Resentment, Gratitude & Sexual Intimacy

Podcast Summary

• Expressing gratitude crucial for emotional security and sexual desire: Regular expressions of gratitude foster a healthy and satisfying sex life by promoting emotional security and reducing resentment

  Expressing gratitude and feeling appreciated are crucial for both emotional security and sexual desire in relationships. When resentment builds up, it can compromise the sexual connection, making it difficult to feel free and aroused in bed. A study discussed on the show connects the dots between a satisfying sex life and regular expressions of gratitude. The host, Emily, also takes calls from listeners seeking advice on how to navigate long-standing issues with their partners that inhibit their desire, how to respond when their partner criticizes their sexual performance, and when it's time to consider ending the relationship due to a lack of affirmation. Overall, the episode emphasizes the importance of emotional security in fostering a healthy and satisfying sex life. Preorder the new book, "Smart Sex," for more tips on strengthening the foundation for good sex throughout your life. Listeners can also participate in Vush's 14-day We Come First campaign to prioritize intimacy and connection with their partners.

• Improve your summer experiences with gratitude and products: Expressing gratitude towards your partner strengthens your bond, while using products like Promescent and the Magic Wand can enhance your pleasure and summer memories.

  Enhancing your summer experiences, whether it's through using products like Promescent for longer-lasting intimacy or the iconic Magic Wand for pleasure, or expressing gratitude towards your partner, can significantly improve your relationships and overall satisfaction. The study emphasizes the importance of expressing gratitude towards your partner, as it can lead to a stronger sexual bond and deeper connection. Meanwhile, products like Promescent and the Magic Wand can help ensure a more enjoyable and memorable summer. So, don't hesitate to try out new things and express your appreciation to make the most of your experiences. Remember, Promescent is offering a 15% discount at promesent.com/emily, and Sex with Emily has a variety of Magic Wand options available at sexwithemily.com/magicwand.

• Expressing gratitude and compliments: Practicing gratitude and expressing compliments can shift focus, improve motivation, and deepen connection in relationships

  Expressing gratitude and compliments towards your partner can significantly improve your relationship and your own motivation to fulfill their needs. When we focus too much on the negative, our brains tend to go into a "fight or flight" mode, making it harder to feel sexual attraction or be motivated to meet our partner's needs. By consciously practicing gratitude and expressing compliments, we can shift our focus and create a more positive and fulfilling relationship dynamic. This can lead to increased motivation, better communication, and a deeper connection with our partner. So, take some time to reflect on what you appreciate about your partner and express it to them regularly. You might be surprised by the positive impact it has on your relationship.

• Expressing appreciation and receiving compliments stimulate the brain: Compliments and appreciation enhance relationships and well-being, activate brain regions similar to cash or gifts, and shift mindset towards positivity

  Expressing appreciation and receiving compliments can significantly improve our relationships and overall well-being. This is because compliments stimulate the same regions of the brain that are activated by receiving cash or gifts. Furthermore, focusing on what we're grateful for and expressing appreciation to others can help shift our mindset and enhance our bonds with them. This simple practice can lead to greater satisfaction and intimacy in our relationships, and it doesn't cost anything. So, instead of dwelling on negative thoughts and resentments, try expressing appreciation and receiving compliments more often. It can make a big difference in how we feel about ourselves and our relationships.

• Communicating about sex drive issues in relationships: Normal for sex drive to fluctuate, communicate openly, consider if relationship worth continuing, people don't usually change much over time

  It's normal for our sex drive and sex life to fluctuate over time, and it's important to communicate openly with our partners about any issues we're facing, especially if those issues are impacting our sex life. April, who is experiencing a decrease in her sex drive due to frustrations in her relationship, was reassured that this is normal and that the emotional part of the relationship can often get in the way of physical intimacy. However, she was also encouraged to consider whether she wants to continue in the relationship and whether her partner is willing to address the bigger issues that are causing her resentment. It was emphasized that people don't usually change much over time, so it's important to decide whether one is willing to accept things as they are or to seek out a relationship where one's needs are met.

• Addressing Multiple Aspects of a Relationship: Effective communication and addressing interconnected issues like sex life, motivation, and shared responsibilities are crucial for a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

  Addressing multiple aspects of a relationship is crucial for its growth and sustainability. The discussion revolves around a woman in her late 30s who has been with her partner for two years and is dealing with issues related to their sex life, her partner's lack of motivation, and their untrained dog. These issues, as the speaker emphasizes, are interconnected and significant. The woman's concern about her partner's lack of motivation and their stagnant sex life could be rooted in her feeling unsupported and unsatisfied in their relationship. The untrained dog might add to her stress and sense of responsibility, further straining their relationship. The speaker suggests that the couple should prioritize open communication and consider seeking help from a therapist to work through these issues. In essence, the key takeaway is that addressing multiple aspects of a relationship, such as communication, personal growth, and shared responsibilities, is essential for a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

• Discussing Healthy Relationships and Diet with Hero Bread: Prioritize self-care, set healthy boundaries, and understand unique needs in relationships and diet.

  It's important to prioritize your health and well-being in all aspects of life, including relationships and diet. During the discussion, the speaker shared her experience with trying Hero Bread, which offers delicious, low net carb bread options that align with health goals. Meanwhile, a caller named Mary shared her struggle in a new relationship where her partner's high sexual demands were causing her stress and guilt. The speaker provided empathetic advice, acknowledging the unhealthy dynamic and encouraging Mary to set boundaries and prioritize her own needs. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and understanding that everyone's needs and desires are unique in relationships.

• Respecting each other's needs in a relationship: Seek a partner who respects and supports your personal growth, communicates openly, and prioritizes your needs in a healthy relationship.

  It's essential to be in a relationship where both parties respect each other's needs and limitations. The speaker in the conversation shared her experience of feeling used and unsatisfied in her current relationship due to her partner's lack of understanding and empathy towards her needs. Her friend advised her to trust herself and seek a partner who appreciates and supports her personal development. Another example given was of a man named Daryl, who felt his partner was not meeting his sexual needs and was using their therapy sessions to discuss her shortcomings instead. The friend pointed out that both parties should be open to communication and compromise in a relationship. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of being in a healthy and respectful relationship where both partners are willing to listen, understand, and prioritize each other's needs. It's crucial to be aware of manipulative tactics and seek a partner who builds you up instead of using your vulnerabilities against you. If you find yourself in a toxic or unhealthy relationship, it's essential to trust yourself and consider moving on.

• Understanding Emotional Needs in Relationships: Effective communication and expressing emotions are crucial in relationships. Partners should make efforts to meet each other's emotional needs through words and actions.

  Communication and expressing emotions are key components in a healthy relationship. The man in this conversation, Daryl, has been asking his partner, Sweetie, for years to write him a heartfelt letter expressing her feelings towards him, but she has never done so. Instead, he found a notebook where she had written about him. Daryl feels unloved and unappreciated as he believes he is not receiving the physical touch and words of affirmation that he needs. He has been in therapy with Sweetie, but it ended due to cost. They had a recent argument, and Daryl feels that Sweetie is not making any efforts to change their relationship dynamics. Daryl is now questioning whether he should continue in this relationship, as he deserves to be with someone who appreciates and makes him feel loved. In essence, the conversation highlights the importance of open and effective communication, expressing emotions, and both partners making efforts to meet each other's needs.

• Honest conversation about relationships and unmet needs: Approach conversations without blame or shame, identify solutions, consider new relationships if necessary, prioritize personal happiness, seek therapy if needed, and practice open communication and self-care.

  Having an honest conversation about relationships and identifying unmet needs is crucial for maintaining a healthy partnership. It's essential to approach the conversation without blaming or shaming, and both parties should be open to finding solutions or considering new relationships if necessary. Remember, everyone deserves a satisfying partnership, and it's okay to prioritize personal happiness. If a conversation becomes heated, it may be necessary to seek therapy or end the relationship. Overall, open communication and self-care are key to fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship.