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    Lessons in Love & Lube

    enOctober 09, 2018

    Podcast Summary

    • The Magic Wand: Iconic and Powerful Sex ToyThe Magic Wand vibrator, a cult classic, offers unique rumble and versatility for powerful orgasms. New versions include rechargeable, mini, micro, and plush options. Promescent's delay spray and warming arousal gel enhance summer sex life.

      The Magic Wand vibrator, often referred to as the "Cadillac of vibrators," is a culturally iconic and powerful tool for pleasure. First introduced decades ago, it has earned accolades and obsessive fans due to its unique rumble and versatility. Now, there are various iterations like the rechargeable, mini, micro, and plush versions, but all maintain the powerful orgasmic rumble. Meanwhile, for those looking to enhance their summer sex life, Promescent offers products like the legendary delay spray and warming arousal gel to help last longer and intensify pleasure. Overall, these iconic sex toys continue to cast a spell on the world by providing unapologetic pleasure and enhancing intimate experiences.

    • Open communication and shared experiences build stronger relationshipsRegularly discuss finances, schedule date nights, travel together, and engage in new experiences to strengthen your bond.

      Open communication and shared experiences are key to strengthening a relationship. Money, a often overlooked topic, can cause significant stress and tension if not discussed openly. Scheduling regular date nights can help keep the passion alive and intimacy strong. Traveling together, especially abroad, can test and strengthen bonds as couples navigate unfamiliar situations. Engaging in new and thrilling experiences together can release adrenaline and bring couples closer. Overall, prioritizing communication and creating meaningful experiences can lead to a stronger, more connected relationship.

    • Intentional actions and open communication strengthen relationshipsCooking together, setting aside tech-free time, celebrating small moments, and approaching conflicts with curiosity can improve relationships through intentional actions and open communication.

      Strengthening a relationship involves small, intentional actions and open communication. Cooking together and learning to cooperate is an example of this, as is setting aside technology-free time to connect with each other. Celebrating the small moments in a relationship is also important, as these moments can easily be overlooked. When it comes to conflicts, being curious about the root cause can lead to healthier resolutions. Scheduling a specific time for conflict can also be helpful, allowing both parties to approach the issue with a clear mind. Overall, these practices require effort and commitment, but they can significantly improve the quality of a relationship.

    • Effective communication in relationshipsMaking requests, being respectful, cooling down, clarifying misunderstandings, learning to apologize, and using the right lubricant can lead to healthier and more productive conversations and stronger relationships.

      Effective communication and understanding in relationships can lead to healthier and more productive conversations during conflicts. Instead of making accusations or complaints, making requests and being respectful can help avoid defensive reactions. Taking time to cool down and clarifying misunderstandings through active listening and asking for clarification are also important. Additionally, learning how to apologize in a way that resonates with your partner's preferences can help strengthen your bond. Lastly, using the right kind of lubricant for your specific sexual needs can enhance pleasure and comfort during intimate moments. Remember, effective communication and understanding are key to building strong and fulfilling relationships.

    • Personal preferences and communication in intimacy and daily lifeEffective communication is crucial in personal relationships and preferences, be it about choosing the right lube for anal sex or expressing comfort levels regarding pubic hair. Experiment with various options, like Uber Lube, System Joe, or Hero Bread, to find what suits you best, and don't forget to communicate with your partner or yourself.

      Communication is key when it comes to personal preferences and relationships, whether it's about lubes for anal sex or pubic hair in intimate moments. For lubes, there are various options like Uber Lube for anal sex, System Joe for water-based lubes, and Woo for Play for oil-based lubes. Each has its benefits, and it's essential to find what works best for you. Regarding pubic hair, it's a personal choice, and it's essential to communicate with your partner about what makes you feel comfortable and confident. If razor burn is an issue when shaving, consider trying different methods like moisturizing, using hydrocortisone cream, or trying different shaving directions. However, remember that ultimately, it's your body, and you have the right to make the choices that make you feel good. In a different context, there's a solution for those who want to enjoy their favorite bread without the carb guilt - Hero Bread. It offers bread products with 0 to 1 net carbs per serving, 0 grams of sugar, and high fiber and protein content. Despite its impressive nutritional stats, Hero Bread still tastes great and can be used for various dishes, making it a game-changer for those with health goals.

    • Checking in and communicating about intimacy preferencesRegularly communicate and check-in about intimacy preferences to ensure comfort and enjoyment. Explore alternatives to shaving for a smoother experience and consider experimenting with new toys and positions.

      Communication is key in any relationship, especially when it comes to intimacy and personal preferences. Sometimes, things said early on in a relationship might not be revisited, but they can still hold significance. It's important to check-in and communicate openly about any concerns or preferences, even if they've been discussed before. For instance, a comment about underwear or shaving methods might seem insignificant, but it could impact one's comfort and enjoyment in the bedroom. Additionally, there are various alternatives to shaving, such as waxing, laser hair removal, or threading, that could help prevent bumps and irritation. And for those looking to try new things, such as double penetration, there are toys and positions that can make the experience more comfortable and accessible for all body types. Communication and experimentation are essential in maintaining a satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship.

    • Exploring sex furniture and toys for enhanced experiencesCommunication, understanding, and use of sex furniture and toys can help improve sexual experiences for couples, making sex feel less scheduled and more enjoyable.

      Using sex furniture like Liberator wedges and combining it with various sex toys can enhance sexual experiences for couples. Ayanna, a listener, shares her anxiety around scheduled sex due to past traumatic experiences. The suggestion is to reduce the pressure by making sex more organic and open communication with her partner about her feelings. Additionally, using sex furniture and toys can help make sex feel less scheduled and more enjoyable for both parties. Specifically, the Liberator wedges can be used to lift hips for comfortable positions, while toys like the Nova by We-Vibe, Fun Factory's thrusting vibes, and the Tango bullet vibe can be used hands-free or with a partner. Other positions like the Seashell, Threading the Needle, Cup and Saucer, and Whoopie Pie can also be explored. Overall, communication, understanding, and the use of sex furniture and toys can help improve sexual experiences for couples.

    • Taking a break from intercourse in a new relationship can help reduce anxietyCommunicating openly and focusing on emotional connection can help reduce anxiety in new relationships, allowing both partners to understand each other's needs and build a stronger bond.

      When dealing with anxiety around sex in a new relationship, taking a break from intercourse and focusing on connecting and pleasure through kissing and touching may help reduce anxiety over time. This approach allows both partners to understand each other's bodies and needs, creating a stronger emotional connection. In the case of the listener's question, if someone's ex-partner is judgmental about a new relationship due to fear or misconceptions, it's essential to communicate openly and honestly about the benefits of the new relationship and the importance of maintaining positive relationships for the sake of any shared children. It may also be helpful to limit communication about the new relationship to what is necessary for the children's wellbeing.

    • Communicating Effectively in Complex RelationshipsAddress lingering resentments or jealousy in long-term relationships, especially when children are involved. Find the right time to discuss well-being and introduce new partners. Explore aftershocks and experiment with multiple orgasms for continued pleasure.

      Effective communication is key in navigating complex relationships, especially when children are involved. The speaker suggests that even if a year has passed since the end of a long-term relationship, it may still be important to address any lingering resentments or jealousy. She advises finding a time to sit down with the ex-spouse to discuss the well-being of the children and to introduce a new partner when the time is right. Regarding Jackie's question about orgasms, the speaker explains that aftershocks or pulsations felt after climax can indicate a desire for more orgasms or continued stimulation. She encourages experimenting with multiple orgasms and using different methods to explore the body's responses.

    • Exploring Sexual Desire with EroticaExploring sexual desire through self-love and erotica can help rekindle excitement and confidence in one's sexuality.

      Self-exploration and self-love through masturbation and erotica can help rekindle sexual desire and excitement, especially for those who feel they have led sheltered sexual lives or are new to dating after a long-term relationship. Lindsay from London shared her excitement about starting her sexual journey anew and asked for recommendations on erotica to help her connect with her sexual side. Emily, the podcast host, suggested several classic and contemporary erotica titles and podcasts to help get started. The Story of O, Woman on Top, and anthologies by Morgan Cameron were mentioned as favorites. Rachel Kramer Bussell's works were also recommended for more current options. Emily encouraged listeners to explore different options and find what turns them on. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of self-exploration and the role of erotica in enhancing sexual experiences and confidence.

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