Podcast Summary
Bestseller lists: Making a bestseller list depends on sales, content category, and geographical reach. Success isn't solely determined by external validation, focus on building a platform and expanding reach.
Getting on a bestseller list involves more than just strong sales. While numbers play a role, other factors like content category and geographical reach are also important. I learned this the hard way when my book, "Take Back Your Brain," made various bestseller lists but not the highly coveted New York Times list. I was initially disheartened, but I shifted my mindset and focused on building a platform and expanding my reach. This included doing media appearances, podcasts, and engaging with my audience. Ultimately, I realized that success is not solely determined by external validation and that the journey towards achieving ambitious goals requires resilience and a growth mindset.
Book sales: Authors are primarily responsible for achieving bestseller status and need to actively promote and incentivize sales, even if they initially fall short of their goal and face negative thoughts, they should not give up but rather believe in their ability to succeed.
Achieving bestseller status for a book is primarily the responsibility of the author, and selling a significant number of copies within the first week of release is crucial. The author's team and publishing house provide support, but the author needs to actively promote and incentivize sales. The speaker shares her experience of falling short of her initial sales goal and the negative thoughts that ensued. However, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing these thoughts as just thoughts and not giving up, but rather coaching herself to believe in her ability to achieve her goal.
Limiting beliefs: Recognizing societal messages and challenging limiting beliefs through self-coaching and connecting with future self can unlock full potential.
Our socialization and societal messages can significantly impact our thoughts and beliefs, often limiting our potential. The speaker in this text used the technique of self-coaching and connecting with her future feminist self to identify and challenge these limiting beliefs. She recognized how societal messages, such as the need to be perfect or the belief that women should not believe in their own authority, were impacting her thoughts and leading her to feel hopeless and doubt her abilities. By tapping into her future feminist self, she was able to access thoughts and beliefs that would help her overcome these challenges and ultimately achieve her goals. This technique can be a powerful tool for anyone looking to challenge limiting beliefs and unlock their full potential.
Mindset shift, book writing: Instead of focusing on external validation, focus on becoming the best version of ourselves to make things happen, like a best-selling author for a book.
Instead of focusing on what our circumstances or objects can do for us, we should focus on who we need to be in order to make things happen. Using the example of writing a book, instead of worrying about making it a bestseller to validate our worth, we should focus on showing up for the book as a best-selling author would. This shift in mindset can lead to a cascade of thoughts about the importance and power of the book, and how we can support it in achieving success. This approach can be applied to any situation where we want something to behave or be a certain way to validate us, encouraging us to focus on how we can show up to support it instead. Attend the Feminist Future Self workshop to learn how to access the wisdom within yourself to create the life you desire.
Internal validation: Shifting focus from minimal efforts and external validation to exceptional performance and persistence can lead to greater success, even if initial goals aren't met.
Focusing on how you can show up and support your goals, rather than on external validation or proof, can lead to greater success. The speaker shares her experience of becoming a best-selling author by shifting her mindset from what she could do minimally to what she could do exceptionally well, and by being willing to put in the effort and ask for help. She also emphasizes the importance of persistence and not getting discouraged by failures, but rather seeing each failure as a learning opportunity. Additionally, she invested in resources and relationships to help promote her book and establish media credibility. Ultimately, her book landed on six bestseller lists despite not meeting initial sales goals.
Connecting to future feminist self: Accessing your future feminist self can help women overcome obstacles and achieve goals by continually growing and evolving towards bigger and better things, despite socialization and limiting beliefs.
Connecting to your future self, specifically your future feminist self, can help you achieve your goals and overcome obstacles, even if the goals seem out of reach. This process involves understanding how to borrow thoughts from your future self and practicing being in the identity of the person who has already achieved the desired outcome. It's important to remember that the outcome itself, such as making a New York Times bestseller list, is just a bonus. The real power comes from becoming the kind of person who shows up for themselves and their goals, regardless of the outcome. Socialization and limiting beliefs can hold women back from reaching their full potential, but accessing your future feminist self can help you continually grow and evolve towards bigger and better things. Join the Feminist Self Help Society at www.unfuckyourbrain.com/society to learn more and receive individual help in applying these concepts to your life. On September 8th, attend the all-day workshop at unfuckyourbrain.com/future to learn how to pick a huge dream and figure out who you need to become to get there.