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    5 Ways To Reduce Helplessness in Difficult Times & How To Improve Your Relationship With The News

    enJuly 01, 2022

    Podcast Summary

    • Planning getaways and prioritizing wellnessSmall actions like planning adventures or focusing on digestive health can lead to significant improvements in living a fulfilling life. Seek support and remember you're not alone in addressing feelings of helplessness.

      Planning unforgettable getaways and prioritizing wellness are essential components of living a fulfilling life. Whether it's through meticulously planning adventures using booking.com or focusing on digestive health using herbs, small actions can lead to significant improvements. Furthermore, it's important to acknowledge and address feelings of helplessness, which are common in today's world. Understanding that these feelings are not surprising and that many people experience them can provide comfort and a sense of connection. To make a positive impact, consider seeking quality care and support through resources like CVS Health, and remember that small steps, like incorporating herbs into your daily routine, can lead to meaningful improvements. So, whether you're planning your next adventure or focusing on your wellness journey, remember that you're not alone and that small actions can lead to big changes.

    • Learned Helplessness: A State of Feeling Overwhelmed and PowerlessLearned helplessness is a psychological state where individuals feel overwhelmed and powerless, leading to passive behavior and increased stress levels. Constant exposure to negative news and events can contribute to this feeling, but even in the face of seemingly insurmountable challenges, small actions can make a big difference.

      Learned helplessness is a psychological state where individuals give up trying to change or control a negative situation due to past experiences of being unable to influence it. This condition was first observed in animals, but it's also applicable to humans. Martin Seligman's experiments in the 1960s showed that dogs could learn to feel helpless when exposed to uncontrollable stressors. Today, learned helplessness is described as a state of feeling overwhelmed and powerless, especially in the face of repeated stressors. According to the American Psychological Association, it's characterized by passivity, difficulty learning that responses can control trauma, and increased stress levels. With the constant barrage of negative news and events, it's no wonder many people feel helpless and out of control. In fact, we're exposed to more tragedy in a single day than we were in an entire lifetime 25 years ago. This can lead to feelings of hopelessness and despair, making it essential to recognize and address these feelings before they become debilitating. Remember, even in the face of seemingly insurmountable challenges, small actions can make a big difference. So, don't give up hope and keep striving for change, no matter how small.

    • Managing News Consumption for Mental HealthLimit news consumption, particularly in the morning and evening. Choose reliable sources and preferred consumption methods. Balance negative news with positive stories for overall well-being.

      Managing news consumption is crucial for maintaining good mental health. Consuming news, especially at inappropriate times or from unreliable sources, can lead to feelings of helplessness, anxiety, and poor sleep quality. To avoid these negative effects, limit news consumption, particularly in the morning and evening, and choose reliable sources and preferred consumption methods. Additionally, balance negative news with positive stories to maintain a positive attitude and overall well-being. Overexposure to news can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and depression, as studies have shown. Therefore, it's essential to be mindful of your news consumption habits and prioritize mental health.

    • Focus on Positive Moments and FeedbackGive equal attention to positive comments and experiences to boost self-confidence and overall well-being. Practice mindfulness and meditation for 7 minutes a day to stay calm and focused.

      We need to consciously focus on positive feedback and moments in our lives as much as we do on the negative ones. Our minds tend to gravitate towards the negative, but it's essential to give equal presence and attention to positive comments and experiences. This not only helps us appreciate the good things in our lives but also boosts our self-confidence and overall well-being. Additionally, practicing mindfulness and meditation for just 7 minutes a day can help us stay calm, focused, and better equipped to handle stress and anxiety. By taking a moment to recognize and amplify the positive, we can create a more balanced and fulfilling life.

    • Find calm and relaxation during challenging daysMeditation can help renew the mind, affordable options can create a dreamy retreat at home, gut instincts aren't always reliable, and small actions can make a difference

      Even on challenging days, practices like meditation can help renew and refocus the mind. The Daily Jay session on Calm, for instance, can turn a difficult workday into an opportunity for relaxation and rejuvenation. Additionally, it's essential to remember that summer doesn't have to be an expensive season. Affordable options, like IKEA's outdoor furniture and accessories, can help create a dreamy retreat at home. Furthermore, our gut instincts aren't always reliable, and supplements like Ritual's Synbiotic Plus can provide additional support for digestive health. Lastly, feeling overwhelmed by the scale of a problem is a common experience, but taking small actions, like helping a struggling fish back into the water, can make a difference. This perspective was shared by monks in South India, and it's a reminder that everyone has the power to make a positive impact, no matter how small.

    • The Power to Make a DifferenceEmpathy and small actions can significantly impact someone's life. Unconventional solutions and self-care are essential for making a difference.

      Every individual has the power to make a difference, no matter how small. This was emphasized through the analogy of saving fish, where the monk teachers reminded that to one fish, its entire life is at stake. Similarly, to someone we may have helped, they may view our actions as life-changing. The concept of "3 doors" was introduced, suggesting that there are often unconventional ways to make a difference. Learned helplessness, feeling that one cannot make a difference, was addressed as a barrier to taking action. Additionally, self-care was highlighted as crucial in enabling us to effectively respond to challenges and make a positive impact.

    • Building a supportive community and practicing self-talkEngaging in positive self-talk and building a supportive network can help improve mental well-being and navigate life's challenges

      Building a supportive community and practicing self-talk can significantly improve mental well-being. Feeling isolated and helpless can lead to negative self-talk and a cycle of despair. Instead, acknowledging common struggles and practicing positive self-talk can provide comfort and motivation. It's important to avoid both toxic positivity and dwelling on negative thoughts. Engaging in activities like meditation, prayer, or self-coaching can also be effective ways to reframe negative thoughts and build resilience. Praying for skills and strengths rather than for circumstances to change can provide a greater sense of control and confidence. In essence, focusing on what we can control and building a supportive network can help us navigate life's challenges with greater ease and positivity.

    • Empowering Ourselves to Overcome ChallengesThrough learning, seeking help, and utilizing affordable resources, we can transform challenges into opportunities for growth and improvement.

      No matter what challenges we face in life, we have the power to equip ourselves with the tools to overcome them. Whether it's through learning, seeking help from experts, or finding affordable solutions to improve our quality of life, we can shift from a place of helplessness to making a positive difference. IKEA offers affordable outdoor furniture and accessories to help make the most of summer, while CVS Health provides comprehensive healthcare services for various needs. Herbs, like slippery elm bark and ginger root, are natural solutions for maintaining digestive health. By taking proactive steps and utilizing available resources, we can face difficulties with confidence and resilience. So, let's continue building a hopeful, courageous, and powerful community, and remember that we've all been through tough times and come out stronger.

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    Episode Resources:

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    With Love and Gratitude,

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    • 01:35:21 Anitta on Final Five

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    In this episode, you'll learn:

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    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    We live in an often overwhelming world – the 24-hour news cycle, social media, and technology constantly demand our attention. If you’re a highly sensitive or empathic person, this can leave you exhausted.

    But rather than being a weakness, high sensitivity can be a superpower allowing you to feel things deeply, care about and connect with others, and appreciate nature.

    In this encore episode, we talk with Dr. Judith Orloff, author of "The Empath's Survival Guide" about strategies to protect your energy, health, and maximize the benefits of being an empath or highly-sensitive person.

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    Conquer Overwhelm: Your Ultimate Guide to Inner Peace With the Amazing Dr. Thema Bryant

    Conquer Overwhelm: Your Ultimate Guide to Inner Peace With the Amazing Dr. Thema Bryant

    In this episode, Dr. Thema Bryant gives you the tools to conquer overwhelm and unlock your inner peace.

    Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association. She trained at both Duke and Harvard, teaches at Pepperdine University, has published multiple best-selling books, and has spent decades of her life researching how you can stay calm and centered in any situation.

    She calls this kind of peace “coming home” to yourself, and she will teach you how to do it, even if the world around you is in chaos.

    Dr. Thema is simply incredible. Just her presence alone will put you at ease. She has the unique gift of weaving together psychological strategies for healing with the deeper spiritual cornerstones of faith and trust.

    This is an encore episode with new insights from me at the top of the conversation. Given how overwhelming the world seems right now, I believe this profound and actionable conversation is exactly what you and I need to hear.

    With Dr. Thema's wisdom and tools, you can and will overcome the overwhelm, anxiety, and stress you are feeling right now.

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • 3 ways to combat overwhelm and external stress.
    • 6 signs that you are disconnected from yourself.
    • What it means to be "psychologically wandering".
    • How to handle people in your life who are chronically irritable and angry.
    • The surprising signs of "irritable depression".
    • The 3 words to say to yourself before you can begin healing.
    • Why self-care is critical if you are in a toxic workplace.
    • Why you need to stop talking about your partner and your boss in therapy.
    • Where to find therapy when you can’t afford it.


     

    When the world feels dark, you and I must stay connected to our inner light. This episode will teach you how. Please share this with your loved ones because the world needs all of us to keep the light bright, and together we will.

     

    Xo, Mel 

    In this episode:

    • 2:15: I got really emotional when I acknowledged how my life used to be.
    • 4:00: This is what it looks like when you’re connected to your own compass.
    • 6:30: The 6 signs that you’re disconnected from yourself and what that means.
    • 9:05: Even if you’ve never felt it; you can learn to be “home” with yourself.
    • 10:50: The West African fable that should be required reading for everyone.
    • 16:11: This is the first and most powerful step to your “homecoming.”
    • 21:45: Do people with a bad attitude actually have depression?
    • 24:50: What is healing, anyway?
    • 26:08: How do we handle people who are irritable, frustrated, and angry?
    • 29:40: It’s a big mistake if you wait for this before you start your own healing.
    • 32:40: What does self-care actually mean?
    • 34:10: Watching bedtime, high-crime TV? Then you need to hear this.
    • 36:50: How to know if you need therapy or you need spirituality.
    • 38:30: What is the definition of spirituality?
    • 41:20: How do you heal from a lifetime of messaging that you’re not worthy?
    • 44:00: This is how you handle being in a toxic work environment.
    • 47:30: You are more than an employee or a partner. 
    • 48:50: Look to these resources if you can’t afford therapy. 


     

    Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast.

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    216. How to Rewire Your Brain to Defeat Depression, with Kelsey Aida and Lynnsey Robinson

    216. How to Rewire Your Brain to Defeat Depression, with Kelsey Aida and Lynnsey Robinson

    In this episode, Kelsey Aida and Lindsay Robinson share their personal struggles and professional insights on defeating depression through mindfulness, gratitude, and other simple self-care habits. They explain how their podcast “High Vibing It” has helped them find their voices and spread more light. 

    Topics discussed:

    • Using emotional release to process depressive feelings
    • Establishing a daily gratitude practice
    • Making small, gradual changes to your mindset
    • Tapping into the subconscious through writing, meditation, and affirmations
    • Observing your self-talk and reshaping negative narratives
    • The power of movement for releasing feel-good endorphins
    • Accomplishing small tasks to build confidence and momentum
    • Having compassion for your own unique healing journey
    • Stepping outside your comfort zone for growth
    • Staying consistent with self-care rituals over time
    • Training your brain to scan for positives versus negatives

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