virtual community

Guest: Devorah Heitner, Author

On Twitter | https://twitter.com/DevorahHeitner

Website | https://devorahheitner.com/

On TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@devorahheitner1

On Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/devorahheitnerphd/

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Host: Marco Ciappelli, Co-Founder at ITSPmagazine [@ITSPmagazine] and Host of Redefining Society Podcast

On ITSPmagazine | https://www.itspmagazine.com/itspmagazine-podcast-radio-hosts/marco-ciappelli
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Episode Introduction

Welcome to another episode of the Redefining Society Podcast, where we muse on the complex interplay of society, technology, and humanity. I am Marco Ciappelli, your guide through this intricate labyrinth. Today, we venture into the pressing reality that our children's lives are ever more public, ever more scrutinized, and ever more entangled with their digital identities. This digital sphere isn't a separate reality; it's an integral part of their lives, shaping their reputations, their self-perceptions, and their futures.

In this digital age, the lines between the online world and "real life" are not just blurred—they are indistinguishable. Our kids grow up with likes, shares, and retweets as measures of their worth, all while wrestling with the big questions of identity and character development. How can they figure out who they really are when every action, every choice, every moment is up for public scrutiny?

My guest today is Devorah Heitner, author of the definitive work "Growing Up in Public," a book that offers a crucial road map for parents to navigate this complex terrain with their children. Heitner uncovers how the digital world has irrevocably changed the rites of passage for our kids, focusing not just on the threats of exposure or cancel culture but the deeper issues of character and authenticity.

Drawing from her extensive work and research—conversations with kids, parents, educators, and experts—Devorah equips us to cut through the digital noise and connect with our children on a meaningful level. Her book provides actionable strategies that emphasize character over consequences, guiding us to support our children as they navigate what it means to grow up publicly, both online and offline.

So, are we bystanders in this digital narrative, or can we actively shape a more compassionate, more nuanced conversation that respects the fusion of technology and human vulnerability?

As technology becomes even more integrated into our real lives, let's question, let's reflect, and let's redefine what it means to grow up in public.

Listen, share, and subscribe! 

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About the Book

The definitive book on helping kids navigate growing up in a world where nearly every moment of their lives can be shared and compared

With social media and constant connection, the boundaries of privacy are stretched thin. Growing Up in Public shows parents how to help tweens and teens navigate boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation in their digital world.
We can track our kids’ every move with apps, see their grades within minutes of being posted, and fixate on their digital footprint, anxious that a misstep could cause them to be “canceled” or even jeopardize their admission to college. And all of this adds pressure on kids who are coming of age immersed in social media platforms that emphasize “personal brand,” “likes,” and “gotcha” moments. How can they figure out who they really are with zero privacy and constant judgment? Devorah Heitner shows us that by focusing on character, not the threat of getting caught or exposed, we can support our kids to be authentically themselves.

Drawing on her extensive work with parents and schools as well as hundreds of interviews with kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and scholars, Heitner offers strategies for parenting our kids in an always-connected world. With relatable stories and research-backed advice, Growing Up in Public empowers parents to cut through the overwhelm to connect with their kids, recognize how to support them, and help them figure out who they are when everyone is watching.

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Resources

Growing Up in Public: Coming Up of Age in a Digital World (website): https://devorahheitner.com/growing-up-in-public/

Growing Up in Public: Coming Up of Age in a Digital World (Amazon): https://www.amazon.com/Growing-Up-Public-Coming-Digital/dp/0593420969

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To see and hear more Redefining Society stories on ITSPmagazine, visit:
https://www.itspmagazine.com/redefining-society-podcast

Watch the webcast version on-demand on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnYu0psdcllTUoWMGGQHlGVZA575VtGr9

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Guest: Devorah Heitner, Author

On Twitter | https://twitter.com/DevorahHeitner

Website | https://devorahheitner.com/

On TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@devorahheitner1

On Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/devorahheitnerphd/

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Host: Marco Ciappelli, Co-Founder at ITSPmagazine [@ITSPmagazine] and Host of Redefining Society Podcast

On ITSPmagazine | https://www.itspmagazine.com/itspmagazine-podcast-radio-hosts/marco-ciappelli
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This Episode’s Sponsors

BlackCloak 👉 https://itspm.ag/itspbcweb

Bugcrowd 👉 https://itspm.ag/itspbgcweb

Devo 👉 https://itspm.ag/itspdvweb

_____________________________

Episode Introduction

Welcome to another episode of the Redefining Society Podcast, where we muse on the complex interplay of society, technology, and humanity. I am Marco Ciappelli, your guide through this intricate labyrinth. Today, we venture into the pressing reality that our children's lives are ever more public, ever more scrutinized, and ever more entangled with their digital identities. This digital sphere isn't a separate reality; it's an integral part of their lives, shaping their reputations, their self-perceptions, and their futures.

In this digital age, the lines between the online world and "real life" are not just blurred—they are indistinguishable. Our kids grow up with likes, shares, and retweets as measures of their worth, all while wrestling with the big questions of identity and character development. How can they figure out who they really are when every action, every choice, every moment is up for public scrutiny?

My guest today is Devorah Heitner, author of the definitive work "Growing Up in Public," a book that offers a crucial road map for parents to navigate this complex terrain with their children. Heitner uncovers how the digital world has irrevocably changed the rites of passage for our kids, focusing not just on the threats of exposure or cancel culture but the deeper issues of character and authenticity.

Drawing from her extensive work and research—conversations with kids, parents, educators, and experts—Devorah equips us to cut through the digital noise and connect with our children on a meaningful level. Her book provides actionable strategies that emphasize character over consequences, guiding us to support our children as they navigate what it means to grow up publicly, both online and offline.

So, are we bystanders in this digital narrative, or can we actively shape a more compassionate, more nuanced conversation that respects the fusion of technology and human vulnerability?

As technology becomes even more integrated into our real lives, let's question, let's reflect, and let's redefine what it means to grow up in public.

Listen, share, and subscribe! 

_____________________________

About the Book

The definitive book on helping kids navigate growing up in a world where nearly every moment of their lives can be shared and compared

With social media and constant connection, the boundaries of privacy are stretched thin. Growing Up in Public shows parents how to help tweens and teens navigate boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation in their digital world.
We can track our kids’ every move with apps, see their grades within minutes of being posted, and fixate on their digital footprint, anxious that a misstep could cause them to be “canceled” or even jeopardize their admission to college. And all of this adds pressure on kids who are coming of age immersed in social media platforms that emphasize “personal brand,” “likes,” and “gotcha” moments. How can they figure out who they really are with zero privacy and constant judgment? Devorah Heitner shows us that by focusing on character, not the threat of getting caught or exposed, we can support our kids to be authentically themselves.

Drawing on her extensive work with parents and schools as well as hundreds of interviews with kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and scholars, Heitner offers strategies for parenting our kids in an always-connected world. With relatable stories and research-backed advice, Growing Up in Public empowers parents to cut through the overwhelm to connect with their kids, recognize how to support them, and help them figure out who they are when everyone is watching.

_____________________________

Resources

Growing Up in Public: Coming Up of Age in a Digital World (website): https://devorahheitner.com/growing-up-in-public/

Growing Up in Public: Coming Up of Age in a Digital World (Amazon): https://www.amazon.com/Growing-Up-Public-Coming-Digital/dp/0593420969

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To see and hear more Redefining Society stories on ITSPmagazine, visit:
https://www.itspmagazine.com/redefining-society-podcast

Watch the webcast version on-demand on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnYu0psdcllTUoWMGGQHlGVZA575VtGr9

Are you interested in sponsoring an ITSPmagazine Channel?
👉 https://www.itspmagazine.com/advertise-on-itspmagazine-podcast

On this episode of Campfire, Jackson is joined by Casper ter Kuile: CEO and Co-Founder of The Nearness. The Nearness is a company that allows people to explore life’s big questions in a community.

Topics Covered:

• Introduction to Casper— (2:00)
• Spirituality Versus Religion— (5:15)
• The Role of Spirituality in Communities— (7:20)
• Advice for Those Seeking Spirituality—  (10:50)
• The Nearness and Nearness Journeys— (13:29)
• Community Covenant— (16:20)
• Cult Versus Community— (17:51)
• Becoming a Spiritual Leader— (24:15)
• Jackson’s Family Story— (27:30)
• Communities Forming Rituals— (28:40)
• Rituals for Digital Communities— (33:25)
• Tech and Spirituality Through History— (35:36)

Campfire is brought to you by Cabin - a network of coliving neighborhoods for nature-loving creators and remote workers. You can learn more at the following links:

Website (cabin.city)

Twitter

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Read more urbanist content at The Future of Living Newsletter

Episode Links: 

The Nearness’ Website

The Nearness on Twitter

The Nearness' Covenant 

Episode Credit:

Hosted by @JacksonSteger

Guest was @caspertk

Sound Engineering by @Prodcolin

Produced + Distributed by @PhilippeIze

In this episode, Angela and Dana celebrate Wendy Becerra's greatness as she shares how her leveling up is directly correlated with her showing up and how she shows up at EVERY turn!

Wendy is a multi-modality, "light-up-your-light” and empowerment superhero. A former registered/certified pharmacy technician of 21 years, Wendy consciously decided to pursue an alternative, more natural, and “wholistic” approach to healing after her son's autism diagnosis. She's an empathic psychic medium, medical intuitive, certified crystal healer, Reiki master, medicine woman, and healing facilitator.

Through many years of dedication, and ongoing self-mastery she has developed a loving healing practice. Her sessions include energy healing specific to the client's needs and channeling messages from Source, angels, ancestors, animals, and spirit guides. As a follow-up to care, Wendy enjoys creating and offering herbal and crystal products for her clients' specific needs.

Learn more about workshops facilitated by Wendy and fellow amazing U-Instructors at: https://finduniquelyu.com/workshops/school-of-metaphysics/

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Dana and Angela are the Co-Founders of Phenom Publishing — get to know our authors and works.

2020 changed everything we thought we knew about business events. Suddenly, name tags and conference halls were swapped for meeting links and living rooms. Now that the pandemic is hopefully easing up, how will people choose to connect? Will Curran, the Founder of Endless Events – a comprehensive event management company – talks about how people's behaviors concerning event attendance have changed and must be kept in mind. He also shares how lessons learned from our recent event experiences might be applied moving forward to build inclusive and, perhaps, long-lasting communities.

Tune in to learn:

• This most important tip for creating good hybrid events (12:00)
• How to measure the success of events (16:30)
• Getting to the heart of event retention and making your events must-attend experiences (18:30)
• How will virtual reality, meta, AR/VR play a role in the event world? (29:30)

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Nitin Pandey has over 3,000,000 Indian parents as part of the Parentune virtual community. They are answering the need for a replacement to the village, and the traditional ways in which anxious parents could find answers to the problems facing their loved ones. We talk on the show about how he has built the platform,  how he solved the issue of experts and no patients, and the use of micropayments on mobile during COVID-19 to keep the community online.

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In return, I will continue to bring massive value with two weekly shows, up to 3 hours per month of brilliant conversations and insights.

Monthly subscriptions start at $3 per month. At $1 per hour, that's much less than the minimum wage, but we'll take what we can at this stage of the business.

Of course, this is still free, but as an entrepreneur, the actual test of anything is if people are willing to pay for it.

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Support the show here.

Nitin Pandey has over 3,000,000 Indian parents as part of the Parentune virtual community. They are answering the need for a replacement to the village, and the traditional ways in which anxious parents could find answers to the problems facing their loved ones. We talk on the show about how he has built the platform,  how he solved the issue of experts and no patients, and the use of micropayments on mobile during COVID-19 to keep the community online.

Am I adding value to you?

If so - I'd like to ask you to support the show.

In return, I will continue to bring massive value with two weekly shows, up to 3 hours per month of brilliant conversations and insights.

Monthly subscriptions start at $3 per month. At $1 per hour, that's much less than the minimum wage, but we'll take what we can at this stage of the business.

Of course, this is still free, but as an entrepreneur, the actual test of anything is if people are willing to pay for it.

If I'm adding value to you, please support me by clicking the link now.

Go ahead, make my day :)

Support the show here.

I started a Virtual Community! I am so excited to announce the launching of the Momma’s Morning Cup Virtual Community opening March 31st!

In this community you will go from feeling overextended to feeling confident that you are not alone in the motherhood arena, while having the support of a community. 

 MMC Virtual Community is for Momma’s who are ready to grow in their purpose. A safe space to connect with other Momma’s who are in the arena with you. 
Coaching other women is part of the calling I am being drawn to and I am grateful to have this opportunity to dive into and build what my heart is holding true that not only I need but other women I am learning need too. 

let’s talk about who this community is really for...

• You are a momma of a child of any age and need extra support planning out the next steps in your life. 
• You are a momma who gets overwhelmed and is overextended when planning out your family’s needs, your work and family balance is misaligned. 
• You also want to know how to gain clarity in small steps.

Are you ready? Sign up for the Virtual Community Here

Please hit Subscribe so you don't miss an episode or other special announcements. I would appreciate if you left a review so I am able to reach other women as well. 

Don't forget to review the show on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Audible and subscribe so you don't miss an episode.

Today, Maria talks with Yonat Sharon, a freelance iOS developer, writer, and speaker. Her learning journey, and that of her four children, is one of a kind and might change your mind about education as we know it. 

Yonat learned to code at home at a very young age after her father bought a computer for her older brother. And for over twenty years, she has been unschooling her four children. When digital communities were not a thing, she built a virtual place for the unschooling community in Israel to connect families across the country and enable them to learn and grow together. 

If you are a parent considering unschooling your children, this conversation provides actionable insights to help you get started and ease your way on a learning journey where life is the curriculum. Even if unschooling is not for you, this episode offers specific recommendations on what schools can learn from unschooling to help them develop independent, lifelong learners who own their learning journey and create the life they want. 

If you are a parent with your children at home struggling with distance learning, Yonat’s unique experience and perspectives will help you identify opportunities to make your children’s learning enjoyable for them and you. 

This was an eye-opening conversation for Maria. Not only did it help her change her mind about a few aspects of conventional education, but it also guided her to think about learning as a beautiful tool to build stronger connections with our families, friends and communities. 

I hope you will enjoy this conversation that turns traditional education on its head and provides specific and actionable insights to help you build better relationships with your children while learning at home.

 Listen to this episode and explore:

Introduction to Yonat Sharon (1:28)

Yonat’s favorite childhood memory playing in nature (4:25)

How Yonat learned to code at home at a young age when her older brother got a computer (5:26)

Studying science and math and wanting to have a family (8:40)

How Yonat and her husband decided to start unschooling their children (9:33)

The difference between homeschooling and unschooling (11:40)

How Yonat supports her children with their learning interests and how the children find what they want to learn (12:34)

Learning in physical and social places through real-life experiences (15:05)

Yonat’s insights about supporting her four children’s needs on a given day (15:55)

The learning preferences of her children driven by their interests and passions (17:28)

How children can be self-directed learners, but they don’t have to be (19:42)

How to create an effective learning environment at home using short-feedback loops (20:46)

How to improvise when children’s interests change over time (23:25)

Yonat’s approach to unschooling her children through trial and error and the skills she developed along the way (24:00)

One thing that Yonat would do differently if she started unschooling her children today: joining the unschooling community and meeting other parents and children from the start (26:26)

How Yonat created a virtual community for the unschooling families driven by her interest in the wiki and world-wide-web (28:00)

Why the children wanted to have their own wiki and how they learned to read and write while building lifelong friendships (29:26)

Maria and Yonat discuss how children develop independence by parents and teachers getting out of their way (31:05)

What school can learn from unschooling to help them develop lifelong independent learners: student-driven learning and short-feedback loops (33:34)

Yonat’s unique insights on the role of control, neglect, involvement and connection in unschooling and parenting (36:00)

The greatest gift of unschooling: Time. And how time helps children to immerse in deep learning (38:38)

Why children like to learn difficult things as long as they relate to them (41:06)

Maria and Yonat discuss the role of fantasy play and storytelling in learning and planning  (43:38)

How Yonat guided her children to learn through play and storytelling to (47:47)

Yonat’s family experience during the pandemic: How knowing how to be with each other made things easier during the stay-at-home restrictions (49:24)

Maria and Yonat discuss the role of community in unschooling and homeschooling and how physical communities have evolved over the years (51:16)

What Yonat wants to leave her mark on during her lifetime. It might surprise you! (56:20)

Where to find more about Yonat Sharon:

LinkedIn

Professional Experience 

Learn more about curriculum-based Homeschooling

Production team:

Host & Producer: Maria Xenidou

Introduction Voice: David Bourne

Contact us:

impactlearningpodcast(at)gmail.com

 Music credits:

Like Lee performed by The Mini Vandals

Transition sounds: Swamp Walks performed by Jingle Punks

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Nikhil Krishnan, Founder of "Get Real/Get Smart", sits down remotely to discuss his journey from Columbia University and a "quarter-life crisis" to creating an "online first, offline second" modern community. We discuss how to create diverse and engaging communities generally, different types of revenue business models, how does someone become an “expert” in anything(?), the effect of covid-19 on Millennials, and the concept of "dunbar’s number".

LEARN MORE ABOUT NIKHIL: www.nikhilkrishnan.com
TWITTER: @nikillinit
GET REAL: www.getreal.club

INTERVIEW QUESTIONS:

• Tell me briefly about get real/get smart and also your new venture out of pocket?
• You are a native New Yorker. You went to hunter high school and Columbia university. You studied sustainable development and business management. How do you connect that to community and healthcare?
• A few topics:
• Inclusivity and making friends. 1) Why is it so hard for people to open up and be vulnerable?
• 2) And how are you able to stay so neutral and not let your own ego get in the way? If it’s your role to allow people to feel accepted, are you allowed to have opinions on people. Are you even allowed to react negatively against someone in your own community? How do you balance that?
• Diversity
• You have an incredibly diverse audience. Who is your main demographic? Especially in a place like New York City, how do you get people from very different walks of life, different socioeconomic situations, and different attitudes come together?
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• Do the demographics change when you start charging people? If so how? People who want something for free. On the flipside there are ppl that are attracted to things which cost money who may not have been attracted before?
• Covid 19 and the future of community.  My question is, now that everything is virtual, and we spent years trying to reduce our screen time, is this a step forward or a step backward for millennials?
• Monetization. For any entrepreneurs and influencers listening, what’s the strategy nikhil in converting followers among different platforms to convert into dollars? How do you do that? Is it a 2 year curation cycle of giving them free content? That’s not economically sustainable.
• Internet person. What’s defines an expert? What are you an expert of? Is it bringing people together? Looking at things differently? I’m curious what is the unique skill you bring to the table? And i only ask this because 1) many millennials struggle with discovering their own unique talents and 2) how does one become an expert when there’s so much noise online and everyone is positioning their own projected opinion as some kind of fake authority
• Ask about you:
• What personal challenges or fears do you face building these communities, especially being an entrepreneur and recently making the plunge to do this full time?
• Do you ever get tired of meeting people? How do you manage and maintain all these friendships? How deep can you really go when the quantity gets so high?
• What’s your all time favorite meme?
• What is something you wish someone had told you 5 years ago, or you had told yourself, that you had to learn on your own? But would have made life so much easier had you known.
• How can people get involved and learn more about you?