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    #101 Jane McGonigal: The Psychology of Gaming

    enJanuary 19, 2021
    What is Super Better designed to help with?
    How does Jane McGonigal utilize her expertise in games?
    Why is early intervention important in concussion recovery?
    What psychological benefits does Super Better provide to users?
    How can small actions impact our overall well-being?

    Podcast Summary

    • Empowering Recovery Through GamingSuper Better, a game created by Jane McGonigal, has aided over a million people in overcoming various struggles, providing motivation, a fresh mindset, and highlighting the importance of early intervention in recovery.

      Jane McGonigal, with her background in studying the psychology of games, used her knowledge to create a game called Super Better to aid her own recovery from a traumatic brain injury. The game incorporates elements that make players feel motivated, capable of taking on challenges, and comfortable seeking help, which can be helpful in overcoming various struggles. Super Better has now helped over a million people recover from symptoms of traumatic brain injury, depression, anxiety, chronic pain, and other challenges by providing a fresh mindset and keeping them engaged and optimistic. McGonigal's work also highlighted the importance of early intervention in concussion recovery, as the longer it goes untreated, the more challenging it becomes to overcome associated psychological and physical symptoms.

    • Addressing the Emotional Aspects of Concussion RecoveryBy addressing the emotional and mental symptoms of concussions, individuals can enhance their healing process and improve recovery by reducing inflammation and conserving energy.

      Concussions not only have physical symptoms but also emotional and mental ones. It's important to address the depression, anxiety, and social isolation that can occur alongside the physical symptoms, as they can intensify the inflammation and make recovery more difficult. By reducing anything that worsens the situation, such as avoiding additional problems and not pushing oneself too hard, individuals can conserve their energy and stay engaged in the healing process. Additionally, finding ways to believe in a positive future is crucial since concussions can make it challenging to think about the future in detail. Overall, addressing both the physical and emotional aspects of concussion recovery can help improve the healing process.

    • The Power of Small Steps and Kindness in Shaping Our Well-beingBy engaging in small acts of kindness and positivity, we can improve our mental and physical health, activate dopamine pathways, and recognize our own agency in making a difference.

      Even when faced with adversity, taking small steps towards positivity and engaging in acts of kindness can have a significant impact on our well-being. Superbetter, a system designed to improve mental and physical health, showcases the power of our own actions in shaping our future. By tricking the brain into believing that something good can happen, even through small tasks like taking a few steps or sending a text message of appreciation, dopamine pathways are activated, leading to feelings of happiness, success, and hope. This approach helps individuals recognize their own agency and ability to make a difference, despite the challenges they may be facing. The conversation also emphasizes the importance of maintaining an open-minded and playful attitude when trying new approaches to personal growth and healing.

    • The Educational Benefits of Video GamesVideo games can enhance learning, problem-solving skills, and self-confidence. Parents should communicate with their children about gaming habits and encourage discussions about personal strengths and preferences.

      Video games can have transferable benefits and can be a valuable tool for learning and developing skills. Jane McGonigal highlights that any game that you love, regardless of its genre, can improve your ability to learn new things, adapt to frustrating systems, and build confidence in your own growth and improvement. She emphasizes that games shouldn't be trivialized or seen as just a pastime, as they can foster a growth mindset and resilience, especially in young people who grow up playing games. However, when it comes to children and screen time, parents should engage in conversations with their kids about the games they play and understand their personal strengths and preferences.

    • The Benefits of Meaningful Conversations about Video GamesReflecting on game experiences can improve self-awareness and reinforce positive qualities, and playing video games before studying can enhance problem-solving skills while asleep.

      Having meaningful conversations about video games can help individuals transfer the skills they learn in games to real-life situations. By asking questions like what skills they have gained and what challenges they have overcome in the game, individuals can identify and appreciate their strengths. This applies to both children and adults, as reflecting on game experiences can help improve self-awareness and reinforce positive qualities. Additionally, it can be beneficial for children to play video games before studying or doing homework, as their brains will focus on the problem-solving aspects of the game while they sleep. However, it is important to set a time limit and avoid playing games right before bedtime, unless the individual has recently experienced trauma.

    • The Benefits of Playing Games Before BedPlaying the right games before bed can help control negative thoughts, prevent nightmares, and develop real-life skills such as coordination and teamwork.

      Playing games before bed can help hijack negative thoughts and prevent nightmares or flashbacks. However, it is important to choose the right game for the right situation. Single player games are beneficial for controlling attention and managing anxiety, while multiplayer games can provide social support and build a sense of community. It is crucial to find a balance and curate a set of games that serve specific purposes and provide different benefits. By understanding the advantages that games offer, individuals can use them to enhance their real-life skills and cope with challenges effectively. Additionally, multiplayer games can develop valuable skills such as coordination, resource management, and teamwork.

    • The Future of Work and the Importance of Gaming CulturePlaying challenging video games can help individuals develop skills in virtual collaboration and adapt to working with AI programs, while being a part of gaming culture can have psychological benefits and enhance remote learning and connections during the pandemic.

      The future of work will require individuals to develop skills in virtual collaboration and adapt to working alongside AI programs and bots. Gamers are at the forefront of developing these skills through their experience in virtual environments and remote collaboration. Playing challenging video games can help individuals prepare for the future of work. When it comes to the best games for kids to play, it is important to consider the cultural currency and the games their peers are playing. Games like Minecraft offer various modes and a supportive community, while Pokemon Go encourages physical activity and exploration. Being a part of gaming culture can have psychological benefits, as gamers have adapted better to remote learning and maintaining connections during the pandemic. While recognizing the potential negatives of certain games, it is important for parents to have conversations with their children and prioritize the benefits of playing alongside their peer group.

    • The relationship between violent video games and violence in adulthood.Parents should engage in open conversations with their children about video games, monitor their gaming habits, and encourage a balanced approach to ensure their overall well-being.

      There is no evidence to support the idea that violent video games lead to violence in adulthood. The number of people playing violent video games has increased significantly over the years, while violent crime rates have actually decreased. It is important for parents to have open conversations with their children about video games and help them reflect on the content they consume. However, if someone has severe mental health issues or violent fantasies, it is a valid concern if they are excessively obsessed with creating realistic weapons in video games. Parents should monitor the amount of time their children spend playing video games and intervene if it exceeds 21 hours per week, unless it is their full-time job. It is also important to look out for warning signs of addiction, such as increased intensity of gameplay while real-life problems escalate. Encouraging a balance between video games and other aspects of life is crucial for overall well-being.

    • Fostering Resilience Through Authentic LearningResilience in young people can be developed by encouraging them to explore their passions and interests, allowing them to learn and excel at their own pace, and prioritizing personal growth rather than conforming to arbitrary standards.

      The traditional education system and its focus on arbitrary standards can lead to anxiety, stress, and a lack of resilience in young people. Jane McGonigal emphasizes the need to allow children to explore their authentic interests and passions, as this is what will truly drive their success. By giving them the freedom to pursue their curiosities, they develop inner drive, self-esteem, and self-efficacy. McGonigal believes that resilience is built when kids are encouraged to follow their passions and teach themselves, rather than being forced to conform to societal expectations. This approach allows them to learn and excel at their own pace, fostering a sense of motivation and fulfillment. Overall, creating resilient young individuals involves moving away from rigid schooling and prioritizing personal growth based on individual interests and strengths.

    • Embracing Unschooling and Strategic Gaming for Child-led Learning and Skill DevelopmentBy embracing unschooling and encouraging children to engage in strategic gaming, parents can foster a love for learning, critical thinking skills, and adaptability in their children.

      Parents can support their children in teaching themselves by exploring the concept of unschooling. Unschooling emphasizes personalized learning, allowing children to pursue their interests and learn at their own pace. By avoiding external pressure and focusing on intrinsic motivation, children can cultivate a love for learning and develop valuable skills. It is important to question traditional education systems and consider alternative approaches that prioritize individual growth and autonomy. Additionally, video games can contribute to future thinking skills, as players often anticipate multiple outcomes and develop strategies to solve problems. Encouraging children to engage in strategic gaming can enhance their ability to predict and analyze the consequences of their actions, fostering critical thinking and adaptability.

    • Harnessing Gaming Techniques for Technology's FutureBy using gaming methodologies, technology companies can simulate and involve gamers to anticipate and prepare for the complex and uncertain future of technology, envisioning different possibilities and strengthening the ability to describe potential scenarios accurately.

      Gaming methodologies can be utilized to anticipate the consequences and uses of new technologies at scale. Jane McGonigal emphasizes the importance of understanding the potential outcomes of technologies with a billion users and the unforeseen scenarios that may arise. By employing gaming techniques, technology companies can simulate various situations and involve gamers who possess creativity and imagination to help envision different possibilities. Additionally, the conversation delves into the topic of strengthening neurological pathways to imagine unfamiliar concepts. McGonigal highlights the significance of being able to accurately describe potential future scenarios and the challenges of getting individuals to comprehend and visualize these worlds without prior experience. Overall, gaming methodologies can aid in anticipating and preparing for the complex and uncertain future of technology.

    • Harnessing storytelling and simulation for adaptive thinking and preparedness.Engaging in immersive storytelling and simulation helps overcome cognitive barriers, enhancing our ability to accept and prepare for unforeseen events and technological advancements.

      By immersing ourselves in vivid storytelling and simulation, we can better prepare for and adapt to unforeseen events and technological advancements. Our brains are wired to look for patterns and continuity, which can make it difficult to imagine disruptive scenarios. However, through imaginative exercises, such as envisioning ourselves in virtual reality worlds or creating detailed stories, we can bypass this cognitive barrier. By experiencing the friction and uncertainty of these simulated situations, we can better accept their possibility and become mentally prepared. This approach has proven effective in past experiences, as shown by individuals who played pandemic simulation games and proactively wore masks before being prompted by governmental guidelines. Therefore, by leveraging storytelling and simulation, we can foster a mindset that embraces the seemingly unthinkable and take faster, more adaptive action when faced with new challenges.

    • Preparing for Internet Shutdowns: Filtering Misinformation and Harnessing EmotionsIn a world where internet services can be suddenly cut off, it is crucial to trust external systems and experts to filter out misinformation. Our emotions can help us challenge biases, but it is important to use emotional tactics ethically.

      The internet and mobile services can be shut down, and it's not just a problem in other countries but could also happen in our own. The spread of misinformation is a major concern, and there are plausible reasons for shutting down the internet, such as public safety or preventing the spread of false information during elections or pandemics. It is important for individuals to start prethinking and making plans for what to do if the internet is randomly shut off. Trust in external systems or experts is crucial for filtering out misinformation, as our own brains are prone to biases. Strong emotions can help interrupt these biases and prompt us to reconsider our beliefs. However, it's important to use emotional tactics, like propaganda, for good rather than malicious intentions.

    • Exploring the Hidden Significance of Video GamesUnderstanding why we choose to play video games can lead to better decision-making and uncover the meaningful impact they can have on our lives. However, it is crucial to differentiate between genuine engagement and manipulative gamification.

      Every decision we make, even in the context of playing video games, can have a deeper significance and impact on our lives. Jane McGonigal emphasizes the importance of understanding why we choose to engage in certain activities and how this self-awareness can lead to more clarity in decision-making overall. She argues that video games are often misunderstood as mere escapist fun, when in reality, they can play a powerful role in people's lives and offer compelling reasons for their engagement. However, she cautions against the misuse of gamification, where organizations exploit game mechanics to manipulate and control people's behavior for their own interests. Instead, she advocates for creating experiences that align with individuals' authentic desires and provide them with genuine benefits.

    • Empowering through GamificationGames can motivate and empower individuals to achieve meaningful goals by tapping into their desires and providing a fun and engaging way to fulfill them.

      Games have the potential to help individuals accomplish meaningful and awesome tasks that they may feel are beyond their reach. Jane McGonigal emphasizes the importance of creating games that tap into people's desires, such as writing a book, and provide them with the opportunity to fulfill those desires in a fun and engaging way. By making games that assist individuals in achieving their goals, we can empower them to believe in their own capabilities and pursue their passions. It is crucial to focus on helping people accomplish tasks that truly matter to them, rather than trying to manipulate them into doing things they don't want to do.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (04:46) Risk and income

    (07:40) On luck and skill

    (10:10) Buffett's secret strategy

    (12:28) The one trait you need to build wealth

    (16:20) Housel's capital allocation strategy

    (16:48) Index funds, explained

    (20:59) Expectations and moving goalposts

    (22:17) Your house: asset or liability?

    (27:39) Money lies we believe

    (32:12) How to avoid status games

    (35:04) Money rules from parents

    (40:15) Rich vs. wealthy

    (41:46) Housel's influential role models

    (42:48) Why are rich people miserable?

    (45:59) How success sows the seeds of average performance

    (49:50) On risk

    (50:59) Making money, spending money, saving money

    (52:50) How the Vanderbilt's squandered their wealth

    (1:04:11) How to manage your expectations

    (01:06:26) How to talk to kids about money

    (01:09:52) The biggest risk to capitalism

    (01:13:56) The magic of compounding

    (01:16:18) How Morgan reads

    (01:22:42) How to tell the best story

    (01:24:42) How Morgan writes

    (01:35:42) Parting wisdom and thoughts on success

    #194 Abigail Shrier: The Parent-Therapy Trap

    #194 Abigail Shrier: The Parent-Therapy Trap
    Over the last decade, therapy has become the de facto solution to solve all sorts of problems for all sorts of people. Everyone has slowly accepted that therapy is normal and a net benefit to society.

    But instead of helping kids work through difficult circumstances, what if it's just making the problems worse? That's what Abigail Shrier thinks is happening, and in this conversation, she reveals some surprising reasons why.

    Shane and Shrier discuss the real reason therapy is "bad," how we got to this point of acceptance as a culture, and what you can do as a parent to get back to normalcy. Shrier also shares her experiences with lifelong therapy patients, who should actually be in therapy, and the one thing that makes someone a successful parent.

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    (05:44) Inverse: How do we raise mentally unstable kids?
    (08:29) How we got to now
    (11:45) Bad therapy...or just social trends?
    (13:21) Being your kids' friend: good or bad?
    (15:55) The parenting type that raises the BEST kids
    (21:35) Is this all the parents' fault?
    (29:53) Is "Bad Therapy" a world-wide problem?
    (32:57) Talk to your kids' therapist about these things
    (42:09) The importance of facing adversity in childhood
    (47:06) Can we blame grad schools for all of this?
    (49:14) On technology and social media
    (51:03) Schools should "never" have gotten involved in mental health
    (54:43) Did COVID accelerate "bad therapy?"
    (56:07) How to return to normalcy
    (58:21) Why Shane shares negative YouTube comments with his kids
    (01:01:23) Shrier's experience being "cancelled"
    (01:04:13) On prestige media
    (01:07:47) Small steps parents can take to return to normal
    (01:11:02) Dealing with schools saying one thing and parents saying another
    (01:13:32) Why is the silent majority...silent?
    (01:16:32) If this continues, what happens?
    (01:18:19) What makes someone a successful parent?

    #193: Dr. Jim Loehr: Change the Stories You Tell Yourself

    #193: Dr. Jim Loehr: Change the Stories You Tell Yourself

    What if reaching the next level of success wasn't determined by another skill, degree, or course but by something that changed on the inside?

    That's what Dr. Jim Loehr believes, and in this episode, he reveals everything he knows about mental toughness and winning the mind game. Shane and Loehr discuss the radical importance of the stories you tell yourself—including how they can damage your kids—and how to change the negative stories you believe. Loehr also shares the best reflection questions to ask yourself to reveal personal blindspots, the importance of rituals for calming anxiety and performing under pressure, and how the best in the world use their recovery time effectively.

    Dr. Jim Loehr is a world-renowned performance psychologist and author of 16 books. From his more than 30 years of experience and applied research, Dr. Loehr believes the single most important factor in successful achievement, personal fulfillment, and life satisfaction is the strength of one’s character. Dr. Loehr possesses a masters and doctorate in psychology and is a full member of the American Psychological Association.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (03:20) Parenting and storytelling

    (06:15) How to determine whether or not the stories are limiting or enabling you

    (08:41) What the stories world-class performers tell themselves

    (15:02) How to change the stories you tell yourself

    (23:26) Questions to journal about

    (26:16) Private voices vs. public voices (and how they impact your kids)

    (31:32) How to help your friends change their stories

    (37:30) How to better come alongside your kids to prevent destructive behavior

    (44:48) - (45:06) What Loehr knows about high performers that others miss

    (53:12) On time and energy

    (01:06:26) Conquering the "between point" ritual

    (01:11:50) On rituals vs. habits

    (01:15:54) How to increase your mental toughness

    (01:23:51) On success

     

     

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