Episode #5 with Javin Foreman

Paul Summers Jr., an author and longtime successful musician, shares how he navigated addiction, recovery, and the challenges of being a father. Growing up in Las Vegas, Paul found solace in music and played in various bands, including a punk rock band. However, his addiction to drugs and alcohol took a toll on his relationships and parenting. After hitting rock bottom, Paul sought help and embarked on a path of recovery. He fought for custody of his daughter and learned to navigate the legal system. Through perseverance and support, Paul rebuilt his life and became an advocate for fathers in similar situations. In this conversation, Paul Summers Jr. shares his journey as a father fighting for custody of his daughter and navigating the challenges of the legal system. He discusses the harm his daughter experienced, the reporting process, and the involvement of Child Protective Services. Paul also talks about being awarded sole custody and the difficulties he faced in receiving child support. He emphasizes the importance of emotional instincts and protecting his daughter. Paul shares his experiences in the courtroom and the need for accountability. He concludes by promoting his book, Hide & Seek, and website, www.paulsummersjr.com, as resources for other fathers and addicts in recovery.

Fun interview with the very intelligent and highly entertaining, Dr. Lisa Paz. Dr. Paz is  a board-certified sex therapist, with a doctorate in Sexology, as well as a licensed Family Therapist. In this episode we discuss various topics related to sex and parenting. She emphasizes the importance of age-appropriate conversations about sex and body acceptance. Dr. Paz also addresses the impact of technology on kids' exposure to sexual content and the need for teaching consent. In the context of adult sexual issues, she highlights the role of mental and physical health in maintaining a satisfying sex life. Dr. Paz provides practical tips for improving communication and intimacy in relationships. Dr. Lisa Paz also discusses the importance of communication in parenting and how to talk to kids about sex. She emphasizes the need for open and honest conversations, providing age-appropriate information, and addressing any discomfort or fear parents may have. Dr. Paz also highlights the importance of navigating difficult conversations and building trust with children. She concludes by of course sharing a few intimacy tips for guys.

Takeaways

• Age-appropriate conversations about sex should start early and be incremental, building a foundation of knowledge and understanding.
• Parents should be the primary source of information about sex for their children, providing accurate information and discussing family values and expectations.
• Technology can expose kids to sexual content at a young age, making it crucial for parents to have open conversations about the consequences and responsibilities associated with sex.
• Consent is a vital aspect of healthy sexual relationships, and parents should teach their children the importance of obtaining and respecting consent.
• Body acceptance is essential in a culture that promotes unrealistic beauty standards, and parents can foster body acceptance by teaching their children about different body types and promoting a positive body image.
• Adults may experience sexual issues related to desire discrepancy, erectile dysfunction, and performance anxiety, which can be addressed through open communication, stress reduction, and seeking professional help.
• Sexual pleasure and intimacy in relationships can be enhanced by creating a low-stress environment, maintaining open communication, and prioritizing self-care and self-pleasure. Open and honest communication is crucial when talking to kids about sex.
• Parents should provide age-appropriate information and address any discomfort or fear they may have.
• Navigating difficult conversations requires empathy, active listening, and creating a safe space for children to express themselves.
• Building trust with children is essential for maintaining open lines of communication.

What is it like growing up as a child of divorce? As a divorced parent, how can you be a better parent to your children? These are just a few of the questions answered by Bella Duncan as she gives us an inside look into her life. Bella, as the founder of www.akidwithtwohomes.com and @akidwithtwohomes on instagram,  shares her experience growing up as a child of divorce and the challenges she faced. She discusses the high conflict situation between her parents and the anxiety it caused her. Bella explains how she reached a breaking point and initiated a change in her family's dynamic. She highlights the importance of effective communication and the impact it had on her family's relationships. Bella also emphasizes the need for parents to put their children first and show respect for their co-parent. She encourages children of divorce to embrace their story and not feel ashamed.

Just a few of the topics discussed.

• What it was like growing up in “two homes” and how she felt about the situation.
• Experiencing high-conflict co-parenting as a child and how she changed the situation.
• Why effective communication is crucial in co-parenting and reducing conflict.
• Why children of divorce should not be labeled as 'broken' or feel ashamed of their family situation.
• How parents should prioritize their children's well-being and avoid putting them in the middle of conflicts.
• If children can tell if the parents are competing for their attention and love.
• How resilience, maturity, and responsibility can develop in children of divorce, but why  it is important for parents to provide stability and support.
• What it was like when her father remarried and how he provided a successful transition with open communication and love.
• What her parents did correct and where she believes they could have done better. 
• Why her father was and still to this day is so important to her.
• Tips for dads/parents who are co-parenting children.

Bella is such a beautiful soul and she has made it her mission to be an advocate for children of divorce. Thank you for coming on the podcast Bella!

Everyone is self diagnosing their ex with Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder so it only makes sense to bring in an expert who can provide more information into these two disorders.  Dr. Peter Salerno discusses narcissism and borderline personality disorder, their nature, as well as if treatment is effective. Personality disorders are characterized by trait deficiencies and enduring patterns of behavior. Treatment for personality disorders requires specialized therapists who understand the unique challenges of working with this population. Diagnosing personality disorders can be challenging, as individuals with these disorders often manipulate assessments and screenings. There is a strong genetic component to personality disorders, although environmental factors can also play a role.  Points covered:

• What is NPD & BPD?
• Narcissist and projection
• Is it hereditary?
• In which gender is it more prevelant?
• Is therapy effective to treat these disorders?
• What are the biggest misconceptions?

Enjoy this very educational episode and hopefully it provides more insight.

Great conversation with a past guest, Javin Foreman. Javin has devoted his life to helping others with his main focus on uplifting the next generation on young men. 

A lot of topics covered on this episode: 

• Biggest challenges facing fathers today
• What has happened to the family unit
• Why the divorce rate has tripled
• Government Incentives for staying married
• How social media has destroyed the family unit
• Talking to your children about race

Sit back listen in and feel free to leave a comment.

Very insightful conversation with divorce coach and co-parenting expert, Erin Schaden. Erin has been a highly successful family law attorney for the last 28 years, sharing her wisdom and offering advice for those navigating the divorce process or struggling with co-parenting issues. We discuss the role of a divorce coach and the immense value one brings to the table.  How fathers can put themselves in a more favorable position with regards to settlement, alimony as well as child custody determination. Parental alienation being an epidemic. High conflict divorces and how personality disorders are generally at the root of them as well as who makes the best parent.

If you’re a father and you’re wondering how you can best prepare yourself for a more favorable custody decision - this episode is for you as Erin shares how states view as well as determine custody along with two upcoming trends that will impact custody as well as alimony.

Sit back and buckle up - this interview with Men’s Mental Health Expert, Dr Daniel David. A no holds barred interview as we dive into a variety of subjects. Masculinity and how it’s being destroyed by both academia as well as modern psychology. What is toxic masculinity – you’ll love to hear Dr David’s reaction, ME TOO Movement and their agenda. Boys rebelling from their mother and why that’s healthy. Feminist desire to extinguish masculinity. What kids need from their mother and father. How family court is so unfair to fathers as it relates to custody. Parent alienation.  Toxic moms. Thoughts on Andrew Tate and why he has amassed such a following.

For over 25 years Dr Daniel David has had a highly successful practice specializing in working with men stuck in toxic relationships, addictions, self-sabotaging behaviors, and patterns that keep men trapped in life-controlling problems. One of his areas of focus is working with young adult men struggling to find their way in life & older adult men dealing with anger management, confidence issues, addiction recovery, and relationship problems.

Dr. David was the founder and executive director of a nonprofit agency and outreach program to street gangs in New York City.and has been recognized for his work by the New York City Mayor's office as well as the New York State Governor's office and NY State Senators.

He conducted his postgraduate training at the University of Oxford, England, as well as at Harvard Medical School.

Disclaimer

"As with any discussion concerning men's mental health, masculinity, and men's issues within the social environment, it is important to acknowledge that these discussions do not reflect anti-women sentiments. I personally believe that any parent who raises a boy and girl would not put down their son in order to raise their daughter. As a good parent would raise both a son and a daughter equally, society has a responsibility to help both men and women and not to displace or disadvantage men over women. I believe that it is important to advocate for women's rights while still advocating for helping men and improving men's mental health. Most topics I discussed have been vetted through consulting with female colleagues, clinical psychologists, clinical social workers, lawyers, and female therapists who understand the big picture issues for both men and women in society and mental health. My views and opinions are intended to spotlight the ailments of society and the issues of boys and men and are not intended for clinical diagnosis and do not constitute therapeutic advice. Please consult your healthcare provider about treatment options that are available." ~ DPDavid

Episode 7 is the second of a two part interview with Kenny Joyner. Kenny is the CEO & Founder of Boys with a Purpose - featured on The Steve Harvey Show, as well as a Professional Speaker and author of Without A Father, From Fear to Faith - which I highly recommend. 

Boys With a Purpose is a phenomenal program and nonprofit whose mission is to 
inspire, influence and empower young men to focus on their life’s purpose, while imparting wisdom that will allow them to be productive and effective citizens in their communities and in the world. 

Listen as we learn further about the lives that are being changed as well as the story of his organization being featured on The Steve Harvey Show, along with what Steve Harvey is really like when the cameras are off.

Kenny is doing amazing things in these young men’s lives, he is a Change Maker.

Kenny’s wisdom and inspiration for fathers as well as all parents provides much needed guidance for raising children in today’s world. 

Kenny is one of my favorite people - he’s a man’s man with a servant’s heart, wanting to do everything he can to improve the next generation.

I’ve said it before, but I hope everyone is blessed to cross paths with someone like Kenny at least once in their life.

By the way - his book, Without A Father, From Fear to Faith, is available on Amazon and I HIGHLY recommend it.

Episode #6 is the first of a two part interview with Kenny Joyner. Kenny is the CEO & Founder of Boys with a Purpose, also a Professional Speaker as well as the author of Without A Father, From Fear to Faith, which I highly recommend. 

Inspiring interview and conversation as Kenny shares his incredible journey from a very rough upbringing, his longing for a relationship with his father to his incredible accomplishment of peace and a full circle. Kenny’s wisdom and inspiration for fathers as well as all parents provides much needed guidance for raising children in today’s world. 

I’m a huge fan of Kenny’s and after listening I’m sure you will be as well. 

My hope is that everyone is blessed to cross paths with someone like Kenny at least once in their life.

By the way - his book, Without A Father, From Fear to Faith, is available on Amazon and I can not recommend it enough.

Episode # 5 Fun interview with my good friend, Javin Foreman. Real talk where we discuss issues and challenges fathers are facing today as well as the impact fatherless homes have on the increase in teen violence and the absence of valuing another’s life. We cover a lot of topics, from toxic masculinity to the rap music culture along with how to talk to your child about what is real and what isn’t.

Javin is a Project Manager with Fathers Incorporated and formerly Project Manager of Violence Prevention with the Chicago Public School System and prior to that was a Case Manager working with teen fathers for the Department of Human Services. However, Javin first is a very devoted, passionate and proud father who is actively involved in the day to day lives of his children as well as coaching his son’s AAU team. If that isn’t enough, Javin also provides weekly basketball clinics to youths in the Atlanta area. Sit back and listen to a great interview with Javin Foreman.