55- Feeling Violated

Do you feel you lack self-confidence? Are you constantly comparing yourself to others and feel you're falling short? Are you exhausted from all the self-improvement work you've been doing without much gain? What if we were to tell you you're looking in the wrong direction when trying to build self-confidence from the outside in? On this week's show, Del and Barry discuss how true self-confidence isn't gained through outside recognition and achievements; instead, it's something that we already have access to when we recognize that we are no better than or less than anyone else on the planet.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Do you abdicate responsibility for the state of your life? Do you tend to blame others when things don't go your way? Or maybe you find apologizing hard when you've made a mistake. When we refuse to accept responsibility, we miss out on one of life's most empowering actions. On this week's show, Del and Barry discuss how taking responsibility for our actions empowers us to shape our destinies. By acknowledging our roles in both our successes and failures, we increase our self-respect while cultivating resilience and self-reliance.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Do you believe unconditional love means continuing to love someone no matter what? Even when their behavior becomes abusive or causes you harm? If so, you are mistaken. In this week's episode, Del and Barry discuss the difference between Codependency and Unconditional Love. Loving someone unconditionally means that you love them without judgment; it doesn't mean you have to accept abuse. On the contrary, unconditional love embodies empathy, forgiveness, and acceptance, but not at the expense of your well-being. It does not mean suffering in silence while someone walks all over you. It means loving them while maintaining healthy boundaries. Sometimes, love is not enough to make a relationship work.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Do you find it hard to maintain healthy boundaries with a loved one engaging in destructive behavior? Do you love someone so much that you fear losing them if you were to hold them to the consequences you've given them? If so, you may inadvertently be enabling them. In this week's show, Del and Barry discuss the differences between love and enabling. Enabling involves inadvertently supporting destructive behaviors out of fear or guilt, which hinders personal growth and maintains dependencies. Meanwhile, love embraces accountability and growth and empowers individuals to thrive independently, fostering healthier relationships and personal development.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Do you find yourself overly judgmental of others? Does other people's behavior easily trigger you? Are there certain aspects of your personality that you would rather keep hidden? If so, you may be coming up against your Shadow. In this week's show, Del and Barry discuss the concept of The Shadow, first introduced by psychologist Carl Jung. Jung explains how the Shadow represents the unconscious aspects of an individual's personality, often comprising repressed desires, emotions, and traits deemed unacceptable or incompatible with one's self-image. If unrecognized and unaddressed, the darker, unacknowledged facets of the psyche can manifest in destructive behaviors or projections onto others, hindering personal growth and psychological integration.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Are you holding onto angry at someone for what they did? Have you ever felt so hurt you've wanted revenge? If so, it's completely natural to want the person who hurt you to feel a similar pain to the one they've inflicted on you. But does an 'Eye for an Eye" bring you the satisfaction you seek? Unfortunately not. As the Buddha says, "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." On this week's show, Del and Barry discuss healthy ways to let go of anger and move on with our lives while honoring our feelings in the process.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

We've all heard about the Law of Attraction and how creating vision boards, ideal scenes, and setting intentions helps us to manifest our heart's desire. That's all well and good when we get our desired outcome, but what happens when things don't turn out as we hoped? Too often, we blame ourselves. We judge ourselves as bad manifesters. Or, worse still, when terrible things happen to us, we feel responsible for attracting negativity into our lives. On this week's show, Del and Barry discuss the truth, misconceptions, and misunderstandings around the concept of the Law of Attraction. 

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Have you ever been violated, betrayed, lied to, stolen from, or scammed? If so, you'll most likely experience various emotions ranging from anger, shame, powerlessness, fear, distrust, etc. On this week's show, Del and Barry share their experiences of having been violated and how they recovered from the emotional aftermath. It's important to not blame ourselves. Instead, honor all the feelings that arise and not judge yourself for them. The more we allow our emotions to flow, the quicker they pass, so we can regain a sense of power and control over our lives.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Do you find you always give people second chances only to be hurt or taken advantage of again? Or maybe you are the opposite; once burnt, you slam the door permanently on the relationship. On this week's show, Del and Barry discuss the pros and cons of giving people second chances once they have violated the agreement you made with each other. Not every transgression is worth ending a relationship over. If someone shows genuine remorse and a willingness to make amends, many relationships have the potential to strengthen and grow from the experience.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Do you find yourself repeatedly handing over your power to another person, such as your partner, parents, or friends? Do you constantly ask them for their advice, believing they know what is best for you? Or maybe you're in a cult-like situation where your partner or spiritual guide suggests they have powers you lack. If so, please listen to this week's show with Del and Barry as they discuss the various ways in which we abdicate responsibility for ourselves and instead let others decide what is best for us. Instead of looking for outside validation, learn how to tune into your innate wisdom and trust your inner guidance.

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Del is a relationship coach, international speaker, published author, and spiritual teacher, specializing in codependency, narcissistic abuse, and unhealed childhood trauma. If you are interested in working with Del visit: deladeyjones.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.

Barry is a relationship expert, best-selling author, inspirational speaker and spiritual guide, assisting both men and women having better relationships. If you are interested in working with Barry visit: barryselby.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube.