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In this podcast episode Rob Decker joins me all the way from Colorado Springs, Colorado.  After years of abuse, addiction, a desperate search for praise and approval, and living in unbearable pain and isolation, Rob Decker reached a breaking point that drove him to take drastic measures. After a failed sui--de attempt and a friend not giving up on him, Rob woke up alive with a new lease on life.
Rob has dedicated his life to helping others and taking the stigma out of recovery. He is very passionate about sharing his testimony with others and helping them break the chains of addiction through support and mentorship. He knows everyone is capable of turning their life around and he is eager to be a part of that process. He and his wife have three children and they reside in Colorado.

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In this episode of Real Talk with Tina and Ann, Ann interviews Charde young who is also known as Love Freely, on stage. Charde is in several bands. She is one of the singers in Apostle Jones, a band that has been named, Best Band in Cleveland, Ohio. She has two of her own bands, Mixed Feelings and New Vibe. She also has performed with Tropidelic. She has been on stage, live painting with Gladys Knight's drummer, Eljah Gilmore, while he performed. She is also a teacher. She is one busy lady who is making a difference in the world. Her entire purpose is to touch lives, to inspire and to remind people that they matter and are loved. The entire podcast centers around Doing it Afraid. Everything is found on the other side of fear. We talk about doing it with Shame and we discuss how you are not our circumstances. I would say her mantra would be, I am not confident, I am courageous. Often times, we do not know what we are doing, but we keep doing it. lol. Give yourself permission to succeed. 

Imagine standing at the edge of your fear with the nudge to fly. This episode is about embracing that leap, despite the fear that tries to control us. We share intimate conversations about the hurdles of stage fright, the courage to confront personal fears, and the liberation found when asking ourselves, "What would you do if you weren't scared?" Through Charde's story of self-discovery with herself and her bands, we celebrate the strength that comes from stepping outside comfort zones, proving that growth often requires a dance with fear.

Acts of kindness can be both simple and revolutionary. We delve into the heartwarming power of a touch, a hug, or words of encouragement and their ability to lift spirits and change lives. Addressing the significance of making others feel seen and valued, we share personal stories that underscore the transformative effects of kindness, the importance of community, and how vulnerability can be a source of strength. Charde Young leaves us with a promise to two more episodes in this three-part series. We cannot wait to listen.
This is the beginning of our second season. 

Podcast: Are you creating guilt in your child. Co-presenter Kristen Coggan

Guilt is the strangest emotional state and thinking process. As parents, it's extraordinary how easy it is to set our child up to feel guilt. Perhaps we are programmed to feel guilt ourselves from our childhood, our culture or our religion. But guilt is a problem. Guilt can lead us to make choices that are not our own, choices that are based on blind obligation, not to mention the emotional toll. 

How often do you feel guilt, how often do you make decisions to avoid feeling guilt? But perhaps most importantly, are you accidentally parenting your child through guilt? 

This is an unspoken problem, it was really interesting where Kristen and I ended up on this one.

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Are you carrying shame from something you’ve done or something that was done to you? Are you carrying guilt or condemnation and don’t know how to get free from it? In episode 18, discover how to break free from the strongholds of shame, guilt and condemnation by putting your past in the past.

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Have you ever wrestled with the emotional whirlwind that is guilt? That's so human of you! What if we told you that this complex emotion, often making you squirm uncomfortably, could be turned into the most potent tool for personal growth and self-improvement? From learning to recognize when you've caused harm or breached your values to healthily navigating those feelings, join us as we dismantle 'unhealthy guilt' and its impacts on our lives.

We promise to take you on an enlightening journey, offering a fresh perspective on guilt. We explore its sources through intense discussions, such as societal expectations, cultural norms, and internal beliefs. We tackle how it can manifest physically and emotionally, leading to chronic conditions like stress, anxiety, and depression. But it's not all gloom and doom. We delve into the distinction between healthy and unhealthy guilt, demonstrating how guilt can drive self-improvement and identify our underlying values and principles.

Finally, we share some practical tools to harness guilt for personal growth. Reflecting on past mistakes and mindful decision-making, combined with the power of human connection, can help navigate guilt or shame. You'll learn to let go when responsibility becomes a burden and embrace it as an ally on your path to becoming the best version of yourself. This conversation is more than just an exploration of guilt; it's a transformative journey of self-discovery and an invitation to make better decisions for your future. So, please tune in, and let's start transforming together.

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Welcome to a thought-provoking and liberating episode of " Making Decisions from Guilt and Shame...Let's Not!" In today's show, we're diving deep into the tricky waters of guilt and shame and how they often drive us to do things for the wrong reasons or we may not truly want to do. Join us as we explore the impact of "shoulding" on ourselves and how it leads to an avalanche of negative emotions.

As members of the church, we're taught that we should do certain things to be considered "good." Whether it's attending church, reading scriptures, praying, or participating in various activities, we create pressure to be consistent. But here's the twist—when we fall short, guilt and shame rear their ugly heads.

In this episode Marci will shed light on how guilt often leads to shame. We find ourselves trapped in a vicious cycle, feeling like we're "bad" because we haven't lived up to these expectations. It's like carrying a heavy shawl of shame everywhere we go.

But fear not! We'll explore a revolutionary concept: "doing things from alignment, not from 'shoulds.'" Imagine taking action because you genuinely want to, not because you feel obligated. Understanding your "Why" is crucial, whether it's seeking a deeper connection with God, growing spiritually, or strengthening your testimony.

Breaking free from the shoulds doesn't mean abandoning your practices altogether. Instead, we'll discuss the power of setting a Minimum Baseline. It's time to be kind to ourselves and commit to manageable actions that we know we can follow through on. Remember, small steps lead to significant changes!

Are you ready to break free from the guilt and shame that hold you back? Join us in this transformative episode as we choose "I WANT AND I WILL" over "I SHOULD." Let's cultivate self-compassion and embrace the freedom to make choices that align with our true selves. Remember, God sees our hearts and knows our intentions. It's time we see ourselves the same way.

Tune in to Making Decisions from Guilt and Shame... Let's Not! —because guilt and shame have met their match in grace and charity! Let's rewrite the narrative and embark on a journey of self-acceptance and empowerment.

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Myles Monroe once said, "So many people spend so much time trying to meet other people they never meet themselves." In episode 8 of The Hope Zone, prepare to discover what makes you uniquely you. If you've ever wanted to be able to answer the questions, "Who am I?" "What is my why?" and "What is my purpose?" then this is the perfect episode for you. In a world that seeks to define us by superficial standards, it's time to redefine who you see and the value you bring to the table!

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Getting divorced can't take this away from you! Going through a financial crisis can't take this away from you! Getting fired from your job can't take this away from you! The word brilliant is often used to describe a person who is extremely intelligent. As you enter The Hope Zone for episode 7, discover the most brilliant thing you could do in this season of your life.

The HOPE Zone...where there's HOPE for every situation!

Do you have a hard time saying NO without feeling guilty? Do you often put other people’s feelings before yours?  Do you struggle with negative feelings about yourself that you can’t seem to shake?  As you enter The Hope Zone with Dr. B for episode 5, we’re continuing our two-part series on the need to “baggage check” the lies we have believed, and how these lies have affected us. In part two, get ready to say “goodbye lies, hello truth” as you discover the power you have to change what you believe! Also, discover your 12 assertive rights that will empower you to find your voice so you can confidently set boundaries with others unapologetically! 

The HOPE Zone...where there's HOPE for every situation!

In our third episode of Soul Feast, we’re exploring the ideas of guilt and confession - wondering, what is at the root of our experience of feeling “guilty”? Another way of asking this is: “What is your emotion of “guilt” communicating to you?  

"Guilt is an emotion that we experience when we fall short of our own expectations or standards." - Brené Brown

What about when our emotion of guilt is felt as falling short of God's expectations or standards?
Liz & Cari

References
Brené Brown - Atlas of the Heart
Mark McMinn - Psychology, Theology, and Spirituality in Christian Counselling
Richard Foster - Celebration of Discipline
S. Bruce Marramore - Religious Psychologist
Worship Sourcebook 2nd Edition - CRC Worship Planning and Leading
2 Corinthians 7:10, NIV
Luke 22:34, NIV
Matthew 27:3, NIV

In our Lenten series, Soul Feast, we’re using the dual lens of Counselling Therapist (Liz Kahle) and Christian Spirituality (Pastor Cari) in hopes of gaining a deeper understanding of what our soul is, how to become more aware of our soul, and what it may be communicating to us right now.

The basic definition we’re using for the soul comes from the work of Ruth Haley-Barton who defines the soul as the core of our very selves. Which we would add, points to our truest identity.

It’s within this context that we’re going to try to tackle the big topics of sin and shame as they are deeply interwoven into the very fabric of life, and deeply impact our connections.

Before we dive in, we’d like to take a moment to ground our conversation in the love and hope we are moving toward in this season of Lent.

Richard Foster writes,“At the heart of God is the desire to give and to forgive. Because of this, He set the entire redemptive process that culminated on the cross and was confirmed in the resurrection. The usual notion of what Jesus did on the cross runs something like this: people were so bad and so mean and God was so angry with them that he could not forgive them unless something big enough took the rap for the whole lot of them. Nothing could be further from the truth. Love, not anger, brought Jesus to the cross. Jesus knew that by his vicarious suffering he could actually absorb all the evil of humanity and so heal it, forgive it, redeem it.”

It's from this place of greatest love, and the movement toward healing, forgiveness and transformation - that we talk about sin and shame in the second episode of Soul Feast  - A Lenten Series by Counselling Therapist Liz Kahle and Pastor Cari Fydirchuk. 

References:
Richard Foster - Celebration of Discipline
Brene Brown - Altas of the Heart 
Mark McKinnon - Counselling Therapist and Christian lens 
Gregory Boyle - The Whole Language - The Power of Extravagant Tenderness 
Genesis 3:15, NIV
Genesis 1:26-28
Luke 5:16, NIV
Luke 15 - The Prodigal Son 
Ignatian Spiritual Exercises 

LOVE, LOVE , LOVE and being IN LOVE...
What is it all about?
Can we tell the difference or are we in a constant state of flux?
The big question is can everyone fall in love? Are some people missing that gene or is love a learnt behaviour?

Music clip courtesy of Haddaway with 'What is Love'

Trauma-related guilt is common, associated with posttraumatic mental health problems, and can persist after posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) treatment. Dr Norman is a psychologist with experience treating, researching and training others on PTSD. We discuss moral injuries, survivors guilt and how so often shame and guilt play a big role in PTSD. Trauma-informed guilt reduction therapy focuses on this guilt and shame. Dr Norman goes in detail how targeting guilt appears to be an effective means for reducing posttraumatic symptoms and distress. 

This topic in particular was one that caught my eye. I have tried different therapies and one session my therapist asked me to look for hotspots. This really worked for me. So I just thought of all the chaotic moments that I experienced while deployed. Through meditation I have been able to identify when I first feel my triggered trauma in my stomach. It feels like I just ate a jar of ghost peppers. My stomach feels on fire from the inside. I processed all the situations I could think of and noticed I did not have any “hotspot” related to combat. All of my triggers were attached to the innocent people I saw murdered. The ones without weapons. Dr Norman mentioned something that is so very true for me. She mentioned some veterans hold on to that guilt or shame. I didn’t want to let go of some of that shame because I felt I deserved that pain. I hate that this episode's description went a bit dark. My take away from this is that there are wonderful people, like Dr Norman who are always looking for new and better ways to reach us who are struggling and help us find a path to raising our quality of life. Don’t give up, and don’t wait to make positive changes. 

Resources Mentioned:
Therapy
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Honest communication and feedback

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This episode means a lot to me in that it's been a life long journey and exploration of how I interact with the world and with my internal process. Forgiveness can feel confusing.... how do we forgive? Forgiveness can seem impossible, especially when we've been betrayed and hurt. Something deep in us knows that forgiveness is in our best interest and sometimes it can be easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves. Often we think forgiveness has the vibration of "it's all ok," or "no worries." But forgiveness is not about compliance. It's about freeing ourselves so we can stop dragging painful and transformative moments throughout all aspects of our lives. Please subscribe, follow, share, and if you feel inspired, leave a review! I hope you enjoy and I look forward to see you again soon.

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"Forgiveness is letting go of the idea that the past could have been different" -Chloe Lionheart

PRACTICES:

Loving-Kindness Meditation (Metta Meditation)

1. Happiness
2. Health
3. Safety
4. Peace

May you…
May I…

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Ho’oponopono

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

I love you


RESOURCES:

To learn more about Yom Kippur:
https://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/yom-kippur-history-and-overview

VIDEOS:

“Why forgiveness is worth it” 

https://www.ted.com/talks/sarah_montana_why_forgiveness_is_worth_it?language=en

“Healing our hearts and the world through ho’oponopono”

https://xmonks.com/healing-our-hearts-and-the-world-through-hooponopono/

“Loving-Kindness Meditation (Metta)”

https://www.mindful.org/this-loving-kindness-meditation-is-a-radical-act-of-love/

"Listening to Shame"
https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en

"The Power of Vulnerability"
https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en

TUNES:

"Forgive Them Father" by Lauryn Hill
https://youtu.be/RTQL42onK08

"Please Forgive Me" by Bryan Adams
https://youtu.be/7x8wPt8xarE

"Ms. Jackson" by Outkast
https://youtu.be/MYxAiK6VnXw

"Sorry" by Justin Bieber
https://youtu.be/fRh_vgS2dFE

"Sorry" by SOJA
https://youtu.be/rfnuhefGC78

Do you have a secret? Do you feel ashamed sharing your truth because people might judge and misunderstand you? Or are you simply not comfortable discussing some important topics because social customs restrict them?

If your answer is YES in any or all of this, then this episode is perfect for you!

A truly empowered woman is not afraid of what people will say. She speaks her truth and shares her pleasure centre through embodiment, creativity, and love.

Today, Nicole gets vulnerable and shares her personal pleasure journey. She talks about her secret childhood exploration and how she opened up to herself to feel and be better as a powerful woman. She also speaks about the truth of sensual shame and how to connect with your pleasure, own your expression, and be your true self.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Sexual innocence and curiosity
• Childhood sexual trauma
• Early masturbation
• Desensitisation
• Awakening your Pleasure centre
• Exploring your Orgasmic bliss 

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This is part one of season three finale of the Wednesdays With Watson podcast, and a portion of Amy's story never published anywhere else.

Purity Culture messaging, particularly in Generation X has served to harm more than help. This episode highlights a first hand account of how constant bombardment of purity culture messaging affected Amy as a survivor of sexual abuse. While she is clear on this episode that the Bible does, in fact, teach sexual purity, it is important to deliver the message to young people in a way that takes into account that 1:4 girls are sexually abused, and 1:7 boys share the same experience (though probably vastly under reported).

This episode chronicles the day that Amy finally decided to address this is her counselor's office and the healing that came from that session. It provides hope for any one of you out there listening that live with shame of sexual abuse for any reason, but particularly as a result of purity culture messaging . Shame does not belong to you and is a tool our our enemy. We want you to heal just like Amy has!

This is an incredibly vulnerable episode, safe for young ears, and listeners are left with the Hope of the completed work of Jesus on the cross, as you are literally taken through Amy's healing and release of shame and guilt meant only to destroy her.

Special thanks to Josh Bales, whose song "Isn't That Amazing Grace" is featured at the end of the episode with just a taste of the message at the beginning of the podcast. You can find all of Josh's music at his website, he is prolific songwriter and musician and we are incredibly grateful he allowed us to use his song on this episode.

"Come out sinners from those shadows every corner of your shame, don't you know you are His beloved, you don't have to hide your face, isn't that amazing grace?"

This episode will be followed up in two weeks with Dr. Thomas Petit's perspective of the healing session that allowed Amy to put her felt shame and guilt behind her. This is the solo finale of season three, a season where we have focused on childhood trauma.

If we left the 99 to find the one for this episode, every tear shed on this episode is worth it.

***"Isn't That Amazing Grace" Copyright Josh Bales, song used by written consent from artist.***

You ARE:
SEEN KNOWN HEARD LOVED VALUED

In this episode of the Conscious Creator Podcast Dr. Nima Rahmany courageously brings us into his own experience of a personal relationship that was bonded by trauma. The trials and tribulations that lead the relationship to it all one day erupting into verbal and physical violence. Fast forward to today, in taking accountability for his actions and speaking about it all publicly he has now developed a method in his work to help others to get through trauma in their lives.


Episode Quotes

“After one divorce and 10 failed relationships later, the call was out to figure it out” - Nima Rahmany

“Making 6 figure, really comfortable salary running my chiropractic clinic, I knew there was something missing and had to take the leap to make a change, now we have a global community…” - Nima Rahmany

“To become a cycle breaker it requires us to take ownership of our shame, shame is the greatest threat to the ego as the ego does not want to be seen as bad or the villain” - Nima Rahmany


Episode Resources Mentioned

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Guest Contact Info

YOUTUBE – https://www.youtube.com/c/drnimarahmany 
FB – @doctornimarahmany
Insta - @drnima

As a parent, have you ever felt overwhelmed by the sheer size of your job and the range of the responsibilities it involves? Do you ever feel like you've done enough, or are you always suffering with the nagging feeling that you are falling short and it's your fault that things aren't perfect? Well Clare certainly has, so she asked us to talk about Mom guilt. What we discovered has blown our minds. 

Also, have you ever had that horrible feeling that your teenager is getting too friendly with the wrong kind of people? What do you do if you don't like their new friends? We researched what the experts say about it and talk about things that you can consider before wading in. 

References: 
Helena Morrissey, Good Time to be a Girl

https://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/why-mom-guilt-is-the-biggest-lie-of-all/
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/mom-guilt/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-teen-doctor/201605/10-tips-when-you-dont-your-teens-friends
https://grownandflown.com/what-not-say-dont-like-teens-friends/
https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/does-your-child-have-toxic-friends-6-ways-to-deal-with-the-wrong-crowd/

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