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    • Exploring Core Erotic Desires Through Past RelationshipsExploring past relationships can trigger core erotic desires, leading to self-discovery or communication with a partner for fulfillment.

      Thinking about past relationships or experiencing emotions related to them does not necessarily mean a desire to be with that person again. Instead, it could be a trigger for exploring core erotic desires and turning them into reality. During today's episode of Sex with Emily, the topic of praise kink was discussed, which falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires. Dr. Emily also answered listener questions, including one about fantasizing about a kinkier ex while being in a loving relationship and another about being aroused when one's partner receives attention from other men. The episode was sponsored by Morgasm's CBD infused arousal lube, which can enhance blood flow, reduce inflammation, and provide longer and more intense orgasms. Additionally, the magic wand, a powerful and iconic vibrator, was introduced as a trusted confidant for pleasure seekers. Overall, the episode emphasized the importance of exploring one's desires and finding ways to fulfill them, whether through self-discovery or communication with a partner.

    • Make summer hotter with Promescent's sex enhancement productsPromescent's delay spray and arousal gel can enhance sexual experiences during summer, and communication and praise can add excitement and tension to relationships

      Summer can be even hotter and more pleasurable with the help of Promescent's line of sex enhancement products. For men, the legendary delay spray can help last longer and enhance orgasms, while women can enjoy the warming arousal gel for increased pleasure. Additionally, having a "praise kink," or being turned on by receiving praise and compliments, is a common kink that can add excitement and sexual tension to relationships. It's important to communicate your needs and ask for affirmations and positive feedback from your partner to build a healthy and satisfying sexual connection. Promescent's products can help enhance these experiences and make summer the sexiest season yet. Use the exclusive discount code "emily" at promescent.com to try them out.

    • Genuine praises enhance emotional and sexual connectionExpressing appreciation and admiration through compliments builds confidence and strengthens relationships

      Giving and receiving genuine praises in a relationship, whether it's called a "praise kink" or not, can significantly enhance the emotional and sexual connection between partners. It's important to remember that compliments are not weapons or bargaining tools, but rather expressions of appreciation and admiration. Withholding compliments based on the belief that it gives away power to the other person isn't always healthy. Giving and receiving praises can help build confidence, especially for those struggling with body image issues. Praises can be verbal or nonverbal, and they don't always have to be associated with power play. Ultimately, incorporating praises into your relationship can make both partners feel more present, accepted, and pleasured in the bedroom.

    • Praise and affirmation boost sexual experiencesExpressing praise and affirmation towards your partner can enhance sexual experiences by boosting confidence and desire. Understanding and embracing your core erotic desires can lead to more pleasurable and authentic sexual encounters.

      Expressing praise and affirmation towards your partner can significantly enhance your sexual experiences. This phenomenon, referred to as "praise kink," can help boost confidence and desire in the bedroom. Our core erotic desires, shaped by past experiences, also play a crucial role in our sexual motivations and turn-ons. Understanding and embracing these desires can lead to more pleasurable and authentic sexual encounters. So, don't hesitate to share your admiration and compliments with your partner, and be open to exploring the unique aspects of your sexuality.

    • Understanding unique sexual desiresExploring fantasies and communicating openly can lead to greater sexual satisfaction by fulfilling unique desires.

      Everyone has unique sexual desires and needs, which can be influenced by various factors from our past experiences and upbringing. Two common desires are the praise kink and feeling special, but some people might also be attracted to humiliation or transgressive experiences. Understanding these desires can lead to greater sexual satisfaction, as they provide clues about what we truly want in a sexual context. The first step to actualizing these desires is to explore our fantasies and identify any recurring themes or emotional connections. By communicating openly with our partners about our desires, we can create a consensual and fulfilling sexual relationship.

    • Effective communication and collaboration for mutual pleasureUnderstand desires, use open-ended questions, introduce fantasies gradually with consent, prioritize pleasure through planning and collaboration, ask for specific actions for nurturing, explore power dynamics with compassion and curiosity, consider low-carb Hero Bread for dietary concerns

      Effective communication and collaboration are key to achieving mutual pleasure and exploring new sexual experiences. To do this, it's important to understand your own desires and needs, as well as those of your partner. Use open-ended questions and the "yes, no, maybe" guide to start conversations about new ideas. Introduce elements of your fantasy life into your real life, but do so gradually and with consent. Remember, prioritizing pleasure means planning and collaborating to ensure both partners' needs are met. For those seeking to feel nurtured, ask for specific actions that make you feel loved and cared for. For those seeking to feel powerful, introduce elements of control and submission in a compassionate and curious way. And for those with dietary concerns, consider trying Hero Bread for a low-carb alternative to traditional breads that still delivers on taste and texture.

    • Exploring new desires and experiences in relationshipsOpen communication and acceptance can lead to deeper bonds and new discoveries in relationships and food choices

      Open-mindedness and communication in relationships can lead to discovering and exploring new desires and experiences. Seth shared his journey of discovering his kinky side later in life and how it brought him closer to his partners. Hero bread, on the other hand, was a topic about finding a versatile and delicious low-carb option for various food cravings. Seth's story highlights the importance of communication and acceptance in relationships. He didn't realize his interest in kink until his late twenties, and it took time for him to feel comfortable sharing it with his partners. His experiences showed that being open to each other's desires and exploring new things together can deepen the bond between partners. In the same vein, the conversation about hero bread emphasized the importance of finding versatile and delicious options for various dietary needs. Hero bread offers a range of low-carb options for those who want to enjoy classic sandwiches, burgers, or even indulge in pastries without the guilt. Overall, both topics underscore the significance of being open-minded, communicative, and accepting in various aspects of life, whether it's relationships or food choices.

    • Communication and exploration are key to satisfying your partner's core erotic desiresTalk openly with your partner about fantasies and explore new things together. Laugh and communicate to ensure a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship.

      Communication and exploration are key to satisfying your partner's core erotic desires. It's important to create a safe and comfortable space for both partners to share their fantasies and explore new things together. Queefing or other bodily noises during sex are normal and should not be a source of embarrassment. Sex is meant to be fun and enjoyable, and being able to laugh and communicate with your partner is essential for a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship. If you're feeling uncomfortable or embarrassed about something in the bedroom, it's important to talk to your partner about it and find a solution together. Remember, sex is messy and imperfect, and that's okay. The most important thing is to trust and be comfortable with your partner, and to approach sex with a sense of adventure and playfulness.

    • Communicating openly about sexNormalize unexpected experiences, discuss desires and boundaries, and embrace sexuality with trust and understanding in a loving relationship.

      Sex doesn't always go as planned and it's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and any discomforts that arise. It's also crucial to normalize the fact that sex can be messy and unexpected, and that having a trusting and loving relationship allows for flexibility and understanding when things don't go as intended. Additionally, exploring new experiences and fantasies can add excitement and fulfillment to a relationship, and it's important to tap into your core erotic desires to fuel the fire for experimentation. Remember, everyone's desires and fantasies are valid and unique, and there's no need to compare or feel embarrassed about them. Embrace your sexuality and continue to be open to new experiences and communication with your partner.

    • Exploring cuckold fantasies with your partnerCommunicate openly about your fantasies, ensure comfort, and explore consensually for a deeper connection and satisfying sexual relationship.

      Having fantasies about your partner being pleasured by others, also known as cuckold fantasies, is a common and healthy part of sexual exploration. These fantasies can stem from a desire to see your partner being incredibly pleasured, rather than a desire to be humiliated. Sharing these fantasies with your partner can deepen your connection and open up new avenues for sexual play. It's important to communicate openly and honestly about your fantasies and to ensure that both partners are comfortable with exploring them. Engaging in role play, dirty talk, and other forms of sexual exploration can help bring these fantasies to life in a consensual and enjoyable way. Remember, there's no pressure to share your fantasies with your partner, but doing so can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationship.

    • Exploring consensual fantasies and activitiesEmbrace your inner kinkiness, explore sexuality safely and honestly, and remember everyone's experiences are valid. Don't be afraid to prioritize pleasure.

      Exploring consensual fantasies and activities that bring joy and pleasure is a healthy part of life, even if society may label it as "nasty" or taboo. Sex with Emily encourages listeners to tap into their desires and embrace their inner kinkiness, as long as it is consensual and respectful to all parties involved. Listeners are encouraged to explore their sexuality in a safe and honest way, and to remember that everyone's experiences and preferences are valid. So, don't be afraid to get kinky and prioritize your pleasure! Remember to like, subscribe, and leave a review on your preferred podcast platform, and follow Sex with Emily on social media for more resources and guidance. If you have questions, feel free to call the hotline or visit the website. Special thanks to Acast for making the Sex with Emily podcast possible. Let's keep the conversation going!

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