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    Episode 127 The week in ADHD (35)

    enSeptember 01, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Unexpected challenges of living with ADHDLiving with ADHD can make routine activities overwhelming and decision making challenging. Unexpected changes and hypomania can impact sleep patterns.

      Living with ADHD can bring unexpected challenges, even in seemingly routine activities like shopping at Ikea or making decisions. James and Sam shared their experiences of being overwhelmed by unexpected changes and the impact of hypomania on James's sleep patterns. The podcast also touched on the theme of decision making and how it can be a struggle for some individuals with ADHD. The duo encouraged listeners to submit questions and testimonials for future episodes. Despite the occasional interruptions and chaos, they continue to produce the podcast as a regular beat in their lives.

    • Mental health challenges and distractions leading to impulsive behaviorsMental health struggles can result in impulsive and compulsive behaviors, causing unnecessary stress and financial consequences. Self-awareness and mindfulness are crucial in managing daily life and seeking help when needed.

      Mental health challenges and distractions can lead to impulsive and compulsive behaviors, causing unnecessary stress and financial consequences. The speaker shared experiences of losing control during a shopping trip due to frustration with self-scanning technology and an addiction to online chess that led to unproductive hours. Another individual admitted to working during their annual leave and forgetting important errands, resulting in unnecessary expenses. These behaviors, driven by various factors including addiction, stress, and forgetfulness, highlight the importance of self-awareness and mindfulness in managing daily life. The speaker also touched upon the diagnostic criteria for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), specifically the tendency to make careless mistakes or lack attention to detail. These shared experiences underscore the need for open conversations about mental health and the importance of seeking help when needed.

    • Navigating Pictorial Instructions with ADHDPeople with ADHD may struggle to understand visual instructions due to differences in learning styles. IKEA furniture instructions and movie theater seat plans are examples of such challenges.

      Instructions, particularly those with a predominantly pictorial format like those from IKEA, can be challenging for individuals with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). The speaker in this conversation shared her experience of assembling furniture from IKEA, which involved dealing with incorrectly ordered instructions and mismatched parts. She also mentioned her struggle with understanding a seat plan for a movie theater, which was presented in a pictorial format. The speaker emphasized that such difficulties in comprehending visual instructions are a common challenge for people with ADHD, and it can be baffling when trying to make sense of seemingly simple visual information. The speaker also shared her concern about her son's decision to travel to unfamiliar places and her own experience of getting things wrong while assembling furniture from IKEA, which led to a humorous exchange about Benny Hill and Rudy Gal. Overall, the conversation highlighted the importance of considering different learning styles and the potential challenges that individuals with ADHD may face when dealing with pictorial instructions.

    • Determining Neurotypical Brains and Comparing to Neurodiverse BrainsWhile typical brain structures are well-known, identifying neurodivergent brains and comparing them to neurotypical ones is complex and costly. Everyone's brain is unique, and neurodivergent brains may not fit neatly into typical categories.

      While we have a good understanding of typical brain structures through centuries of research, distinguishing between neurodivergent and neurotypical brains is a complex and expensive process. During a recent podcast episode, the hosts discussed the question of how researchers determine what makes up a neurotypical brain and if they have compared it directly to neurodiverse brains. The hosts agreed that such studies must have been conducted but acknowledged the complexity of the issue, as brains are not all the same and scanning them is costly. The hosts also emphasized that everyone's brains are unique and neurodivergent, and the typical structures are just a reference point. The conversation highlighted the ongoing importance of research in understanding the neurological differences between neurotypical and neurodivergent brains.

    • Understanding the Complexities of the Brain in ADHDNeuroscans are not used for ADHD diagnosis due to cost and inaccuracy. Brain differences in ADHD are being explored through research, but there's no 'neurotypical' brain. Astrocytes support brain function, but their role in ADHD is limitedly understood.

      Every brain looks different, and the diagnosis of ADHD is not based on brain scans due to both cost and inaccuracy. Neuroscientific research, such as the study on neural pruning in ADHD, provides valuable insights into brain differences, but there is no such thing as a "neurotypical" brain. Astrocytes, which support neurons in the brain, are an essential part of brain function, but there is limited scientific evidence specifically linking their role to ADHD. While neuroscientists continue to explore the complexities of the brain, it's important to remember that individual brains, including those with ADHD, exhibit unique characteristics.

    • Astrocytes' Role in Energy Production and AttentionAstrocytes are essential for brain energy production and attention, converting glucose into lactate and contributing to noradrenaline production.

      Astrocytes, a type of cell in the brain, play a crucial role in energy production and attention. The brain primarily functions on glucose, which astrocytes convert into lactate and shuttle to neurons for energy use. In Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), this system may not function optimally, leading to energy deficits in the brain. Astrocytes also contribute to noradrenaline production, which is involved in attention and managing overwhelming situations. Approximately one-third of the brain's mass consists of astrocytes, highlighting their significance. Masking, a term often used to describe hiding one's entire personality, is distinct from having different elements of our personality in various social environments. While most people adapt their behavior to fit different situations, masking involves hiding one's true identity due to fear of rejection or judgment. Understanding the roles of astrocytes and masking can provide insights into attention and neurodiversity.

    • Masking: Hiding One's True SelfMasking is a human experience where individuals hide their true selves for various reasons, including sociological norms, hiding disabilities, or coping mechanisms.

      Masking, or hiding one's true self, is a common human experience. Whether for sociological reasons, such as fitting in with norms or expectations, or to hide a disability like ADHD, masking is something that many people do at some point in their lives. This can include using social media to present an alternate version of oneself or masking in job interviews. Masking can also serve as a coping mechanism for those with low self-esteem or a desire to appear more confident. The use of ellipses (dot dot dot) at the end of sentences can also be a form of masking, giving the appearance of relaxation or nonchalance. Ultimately, masking is a complex phenomenon that intersects psychology and sociology, and it is a part of the human experience for many individuals, neurodivergent or not.

    • Learning from Past DecisionsReflecting on past decisions, even small ones, helps us learn and grow. Not all consequences are catastrophic, and making a winnable decision is better than indecision.

      The consequences of most decisions, especially small ones, are not as catastrophic as we may think. Both Sam and Alex shared their experiences of making seemingly bad decisions and how they didn't lead to disastrous outcomes. They emphasized that it's essential to reflect on past decisions, not just the big ones, and consider the potential consequences of each choice. They also suggested that making a decision that is winnable, even if it's not the perfect one, is better than indecision. Overall, the conversation highlighted the importance of learning from past decisions and recognizing that the stakes are often not as high as we believe.

    • Break down tasks into smaller, achievable steps for winsBreaking tasks into smaller, achievable steps can help individuals with ADHD feel successful, build momentum, and improve self-esteem

      Making every decision or task winnable can help individuals with ADHD feel more successful and less like a loser. Instead of setting unrealistic goals or tasks that may lead to failure, it's essential to break down larger tasks into smaller, achievable steps. For instance, instead of trying to clean your teeth for five minutes straight, start by just rinsing your toothbrush or getting the toothpaste out. This approach can help build momentum and motivation to complete the task fully. Additionally, focusing on winnable decisions can help improve overall self-esteem and confidence. Remember, the key is to set realistic and specific goals that can be achieved, rather than setting yourself up for potential failure.

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    • Creating a supportive environment that accommodates sensory needs, communication preferences, and individual differences can help prevent and alleviate autistic burnout.
    • Educating employers, educators, and healthcare providers about autistic burnout can lead to more inclusive and accommodating environments for autistic individuals.
    • Understanding one's neurodivergent traits can help individuals recognize their limits, advocate for their needs, and navigate challenges related to autistic burnout.
    • Building a support network of understanding friends, family members, therapists, and fellow neurodivergent individuals can provide emotional support and validation during periods of autistic burnout.

    Benefits of having an autism diagnosis (either self-diagnosis or formal diagnosis) for myself

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    • It helps individuals access appropriate support, accommodations, and resources tailored to their specific differences and strengths.
    • Self-identification empowers individuals to embrace their identity and connect with a supportive community of like-minded individuals.
    • Diagnosis provides validation and a sense of relief for many individuals who have long struggled with feeling different or misunderstood.
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    Identifying as autistic can come with challenges and a range of emotions, including anger, grief, and frustration.

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    Self-compassion and rest are essential for managing autistic burnout and maintaining overall well-being.

     

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    00:00 Introduction and Personal Update

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    11:19 Seeking Support and Advocacy

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    13:54 Navigating Small World and Limited Energy

    15:14 Accepting Where You Are

    16:33 The Impact of Autism Diagnosis

    17:54 The Complexity of Autism Presentation

    19:46 The Validity of Self-Diagnosis

    20:21 The Illusion of Neurotypical Functioning

    21:31 Embracing Autism as a Disability

    22:35 Understanding Autistic Burnout

    23:46 The Impact of Medical Appointments

    25:17 The Harsh Inner Critic and Self-Compassion

    26:12 Fear of Not Functioning

    27:05 The Lack of Recognition for Autistic Experiences

    28:11 Observing Reciprocity in Relationships

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    30:00 The Impact of Autistic Burnout on Work

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    32:20 Conclusion and Call to Share the Podcast

    Additional Takeaways

    Seek consent and ask for permission before sharing personal reactions or opinions in conversations.

    Be authentic and true to yourself in personal relationships, while also considering the needs and perspectives of others.

    Strive for a balance between routine and self-care, and be patient with yourself when facing setbacks.

    Set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion when working towards personal goals.

    Create an affirming household that acknowledges and accommodates the different needs of family members.

    Recognize and respect personal endurance and self-regulation in social situations.

    Embrace self-expression and navigate social interactions in a way that aligns with your neurodivergent traits.

    Take ownership of your own fulfillment and celebrate holidays in a way that aligns with your desires and needs.

    Seek support and embrace your sensitivity as a valuable aspect of your identity.

     

    Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introdruction:

     

    00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage

    01:28 Giving Consent in Relationships

    04:44 Being Authentic and Reacting in Personal Relationships

    07:27 Struggling with Routine and Self-Care

    10:05 Setting Expectations and Practicing Self-Compassion

    11:32 Navigating Family Dynamics and Accommodating Needs

    16:31 Managing Personal Endurance and Self-Regulation

    20:53 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Expression

    22:17 Celebrating Holidays and Self-Fulfillment

    25:36 Seeking Support and Embracing Sensitivity

    PODCAST HOST

    Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

    LINKS

     

    Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey

     

    HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

     

    Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

     

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    218 Navigating Change: How to Stay True to Yourself While Traveling

    218 Navigating Change: How to Stay True to Yourself While Traveling

    Navigating Change: How to Stay True to Yourself While Traveling

    Travelling and being a guest in someone’s home can be challenging due to change: adjusting to new routines, and being out of your routine. I spend a week with Jen, and we talk about checking in with each other, and my need for structure, and Jen’s lack of structure. We talk about structure vs. flexibility, and as an autistic, how do I honor how I’m wired and still go with the flow? We focus heavily on self-care and compassion. I also offer tips for travelling and packing that help me.

    CO-HOST

    Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

    HIGHLIGHTS

    Travel tips and trips when visiting

    ·         Create a master travel list on your computer to help you stay organized

    ·         Adapt your travel list for each trip to ensure you bring everything you need

    ·         Keep a post-it note nearby (if your travel list isn’t handy) to jot down things you think of later

    ·         Pack a carry-on suitcase to make traveling easier

    ·         Bring a little bag with all your toiletries to save time and space

    ·         Allow yourself to have objections to new places and experiences, and be willing to consider the possibilities of how a new experience might be amazing

    ·         Recognize that change and novelty can be difficult for people who like sameness. This doesn’t mean that those people won’t enjoy new experiences though

    ·         Try to focus on the positive aspects of new experiences, like the possibility of having an amazing time

    ·         Be aware that plane rides can be difficult for some autistics

    ·         Find ways to make plane rides more comfortable, like bringing a comfort item, downloaded movies, books, and noise-cancelling headphones

    ·         Consider traveling with a partner or friend who understands your needs

    ·         Research your destination ahead of time to find out what accommodations are available

    ·         Be open to trying new things, like taking a day trip to explore your destination - Remember to check your schedule and make sure you don't have any appointments or commitments you've forgotten about

    ·         Be patient with yourself and others, and recognize that everyone's feelings and needs matter

     

    Overall themes discussed in this episode

    ·         People who are autistic may become familiar with their behaviors and not have any idea that others may have judgements about them

    ·         Checking in with yourself and being able to recognize your own feelings is important

    ·         Nonviolent communication is a useful tool for problem-solving and understanding others' needs

    ·         Many behaviors that are considered unusual or abnormal are actually quite normal.  This is due to norms set by allistics (non-autstics).

    ·         It's important to talk about these behaviors so that people don't feel isolated or ashamed

    ·         Some autistics may have a hard time figuring out certain things

    ·         Coaching and support can be helpful for autistics

    ·         It's important to recognize that no behavior is inherently good or bad

    ·         Everyone's feelings and needs matter

    ·         Autistics can craft a lifestyle that meets their needs

    ·         Having a partner who understands your needs can be helpful

    Balancing the Need for Structure and Flexibility: Tips and Strategies – 

    ·       Start by acknowledging that both structure and flexibility are important for your well-being and productivity. While structure provides a sense of stability and predictability, flexibility allows you to adapt to changing circumstances and explore new opportunities. –

    ·         Identify your core values and priorities, and use them as a guide for creating a flexible yet structured routine. For example, if you value creativity and learning, you may want to set aside some time each day for reading, writing, or experimenting with new ideas. - Experiment with different time-management techniques and tools, such as time blocking, Pomodoro technique, or task batching. These methods can help you stay focused and organized while also allowing for some flexibility and spontaneity. –

    ·         Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to tune into your body and mind's needs. If you feel overwhelmed or stressed, take a break, go for a walk, or do some deep breathing exercises. If you feel energized and inspired, use that momentum to tackle more challenging tasks or try something new. –

    ·         Be open to feedback and adjust your routine as needed. If you find that a particular strategy or tool is not working for you, don't be afraid to try something else. Remember that flexibility is not about being wishy-washy or indecisive, but about being adaptable and resilient. –

    ·         Finally, be kind and compassionate to yourself. Balancing structure and flexibility is not always easy, and it's okay to make mistakes or have setbacks. Celebrate your successes, learn from your failures, and keep moving forward with a growth mindset.

    ·         By following these tips and strategies, you can create a routine that honors your need for structure and flexibility while also optimizing your productivity and well-being. Remember, it's not about finding the perfect balance, but about finding what works best for you in the moment.

     

    Tips for Showing Up Authentically Without Overperforming: -

    ·         Start by defining what authenticity means to you. What are your core values, beliefs, and passions? What makes you unique and special? Use these insights to guide your actions and decisions. –

    ·         Set realistic expectations for yourself and others. Don't try to be perfect or please everyone. Instead, focus on doing your best and being true to yourself. –

    ·         Practice self-compassion and self-care. Take breaks when you need them, prioritize your well-being, and avoid comparing yourself to others. –

    ·         Be honest and transparent in your communication. Speak your truth with kindness and respect, and listen actively to others' perspectives. - Set boundaries and say no when necessary.

    ·         Don't overcommit or take on more than you can handle. Learn to prioritize your time and energy based on your needs and goals. –

    ·         Embrace your imperfections and mistakes. Remember that failure is a natural part of growth and learning. Use setbacks as opportunities to reflect, learn, and improve. –

    ·         Finally, surround yourself with supportive and accepting people who appreciate you for who you are. Seek out communities and relationships that align with your values and interests.

    ·         By following these tips, you can show up authentically without feeling the pressure to overperform or conform to others' expectations. Remember that authenticity is not about being perfect or flawless, but about being true to yourself and living a meaningful and fulfilling life.

    PODCAST HOST

    Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA Profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

     

    CO-HOST BIO

    Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

    LINKS

    Jen’s Links

    Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

    Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ 

    Patricia’s Links

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    Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

     

    Where Are They Now?: Who Determines Your Worth in the Workplace

    Where Are They Now?: Who Determines Your Worth in the Workplace

    As the team prepares to come back with season four, we're catching up with previous guests to see how they're making out with the problems they shared with us. Enjoy this season two re-run with Deb JJ Lee and stay tuned to the end for an update on how she's doing. Season four of Well..Adjusting launches on March 19th!

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    Deb got lowballed by a prestigious and flush-with-cash company (we’re talking net worth in the billions). When they spoke out about it on social media, they were nearly canceled—which brought up the question: how do you fight for a fair rate? And when is it okay to speak publicly about an employer? 

    Connect with Deb JJ Lee on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok 

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