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    707: Johann Hari | Why You Can't Pay Attention—And What to Do About It

    en-usAugust 04, 2022

    Podcast Summary

    • Finding Focus in a Distracted WorldTo regain focus and productivity, seek out activities that require singular focus and bring us into a state of flow. Sharing your home as an Airbnb can also provide extra income and unique experiences.

      Our modern world is filled with distractions that hinder our ability to focus and experience deep, meaningful moments. The human brain can only consciously think about one or two things at a time, but many people try to multitask and follow multiple forms of media simultaneously. This leads to a lack of focus and productivity. To regain control of our attention, it's important to find activities that require singular focus and bring us into a state of flow. This can be challenging in a world filled with distractions, but the rewards are worth it. By breaking free from distractions and focusing on meaningful activities, we can create memorable experiences and truly appreciate what we have. Additionally, opening up our homes as Airbnbs not only brings in extra income but also allows us to share a piece of our world with others and create special experiences for guests.

    • The double-edged sword of technology for young peopleTechnology addiction can hinder our ability to fully engage in real-life experiences and relationships, making it essential to find balance and prioritize being present.

      Technology can be a double-edged sword, particularly for young people. The speaker shares a personal story about promising his godson a trip to Graceland years ago, only to discover that by the time they finally went, his godson was so consumed by technology that he couldn't fully engage with the experience. The speaker's attempt to disconnect his godson from his devices led to a deeper realization that technology addiction was a pervasive problem, not just for his godson but for many people. The speaker's decision to write a book about this issue underscores the importance of addressing the impact of technology on our lives and relationships. The story serves as a reminder that while technology can offer many benefits, it's essential to find a balance and prioritize being present in our own lives.

    • Understanding the factors impacting our attention spanExcessive technology use, among other factors, negatively impacts our ability to focus, and the author identified 12 factors that can help or hinder our attention span. By recognizing these factors and taking steps to mitigate their impact, we can regain control and improve our focus.

      Our ability to focus and pay attention has been significantly impacted by various factors, especially the excessive use of technology. The average person, whether young or old, struggles to maintain focus on a single task for extended periods. This issue isn't unique to young people, as even older generations are equally addicted to their devices. The author, in his research, discovered that there are 12 factors that can either improve or worsen our attention span. Many of these factors are related to technology, but they extend beyond it. The author's journey to understand this issue took him around the world, where he interviewed over 200 experts on attention and focus. He learned that our attention has been "stolen" from us by powerful forces, and once we understand this, we can begin to regain control. The author uses an analogy of someone throwing mud on a windshield to emphasize the importance of addressing this issue first, before focusing on anything else. In essence, our attention crisis is like a thin layer of mud on the windshield, but it's still an obstacle that needs to be dealt with before we can move forward.

    • Focus and attention in three layers: spotlight, starlight, and daylightRecognize the importance of focus and attention, minimize distractions, and cultivate skills to maintain attention for personal and societal goals

      The ability to focus and maintain attention is crucial for achieving both short-term and long-term goals. This concept, as discussed, can be broken down into three layers: the spotlight, which is our ability to concentrate on immediate tasks; the starlight, which refers to our capacity to pursue long-term goals; and the daylight, which involves our ability to identify and understand our longer-term objectives. However, when we're constantly distracted, we risk losing our focus and, consequently, our ability to achieve our goals, both individually and collectively. This issue is not only relevant to individuals but also to society as a whole, as our inability to pay attention and communicate effectively hampers our ability to address significant challenges, such as the climate crisis and the democratic crisis. Therefore, it's essential to recognize the importance of focus and attention and make efforts to minimize distractions and cultivate the skills necessary to maintain our attention, especially in today's increasingly complex and interconnected world.

    • The importance of collective attention in addressing global issuesUnderstanding the erosion of collective attention and taking steps to address it, like limiting time on social media, fact-checking, and constructive dialogue, can help restore our ability to address global challenges.

      The ozone layer crisis of the 1980s serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of collective attention and action in addressing global issues. The crisis, caused by the damaging effects of CFCs on the ozone layer, was discovered by scientists and communicated to the public, leading to a global response that resulted in the banning of CFCs in various countries, including the United States and Russia, despite the height of the Cold War. Today, social media platforms are designed to capture and sell our individual attention to advertisers, making it increasingly difficult for us to focus on important issues collectively. The crisis of collective attention is further exacerbated by the polarization and tribalization of online discourse. To counteract this, it's crucial to understand the underlying reasons for the erosion of our collective attention and take steps to address it, such as limiting our time spent on social media, fact-checking information, and engaging in constructive dialogue with others. By doing so, we can work towards restoring our collective ability to address global challenges and ensure a sustainable future for all.

    • Negativity bias and social mediaSocial media algorithms can amplify negativity bias, leading to increased anger and upset. To mitigate this, limit time on social media, seek positive content, and be mindful of language used online.

      Our use of social media and algorithms can inadvertently feed us more negativity due to the human tendency called negativity bias. This bias makes us pay more attention to things that make us sad or angry than things that make us happy. Social media algorithms, designed to maximize scrolling, can exacerbate this effect, leading to a vicious cycle of increased anger and upset. This isn't just a problem for individuals, but for society as a whole, potentially contributing to mental health issues and even more serious societal problems like genocide. It's crucial that we become aware of this effect and seek solutions to mitigate it. As Johann Hari mentioned, there are steps we can take, such as limiting our time on social media, seeking out positive content, and being mindful of the language we use online. It's important to remember that technology is a tool, and it's up to us to use it in a way that enhances our lives rather than detracts from them.

    • The Impact of Digital Technologies on Focus and AttentionExcessive use of digital techs negatively impacts focus and attention, leading to decreased competence and creativity. Make conscious efforts to limit distractions and dedicate focused time to tasks.

      Our excessive use of social media and other digital technologies is having a detrimental effect on our ability to focus and pay attention, much like how our modern food environment contributes to obesity. Professor Nigg's analogy of an "attentional pathogenic environment" highlights the systemic issues that make it difficult for us to focus, leading to increased juggling between tasks and decreased competence. The average person may believe they can multitask effectively, but the scientific evidence shows otherwise. This constant juggling comes with a cost, known as the switch cost effect, which negatively impacts our creativity and overall performance. It's essential to be aware of these challenges and make conscious efforts to limit distractions and dedicate focused time to important tasks.

    • Interruptions Impair IntelligenceInterruptions from technology can lower IQ by 10 points, equivalent to smoking a spliff, and contribute to cognitive degradation. Individual efforts to focus without interruptions are necessary but not sufficient. Systemic changes, such as laws and regulations limiting interruptions and companies prioritizing user focus, are also required.

      Being constantly interrupted and distracted by technology, as many of us are, can significantly impair our intelligence. A study by Hewlett Packard found that workers who were not interrupted scored 10 IQ points higher than those who were. This is equivalent to the cognitive impairment caused by smoking a spliff. The constant interruptions are not only affecting our individual intelligence but also contributing to a wider issue of cognitive degradation. Companies are designing technology to maximally interrupt us, as it benefits their business model. While individual changes, such as setting aside dedicated time to focus without interruptions, can help, they are not enough to solve the problem. We also need to go on the offensive against these forces and advocate for systemic changes to reduce the amount of interruptions we face daily. This includes lobbying for laws and regulations that limit the amount of interruptions from technology and advocating for companies to prioritize user focus over maximizing screen time.

    • The French government introduces a new law to help workers disconnect from technologyThe right to disconnect law aims to define work hours, limit tech use outside of them, and promote a healthier work-life balance.

      The constant connectivity and expectation to be reachable at all hours through technology is leading to burnout and a loss of focus for many workers. The French government recognized this issue and introduced a new law, the "right to disconnect," which requires work hours to be clearly defined in contracts and prohibits checking emails or phones outside of those hours without overtime pay. This collective solution aims to free individuals to make the necessary individual changes to improve focus and reduce stress. However, the problem runs deeper than individual solutions, as constant interruptions can retrain the brain to interrupt itself even when external stimuli are removed. This complex issue requires ongoing awareness and collective efforts to create a healthier work-life balance.

    • The root cause of distraction isn't technology, it's deeper factorsUnderstand that technology is an accelerator of distraction, but the root cause lies in deeper factors that have been present for generations.

      Our lack of focus and distraction is not solely caused by technology, but rather by deeper factors that have been present for generations. The Internet and technology have accelerated these issues, but they are not the root cause. A fascinating example of this is Provincetown, a town where multiple people make a living by dressing as Ursula from The Little Mermaid and singing songs. While this unique niche is intriguing, the real lesson came when the narrator realized how much his attention had improved while in Provincetown, only to lose it again once he returned to his tech-filled life. This experience led him to understand that the solution is not to retreat from technology, but rather to address the sources of distraction at their roots. For instance, Professor Sune Lehmann's research shows that collective attention has been shrinking for over a million years, and the entire Internet has only existed for less than 10,000 days. We can fix the aspects of tech that contribute to distraction, but we must also address the deeper causes.

    • The decline of collective attentionResearch shows that collective attention is shrinking, people focus less on topics for shorter periods, sleep has decreased significantly, and chronic sleep deprivation harms focus and attention, all contributing to a profound decline in collective attention.

      Collective attention is shrinking, and people are focusing less on any one topic for shorter periods of time. This trend, which has been accelerated by the internet, was discovered through an analysis of Twitter, Reddit, Google searches, and other websites. The only exception was Wikipedia. The researchers also found that sleep, which is essential for focus and attention, has decreased significantly in the last century. People sleep 20% less than they did a century ago, and 40% of us are sleeping less than 7 hours a night. This chronic sleep deprivation harms our ability to focus and pay attention. The researchers believe that this is just one of the many long-term trends contributing to the profound decline in collective attention. The implications of this trend are significant and worth exploring further.

    • Celebrating Mom goes beyond gifts, prioritize her restShop at Whole Foods for savings, encourage mom to prioritize sleep for brain health and overall well-being.

      Taking care of mom on Mother's Day goes beyond just buying a gift. Shopping at Whole Foods Market offers unbeatable savings on premium gifts, flowers, and desserts, starting with a 33% discount on body care and candles with Prime. But it's not just about the savings; it's also about the importance of rest. Research shows that sleep is crucial for brain health, especially for teenagers whose bodies require more rest. Professor Roxanne Prashad explained that when we sleep, our brains cleanse themselves of metabolic waste. Lack of sleep can lead to immediate and long-term harm to attention and even increase the risk of dementia. Therefore, it's essential to prioritize rest and adjust school schedules to accommodate teenagers' natural sleep patterns. So, this Mother's Day, celebrate mom by treating her to the best deals at Whole Foods Market and encouraging her to get the rest she deserves.

    • Outdated School Start Times Harm Students and TeachersOutdated school start times lead to chronic sleep deprivation, mood swings, hormonal imbalances, and even local brain sleep, affecting students and teachers. It's crucial to address this issue for better sleep hygiene and overall well-being.

      The current school start times, which are often very early, are not only harmful to students but also to teachers. This outdated system, which originated from the needs of farms and factories, results in chronic sleep deprivation, leading to various negative consequences such as mood swings, hormonal imbalances, and even local brain sleep. The lack of urgency from administrators to change this situation is concerning, as it leads to a vicious cycle of tiredness, lack of focus, and increased reliance on caffeine and other stimulants. The expert, Dr. Charles Czeisler, has shown that even seemingly awake individuals can have significant parts of their brain in a state of sleep. This is not only an issue for students but also for society as a whole, as drowsy driving is a leading cause of accidents. It is crucial that we understand the importance of adequate sleep and take steps to address the underlying structural issues to promote better sleep hygiene and overall well-being.

    • The second surge of energy and its impact on sleepLimit technology use before bed to improve sleep quality by avoiding signals to the body that it's time to be active.

      Our bodies have evolved to experience energy surges when it gets dark, a phenomenon known as the second surge of energy. However, in today's world where we control the light, this surge can negatively impact our sleep quality. Looking at screens before bed sends a signal to our bodies that it's time to be active, making it harder to fall asleep. To combat this, individuals can take steps like charging their phones outside of the bedroom or using a k safe to prevent late-night distractions. On a larger scale, we need to address the root causes of why people are having trouble sleeping, such as constant technology use and interruptions. A historical analogy was given of how the lead industry ignored warnings about the harmful effects of leaded gasoline and paint, but consumers eventually demanded a ban on the specific harmful components. Similarly, we should strive to eliminate the technology components that negatively impact our attention and sleep, rather than eliminating technology altogether.

    • Banning surveillance capitalism for better focusCollective action is needed to ban surveillance capitalism and shift to alternative business models to protect our minds and attention from constant distraction.

      Just like how mothers fought to ban lead and gasoline, which resulted in an average American child having a higher IQ, we need collective action to address the underlying business models that harm our attention and focus. These models, based on surveillance capitalism, keep us distracted and sell our data to make more money. The solution, as proposed by Aza Raskin, is to ban surveillance capitalism, forcing tech companies to adopt alternative business models such as subscription or collective ownership. This shift could help protect our minds and attention from the negative effects of constant distraction. It's important to remember that it's not just about the technology itself, but how it's being used and for what purposes. The tech industry won't solve this problem on its own, and it's up to us to demand change.

    • Fighting for our right to focus and attentionWe must shift from digital business models that prioritize attention hacking to models that prioritize user needs and desires, and collectively fight for the right to focus and live a distraction-free life.

      Our current digital business models prioritize hacking our attention and keeping us engaged at all costs because we are the product, not the customer. However, by shifting to models like subscription or public ownership, the incentives change, allowing us to prioritize the needs and desires of users instead. This requires a profound shift in consciousness and a collective effort to reclaim our focus and attention. We must not only ask for tiny tweaks but fight for a world where we can focus and pay attention, free from the constant distractions and invasions. Just as the feminist and equality movements fought for their rights, we must now fight for our right to focus and live a life where we can read books, meet with friends, and play outside. We can achieve this, but it will only happen if we act urgently and decisively. As Andrew Sullivan, a journalist diagnosed with HIV, showed us, even seemingly impossible ideas can become a reality with determination and persistence. So let us begin the fight for our focus and attention today.

    • Fighting for Progress and ChangeThe power of unity and perseverance can lead to significant progress and change for marginalized communities, like the LGBTQ+ community's fight for gay marriage in the US. Everyone's support is crucial, and technology can be a powerful tool for raising awareness and organizing efforts.

      Progress and change, no matter how impossible they may seem, can become a reality when people come together and fight for it. This was emphasized in a conversation about the struggles and achievements of the LGBTQ+ community, using the example of gay marriage becoming legal in the United States. The speaker also highlighted the importance of this issue affecting everyone, not just a small portion of the population, and the potential for a broad coalition to address the issue. The conversation also touched upon the impact of technology on human attention and the need to be aware of its potential negative effects. Overall, the message was one of hope and optimism, encouraging listeners to remember the progress made by those who came before us and to continue fighting for positive change.

    • Technology's extractive business model fuels addictive behaviorTechnology's business model profits from human anxiety and predictable behavior, encouraging addictive, distracted, and confused behavior, negatively impacting focus and empathy. Ethical use is crucial for a stronger, healthier, and empathetic society.

      Technology, particularly social media, operates under an extractive business model that profits from human anxiety and predictable behavior. This model encourages addictive, narcissistic, distracted, and confused behavior, making it challenging for society to address pressing issues like climate change or pandemics. The constant distractions and screen time can negatively impact our ability to focus and empathize with others. The use of algorithms and gamification can be helpful but also lead to increased surveillance and manipulative advertising. The future of technology's role in society depends on our ability to use it consciously and ethically, ensuring a stronger, healthier, and more empathetic 21st century open society. The consequences of not doing so could mean the end of the American experiment. For more insights on technology's impact on our brains and attention spans, listen to episode 533 of the Jordan Harbinger show.

    • Appreciating the value of real-life experiencesRecognize the value of real-life interactions, disconnect from technology, and fully engage in experiences for deeper enjoyment and appreciation.

      Our reliance on technology and the internet for instant gratification has made real-life experiences seem less appealing due to their slower pace. However, it's this very slowdown in real life that allows us to truly enjoy and appreciate these experiences. The constant call of our devices can distract us from the present moment and hinder our ability to fully engage with the world around us. It's important to recognize the value of real-life interactions and make an effort to disconnect from technology and fully immerse ourselves in the experiences that life offers. Additionally, consider supporting the creators who bring you valuable content by using their affiliate links or purchasing their recommended books. And remember, sharing knowledge and connecting with others is a powerful way to enrich your own life and the lives of those around you.

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    • High-speed internet porn is a recent phenomenon that provides an intense, novel experience unlike traditional pornography, hacking into our brain's evolutionary desires for new mates and triggering dopamine responses similar to drug addiction.
    • Pornography use, especially among adolescents and young adults who grew up with easy access to internet porn, has been linked to erosion of gray matter in the brain's prefrontal cortex, which controls impulse control and decision-making.
    • Porn use has been associated with sexual disorders like erectile dysfunction in young men, as well as difficulties forming emotional bonds and intimacy in relationships.
    • While some psychologists dispute the existence of "porn addiction," neuroscientific evidence shows porn use can lead to compulsive behaviors and brain changes resembling substance addictions.
    • While some political efforts have been made to declare porn a public health crisis, there is little policy action based on scientific evidence to provide resources for treatment and awareness.
    • Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!
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    985: Lives Are at Stake in Bail Reform's Wake | Feedback Friday

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    When bail reforms free violent offenders and risk others' safety, how can we uphold justice while safeguarding victims? Welcome to Feedback Friday!

    And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

    On This Week's Feedback Friday:

    • When bail reforms free violent offenders and risk others' safety, how can we uphold justice while safeguarding victims?
    • You've about had it with your autistic boss' cringeworthy conspiracy theories. How can you disagree respectfully and maintain professionalism?
    • As a cancer patient struggling with massive student loans and disability assistance denial, what legal help and guidance is available for navigating private loan regulations while fighting for survival?
    • You've invented a non-functional plastic object that brings laughter to all who behold its absurdity. You want to protect the IP so you can profit from this stroke of comedic novelty, but you can't ignore the potential environmental impact of manufacturing such an item en masse. What should you do?
    • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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    984: Susan Casey | Unraveling Mysteries in the Ocean's Darkest Depths

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    • The ocean plays a crucial role in regulating the Earth's climate and serves as the largest carbon sink on the planet, making its preservation essential for mitigating climate change.
    • The ocean is home to a fascinating array of creatures that have adapted to extreme conditions, such as iron-breathing microbes, glass sponges, and jellyfish that can reverse their life cycle.
    • Pollution, including plastics, chemical weapons, and nuclear waste, has severely impacted the ocean ecosystem, with some deep-sea creatures found to have plastic particles embedded in their organs.
    • There are an estimated three million shipwrecks on the ocean floor, preserving valuable historical artifacts and information — such as the Antikythera mechanism, an ancient Greek analog computer.
    • Exploring the ocean can lead to groundbreaking discoveries in medicine, Earth's history, and climate, providing valuable insights for addressing humanity's challenges — provided we safeguard this treasury of knowledge for current and future generations.
    • And much more...

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