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- Why Kaila decided to create the Your Body, Your Brand podcast and the questions she was hoping to answer,
- How marketing is manipulative,
- What Kaila’s experience was like in the health coaching world,
- Why so many women are dropping out of the workforce to become coaches,
- Why Kaila states that “women’s bodies are their brands,” 

- What happens when women try to monetize their bodies,
- MLMs and why women feel the need to go into this kind of business,
- The biggest problem with corporate working environments and why they strip us of our agency,
- Why feminism is broken and whether or not there are any solutions for true empowerment,

Tova Mirvis, the author of A Book of Separation: A Memoir, made the choice to both divorce and to leave her orthodox faith and her community.

Raised in an orthodox Jewish community in Memphis, Tennessee she grew up feeling like there was a set path for her; one that her family was part of and one that was always expected would be her own. She knew from a young age that to stay inside a religious community meant she’d always have this sense of community and identity of who she was supposed to be in the world. Trying very hard to be that person, she married at a young age, had children, and was part of a very religious community where every choice was mapped out for her.

Yet, she had a quiet whisper of doubt for many years — Is this what you really believe? Is this who you really are?

Afraid of what might happen if she let herself answer those hard questions, and how she’d change, she didn’t.

Until she did.

She experienced a growing awareness that who she was on the outside didn’t match who she was on the inside and it became impossible for her to navigate the feeling that she was two separate people She wasn’t living a life she believed and it was inconsistent with who she thought she was. And so, she made a change to live differently than she had before.

During our conversation she discusses how whenever one of us in a family dynamic changes, it changes everyone around us. She couldn’t stay a person who wasn’t going to think about hard questions and pretend so she could belong.

Part of making a change is accepting that pain and responsibility, and feeling the sadness and sometimes the guilt that goes along with knowing that you’re the one who changed something.

Would we ever want our children to not change and to feel like they are incapable of change?

Choosing to change affects those around us, but is that a bad thing?

Listen to Tova’s wisdom about change, identity and belonging. The common thread amongst those who’ve reached out to her, from many religious backgrounds and communities, is they weren’t living the life they felt they were meant to. 

Is Vice President Mike Pence delusional when he thinks Jesus is talking to him? Is a Georgia senator's proposed law (in response to FFRF victories) to allow public school teachers to pray with students constitutional? After discussing the recent Florida shooting, FFRF’s "In Science We Trust" billboard in Atlanta, and hearing a child prompted by parents to call FFRF to tell us we are "going to hell," we talk with novelist Tova Mirvis, whose newest book, The Book of Separation, is a moving memoir about divorcing not only her husband, but her entire Orthodox Jewish faith.

19-åriga Tova försvinner i mitten av maj 2017. Ett intensivt sökande drar igång. Samtidigt kartlägger polisen hennes förhållande med expojkvännen, och en relation kantad av våld växer fram.

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Två dygn senare hittas hon död i vattnet utanför gården där han bor.

Den 15 februari 2018 döms den nu 23-åriga ex-pojkvännen för mord, till livstids fängelse. Tovas egna dagboksanteckningar och ett undangömt usb-minne blir bevisning i målet.

Av Caroline Kernen och Ida Lundqvist.

In which Jeff makes the acquaintance of one Ms. Laila Tova, spectacular poet and Tacoma resident; a great many fascinating topics are covered; the librarian ejects our heroes and they must retreat to the safety of the Red Rocket; Laila doesn't humblebrag, she straight up brags; Laila tells Tinder tales; a random loser calls Laila "harry with two r's"; the Lavender Sisterhood poetizes the internet; Ke$ha continues her fight against the rapist Dr Luke; Laila doesn't think humans were born bad; poems are read and commented upon; and great fun is had by all.

Closing song: "Surfing On a Rocket" - Air

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Find Laila's poems on instagram - laila.tova.writes

Gäst i P4 Mötet är Tova Magnusson som står på scen i fyra och en halv timme när Alexander Mörk-Eidem sätter upp en annorlunda Tjechov på Stockholms Stadsteaters stora scen. Tova Magnusson intervjuas av Björn Jansson.

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