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    • Exploring Language Learning and Hiring PracticesImprove language skills with immersive programs like Rosetta Stone, and use LinkedIn to expand your hiring pool

      Improving language skills, especially for frequent travelers, can greatly enhance personal and professional experiences. The speaker shares his desire to learn Spanish better due to his frequent trips to Mexico and California. He expresses dissatisfaction with traditional language learning methods, such as textbooks, and praises Rosetta Stone for its immersive approach. Rosetta Stone, a trusted language learning program with 30 years of experience and 25 languages offered, allows users to learn by speaking, listening, and thinking in the target language. Its speech recognition features provide personalized feedback, making it an effective and valuable investment for lifelong language learning. Additionally, LinkedIn is highlighted as an essential tool for small business owners seeking to hire professionals, as it provides access to a large pool of candidates who may not be actively looking for new opportunities. In the context of the podcast, the speaker discusses the Eilish Poe series, focusing on the importance of understanding the motivations behind horrific events, even when no clear explanation exists. The speaker emphasizes that seeking answers is a natural response to inexplicable tragedies, and that Eilish's search for understanding continues to drive her character development.

    • Intruder's chilling movie choices revealedAn intruder spent 26 hours in a home's basement, watched disturbing movies like 'Kill Bill' and 'Parasite', and his actions were influenced by them.

      The speaker's encounter with a intruder in her home on November 5th was a harrowing experience marked by repeated visits from the police and the discovery that the intruder had been watching specific disturbing scenes from movies while hiding in her basement. The police shared this information with her father before telling her, which upset her. The intruder had spent 26 hours in the basement and had used items already there for comfort. The movies he watched included "Kill Bill," "Parasite," and a scene from "Midsummer" where elderly people jump off a cliff to their death. The speaker found it chilling that the intruder had watched these scenes multiple times, especially given what was later discovered about his actions. The incident was premeditated and seemed to be influenced by the movies he had watched.

    • A man's obsession with war and revenge scriptsAn individual's fascination with scripts of war and revenge doesn't necessarily lead to harmful behavior, but it can influence how they perceive and react to situations, especially when things don't go as planned.

      The individual in question had an unusual obsession with movies, scripts, and books, particularly those related to war and revenge. This obsession seemed to influence his behavior, leading him to romanticize or script out interactions. He became disturbed when things didn't go as planned and responded poorly to rejection. Despite his seemingly normal upbringing, it's unclear what caused him to develop these tendencies. It's important to remember that not everyone with a traumatic past becomes a psychopath, and it's not an excuse for harmful behavior. The individual continued to engage in normal activities before the incident, leading up to it. Ultimately, what triggered the snap remains unknown.

    • Family's lack of support after traumaThe absence of communication and understanding from a perpetrator's family can worsen the emotional pain and confusion for the victim. Acknowledging the full impact of the perpetrator's actions is crucial for healing.

      The lack of communication and support from the perpetrator's family after a traumatic event can add to the emotional pain and confusion for the victim. The speaker expresses frustration over the absence of contact and insensitive comments from the family, especially during significant days for the victim. The speaker also highlights the importance of acknowledging the full impact of the perpetrator's actions, including the harm inflicted on the victim. The speaker's experience underscores the need for open dialogue, understanding, and empathy towards victims of interpersonal violence.

    • Discovering Relief Through Therapy, Podcasts, and Affordable BrandsTherapy offers a safe space to address emotional burdens, BetterHelp is a convenient online therapy platform, Sofia with an f podcast covers taboo topics, Quince offers affordable and high-quality clothing and home essentials, and Pretty Litter provides effective cat litter and health monitoring.

      It's important to address and work through emotional burdens, and therapy can provide a safe and convenient space to do so. BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that offers flexibility and affordability. Sofia with an f is a raw and funny podcast that covers taboo topics related to sex, life, and mental health. Quince is a brand that offers high-quality, affordable clothing and home essentials. Pretty Litter is a cat litter that effectively traps odors and provides early signs of potential health issues. During the discussion, it was emphasized that bottled-up emotions can lead to negative outcomes, and therapy can help individuals work through their feelings and find relief. BetterHelp, an online therapy platform, was recommended as a convenient and flexible option for those considering starting therapy. Sofia with an f, a podcast that covers sex, life, mental health, and other taboo topics, was praised for its down-to-earth interviews and raw humor. Quince, a brand that offers timeless and affordable clothing and home essentials, was highlighted for its high-quality materials and ethical manufacturing practices. Lastly, Pretty Litter, a cat litter that effectively traps odors and provides early signs of potential health issues, was recommended as a must-have for cat owners. Overall, the conversation touched on various topics, including therapy, podcasts, fashion, and pet care.

    • Simple solutions to common problemsPretty Litter prevents smelly cat litter boxes and Rosetta Stone makes language learning enjoyable and efficient. Open communication is essential, and everyone deserves empathy and understanding.

      There are solutions to common problems, such as a smelly cat litter box or language learning, that can make life better without requiring excessive effort or expense. For instance, Pretty Litter is an effective alternative to traditional cat litter that helps prevent unpleasant odors. And Rosetta Stone offers an intuitive language learning program that immerses users in a new language naturally, making the learning process enjoyable and efficient. Another important takeaway is the importance of speaking up and addressing uncomfortable situations. In the discussion, a past relationship was revealed where a friend's ex-boyfriend had physically harmed his girlfriend. The friend had not shared this information with his current girlfriend, and she felt hurt and confused when she found out. This situation highlights the importance of open communication and the potential consequences of withholding information. Lastly, it's essential to remember that everyone has a past, and people should not be defined by their mistakes or past actions. It's crucial to approach situations with empathy and understanding, and to give people the benefit of the doubt. So, in summary, there are practical solutions to common problems, the importance of open communication, and the value of empathy and understanding.

    • John's violent past hidden from friendsJohn manipulated relationships and hid his violent behavior, leading to his untimely death. Listen to warnings about potential dangerous individuals.

      John's past behavior towards women, including violent incidents, was hidden from those around him. Despite warnings from a friend, John's friends in Spain were unaware of his violent past or even his death. They found out through the podcast. The mysterious girl John supposedly dated in Spain did not recall their relationship being serious, and they broke up before John left Spain. The reason for his sudden departure from Spain, which he claimed was due to the pandemic, was actually because of a broken relationship. This pattern of hiding his violent behavior and manipulating relationships continued throughout John's life, even leading to his untimely death. It's a stark reminder that appearances can be deceiving and that it's important to listen to warnings about potential dangerous individuals.

    • Ex-coworker's deceit led to dangerous situationDeceit and manipulation can lead to uncomfortable situations and even dangerous outcomes. Always communicate honestly and openly in relationships.

      Deceit and manipulation can lead to dangerous situations. The woman in this story shared an experience where her ex-coworker, who she had only briefly dated, had spread lies about their relationship to her friends in another country, even going so far as to claim they had lived together and were deeply in love. This false narrative led her to feel uncomfortable and uneasy when he suddenly returned to the country, eventually leading to a dangerous situation where he attempted to harm her. It's important to remember that deceit and manipulation can have serious consequences, and it's crucial to communicate honestly and openly in relationships.

    • Memories and attachments change over timeOur past experiences and attachments can lose significance as time passes, even seemingly important events can become mere blips in our lives.

      Our past experiences, no matter how significant they seemed at the time, may fade into insignificance with the passage of time. The speaker thought they were uncovering a mystery about a past relationship between a woman from Spain and a man named John. However, when they spoke to the woman, she revealed that she barely remembered John and hadn't thought about him in years. Even when she discovered that John had died, she was not overly affected. This experience highlights how our memories and attachments to people can change over time, and how seemingly important events can become mere blips in our lives.

    • The subject's actions were premeditated and planned out, not impulsive or due to a mental health crisisThe subject's behavior was calculated and deliberate, contradicting initial assumptions of impulsivity or mental health issues. He had rented a car and made casual calls during the incident, and had even falsely claimed to be dating Billie Eilish before she knew him.

      The actions of the subject in this episode of Otherworld were not impulsive or the result of a mental health crisis, but rather calmly premeditated and planned out. The evidence includes him renting a car and making casual calls during the time of the incident. An intriguing detail is that he had been telling people he was dating Billie Eilish before she even knew him, suggesting the plan may have been in motion long before he came into her life. The second half of the finale covers the paranormal experiences Eilish has had since then, focusing on her journey towards life's revival. This episode was produced, hosted, and edited by Jack Wagner, with music by Coberman, Juice Jackal, and North Americans. Support us by subscribing, reviewing, and sharing. Bonus episodes are available on Patreon. Follow us on social media and send us your paranormal stories. Otherworld is brought to you by the team at Odysee, including JD Crowley, Jenna Weiss Berman, Leah Reese Dennis, Rob Morandi, Eric Donnelly, Matt Casey, Casey Klauser, Maura Curran, and Hilary Shuff. Listen for free on Odysee or your favorite podcast platform.

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    I am so excited to share that with you. Now, one more thing, keep an eye out, because as of March 19th, we are relaunching ERP School with some exciting bonuses, which I will announce in next week's episode. So excited again to share this with you. And what an amazing community, what an amazing opportunity I've had to teach so many people about ERP. And now also teaching therapists. We have now got ERP School approved by The National Association of Social Workers. So if therapists out there, you can actually get CEUs for taking ERP School, which is very, very cool. All right, let's get straight to the show. Let's talk about the difference between an intrusive thought and a mental compulsion first. So the first important piece to remember here, as we pull apart what to do with what thoughts, because that's really what this is about.

    We must first understand the foundation of OCD. So OCD starts with an obsession. This is an intrusive, repetitive, unwanted thought, feeling, sensation or urge. It's not just a thought. It could be a sensation. It could be a feeling like de-realization or guilt. It could be a sensation like a feeling in your left finger or feeling in your nose or whatever that may be, everybody's different. But it does start with this intrusive thought. And the thing you must remember here is you cannot control this. This is the first experience of OCD, right? You have the intrusive thought, feeling, sensation or urge, and this is the thing you can't control. So there's a really big point right off the bat. The second piece here is once you've had that intrusive thought, feeling, sensation and urge, you usually feel anxious and uncomfortable and it's unwanted. And so your natural instinct is to do something to remove it.

    You'll do it to remove the physical discomfort, the emotional discomfort, the uncertainty that you feel. And that is what we call a compulsion. Now, as many of you know, we know the kind of more mainstream compulsions that are known in our society. Hand-washing, jumping over cracks, moving objects and so forth. But one of the most common compulsions is mental. It's thinking. It's rumination. And that's the thing that's really hard to catch. And that's why I'm doing this episode because so many people have asked, how do I differentiate between that intrusive thought and a mental compulsion? And what do I do? Like I said at the beginning, I'm not supposed to block thoughts, but I'm not supposed to do mental compulsions. And that's thinking too, and what this does, right? So let's go back to the cycle. You have a thought, feeling, sensation and urge.

    It makes you uncomfortable. Then you do a compulsion to make it go away. And usually you do get some form of relief. But the problem with this is that then it reinforces that that thought was important. Therefore, your brain continues to send out the fire alarm, the safety alarm, the smoke detector, it sets off all of those alarms in your brain and then sends out more anxiety with more of that thought, feeling, sensation and urge. So let's go back to the main concept. You're not to try and suppress your thoughts because the more that you suppress your intrusive thoughts, the more you have them. I've done full episodes about this in the past. So if you want to go back and listen, suppressing your thoughts will only make them worse. But here is where it gets tricky. People will say again, "If I'm not supposed to suppress my thoughts, what am I supposed to do if I catch myself doing mental compulsions? Is stopping mental compulsion's thought suppression?"

    And this is where I would say, technically, no. But it depends. So what we want to do, let's go straight to the solution. We want to acknowledge that we're having an intrusive thought, feeling, sensation or urge or an image, right? It could be an image too. And then our job is to do nothing about it. To do our best not to solve that uncertainty or remove ourselves from that discomfort. That's our goal. And then our job is to reintegrate ourselves back into a behavior that we were doing, or we would be doing, had we not had this thought. So let's say I'm typing. I have an intrusive thought about whether I'm going to harm my child, or I have an intrusive thought about whether I cheated on my partner, or I had an intrusive thought on whether I'm gay or straight, or I had an intrusive thought about harming somebody, or a religious obsession, or a sensation, or a health anxiety sensation.

    So I have this, I'm going to acknowledge that it's there. I'm actually going to practice not trying to make that thought go away. But instead, bring that sensation or thought with me while I type on my computer. As I'm typing, I'm going to notice the sensations of my fingertips on the keyboard. I'm going to notice the smell of the office. I'm going to notice the temperature of the room I'm in. And I'm going to then catch if my mind directs away from this activity towards trying to solve. If I catch myself trying to solve, yes, I am going to practice not doing that thinking. I'm going to practice not trying to solve it. And then bring my attention back to what I'm doing. I find that if I'm getting caught in some kind of mental rumination, I get down on the ground and I start playing with my son.

    He's really into Lego right now. And so I fully, fully throw myself into this. I do my best to fully engage as best as I can. Now, I'm still going to have the presence of intrusive thoughts because I cannot control that. So it's going to sound a little bit like this. OCD is going to say, "Hey, what about this? What if this happens?" And I'm going to say, "Hi, thought. I'm actually typing an email right now. And that's what I'm going to do. You can be there. I'm going to allow this uncertainty to be here and I'm going to keep typing." So then I start typing. And then OCD will be like, if I were to externalize it, would be to say, "No, no, no, no. This is really important. You really have to figure this out."

    And I'll go, "No, thank you. I'm really cool that you're here, but I'm going to type." And then it's going to say, "Hey, Kimberley, this is really important. And if you don't give me your attention, I'm going to... Something really bad is going to happen." And I'm going to go, "Thank you. But I'm writing an email right now." And then you're going to be like, wow, I'm doing pretty good. Look at me go. I'm fully practicing the skill of not engaging in my intrusive thought. And then it's going to say, "Listen..." Let's say I'm impersonating OCD. It's going to say, "Listen, I am not going to stop bugging you until you give me your attention." And I'm going to go, "That's fine. I'm actually going to call your bluff on that. I'm writing this email. You do not get to tell me what to do." And it's not going to give up.

    It's going to keep going. "Kimberley, Kimberley, Kimberley, Kimberley, you must pay attention to my thoughts. You must pay attention. I'm trying to alert you to a very big danger." And often this is where people get worn down. They're like, "Oh my gosh, it's not going away. Maybe it is right. Maybe I should do it. Maybe I can't handle this anxiety. Maybe this is too much for me. Maybe it's just easier to do the compulsion." But I'm going to be here with you, urging you to keep allowing that intrusive thought to be there. It will basically roll over and start crying and fall asleep at some point, like a toddler, who's too tired and is rejecting his nap. But all he needs is to nap. It eventually will die down, but you have to be willing to stick and be consistent with not engaging in the pleads of OCD, the urgency of the obsession, the catastrophization of the obsession.

    Because it's going to be making it into a... What do they say? A molehill into a mountain. It's going to be making a small problem, a big problem. And what I mean by that is the present of a thought is not dangerous. It doesn't mean it's a fact. It doesn't mean it requires your attention. Some people with OCD have a part of your brain that's going to set this thought on repeat. And because we've tried to suppress it in the past, it is probably going to want to be very, very repetitive. And your job is to do nothing at all. If you do, and I'll say this again, if you do catch yourself doing mental compulsion's, it's okay to stop doing that. That's not thought suppression. As long as you're... You don't want to over-correct. So if you catch yourself doing mental compulsions, don't over-correct by also trying to block the thought.

    That's where we get into trouble. Instead, you just do a small correction back to what am I doing? What am I engaging in right now? What do I value? Because we do not value compulsion's. Compulsion's feed you back into a cycle where you will have more obsessions, which will feed you back into having more compulsion's. It's a cycle. We call it the Obsessive Compulsive Cycle. So we really want to sort of be skilled in our ability to identify the difference. If you can't identify the difference it's going to be really hard to know which is which, and how to respond in those moments. And a lot of this is when we're super anxious, it's really hard to think logically. It's really hard to think... Is this true or is it not? Or so forth. It's not even helpful in that moment.

    Whereas, it may be like three days later. You're like, "Oh my goodness, what was I thinking? That was a bit strange. I wonder why I got so caught up in that." And that's because when we're anxious, our brain has a difficult time coming up with problem solving that is effective. So the more you can be able to identify it, and I encourage my clients throughout the day is catch yourself doing mental compulsion. Don't beat yourself up, but practice this idea of going, "This is me doing a mental compulsion. This is me having an intrusive thought. This is me having an intrusive thought and wanting to do mental compulsion." And being able to label them so that in the moment when you really are at a nine or a 10 out of 10 of anxiety, or uncertainty, or discomfort, you're able to be more skilled in your response.

    Super, super, super important stuff here, guys. But we don't want to shame here. Again, this is really, really hard work. I think about when you're originally first learning anything, everything is really confusing and everything looks kind of the same. I always think of like The Devil Wears Prada, this is a crazy example, but the actress is laughing at these people because they're looking at a belt that looks almost the same, but it's very different in their eyes. And the one main character is like, "They're the same belt." And they look at her like she's crazy. And this is the same, right? When you first start doing it, these are going to look very similar and it's going to be difficult to differentiate the difference. But once you get better at being around this and labeling it and catching it, you will be able to see the differences in these two things, even if it's very, very nuanced or they look very, very similar.

    Okay, that's all I'm going to say for now. The tools are the same. If you really want to go back and practice and learn these mindfulness skills you can practice, go back and listen to some of the previous podcast episodes. I actually encourage you to go back and listen to some of the earlier episodes, because in those episodes, I totally, I was laying out this awesome content on how to be mindful. Some of my best podcasts are the very first few ones, which is like back-to-back major skills, major tools. It was laying the foundation for how to be mindful with obsessive thoughts. So go back and listen to those or sign up for the free training coming up or, and you can also sign up for ERP School, which is coming back very, very soon.

    We also have Mindfulness School for OCD, which is a course that really deep dives into practicing mindfulness related to obsessions and compulsions. So that's there for you as well. Okay. A lot. Sorry, I'm talking so fast. It's something I'm so passionate about and is something that I really wanted to make sure I covered and get very clear on. I've had a couple of you reach out and really be stressed about figuring out the difference. I'm hoping that's super helpful.

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