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    (Matt Monday): 7 Things Narcissists Do That’ll Never Make Sense to You

    enJuly 22, 2024
    How do narcissists misuse empathy in relationships?
    What happens to empathy in toxic relationships with narcissists?
    Why do narcissists discard relationships easily?
    What are the emotional impacts of dealing with a narcissist?
    How can one recognize signs of a narcissistic partner?

    Podcast Summary

    • Narcissistic empathyNarcissists use empathy as a tool to manipulate and control, not for compassionate reasons. Be cautious of a relationship where empathy only occurs when their needs are met.

      A narcissist's empathy isn't valued for its compassionate qualities, but rather used as a tool to manipulate and control. While they may appear kind and loving when their needs are met, empathy towards them can actually worsen the treatment received. Remember, a relationship that works only a few moments a day is not a healthy one. Empathy, which is a natural human quality, can be weaponized against us in a toxic relationship. Instead of allowing it to breed forgiveness and understanding, be cautious and recognize the signs of a narcissistic partner before it causes further harm.

    • Narcissistic manipulationNarcissists manipulate compassion, using it against us to continue harmful behaviors, and have an uncanny ability to move on quickly, making it difficult for victims to heal, while expecting the same from their partners.

      Dealing with a narcissist can be emotionally draining and complex. They often manipulate our compassion, using it against us to continue their harmful behaviors. Despite our empathy being a quality they may initially seem to value, it is actually used as a tool for them to get their needs met without consequences. Narcissists have an uncanny ability to move on quickly from their hurtful actions, making it difficult for those affected to process and heal. They may even expect their partners to do the same, while showing a lack of compassion towards their victims. Remember, their ease of moving on does not diminish the impact of their actions. Instead, it highlights their lack of empathy and compassion. Stay vigilant and prioritize your emotional well-being.

    • Narcissistic excusesNarcissists may deny wrongdoing and provide unbelievable excuses, disregarding the principle of Occam's razor, and may abandon you in your time of need.

      Narcissists often make unbelievable excuses when confronted with evidence of their wrongdoing. They may deny the situation entirely and blame the victim, going against the principle of Occam's razor which suggests the simplest explanation is usually the correct one. Additionally, despite appearing to be supportive partners, narcissists may abandon you in your time of need, leaving you feeling betrayed and alone. It's essential to recognize these signs and understand that dealing with a narcissist can be emotionally draining and potentially harmful. If you suspect you're in a relationship with a narcissist, consider seeking support from trusted friends, family, or professionals.

    • Narcissistic tearsNarcissists' tears are not a reflection of remorse or concern for their partner's feelings, but rather a result of their own losses and emotional needs.

      Relationships with narcissistic individuals can be filled with shocking realizations. Until faced with devastating moments, many people struggle to accept that their partner or loved one operates under different emotional and relational laws. Their tears may be real, but they are not for the sake of the relationship or the person they hurt. Narcissists can easily discard relationships once they no longer serve a purpose, leaving the other person feeling inconsequential. It's essential not to confuse their tears or emotions with ours, as their pain stems from their own losses, not from causing harm to others. The realization that a narcissist can move on so easily, without any regard for the emotional impact on their former partner, can be a harsh but necessary truth to accept in order to heal and move forward.

    • Narcissistic relationshipsNarcissistic relationships can leave individuals feeling discarded and gaslighted, but the ability to love remains real and can be redirected towards healthier relationships. Communication and setting new standards are key to improving relationships.

      Narcissistic relationships can leave individuals feeling discarded and gaslighted after setting boundaries and having standards for themselves. This experience can be disorienting and make people question the reality of the relationship they thought they had. However, the love and ability to love someone, even if the relationship didn't meet expectations, remains real and can be redirected towards a healthier and more fulfilling connection. It's never too late to communicate and establish new standards for better relationships, and the provided guide at boldstandards.com can help in learning the language and practical steps for doing so.

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