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    #454: A Magician's Search for Wonder in the Modern World

    enOctober 31, 2018

    Podcast Summary

    • A magician's quest to rediscover the magic of magicTo reignite a sense of wonder and awe, seek out new experiences even in your work or career

      Even those who spend their lives creating wonder and amazement for others can lose touch with the very thing they value most. Nate Staniforth, a professional magician, shares his personal journey of disillusionment with his career and his subsequent quest to rediscover the magic of magic. As a child, Nate was captivated by the sense of wonder and awe, experiencing it through natural phenomena like the night sky. He later found that magic tricks could replicate that feeling for others. However, as he grew older, he began to feel disconnected from the magic he once loved. Nate's solution was to embark on a journey to India, where he encountered a clan of fire-eating street performers and rekindled his sense of wonder. This experience reminded him that wonder and awe are not just limited to magic tricks but are a part of the natural world and can be found in everyday life. So, if you're feeling burnt out or disenchanted with your work, take a cue from Nate and seek out new experiences to reignite your sense of wonder.

    • Discovering the power of magicMagic brings wonder and amazement, transforming people and making us feel alive and curious, through its mystery and unexpected nature.

      Magic, whether it's reading about it in books or performing tricks, has the power to bring wonder and amazement, not just to children, but to adults as well. The speaker discovered magic accidentally through his fascination with Gandalf from The Lord of the Rings. He was amazed by the ability to make people believe in magic for a moment, even if it was just a simple trick like making a coin disappear. The reaction of people, especially when it was someone who was usually in a position of authority, was transformative. Magic has the ability to break through the ordinary and make us feel alive and curious again. The speaker believes that this wonder and amazement comes from the mystery and the unexpected nature of magic, which is something that adults can often lose sight of in their daily lives.

    • Follow your dreams and passionsBelieving in oneself and pursuing passions, even when the path is unclear, can lead to great success.

      Following your dreams and passions, even if they seem unusual or unconventional, can lead to great success. The speaker's experience growing up in a small town and becoming a magician despite having no clear career path illustrates this idea. He drew inspiration from seeing a local basketball player rise to national stardom and applied the same determination to his own craft. The road to becoming a professional magician was not easy, involving constant touring and long hours, but the speaker's early experiences and passion kept him going. Additionally, learning the craft through hands-on experience and performing for audiences was more effective than formal education. Ultimately, the speaker's story highlights the importance of believing in oneself and pursuing one's passions, even when the path may not be clear.

    • The Passion and Dedication of MagiciansMagicians work tirelessly to perfect their craft, finding fulfillment in creating amazing experiences for audiences despite the challenges and lack of practical reasons for pursuing the art form.

      Magic is a labor-intensive art form that requires both creativity and dedication. Magicians like Houdini, who became famous for their work ethic, put in countless hours to perfect their craft. Magic is unique in that there are no practical reasons to become a magician for fame or wealth, so those who pursue it must do so out of love. The process involves both the grand vision of creating something amazing for audiences and the hard work of practicing and refining skills every day. Even with the challenges of touring and being away from home, magicians find fulfillment in their unique profession. As Houdini himself said, "I work from seven in the morning to midnight and I like it."

    • Losing the sense of wonder and connection to work can make it a grind for magiciansMagicians, like anyone, can lose their passion for their work, leading to a tedious daily routine. This disconnection can leave both the magician and the audience unsatisfied.

      Even for someone whose job revolves around creating and sharing a sense of wonder and magic, like a magician, losing that spark and connection to the work can lead to a grinding daily reality. The glamour and excitement on the outside can conceal the tedious aspects of the profession. When a magician, or anyone, loses the sense of wonder and connection to their work, it becomes a grind, and for a magician, this is particularly problematic as they need to believe in the magic to make it feel real for their audience. The loss of that connection can make the magician feel like a phony and leave both the magician and the audience unsatisfied.

    • Rediscovering Passion in Magic through New ExperiencesImmerse in new environments and experiences to maintain creativity and enthusiasm in any field.

      Even the most renowned magicians, like Houdini, can experience burnout and a loss of passion for their craft. This is particularly true for magicians, as the ability to inspire wonder and amazement is crucial to their profession. When the speaker felt disconnected from his magic, he turned to India and its rich, 3000-year-old magical traditions for inspiration. By immersing himself in a new environment and rediscovering the magic that had initially captivated him, he was able to rekindle his passion and approach his craft in a new way. This experience highlights the importance of seeking out new experiences and perspectives to maintain creativity and enthusiasm in any field.

    • Discovering Unique Magic Traditions in IndiaTraveling to a foreign culture can help break out of routine and stay alert to new experiences, leading to true wonder and amazement.

      Magic, like food, theater, or music, is a cultural expression that varies greatly from place to place. During his journey to India, the speaker discovered the unique traditions of magic practiced by nomadic tribes of street performers. He was initially drawn to the illusions they performed but was ultimately captivated by the culture and people of India. The experience of being in a completely foreign environment where nothing was ordinary allowed him to break out of his adult habit of making things seem ordinary and instead stay alert and awake. One of the most fascinating illusions he encountered was a seemingly brutal father-son act where the father appeared to kill and then resurrect his son. This illusion would have been a miracle to ancient audiences, but the speaker found the true wonder in the experience of India and the people he encountered there.

    • Discovering the Unexpected in IndiaTraveling to new places challenges our preconceptions and allows us to connect with people and experiences beyond our expectations.

      Both magic and travel can challenge our preconceived notions and shake up our sense of certainty about the world. India, once seen as a land of mystery, is now a modern superpower where people embrace science and magic exists alongside it. The author's journey to India to meet street magicians led to unexpected discoveries, including a welcoming family in a New Delhi slum who shared their magic with him. The experience of being in a new environment, despite its challenges, brought about a sense of connection and warmth. Rather than living in the story we tell ourselves about the world, it's important to experience the world itself.

    • The transformative power of magic and determinationDespite different backgrounds, magicians shared love for magic. The leader's determination to provide for family and educate children through internet inspired awe. Magic's transformative power lies in determination and appreciation for everyday life.

      Magic, in its purest form, is the ability to transform seemingly insurmountable circumstances into something remarkable. This was exemplified during a magician's encounter with a group of Indian magicians living in a slum. Despite their vastly different backgrounds, they shared a common bond in their love for magic. The leader of the group, who hustled as a magician to provide for his family and give his children a better future through internet education, served as a powerful reminder of the transformative power of determination and perseverance. The magician returned from this experience with a renewed sense of wonder, realizing that the spark of magic can be found anywhere, not just in far-off lands or exotic experiences. It's all about how one chooses to look at the world and remember to appreciate the magic in everyday life.

    • Rediscovering childlike wonderMaking conscious effort to find joy in everyday moments can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

      Finding wonder and awe in our daily lives is essential for feeling truly alive. It's easy to get lost in our to-do lists and lose sight of the present moment. However, if we make a conscious effort to look for it, we can find joy and aliveness in even the simplest things. Travel and experiences can help us find this sense of wonder, but it can also be found in everyday moments, like saying goodnight to the stars with our children or remembering the childlike wonder we once had. As the speaker shared, adults often hide their childlike wonder, but it's important to remember that it's never too late to rediscover it. The practice of seeking out wonder and awe in our lives can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful existence.

    • A Magician's Journey: Balancing Career and Writing a BookMagician Nate Stanforth shares his experience of writing a book while maintaining his career, finding new appreciation for magic and wonder in life, and encouraging listeners to explore the topic further.

      Nate Stanforth, a magician and author, shared his experience of writing a book while balancing his career as a magician. He found the process all-encompassing and had to stop touring to finish it. Since its release, he's gone back on the road and feels a newfound appreciation for magic and wonder in his life. His book, "Here is Real Magic," is where interested individuals can learn more about his thoughts on magic and rediscovering wonder. The book is available on Amazon and at bookstores. Stanforth encourages everyone to explore the topic further by checking out his website or the show notes at AOM.IS/RealMagic. Overall, Stanforth's unique perspective on magic and the value of wonder in everyday life makes for an intriguing listen.

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