by Ron Deal, "Stepparenting:  It Takes Two".  The discussion goes into some key points to remember when entering into a stepparent relationship.  You must learn to be self-aware about what you are not.  Your level of selfawareness in this area will keep you from emotionally harming your stepchildren.  You can be a better stepparent.

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{Part 2 of 4} Christopher continues the discussion of "Stepparenting:  It Takes Two" by Ron Deal.  Original article can be found here - click here  Christopher continues this segment with the discussion of disciplinary parenting roles established by Ron Deal and the importance of making your marriage a priority.  Be a better stepparent and learn these key strategies to help you improve your relationships with you kids.  Listen and learn.

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{Part 1 of 4} - Christopher shares some insights from article by Ron Deal. The article is titled, "Stepparenting:  It Takes Two".  In this segment we will discuss what is means to grow into your role as a stepparent.  We will start the discussion on discipline from Mr. Deal perspective.  He assigns 3 possible safe roles for you to assume as a stepparent.  You can read the original article here - click here.  Listen and learn some skills that will help you be a better stepparent.

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Christopher found this interesting research done by Dr. James Bray.  He wrote an article titled, "Making Stepfamilies Work".  There are some keen insights into helping your family grow into maturity.  Dr. Bray talks about planning for remarriage, marriage quality, parenting in stepfamilies, stepparent-child relations and nonresidential parent issues.   Don't miss the insights as Christopher shares this article.  Listen and be a better stepparent.

You can find the original article here - click here

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Part 2 of 2, Nine Steps to More Effective Parenting with Christopher.  This podcast will discuss steps 5 through 9.  Listen at steps 5 through 9 and become a better stepparent.  Step 5.  Be a Good role model; Step 6.  Make Communication a priority; Step 7.  Be flexible and willing to adjust your parenting style; Step 8.  Show that your love is unconditional; Step 9.  Know your own needs and limitations as a parent.  Listen and pick up some new tips that will help improve your stepparent relationship.

Original article can be found here - click here.

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Part 1 of 2.  Nine Steps to More Effective Parenting Part 1 with Christopher.  This podcast will discuss steps 1 through 4.  Step 1.  Boosting your Child's self-esteem, Step 2. Catch kids being good; Step 3.  Set limits and be consistent with your discipline, & Step 4. Make time for your kids.  These are some good insights that will help you be a better stepparent.  Listen and enjoy. 

Original article can be found at - click here.

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You are gonna love this article by Amy Morin.  She talks about 4 Parenting Styles.  See where you fit.  If you are interested in becoming a better stepparent pay close attention and see if you recognize any of these parenting styles.

1.  The Authoritarian parent; 2.  The Authoritative parent; 3.  Permissive parent; & 4.  the Uninvolved parent.  See article - click here

Listen at this interesting article.

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This is part 2 of 2.  I found this great article by Kate Bayless, "8 Boundaries Stepparents Shouldn't Cross"  I read the article and comment.  In this segment, I discuss boundaries 5 through 8.  

They are 5. Getting involved in arguments between your stepchild and your spouse.  6. Ignoring or countering the wishes of the ex.  7. Bad-mouthing the ex.  8. Pressuring your new partner to always put you first or seeing your stepchild's need for one-on-one time with his parent as a threat to your marriage.

Listen in as I share the insights.  Article can be found at this link - Click Here.

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