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    • Being true to yourself and setting healthy boundariesAuthentic relationships require vulnerability and self-respect. Establish clear boundaries to build strong connections.

      Forming authentic relationships involves being true to yourself and setting healthy boundaries. When putting yourself out there, it can be scary and vulnerable, but showing up as you really are is crucial to maintaining a genuine connection. Boundaries are essential when starting a new relationship, especially when dealing with sensitive topics. If someone pushes you into an uncomfortable area, it's important to establish clear boundaries to determine if the relationship is right for you. By staying true to yourself and respecting your boundaries, you can build strong, meaningful relationships.

    • Setting healthy boundaries for personal growthDefine your boundaries for your benefit, don't chase unfulfilling relationships, and there will always be another opportunity coming along.

      Setting healthy boundaries is essential for personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships. As the speaker mentioned, it's important to establish what you want and what you're not willing to tolerate in a relationship. Boundaries are for your benefit, not for others. If you find yourself in a relationship that isn't working, it may be because you haven't clearly defined your boundaries. The speaker also emphasized the importance of not chasing after relationships that aren't fulfilling, as there will always be another opportunity coming along. Additionally, the speaker shared a personal anecdote from her father about never chasing after a boy or a bus, emphasizing the idea that there will always be another opportunity. The speaker also mentioned an upcoming virtual guided journaling event and encouraged listeners to join her and Sharnley in the Facebook group, Everyday Positivity with Kate Cocker.

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