The complex and chaotic nature of love: Love's chaotic nature may defy scientific understanding, and it may even be designed to encourage procreation by reducing our ability to consider risks and consequences. Partners should work together to make changes in their relationship.
Love is a complex and chaotic experience that defies simple explanations or formulas. According to a recent Vox article, our preferences don't always predict attraction, and love can be a dysregulated state in the brain that inhibits useful circuitry and amplifies emotional responses. Scientists may continue to research love, but it may never be fully understood due to its chaotic nature. Additionally, the idea that love can be figured out through research is just one perspective. Another perspective is that love is naturally chaotic and may even be designed to encourage procreation by reducing our ability to consider risks and consequences. Ultimately, the best approach to love may be for partners to accept responsibility for each other and work together towards making changes, like a pickaxe team in a mine, rather than relying solely on individual preferences or formulas.
Red flags in healthy relationships: Red flags in relationships don't always mean the end, they provide opportunities for growth and communication.
Healthy relationships often have red flags at their beginning. This observation was made by a psychiatrist based on his experience with various relationships, both healthy and unhealthy. He noticed that even in the strongest relationships, there was usually at least one issue that raised concerns early on. For instance, a patient of his married an older, unemployed partner when she was just 18 years old. While it seemed like a bad idea, they are now happily married and successful. The psychiatrist himself had a red flag in his relationship, as his wife was dating someone who intended to become a monk. Despite these initial concerns, these relationships eventually thrived. It's important to remember that red flags don't necessarily mean the end of a relationship, but rather an opportunity for growth and communication.
The success of a relationship depends on both partners' efforts and flexibility: In Indian arranged marriages, happiness isn't guaranteed, but both partners must work towards building a loving relationship. This principle applies to all relationships, including those with red flags, where effort and flexibility are crucial for success.
The success and happiness in a relationship depend on the efforts and flexibility of both partners, rather than being guaranteed by the nature of the relationship itself. This insight came from the speaker's exploration of arranged marriages in Indian culture, where happiness is not promised, and both parties must work towards building a harmonious and loving relationship. This principle can also be applied to relationships that start with red flags, where both parties must be committed to overcoming the challenges and working together to find happiness. In contrast, many people today believe that the other person is solely responsible for their relationship's happiness, leading to a loss of the cooperative spirit required for a successful partnership. Additionally, the speaker noted that many people use dating apps with the long-term goal of marriage and a lifelong commitment, but they often overlook the importance of personal effort and flexibility in achieving that goal.
Finding happiness within oneself: Successful relationships require both partners to invest in personal growth and be flexible to build lasting happiness, not just rely on external factors or constant searching for it in a new partner.
Many people approach relationships with a mindset that happiness is something that can be found rather than built. They believe that if they can check off certain boxes or get specific things from their partner, they will be happy and the relationship will last. However, this selectivity can lead to a lack of investment in the relationship and personal growth. Instead, successful relationships often involve both partners working on themselves and being flexible when they don't get what they want. The Eastern religions, such as Hinduism and Buddhism, teach us that much of our unhappiness comes from within and that even when we get what we want, we may still feel unhappy. Therefore, it's essential to learn to find happiness in spite of not getting what we want, rather than constantly searching for it in a new partner. If someone is unwilling to be flexible and compromise, it can create a situation where the relationship is not able to grow and thrive.
Focusing on personal growth and flexibility in relationships: Successful relationships depend on internal factors like compromise, flexibility, and prioritizing partner's happiness, not just getting what you want
Focusing too much on finding the perfect partner through external means like dating apps, rather than working on personal growth and flexibility within a relationship, can lead to a long cycle of unhappiness. Instead, successful relationships are built on the ability to compromise, be flexible, and prioritize each other's happiness. Research suggests that simply getting what you want in a relationship does not guarantee success. Instead, it's essential to consider one's own ability to adapt, let go of desires, and support a partner's growth. By focusing on these internal factors, individuals can foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
The importance of personal growth in relationships: Focus on becoming a good partner through openness, learning, and prioritizing your partner's happiness.
The success of a relationship depends not only on finding a partner who meets our expectations, but also on our own flexibility and willingness to be happy despite not getting everything we want. The more we focus on checking boxes and finding the "perfect" partner, the more we miss the importance of personal growth and prioritizing our partner's needs. It's important to remember that becoming a good partner is an ongoing process, and we don't have to have all the answers or meet every requirement to start a successful relationship. Instead, we should focus on being open to learning, growing, and prioritizing our partner's happiness alongside our own.
Growing together in relationships, not seeking perfection: Focus on personal growth and supporting each other in relationships, acknowledging and working on imperfections, and consider past issues resolved before getting back together with an ex.
Relationships are about growing together, not expecting perfection from each other. It's natural to have flaws and imperfections, and it's important to acknowledge and work on them instead of seeking out a partner who meets an unrealistic checklist. The key is to commit to personal growth and supporting each other in the relationship. Additionally, getting back together with an ex should only be considered if both parties are dedicated to resolving past issues and working towards a healthier relationship. If one person is not ready or willing to put in the effort, it may not be a good idea to rekindle the relationship. Ultimately, relationships require equal effort and investment from both parties, and the focus should be on supporting each other's growth and shared experiences.
Prioritize personal growth and self-care for a healthy relationship: Focus on personal development and love to build a successful and fulfilling relationship, avoiding dependency and unhealthy power dynamics.
Focusing on personal growth and self-care is crucial in maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship. If one partner is unable to contribute their fair share, it can lead to dependency and unhealthy power dynamics. The pursuit of a "perfect" partner based on checklists can lead to disappointment and potential relationship failure. Instead, it's essential to build a relationship based on love, flexibility, and mutual growth. By prioritizing personal development and having the capacity to give, individuals can create successful and fulfilling relationships.
The quest for the perfect partner can lead to endless disappointment: Recognize that everyone has flaws and focus on finding compatibility and mutual respect rather than seeking an unattainable ideal.
The quest for the perfect partner can lead to endless disappointment and unrealistic expectations in dating. Mel and Biscuit emphasized that there is no such thing as a perfect partner, but this doesn't mean that people won't continue to search for one. Instead, some individuals become increasingly selective and add criteria to their list of requirements, leading to a longer list of deal-breakers. This can result in a never-ending cycle of seeking perfection, which can prevent individuals from finding fulfilling relationships. The more failed relationships someone experiences, the more they may expect from others, creating a vicious cycle. It's essential to recognize that everyone has flaws and that the focus should be on finding compatibility and mutual respect rather than seeking an unattainable ideal.
Psychiatrist Explains the Science of Love
Recent Episodes from HealthyGamerGG
How Dysthymia Steals Your Happiness
Why You Struggle to Follow Through (Thinkers vs Doers)
You Are Destined To Fail
How Loneliness Makes Men More Addicted
The Science of Gooning
The Dark Side of Empathy
Why Empathy Matters More Than Ever
The Real Reason Men Don't Ask for Help
Why ADHD Makes You Feel Broken
What is a Quarter Life Crisis?
Related Episodes
‘You Looked Like Grealish’s Dad’ Abbey and Peter’s Dubai Debrief
On today’s episode of The Therapy Crouch, Abbey and Peter are back in Blighty and giving their full Dubai debrief.
In classic Abbey fashion, no time has been wasted and she has got right back on the horse, quite literally by making a rather pony purchase for her and the kids, which Pete has a rather surprising reaction too.
We also hear about their recent antics at the waterpark, which Abbey found the courage to brave and we hear just why the big man could not resist that not-so-lazy river!
In the weekly whine club, the gang addresses one of our listeners who is beginning to feel revolted by their partners hygiene habits as well as another listener whose Uber rating is driving her round the bend.]
Stay tuned for the end where Agony Ab where we have one of our favourite messages this year from an expectant mother who is forced to deal with her nosey, nerdy neighbours….
Enjoy this week’s episode of The Therapy Crouch!
00:00 Intro
04:12 Life Aint No Romcom
10:07 Lovely, Lazy River
16:00 WOOF Day In The Office
20:24 Abbey Clancy, Masterchef
27:02 TAXI!
34:05 Dubai Debrief
41:27 Neigh To That
45:05 Agony Ab
To contact us:
Email: thetherapycrouch@gmail.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ thetherapycrouchpodcast/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/ @thetherapycrouch
Website: https://thetherapycrouch.com/
For more from Peter
https://twitter.com/petercrouch
For more from Abbey
https://www.instagram.com/abbeyclancy
Our clips channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZntcv96YhN8IvMAKsz4Dbg
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ep. 207 "Back to the Basics"
cocktales.atl@gmail.com
Check Us Out On Patreon
www.patreon.com/cocktales
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-dirty-discussions--2818687/support.
Ep. 95 "Free Game" ft. Ahmad "AC" Carroll
Follow our guest
@yo_batman8
Follow Us
@cocktalespodcast
@kikisaidso
@coffeebeandean
Contact Us at cocktales.atl@gmail.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-dirty-discussions--2818687/support.
Ep. 67 "What A Time To Be A Side"
Follow our guest
@kjthejoker
Follow Us
@cocktalespodcast
@kikisaidso
@coffeebeandean
If you're interested in sponsoring, purchasing ads, or sending products please contact us at cocktales.atl@gmail.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-dirty-discussions--2818687/support.
Episode 048 Decluttering Life and Having a Framework to Catch you before you Fall w/ Heston Russell
Heston Russell joined the Australian Army in 2003 and was commissioned as an officer in December 2006. In 2010, Heston qualified as a Special Forces Commando Officer. During his 16 years of service, Heston completed numerous operational deployments including Timor Leste, Afghanistan,Iraq and other Counter Terrorism missions. He also served on exchange to the US Special Forces for a year of his career. Heston concluded his career as the officer in charge of the Australian commando training and development program. Upon leaving the military, Heston partnered with and led the establishment of the fitness brand Barry’s Bootcamp in Australia and Singapore. Heston now lives in Sydney where he works as the Chief Partnerships & Strategy Officer for the Veteran’s Charity Swiss8.org, and as the co-owner of Holism Health in Kings Cross.
In this episode we dive into;
- COMMUNITY and why having those around you that will call you forward, keep you authentic and challenge you is the most important ingredient in moving through life with authenticity and integrity.
- DECLUTTERING life by letting go of the layers and extrinsic motivators and connect back to your core, create the frameworks you need to catch you before you fall to enable you to be confidently who you are.
- Authenticity, vulnerability and why being yourself is actually what you crave and what the world needs more of.
Guest: @hestonrussell
Host: @samasser
Podcast: @theinnerexperience
Be the first to register interest in the RESET RETREAT 2021.