Podcast Summary
Desire Clarification: Answering the question 'what do I want?' can help determine the direction of your life, and Mal Robbins offers a free workshop and companion workbook to guide listeners in discovering their true desires and priorities.
Knowing what you want is crucial for the direction of your life. Mal Robbins emphasizes that answering the question "what do I want?" can determine where your life is headed, whether it's in the short term or long term. The episode is designed to help listeners gain clarity and conviction in answering this question, as it is often a difficult one to answer on one's own. Mal Robbins offers this workshop as a free resource to help listeners get laser-focused on their desires and values. The episode comes with a free companion workbook, which can be downloaded at Mel Robbins dot com slash what. Through a series of questions, listeners will be guided to discover their true wants and priorities. By answering this question, individuals can take control of their lives and move towards their goals.
Desire clarity: Gaining clarity about what you want is crucial for making decisions and achieving goals. Reflect on your values and priorities to determine what you truly want and why.
Gaining clarity about what you want is essential for making decisions and achieving your goals. This process is important for everyone, regardless of the type or size of the decision. Clarity is a skill that can be learned, and it's important to remember that desires and goals change over time. The framework for gaining clarity involves asking yourself what you want and why, and being honest about your values and priorities in the present moment. Only you can answer this question for yourself, and the clarity you gain can help you make decisions and stay focused on your goals. The process of getting clear about what you want is a powerful one, and it can lead to significant personal growth and accomplishment. So, take the time to reflect on what you truly want and why, and use the resources available to help you get clear and stay on track.
Personal growth during team retreats: Engaging in seemingly unrelated activities during team retreats can lead to profound realizations and meaningful connections, ultimately impacting priorities and personal growth.
Taking a break from work and engaging in personal growth activities, even the seemingly unrelated ones, can lead to profound realizations and meaningful connections. During a team retreat, Christine, the chief financial officer of 143 Studios, reluctantly attended a manifesting manifesting manifesting class. She expected it to be a passive learning experience but was instead drawn into a deep, personal conversation with the instructor and another attendee. Through this conversation, she identified her desire for more quality time with her family, leading her to reevaluate her priorities and ultimately making a change that brought her closer to her loved ones. This unexpected and transformative experience highlights the importance of stepping out of our comfort zones and allowing ourselves to be open to new experiences, even during work-related events.
Desires vs. Fulfillment: Realizing that what we think we want may not truly fulfill us, it's essential to dig deeper and prioritize what truly matters in life - spending time with loved ones.
Sometimes what we think we want in life may not be what truly fulfills us. A woman in this discussion shared her realization that she didn't want a lake house that she had been working towards, but instead wanted to cherish the time she had with her growing boys. She expressed gratitude for this realization and prioritized spending time with them, understanding that the present moments were more valuable than the buildup to future events. This experience served as a reminder to focus on what truly matters in life and to appreciate the time we have with loved ones. It's important to dig deeper and understand the root cause of our desires, as the surface-level wants may not bring us the fulfillment we seek.
Five Wise technique: The Five Wise technique, an engineering principle, helps identify the root cause and deeper meaning behind desires by asking 'what do I really want?' and 'why' four times.
Using the Five Wise technique, an engineering principle developed by Sakichi Toyota, can help you identify the root cause and deeper meaning behind what you truly want. By asking "what do I really want?" and then asking "why" four times, you can uncover the underlying emotions and motivations driving your desires. This was demonstrated when Mel Robbins' daughter, Sawyer, used the Five Wises to explain her deep-seated desire to move to New York City. By going through the exercise, Sawyer discovered that her desire was rooted in keeping a promise to her younger self and seeking new possibilities. This powerful framework not only clarifies what we want but also helps us understand why it matters to us at a deeper level.
Living in the Present: Focusing too much on accomplishments and achievements can make us forget the importance of cherishing relationships and living in the moment.
Sometimes we focus too much on accomplishments and achievements in life, forgetting the importance of living in the present and cherishing our relationships. This was evident in a college seminar class assignment where students were asked to write their own eulogies. Most students wrote about their accomplishments, leaving the speaker feeling embarrassed and inexperienced as her eulogy focused on her living situation and relationships. However, this perspective resonated with the class and reminded everyone that what truly matters in life is being surrounded by loved ones when we pass. Additionally, the conversation highlighted the desire for creative projects and the need for personal time and space. Both the speaker and her mother expressed a longing to escape the constant demands of work and deadlines and immerse themselves in a creative project. This desire for freedom and time to oneself is a common theme, especially for those who are overworked and feel overwhelmed by obligations. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of cherishing relationships, living in the present, and making time for creative pursuits. It's essential to remember that accomplishments are not the only measure of a fulfilling life.
Identifying deeper desires: Understanding why we want certain things can help us prioritize and make the most of our time and energy, leading to a more meaningful and purposeful life
It's important to identify and prioritize what truly matters to us in life, and make time for it. This could be as simple as taking a daily walk or reading a book, or something more significant like going on a solo retreat or pursuing a long-held dream. By understanding why we want these things, we can make the most of our time and energy, and have the courage to keep the promises we've made to ourselves. Remember, it's not just about the surface-level desires, but the deeper ones that give our lives meaning, purpose, and profound significance. So, take some time for introspection, and ask yourself: what do you really want, and why?