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    Best of: Doggy Style Tricks & Performance Tips

    enJanuary 21, 2022

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    • Exploring Sexual Pleasure in SummerEmbrace summer and enhance sexual pleasure with tools like Promescent's delay spray and warming arousal gel, or the iconic Magic Wand vibrator. Adjust positions for comfort and explore new ways to enhance pleasure.

      Summer is the season of passion and exploration when it comes to sex, and there are various tools and products that can help enhance the experience. Promescent, for instance, offers pleasure-enhancing products such as a legendary delay spray for men to last longer and a warming arousal gel for women to feel more pleasure. Another iconic product is the Magic Wand, a vibrator that has earned a reputation as a culture icon and a symbol of unapologetic pleasure. Despite some common discomforts during certain positions like doggy style, making adjustments to suit individual bodies can lead to satisfying experiences. Overall, embracing summer and exploring new ways to enhance sexual pleasure is encouraged. For exclusive discounts on Promescent products and the Magic Wand, visit promescent.com/emily and sexwithemily.com/magicwand, respectively.

    • Exploring Intimacy in Doggy StyleExperiment with variations of doggy style like 'sandwich doggy style' or 'rear view' for a more intimate connection. Communicate, set intentions, and embrace your body for a pleasurable and meaningful sexual experience.

      Making love in the doggy style position doesn't have to be impersonal or disconnected. By trying variations like the "sandwich doggy style" or the "rear view," where you make eye contact and connect visually, you can create a more intimate and satisfying experience for both partners. Remember, communication and connection are key in any sexual relationship. Additionally, the speaker encourages listeners to set intentions for their sexual experiences and to embrace their bodies, no matter their shape or size. Whether you're in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship, or dealing with body dysmorphia, the goal is to make every sexual encounter a pleasurable and meaningful one. So don't be afraid to experiment and try new things, and always remember to communicate openly with your partner.

    • Deepen the connection during doggy style with eye contact and free hand stimulationMisconceptions about doggy style include lack of eye contact and insufficient clitoral stimulation for women. Young men face common sexual performance issues, challenging the belief that only older men experience such problems.

      There are common misconceptions and challenges surrounding sexual experiences, particularly during doggy style and for young men. Regarding doggy style, the importance of eye contact and ensuring both partners' pleasure is emphasized. Many people may be afraid to look into their partner's eyes during this position, but it can lead to a deeper connection and heightened experience. Additionally, women may not receive enough clitoral stimulation during doggy style, so it's crucial for partners to use their hands freely to touch and stimulate erogenous zones. As for young men, a study revealed that nearly 40% of men between the ages of 16 and 34 have experienced sexual performance issues in the last year. This statistic challenges the common belief that sexual dysfunction only affects older men. These issues include a lack of interest in sex, lack of arousal, pain, and difficulty getting or maintaining erections or climaxing. It's essential to have an open and honest conversation about these challenges, as they can be just as debilitating for young people as they can be for older adults. Furthermore, men are less likely to discuss their sexual health concerns with their partners or doctors, which can hinder seeking help and understanding.

    • Open and honest communication about sexual healthEffective communication can lead to understanding, support, and improved relationships. Sexual challenges are common and not a sign of weakness. Advocate for comprehensive sex education and reduce stigma.

      Effective communication about sexual health and concerns is crucial for both men and women. Men often suffer in silence due to societal pressures, leading to negative physical and mental health consequences. Young men, in particular, may struggle with sexual dysfunction due to a lack of proper sex education and the prevalence of pornography. This can perpetuate a cycle of anxiety and self-esteem issues. It's essential to remember that sexual challenges are common and not a sign of weakness or old age. Instead of blame and self-doubt, open and honest conversations about these issues can lead to understanding, support, and improved relationships. Additionally, it's important to advocate for comprehensive sex education and reduce the stigma surrounding sexual health discussions.

    • Exploring Relationships and Nutritious BreadFind what works best for you in relationships and bread, be it monogamy or alternative structures, and remember that communication and effort are essential in all relationships.

      There are various ways to approach relationships and lifestyle choices based on personal preferences and needs. When it comes to bread, Hero Bread offers a delicious and nutritious option that fits well into health goals. With its impressive texture and taste, it's a versatile choice for various dishes. As for relationships, according to Chris' discussion, humans may not be naturally monogamous, and it's essential to explore what kind of relationship suits us best. Monogamy might work for some, but for others, alternative relationships like polyamory could be a better fit. It's crucial to remember that all relationships require effort and communication, and no single relationship structure guarantees happiness. Ultimately, it's essential to be open-minded and flexible in our choices and not judge ourselves or others based on societal norms. Whether it's bread or relationships, it's essential to find what works best for us as individuals.

    • Exploring Open Relationships and Sexual ComfortHonesty and communication are crucial in open relationships. People may experience jealousy, but discussing it openly can lead to a healthy dynamic. Men often report discomfort during sex in the doggy style position, so exploring alternatives or using aids can help minimize pain and increase pleasure.

      Open relationships can work with rigorous honesty and communication. People in such relationships experience jealousy, but they have language around it and discuss it openly. Some find it to be healthy. Regarding sexual concerns, a common position that causes discomfort for men is doggy style, with 41% reporting penile fractures in this position. To minimize pain during sex, couples can explore alternative positions or use aids like the Onut silicone ring. Additionally, communication and experimentation are key to finding pleasure and reducing discomfort.

    • Be Clear About Your Relationship GoalsConsider what you truly want in a relationship and communicate openly with your partner to ensure mutual understanding and happiness.

      It's important to be clear about what you want in a relationship and be honest with yourself and your partner. Giovanna, a 42-year-old single mom, is struggling with the decision to continue seeing a divorced man who has made it clear he's not looking for a relationship. While the sex is good, she's unsure if she wants to continue without any commitment. However, she's also unsure if she wants a relationship herself. The expert suggests that instead of trying to control the situation, Giovanna should consider what she truly wants and what she's capable of. If she decides to continue seeing this man, she should communicate openly and honestly about her feelings. Alternatively, she could take time for herself and not rush back into dating if she's not ready. Ultimately, it's essential to be true to oneself and prioritize personal happiness.

    • Prioritizing Personal Desires in RelationshipsCommunicate openly, try new experiences, and ensure proper condom fit to prioritize personal desires and needs in relationships, fostering growth and fulfillment.

      It's essential to prioritize personal desires and needs in relationships, even if it means making adjustments such as trying different condom sizes or exploring new sexual experiences within the boundaries of commitment. Andrew's concern about lasting longer during sex can be addressed by ensuring a proper condom fit or practicing edging techniques. Meanwhile, Mike's curiosity about exploring BDSM with his wife should be approached with open communication and patience, rather than resorting to cheating. Both individuals can find fulfillment within their relationships by addressing their concerns and exploring new experiences together.

    • Exploring the complexities of sexuality and body imagePatience, communication, self-love, and education are crucial in understanding and appreciating unique bodies and fostering a healthy sexual experience.

      Exploration and patience are key in understanding and appreciating the complexities of sexuality and body image. Amber, a listener from Florida, shared her insecurities about her vagina's appearance, feeling that it didn't measure up to societal standards. However, the discussion emphasized that everyone's bodies are unique, and it's essential to educate ourselves about the diversity of vulvas and embrace our own. Patience and communication with partners are also crucial in exploring new desires and boundaries. The fear of rejection or judgment can be a significant barrier, but self-love and acceptance are essential. The conversation underscored the importance of challenging limiting beliefs and broadening our perspectives to foster a healthier and more fulfilling sexual experience.

    • Embrace Self-Love and Body PositivityAppreciate unique bodies, refrain from negative self-talk, and practice self-love for improved confidence, sexual confidence, and relationships.

      Self-love and body positivity are crucial for overall well-being and happiness. The speaker encourages listeners, specifically women, to appreciate their bodies, including their vaginas, and to refrain from negative self-talk. She emphasizes that there is no "right" vulva or body type, and that everyone's experiences and appearances are unique. The speaker also suggests practicing mindful masturbation and standing in front of a mirror to find things to love about one's body. By focusing on self-love and acceptance, individuals can improve their confidence, sexual confidence, and relationships. They can also reduce feelings of jealousy and become better humans. Overall, the importance of loving oneself cannot be overstated.

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    01:22:59 - Vanderpump Rules (TW)
    01:46:14 - RHOBH
    02:08:42 - Traitors
    02:13:45 - Bachelor
    02:39:21 - Outro

     

    Bad Boys, Bondage, and Afternoon Delight

    Bad Boys, Bondage, and Afternoon Delight
    The year is coming to a close, but the sex talk is still going stronger than ever! On today’s show, Emily is joined by Producer Madison to share some spicy sex tidbits and help you through your bedroom and dating conundrums. Is your stalling sex life in need of a jumpstart? Are you wondering how to break out the handcuffs in the bedroom? Maybe you’re unsure on how to change up your “bad boy” dating routine when you’ve finally found Mr. Nice Guy. Whatever your qualm, Emily has the advice to get you pointed in the right direction. Plus, she reveals what time of day your girl is most likely to climb to her sexual peak! So check it out and pay attention! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.