A personal and candid message from Ann

Guest co-host Denise Bard's book is out!! 30 -second moments and the Women who Raised Me. Listen as she talks about her story and reflects on the moments that define and shape us. Her story is a raw and honest account of triumph over childhood adversity.
Ann and Denise's conversation transcends her personal story, shedding light on making a difference in a child's life. It is a reminder to look past the 'attention-seeking' behavior and look at it as connection seeking. This episode is for anyone who has had someone change the trajectory of their life with a simple act of kindness or if you have done this for someone else.

Join us as we embrace the fact that our past gives us the wisdom we need to equip us to shine in the future.

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Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com,
You can watch us on PacificCoastTV . link is We are on anywhere you get your podcasts and...
Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com,
PacificCoastTV  link is
http://pacificcoast.tv/video/the-world-through-trauma-s-eyes?fbclid=IwAR1kdNbaqDJNokd4z_-LdpnKM_9mgr4Qi1-HCwolUYkfLtJnSMOUfVSyhvI

Colorado radio station is coming soon. We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. 
and a future Colorado station. 

We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. 

This episode was inspired by a statement made in Kara Swisher's recent book, The Burn Book. Tina and Ann discuss how Trauma changed them for...wait for it...the better? How can that happen. Well, trauma is not what made them better, but their strength, determination and resilience changed trauma's path. 

The two discuss how their trauma actually made them stronger and more determined. Ann realized that her creativity was born in the pain and isolation of her bedroom.. Tina learned how to hyperfocus to get through and overcome.

They two learned how that simple is good, family is everything and how to break the cycle. Ann learned one of life's most important lessons that got her through. 

Join this twisty, curvy podcast and learn more of how Trauma shaped them and how they rose above their circumstances. 

The Book A Loss that Lasts Forever by Kara Swisher is mentioned
The Sinful Woman by Ann Kagarise is mentioned

A quote was used by William Martin from The Parent's Tao Te Ching 

Quote: There is no timestamp on trauma. There isn't a formula that you can insert yourself into to get from horror to healed. Be patient. Take up space. Let your journey be the balm." Dawn Serra

A quote by Plutarch: "What we change inwardly will change outer reality.

We are on anywhere you get your podcasts and...
Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com, 
PacificCoastTV  link is http://pacificcoast.tv/video/the-world-through-trauma-s-eyes?fbclid=IwAR1nQmmdp30K5eVgRzk4Eksn6fhQyKQ54bQzgj8_HPTYZBdMchS2TJ7UCvM, 
and a future Colorado station. 

We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. 

When the ground beneath you shakes, trust can crumble into dust. That's the stark reality for many who've walked through the storm of trauma, a journey Tina and Ann understand all too well. Do we keep up our walls, open a window, or build a bridge of trust.  Our intimate stories serve as beacons for those navigating the murky waters of skepticism, where accepting a compliment or a hand extended in kindness becomes an act of bravery. Throughout this raw and revealing episode, we discuss transforming barriers into connection, while never losing sight of the need for safety.

As we wade deeper into the conversation, the ghosts of generational trauma emerge, challenging us to sever the chains of the past. We examine how personal healing is not just a solitary endeavor but a communal crusade to prevent the cycle from continuing.   It's a testament to the quiet power of patience and understanding in fostering bonds of trust that can survive the test of time.

Psychology Today is referenced.
Trauma, Trust, and Time | Psychology Today

Quotes:  "Not let someone else's chaos dictate me." Tina
"The trauma isn't our fault, but it's our responsibility to heal it."
"Sometimes change happens slowly, but that's ok because direction is more important than speed."
"If someone is poking you where you hurt, they don't deserve to be in your life." Ann
"Losing trust in self can lead to hopelessness."



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Every year, as the calendar circles back to the day we said goodbye to a loss, we find solace in the small rituals we've created to honor memories. Today's episode is a tender exploration of how we navigate the poignant anniversaries of loss—be it a loved one's passing, a divorce, or any pivotal goodbye. Together,, we share stories close to the heart, like enveloping ourselves in the comfort of a departed mother's favorite TV shows and the emotions that surge on a final outing that becomes a cherished memory. We also discuss the diverse traditions people embrace, from savoring a favorite meal to the release of butterflies, each a testament to the enduring bond with those we've lost.

As we clutch the keepsakes that tether us to the past, we embark on a journey through the landscape of loss and the memories that accompany it. Our conversation traverses the emotional significance of these mementos and the myriad ways they can catapult us through time to relive both joyous and sorrowful moments. , We address the complexity of grief, underscoring the need for support as we face those anniversaries that inevitably return us to the age and circumstance of our heartache. This episode is an intimate look at the myriad faces of grief, the regrets and misconceptions surrounding the decline of a loved one, and the invisible pain of missing shared moments due to illness, all while maintaining a facade of normality. Join us in this heartfelt dialogue as we acknowledge the silent struggles and celebrate the memories that shape our stories of loss.

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Tina and Ann get nostalgic in the complex tapestry of emotions that anniversaries weave into our lives. We unfurl the delicate threads of joy, heartache with reconciling past grievances with love and understanding. It's a journey through the winding roads of grief, where sorrow and celebration often hold hands. 

 The dialogue ventures into the realm of bittersweet realizations, recognizing the absence of loved ones in future triumphs and the heavy weight of 'unfinished business' that lingers after their departure. We also share the treasures that keep the essence of those lost, like cherished keepsakes and recorded voices, close to our hearts. Our conversation is a testament to the complex dance of memories, the solace found in the company of friends, and the solitary moments of reflection that anniversaries bring.

 Join us as we navigate this multifaceted emotional landscape together, finding unity in the shared experience of remembrance and loss.

We ask you to check out Denise Bard's new book, 30-second moments and the Women Who Raised me on Amazon. Denise is a permanent guest host on Real Talk with Tina and Ann and we are so proud of her!! 

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As Ann and Charde Young ( Love Freely) wrap up this three-part series, they continue their conversation on doing it afraid and the beautifulness of being vulnerable. They inspire many as they talk family secrets, betrayal, their search for self-acceptance and how affirmations guide them toward self-love as they try to light the path for others. 

The two discuss how their creative sides can touch more than a canvas or a page, but it can also brush the human heart.

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A personal message from Ann. She gets personal and candid after reading Mariska Hargitay's (Olivia Benson from SVU) article in People Magazine and saw her interview on the Today Show. Ann gets honest and talks about Mariska's situation and how to take pain and turn it into helping others. She discusses showing your true self, scars and all. S

 Having been a director at a battered woman's shelter and a rape crisis hotline, Ann delves into the often-misunderstood response of freezing during an assault and the web of blame and shame that survivors navigate. We stand together with those who have had to face such strength. 

The episode touches on abuse with people who have disabilities or pre-existing trauma. Ann talks grooming and how chillingly proficient abusers are in identifying their targets.  She discusses the reality of not belng believed by those in trusted, authoritative positions. Her main goal is to bring a voice to survivors. 

Ann briefly shares why she has dedicated this episode to her sister and to anyone who has holds the weight of unspoken secrets. 

You don't have to suffer by yourself or in silence. 

Vulnerability equals strength.  Authentic, emotional bravery vs. societal pressures of concealment. Charde Young, also known as Love Freely, as we discuss how our toughest moments can lead us to profound growth and authenticity fosters genuine connections.

Destiny vs. Choice. Was your path chosen for you or do you choose your path. Can we find life's purpose amidst the chaos. Charde and Ann discuss the lives that were given them and the paths that they chose to change their trajectory.

The two discuss the narratives that we inherit and the ones we write for ourselves. They get pretty personal as they unlock their diaries so they can rewrite their stories. 

Join us for this intimate exchange where the personal becomes universal and self-discovery becomes a transformation.

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In this episode of Real Talk with Tina and Ann, Ann interviews Charde young who is also known as Love Freely, on stage. Charde is in several bands. She is one of the singers in Apostle Jones, a band that has been named, Best Band in Cleveland, Ohio. She has two of her own bands, Mixed Feelings and New Vibe. She also has performed with Tropidelic. She has been on stage, live painting with Gladys Knight's drummer, Eljah Gilmore, while he performed. She is also a teacher. She is one busy lady who is making a difference in the world. Her entire purpose is to touch lives, to inspire and to remind people that they matter and are loved. The entire podcast centers around Doing it Afraid. Everything is found on the other side of fear. We talk about doing it with Shame and we discuss how you are not our circumstances. I would say her mantra would be, I am not confident, I am courageous. Often times, we do not know what we are doing, but we keep doing it. lol. Give yourself permission to succeed. 

Imagine standing at the edge of your fear with the nudge to fly. This episode is about embracing that leap, despite the fear that tries to control us. We share intimate conversations about the hurdles of stage fright, the courage to confront personal fears, and the liberation found when asking ourselves, "What would you do if you weren't scared?" Through Charde's story of self-discovery with herself and her bands, we celebrate the strength that comes from stepping outside comfort zones, proving that growth often requires a dance with fear.

Acts of kindness can be both simple and revolutionary. We delve into the heartwarming power of a touch, a hug, or words of encouragement and their ability to lift spirits and change lives. Addressing the significance of making others feel seen and valued, we share personal stories that underscore the transformative effects of kindness, the importance of community, and how vulnerability can be a source of strength. Charde Young leaves us with a promise to two more episodes in this three-part series. We cannot wait to listen.
This is the beginning of our second season. 

When our own childhood traumas resurface in the role of a parent, the journey takes on a deeper significance. In the intimate space of this episode, Ann shares the story of her son's struggle at school, an ordeal that brought forth her buried yearnings for protection and understanding. This isn't just a narrative about the challenges we face; it's a celebration of the unbreakable bonds we form with our children.

The dance of affection within our families can be tricky, especially for those with past traumas. . We discuss communication, self-forgiveness, and the individual needs of each family member. 

Finally, we turn to the frontlines of parenting—the advocacy for our children's emotional well-being within the school system. Ann gets personal about the difficult choices made to defend her son's happiness and zest for learning. As we unpack the distressing incident with his teacher, we highlight the power of trusting our parental instincts. This episode is for every parent who's ever fought for their child's well-being and also had abuse, themselves. 

*I mistakenly state that it is our 51st episode. Well this had been a 3 part series, but we are ending this on our 52nd episode which means the end to this first season. Next week, will be the first episode of our second exciting season. Thank you so much! 
* I apologize for some noise, at times, in this episode. But lol, we got a lot of it removed, but some of it would not GO lol. It is Ann's kids playing on holiday break. So, we just go with it. Flaws and all. lol Thanks for listening! 

Quotes used in the episode: 

• “Let us reach out to the children. Let us do whatever we can to support their fight to rise above their pain and suffering.” - Nelson Mandela
• “We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today.” - Stacia Tauscher
• “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” - Frederick Douglass
• “Children need models rather than critics.” - Joseph Joubert

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