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    Happiness Lessons of The Ancients: The Buddha

    enOctober 05, 2020

    Podcast Summary

    • Embrace financial benefits, explore new income opportunities, and find inner peaceThe Apple Card brings daily cash rewards, your home could earn income as an Airbnb, and the Buddha's teachings remind us that true happiness comes from within

      The Apple Card offers daily cash rewards of up to 3% on purchases, and your home could potentially earn income as an Airbnb. The Buddha, an ancient thinker, recognized the sadness that comes with yearning and loss, and offered a way to deal with the pain. The Apple Card, with its cash rewards, can help alleviate financial stress, while considering your home as an Airbnb opportunity can bring additional income. The Buddha's teachings, as shared by scholar Liz Zangowski, remind us that happiness is not found in fleeting possessions or experiences, but rather in understanding the impermanence of life and learning to cope with disappointment and suffering. So, embrace the Apple Card for financial benefits, explore the potential of your home as an Airbnb, and look inward with the wisdom of the Buddha for lasting happiness.

    • The Buddha's journey from luxury to enlightenmentRealizing the limitations of worldly pleasures, the Buddha-to-be left luxury to seek enlightenment, teaching us to embrace life's challenges for deeper understanding

      The upbringing of Siddhartha Gautama, who became the Buddha, was one of extreme luxury and seclusion. His father, Sudodana, wanted him to become a powerful ruler and kept him away from the harsh realities of the outside world. However, when the Buddha-to-be encountered the realities of aging, sickness, and death, it had a profound effect on him. He realized that his father couldn't provide him with the ultimate solution to the problem of death and rebirth. This realization led him to leave the palace and seek enlightenment, ultimately leading to the founding of Buddhism. This story highlights the importance of experiencing the harsh realities of life to gain a deeper understanding of existence and the human condition.

    • The Buddha's Journey to Enlightenment: From Palace to TreeThe Buddha discovered the root cause of suffering as craving and achieved enlightenment by overcoming it, emphasizing impermanence and compassion for all beings.

      The Buddha's journey to enlightenment began with his departure from the palace, facilitated by a loyal horse named Kantaka. After experiencing various hardships and contemplating the nature of existence under a tree, the Buddha came to understand the fundamental truth of suffering (dukkha) and its root cause, craving (tanha). Through deep contemplation during the watches of the night, he gained compassion for all sentient beings and realized that the cessation of suffering was possible. The Buddha's teachings emphasize the impermanence of all things and the importance of understanding and overcoming craving to achieve Nirvana, the total extinguishing of suffering.

    • Buddha's teachings and hedonic adaptationThe Buddha's teachings and hedonic adaptation both highlight our tendency to seek happiness in new experiences, only to return to a state of craving and dissatisfaction. The Buddha offers a path to self-transformation and enlightenment, while contrasting the approach of trying to distract from the problem with more pleasures.

      The Buddha's teachings resonate with the concept of hedonic adaptation or the "hedonic treadmill" in modern psychology. Both emphasize the human tendency to seek happiness in new experiences or possessions, only to return to a state of craving and dissatisfaction. The Buddha is seen as a doctor diagnosing the underlying issue of our inability to accept the impermanence of beauty and happiness. He is considered an early pioneer of self-help and a guide for self-transformation. The Buddhist teachings offer a program designed to change perceptions and are a path to enlightenment and flourishing. The Buddha's father, Sudodhana, is contrasted as trying to distract from the problem by providing more pleasures, rather than addressing the underlying issue. This ancient philosophy continues to provide valuable insights into the human condition and the pursuit of happiness.

    • Exploring the benefits of becoming an Airbnb host and clearer perceptionBecoming an Airbnb host can provide financial benefits while traveling and promoting mental wellness through clearer perception, as taught by Buddhism.

      Considering becoming an Airbnb host can be a profitable and easier way to manage your home when you're not there. This idea came to mind during a trip to San Diego, where the sun, sand, and welcoming atmosphere helped promote physical and mental wellness. Meanwhile, Robert Wright's exploration of the scientifically-supported aspects of Buddhism sheds light on the importance of clear perception for personal happiness and growth. The human mind, Wright explains, is not designed to see the world perfectly, but Buddhist teachings offer valuable insights into understanding the mind's limitations and how to work around them. By combining the financial benefits of hosting and the mental benefits of clearer perception, this discussion highlights the potential for personal growth and financial gain.

    • Buddha's teachings on suffering and craving align with modern understandings of human psychology and evolutionary theoryBuddhism acknowledges the constant craving for pleasure and the illusion that material goods bring lasting happiness, offering practices like meditation to break the cycle of suffering.

      Buddha's teachings on suffering and craving align with modern understandings of human psychology and evolutionary theory. The Buddhist concept of dukkha, or suffering, is rooted in the fact that humans constantly crave and seek gratification, which never lasts. From an evolutionary perspective, this makes sense as animals with genes that keep them restlessly seeking pleasure and reproducing are more likely to survive and pass on their genes. However, psychologically, we often believe that obtaining material goods or circumstances will make us happy indefinitely, which is a delusion. This is known as the hedonic treadmill, and it's a tough cycle to break. Buddhist teachings go beyond acknowledging this suffering and offer a path to enduring happiness through practices like meditation. As an evolutionary psychologist, Robert Wright was initially skeptical of Buddhism but was convinced to try meditation at a retreat and found it to be a valuable tool for seeking greater happiness.

    • Experience a shift in perception through meditationMeditation helps us let go of judgments and essentializing tendencies, leading to a greater appreciation of interconnectedness and a more peaceful way of being in the world

      Meditation can lead to a profound shift in perception and perspective towards the world around us. Through the practice of observing one's thoughts and feelings without judgment, we can become more mindful and aware of the arbitrariness of our labels and categories. This can lead to a greater appreciation of the beauty and interconnectedness of all things, including those we may have previously viewed negatively. The Buddhist concept of emptiness, or the understanding that all things are impermanent and lack inherent existence, plays a role in this transformation. By letting go of our judgments and essentializing tendencies, we can experience a newfound sense of freedom and compassion towards ourselves and others. Meditation may not be easy, but the rewards can be magical, leading to a more peaceful and interconnected way of being in the world.

    • Gain a more objective perspective on emotions through meditationMeditation helps us accept and observe emotions instead of avoiding them, leading to better understanding, detachment, and improved relationships and happiness.

      Meditation helps us gain a more objective perspective on our emotions by accepting and observing them instead of trying to avoid or escape them. This process, which can be as simple as sitting quietly and focusing on our breath for a few minutes each day, allows us to better understand the nature of our feelings and their impermanence. By practicing this detachment, we can begin to liberate ourselves from the grip of emotions and make more conscious decisions about how they will impact our thoughts and actions. This perspective, rooted in the Buddhist ideal of impermanence, can lead to greater happiness, improved relationships, and a clearer view of the world. While it may be challenging to maintain this heightened state of consciousness in daily life, the experience of meditation retreats can provide a powerful incentive to continue practicing and striving for this goal.

    • Mindfulness practices from Buddha's teachingsIncorporate mindfulness practices like meditation into daily life for greater peace, acceptance, and overall happiness, backed by science.

      The ancient wisdom of the Buddha offers valuable insights into dealing with the suffering and impermanence of life. This can be achieved through mindfulness practices like meditation, which can be incorporated into daily life, even in simple ways. The Buddha's teachings, backed by modern science, emphasize the importance of both physical and mental wellness for overall happiness. It's not always easy to practice mindfulness, but the benefits can be significant, leading to greater peace and acceptance of life's impermanence. So, take a page from the Buddha's teachings and make a conscious effort to bring more mindfulness into your daily life. Whether it's through regular meditation or simply noticing the sensations around you, these practices can help improve your mental and emotional wellbeing.

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    Related Episodes

    Episode 71 - Letting Go of Attachment

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    Attachment is defined as a mental affliction, which is a habit that robs causes us suffering. Attachment arises like this:

     

    We encounter something pleasant + inappropriate attention/exaggerating its good qualities = attachment arises (the feeling we can not be happy without it)

     

    Sometimes we are attached to people being different than they are, to being right, drugs, alcohol, or unhealthy food. In all these cases, it is not the person or object that makes us unhappy, but our attachment that causes us to suffer.

     

    What attachment is not:

    Letting go of attachment does not mean that we don’t own things, but that those things don’t own us. 

     

    Letting go of attachment doesn’t mean that we don’t have love others, but that we love them without attachment. 

     

    Longing gives rise to grief; 

    Longing gives rise to fear. 

    For someone released from longing 

    There is no grief; 

    And from where would come fear? (212) 

     

    Affection gives rise to grief; 

    Affection gives rise to fear. 

    For someone released from affection 

    There is no grief; 

    And from where would come fear? (213) 

     

    Infatuation gives rise to grief; 

    Infatuation gives rise to fear. 

    For someone released from infatuation

    There is no grief; And from where would come fear? (214) 

     

    Sensual craving gives rise to grief; 

    Sensual craving gives rise to fear. 

    For someone released from sensual craving There is no grief; 

    And from where would come fear? (215) 

     

    Craving gives rise to grief; 

    Craving gives rise to fear. 

    For someone released from craving 

    There is no grief; 

    And from where would come fear?

    —Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References

     

    Buddha. The Dhammapada, translated by Gil Fronsdale. (2011). Shambala, pp. 56-57