trans identity

Can self-hate be turned into self-love, and if so, where does this transformation start? 

How can we replace self-criticism with affirmations and begin prioritizing self-care?

Today, I have something truly special to share with you on the On Purpose podcast. We're about to dive deep into the incredible journey of Elliot Page, whose story is not just a memoir but a testament to the power of self-discovery and authenticity. 

Elliot Page is an Academy Award-nominated actor, director, producer, writer, and a New York Times bestselling author known for his indelible on-screen presence in both tentpole and art house films. Today we are talking about his memoir Pageboy which became an instant bestseller. 

Starting with a detailed exploration of life-changing memories, we journey alongside Elliot through a life-long experience that's beautifully reflected in this memoir. It's a story of resilience and growth, a reminder that we all have the capacity to overcome challenges and find our true selves.

Elliot's story sheds light on the importance of not letting societal conditioning dictate who we are. We'll explore how being true to yourself can lead to living the life you've always wanted. From struggles to self-discovery, we will discover the impact of authenticity and self-acceptance and how these can help anyone take pivots at the most crucial moments. 

And amidst it all, we'll touch on topics like community support, transitioning resources, and how parents can empower their children to express themselves.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

• How to let go of self hate
• How to appreciate your authenticity
• How to develop self love
• How to find your own voice
• The importance of community support
• The challenges when transitioning
• How to deal with unsupportive people

This episode is not just about one person's journey; it's about the universal themes of self-love, acceptance, and the incredible strength of the human spirit. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:58 Elliot's Memory Exploration 
• 03:46 Pageboy: A Memoir
• 06:16 Breaking The Mold Of Conditioned Reactions 
• 07:41 Living Your Dream Life
• 09:28 Fighting to Function In Your Own Pace
• 10:26 Let People Be Themselves
• 13:08 How Transition Shapes Your Profession and Life
• 15:15 The Positives of Being Grounded And Present
• 18:20 The Significance of Community Support
• 20:16 Resources for Transitioning Individuals
• 23:19 How Parents Can Aid In Self-Expression 
• 25:13 Misconceptions on Youth and Trans Health
• 28:43 Trans Men On Conversations About Masculinity
• 32:11 Empathetic Conversations With Other Trans People
• 38:09 Lessening the Burden of Feeling Alone
• 42:51 Connecting Through Stories
• 44:29 Balancing Alone Time And Forming Relationships
• 47:30 Living A Life With Limited Resources
• 51:40 Biographies And Intriguing Lives
• 53:04 Having A Moment Of Self Love
• 56:14 Elliot Page on Final Five  

Episode Resources:

• Elliot Page | Twitter
• Elliot Page | Instagram
• Elliot Page | Facebook
• Pageboy: A Memoir 

If you are interested in learning more in the topics we discussed today, below is a book list curated by Elliot Page: 
 
A Trans Man Walks Into a Gay Bar, Harry Nicholas
Amateur, Thomas Page McBee
Bellies, Nicola Dinan
He/She/They, Schuyler Bailar
Miss Major Speaks, Miss Major and Toshio Meronek
None of the Above, Travis Alabanza
Redefining Realness, Janet Mock
Surpassing Certainty, Janet Mock
The Risk it Takes to Bloom, Raquel Willis
The Transgender Issue, Shon Faye
Transgender History, Susan Stryker
We Both Laughed in Pleasure, Lou Sullivan

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In this 164th in a series of live discussions with Bret Weinstein and Heather Heying (both PhDs in Biology), we discuss the state of the world through an evolutionary lens.

This week, we discuss science, race, death and sex. No, really. Science: why it is critical—in science and in sense-making in general—to separate the observation of a thing, from the interpretation of what it means. Race: why acting to protect yourself from individual bad actors is different from avoiding whole demographic groups. Death: Daniel Ellsberg, who released the Pentagon Papers, revealed a terminal diagnosis this week. We discuss him, his legacy, and death more generally. Sex: How can different lifestyles—e.g., “neo-trad” vs polyamorous—co-exist in a functioning society? Or can they? Also, we begin with a brief conversation about the Inca.

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Mentioned in this episode:

In the footsteps of those who came before (published in 2019 in Areo, about the Andean Yumbo people): https://areomagazine.com/2019/01/28/in-the-footsteps-of-those-who-came-before/

Daniel Ellsberg announces a terminal diagnosis, and reflects on his life: https://twitter.com/DanielEllsberg/status/1631381696661827584?s=20

Aella wonders why her lifestyle is being taken to task by neo-trads: https://twitter.com/Aella_Girl/status/1630871870307459072?s=20