understanding trauma

Listen to today's episode, "How We Can End Generational Trauma Recovery for Our Kids: Sandra Cooze's Expert Insights" as Expert Trauma Healer, Cert. Traumatic Incident Reduction Facilitator, Intuitive Coach and Mentor, Reiki Master/Teacher, and Published Author, Sandra Cooze joins Dori Durbin! 

What happens when a kids experience trauma? 
In this episode, trauma healing expert Sandra Cooze joins us to share her insights on understanding and recovering from generational trauma. As a Certified Traumatic Incident Reduction Facilitator, published author, and developer of the Full Circle Trauma Healing method, Sandra explains how trauma actually gets embedded into our DNA and cellular memory. Hear Sandra's approach to processing generational trauma: addressing not just your experiences but also those inherited traumas from your family lineage. Sandra transforms generational patterns and make a freer, happier life.

• Sandra's Early Years 
• Types of Traumas
• Generational Trauma
• How Parents Can Help Kids with Trauma
• Trauma's Definition 
• What is True Happiness
• Sandra's Therapy Process
• Trauma Incident Reduction (TIR)
• Sandra's "Journey to Yourself" Book
• Where to Find Sandra and Her Book

---> Thinking about writing a kids' book?  Book a Chat with Dori:
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More about Sandra :
Sandra Cooze is an Expert Trauma Healer, Cert. Traumatic Incident Reduction Facilitator, Intuitive Coach and Mentor, Reiki Master/Teacher, and Published Author.
Her mission is to revolutionize trauma healing. She designed the 'Full Circle Trauma Healing' method, a multi-modality approach that not only focuses on releasing the trauma, conditioning, and limiting beliefs you had to experienced, but also, the trauma you carried on from your ancestors and generations past.

Find Sandra's  Book:
https://amzn.to/2Mx16Wi

Follow Sandra:
https://www.riseaboveyourstory.com
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWtXKgCeXe1KSyXP7yksDow
https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandra-cooze-733449b1/
email: sandra@riseaboveyourstory.com

Did you love this episode? Discover more here:
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More about Dori Durbin:
Dori Durbin is a Christian wife, mom, author, illustrator, and a kids’ book coach who after experiencing a life-changing illness, quickly switched gears to follow her dream. She creates kids’ books to provide a fun and safe passageway for kids and parents to dig deeper and experience empowered lives. Dori also coaches non-fiction authors, professionals, and aspiring authors to “kid-size” their content into informational and engaging kids’ books!
 
Buy Dori's Kids' Books:
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Email: hello@doridurbin.com

All trauma is valid, I want to start by saying that.

But, the kind of resources/support we need to work through our trauma is different. I have learned recently about little T and big T trauma, and how knowing (when working through a specific event/experience) which type of trauma you're working through can not only help you understand better what kind of help you may need/most benefit from, but also take steps to get the right support.

As someone who is pretty strong on the "all trauma is valid" outlook, I have never really stopped to think about it this way. However, I will say learning about this has quickly put a lot right into perspective for me!

If you resonate with this episode, please don't hesitate to reach out on Instagram (@thisiskaitey is my handle), so we can connect more! And if you know someone who needs to hear this, share the episode and make sure to tag me so I can thank you for spreading the word about Triumph After Trauma! I'm so grateful to be connected <3

In today's episode, we're having a great conversation and unpacking a lot! 

We're diving into automatic trauma responses, what the four F's are in regards to automatic trauma responses, and what it takes/ways we can rewire our brains. 

As someone who has been through a lot of trauma but also done a lot of hard work to work through different things, I feel that by sharing what I've experienced and learned over time I can maybe be a friend to some of you looking for proof/an example that you can work through the things you may be doubting you can get through.

If you are really struggling and/or are concerned about your well being, please don't be scared to talk to the people in your personal life and get professional help if you feel it would benefit you. There is no shame in struggling, and you're not alone in what you're facing.

If you resonate with this episode, feel free to DM me on Instagram (@thisiskaitey is my handle) so we can connect more! If you know someone who needs to hear this, share the episode on social media and tag me so I can thank you for spreading the word about Triumph After Trauma! I'm so grateful to be connected with you <3

Trauma is apart of YOU, ME, EVERYONE! There's no way to avoid traumatic experiences in life! They mold us, and shape us! There's a reason why we don't see it as a big deal, and why we avoid it. Click play to learn more about it and yourself!

PSA I am always vulnerable, raw, and open in my content. I say words/phrases that are traumatic and triggering in this episode. I a not a professional therapist or expert. I am giving my unprofessional opinion on this topic. Please seek professional help if you feel called to and know that I am not in anyway telling you what to do or how to live your life. My goal in this episode is to motivate a new thought process in hopes of helping you and others put themselves first!



Here are a few resources to reach out for help:

• Better Help https://www.betterhelp.com/get-started/?go=true&utm_content=133524759310&utm_source=AdWords&utm_medium=Search_PPC_c&utm_term=betterhelp_e&network=g&placement=&target=&matchtype=e&utm_campaign=15234220559&ad_type=text&adposition=&kwd_id=kwd-300752210814&gclid=CjwKCAjwq-WgBhBMEiwAzKSH6MkIcE3HiPr_iM0FbAcYvfxzNCMRPJc7ZRScNaXnw108pSWaBcPpPBoCp4YQAvD_BwE&not_found=1&gor=start

• Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT) https://www.rapidresolutiontherapy.com

• My personal therapist who I have had for over a year who has been an angel and helped me more than she will ever know! Her name is Sherri. She lives in Florida, but does online counseling so you can live anywhere and work with her! Her phone number is 561-289-3262. Send her a text to set up a meet and greet to see if you two are a good fit, and let her know you got her info from Ashlynn's Podcast. 

You don't have to go through life alone. Please give this podcast a listen to to understand how your journey to finding and understanding you goes beyond personal analyzing!

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The best is yet to come, make sure you subscribe to this podcast! We are so excited you are here for this journey called life with us!

Reminder:
This Podcast is for entertainment and informational purposes only and should not be considered professional or medical advice. We are not licensed therapists or medical professionals and are only sharing our personal journeys. We appreciate you tuning in with an open mind, and taking action in your own life through professional advice or own self. We hope you have a beautiful day, and don’t forget, YOU deserve to LOVE & put YOURSELF FIRST!

Is “safety” a buzzword that’s overused? Your host Lindsay Poelman doesn’t think so. Creating an environment of safety for your clients doesn’t hurt those who don’t need it or won’t notice. But it CAN make a world of difference to a client with a dysregulated nervous system. Prioritizing safety is INCLUSIVE. It’s a way for your work to benefit a wider spectrum of people. Today I’m sharing the importance of safety, some research behind it, and actionable tips you can use starting NOW to create safety. There is so much you can do as a coach to create an environment of safety, for your clients and for yourself.

Listen to the full episode to learn how tools like asking questions, boundaries, self care, not having an agenda, and more can create safety for you and your clients.

Connect with Lindsay on Instagram or visit her website.

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment.

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma.

This is why she developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

“At the end of the day, I think our biggest human need is to be seen and to be heard. Being able to provide that for another human being is huge.” - Kristi Falany 

There comes a point for many women where they find themselves lost in what they are supposed to do with their lives. For years society has conditioned us to follow a certain path, to raise a family, have a career, follow societal norms, but that path left little room for self exploration and growth after the age of 50. In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman examines how women can find joy and meaning in life outside of the constraints of what is expected of them. 

In this episode she sits down with Kristi Falany, a midlife coach that helps women in their 50's and beyond find confidence and joy in this period of their lives, and they talk about:

• Her experiences as a 4th grade teacher and finding a different route that provided her life with more meaning and purpose
• Her client's experiences, fears, and concerns around midlife age and finding joy outside of what they have been conditioned to do.
• Women and societal conditioning - the expectations of what our roles are in every stage of our lives. 

Kristi firmly believes that 50 and beyond can be the best years of your life. Kristi shares how  her reinvention techniques and simple tools can completely change your life. 

You can find Kristi here:

Website: https://kristiballardfalany.com/
Instagram: @kristi_themidlife_coach
Podcast: Start in the Middle

Get everything you need to manage your money with exquisite self-care. You'll be on my list, who is given exclusive access to free mini-sessions with me for applied application processing calls where you can try on different methodologies.

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (aroun

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Time flew while Rachelle and your host Lindsay Poelman were recording so,  we broke this into a Part I and a Part II Episode set. 

So many insightful nuggets were shared, we wanted you to hear the FULL conversation.

Working for yourself can bring out unresolved emotions and thoughts that question your worthiness and ability to make the right choices. For many of us, those choices comes down to financial awareness, making decisions for our businesses, and understanding the inner work that we need to do in order to heal and create the life we envision for ourselves. 

In this episode I sit down with Rachelle Siebke, a money coach for life coaches and creative solopreneurs and talk about:

• Her experience working with people who struggle with their financial decisions and how she was able to overcome that herself. 
• How changing the way she looks at the CTFAR Model has taken her coaching to a new level.
• The compounded impact of coming together in safe circles to see and be seen--and what she's found by being connected to a forever group of Trauma-Informed Coaches (Rachelle was on the Inaugural Retreat for ARTC Coaches last fall in the South of France).
• We also discuss imposter syndrome and how that can impact the way we show up for ourselves and our business. 

Rachelle models what she teaches and it shows in the away she approaches and blends thought work while supporting clients in anchoring deeply into their knowing. Her approach to money as an Expert Money Coaching is a breath of fresh air, as she supports clients in finding "their right way."

You can find Rachelle here:

Website: rachellesiebke.com
Instagram: rachellesiebke.moneycoach
Money Guide: https://www.rachellesiebke.com/money-guide-optin 

Get everything you need to manage your money with exquisite self-care. You'll be on my list, who is given exclusive access to free mini-sessions with me for applied application processing calls where you can try on different methodologies.

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Working for yourself can bring out unresolved emotions and thoughts that question your worthiness and ability to make the right choices. For many of us, those choices comes down to financial awareness, making decisions for our businesses, and understanding the inner work that we need to do in order to heal and create the life we envision for ourselves. 

In this episode I sit down with Rachelle Siebke, Money Expert for life coaches and creative solopreneurs and talk about:

• Her experience working with people who struggle with their financial decisions and how she was able to overcome that herself. 
• How changing the way she looks at the CTFAR Model has taken her coaching to a new level.
• The compounded impact of coming together in safe circles to see and be seen--and what she's found by being connected to a forever group of Trauma-Informed Coaches (Rachelle was on the Inaugural Retreat for ARTC Coaches last fall in the South of France).
• We also discuss imposter syndrome and how that can impact the way we show up for ourselves and our business. 

Rachelle models what she teaches and it shows in the away she approaches and blends thought work while supporting clients in anchoring deeply into their knowing. Her approach to money as an Expert Money Coaching is a breath of fresh air, as she supports clients in finding "their right way."

You can find Rachelle here:

Website: rachellesiebke.com
Instagram: rachellesiebke.moneycoach
Money Guide: https://www.rachellesiebke.com/money-guide-optin 

Get everything you need to manage your money with exquisite self-care. You'll be on my list, who is given exclusive access to free mini-sessions with me for applied application processing calls where you can try on different methodologies.

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamenta

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Being in a relationship is a very vulnerable thing to do and for many of us, anxiety can bring up difficulties even in the most loving and supportive relationships. Our different attachment styles can cause a disconnect in communication and overthinking or overanalyzing can cause rifts in those bonds.

 In this episode, your host Lindsay Poelman speaks with Relationship Anxiety Expert  McKell Kristen about her work in helping her clients 

• understand their patterns of anxiety, 
• understand past trauma and how it may affect their current relationships,
•  and how to stop doubting their current relationship, and so much more.

 McKell also shares how some of the tools taught in the Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches have supported the ease she was seeking in her personal life, along with her business--and how it has affected her coaching!

Listen to the full episode to learn more!

You can find McKell Kristen here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mckellkristen/
Website: https://mckellkristen.com/

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

There is no time like the present to improve our most important relationships in life. Emotional skills are not taught in school. They are not taught to us as adults. In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman sits down with current client in her Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification Program: Heather Frazier. Lindsay and family coach aka teen whisperer Heather Frazier discuss the dynamics of family coaching. They talk about the intricacies of unlearning behaviors and patterns and how to identify root causes for friction in relationships. Heather is an expert when it comes to understanding the complex dynamic of familial relationships—which you will come away knowing after listening to this episode!

Listen to the full episode to learn more!

You can find Heather here:
Podcast: Pivot Parenting Podcast
Website: https://heatherfrazier.com/

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

This is part 2 where Lindsay shares more what she's witnessed, after over 4 years of coaching women in betrayal trauma: the stark parallels of women experiencing betrayal trauma and people experiencing betrayal trauma in high- demand religions.

Lindsay get's personal on this episode, perhaps more personal than she has in her entire life. Her personal work in this sphere has been some of the most vulnerable work she's done in her life and today, she will share details with you. In this episode Lindsay discusses:

1) Good girl syndrome

2) Differentiation

3) Trauma responses

Listen to the full episode to learn and understand how all three of these concepts are present and used for/against people in high-demand religions; and how this can contribute to religious trauma.

Want more support in this arena? Join Lindsay's NEW Healing Circles Collective and benefit from inaugural month bonuses like (free 1:1 coaching from Lindsay + other Trauma-Informed Coaches). Click here for more information

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman shares more what she's witnessed, after over 4 years of coaching women in betrayal trauma: the stark parallels of women experiencing betrayal trauma and people experiencing betrayal trauma in high- demand religions.

Lindsay get's personal on this episode, perhaps more personal than she has in her entire life. Her personal work in this sphere has been some of the most vulnerable work she's done in her life and today, she will share details with you. In this episode Lindsay discusses:

1) Patriarchy: a system of relationships, beliefs, and values embedded in political, social, and economic systems that structure gender inequality between men and women.

2) Privilege: a law for just one person, a benefit enjoyed by an individual or group beyond what is available to others.

3) Intersectionality: a prism for seeing the way in which various forms of inequality often operate together and exacerbate each other

Listen to the full episode to learn and understand how all three of these concepts are present and used for/against people in high-demand religions; and how this can contribute to religious trauma.

Want more support in this arena? Join Lindsay's NEW Healing Circles Collective and benefit from inaugural month bonuses like (free 1:1 coaching from Lindsay + other Trauma-Informed Coaches). Click here for more information

Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

This is part 2 of Assessing and Validating our Clients' Grief.

One of the things host Lindsay Poelman has noticed that goes largely unnoticed with coaches and humans in general, is grief. Our general cultural human understanding of grief has ideas that are just plain . . . wrong. 

In this episode, Lindsay talks about grief, some myths about grief and what we’re missing, and helps you see that the more you understand about GRIEF the more you will be able to support yourself in pain, your family, friends, and for you coaches, and your clients!

Tune in this week to discover more about:

💫 Grief is healing in motion
💫 Grief in coaching 
💫 How to distinguish grief and trauma behaviors 
💫 Safety and consent

Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.
Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

One of the things host Lindsay Poelman has noticed that goes largely unnoticed with coaches and humans in general, is grief. Our general cultural human understanding of grief has ideas that are just plain . . . wrong. 

In this episode, Lindsay talks about grief, some myths about grief and what we’re missing, and helps you see that the more you understand about GRIEF the more you will be able to support yourself in pain, your family, friends, and for you coaches, and your clients!

Tune in this week to discover more about:

💫 Myths about Grief
💫 When should you feel grief? 
💫 How can you know if there's something to grieve?
💫 Examples of grief 
💫  How to identify grief 

Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.
Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

If your body or nervous system isn’t on board when you’re choosing new thoughts to believe, the unconscious programming will, with time usually override those unsustainable affirmations you’re offering up. 

If we want to live that life of freedom, joy, openness, abundance, love, and peace, that comes with befriending our body, not ignoring it. 

And this is the approach we take in Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches. We’re developing out your relationship with YOUrself, with the language of your body. Learning about your UNIQUE PATTERNS of processing, thinking, manifesting, and healing. Developing the belief that you are the final authority on YOU, and your needs. Learning the language of YOUR body that only YOU know. 

In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman talks about how the CTFAR model can be a great tool to help you in your healing journey, but is not necessarily a substitute for your body's intuition. She discusses things like:

• How it’s a common thing for us to gaslight ourselves as women, 
•  Why we question ourselves when something goes wrong, or something goes amiss.
• How many times have you found yourself questioning your “crazy” in different parts of your life? 
• The abuse culture that has been normalized in our patriarchal society has caused us to internalize the pattern of self-gaslighting self blame, and over responsibility.

Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.
Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, c

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Enter the rise of coaching. Now this may vary from person to person, and from certification to certification, but problems can come in and arise when you stick to one model as the answer  to all of your problems.

It keeps people from setting boundaries when it is necessary to create safety, because they think the safety then need comes from more thinking than trusting their body and nervous system needs. 

It keeps people forcing what their deep deep knowing knows because the ego loves linearity and rationale. 

In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman talks about the myths of coaching and how healing is not only top down. As we approach healing and growth with a blended approach (top - bottom and bottom-top ) this is where EVERYTHING changes. This is where you really see that you are the authority over yourself, your healing, etc. She offers ways to help you answer questions when taking accountability like:

• Am I taking more than my share of responsibility for this scenario?
• Is the level of responsibility I’m taking helping me?
• Is there any shame or judgment that needs to go?

Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.
Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Infor

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Having a connected relationship with your intuition is having a connected relationship with yourself. By listening and understanding to your intuition, you're honoring your body's needs at that moment. 

In this episode Lindsay Poelman offers ways to understand your intuition, how to foster a deeper connection with it, and why it's ok to not guilt yourself if you can't follow through on what your intuition is telling you at that moment. She talks about:

• Having trauma responses and listening to your intuition
• Understanding what your body needs at that moment
• Honoring yourself while also understanding what your gut feeling is telling you 

Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.
Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Relationships are often dynamic and consist of different power structures throughout our lives. As women especially, from the way we have been conditioned, we may sometimes even place power over our lives to those who don't even realize they have it. 

In this episode Lindsay Poelman offers ways to recognize the different power dynamics in your life and how to break free from what isn't serving your ability to live your truest, most liberated life. She talks about:

• Different relationship dynamics between power and authority 
• How those dynamics relate to humans 
• How to recognize the hands that you feel have power over you 
• Potential people pleasing tendencies that lead to this

Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.
Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. 

This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Tune into this week’s podcast where common religious misconceptions are made about people when they begin to differentiate from their church. 

Most of the time,  the assumptions we make are more of a clear hit into our own conditioning—rather than what the person you’re observing is experiencing. 

And in Lindsay’s words: “I share all of this with the most love in my heart because I care about you and I believe in you as a coach. If you’re reading this, it’s very likely that you have your clients’ best interest at heart.”

The tools Lindsay teaches in her advanced certification for coaches can facilitate your coaching in this arena as well. It will minimize harm that can and does happen in the coaching industry. 

And most importantly, these tools will facilitate your relationship with yourself.

In this episode Lindsay discusses:

• How you can be an advocate for marginalized groups in religion 
• Why that doesn't exclude you from also practicing said religion 
• The different misconceptions related to religious trauma 
• How we can be conditioned in religious institutions
• How to recognize these conditioning roles

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Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.
Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. 

Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who do

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Today we're going to have a chat about trauma, specifically how it is stored in and affects our bodies.

Trauma affects people in many ways (and everyone of us in different ways), but it is hard on every one of us. I want to have a conversation about it, so we can all have a better understanding and be a little more gentle with ourselves when something traumatic does happen to us. 

If you're experiencing trauma or working through trauma right now I want you to know that although it will be painful, uncomfortable, scary, and take time you can work through it and get to a place where the affects of trauma don't consume your mind or body. I've done it, and promise you can too. 

If this episode resonates with you, feel free to message me on Instagram (my handle is @thisiskaitey) so we can connect more! If you know someone who should hear this, share it on social media and tag m so I can thank you for helping spread the word about Triumph After Trauma! 

Thank you for you support since I started this, it means the world! I'm so grateful we're connected, and on this journey together! <3