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    Robert Greene: How to Deal with Negative People When They Are in Your Family, Friend Circle or Work

    enAugust 05, 2024
    What is the main theme of Radi Devluke's podcast?
    How does Robert Greene view self-awareness?
    What role do apps like Calm play in mental wellness?
    What insights can ancient civilizations provide about human consciousness?
    Why is empathy considered important in personal growth?

    Podcast Summary

    • Embracing vulnerability, personal growthExploring emotional experiences, inspiring pivots, self-awareness, and mental wellness can lead to personal growth and meaningful connections

      Embracing vulnerability and understanding the importance of emotional connection can lead to personal growth and inspiration. Radi Devluke invites listeners to join him in his new podcast, A Really Good Cry, where they'll discuss emotional experiences with friends and admired authors. Emily Tisch Sussman's She Pivots podcast explores inspiring pivots women have made and the personal reasons behind them. Robert Greene, author of several best-selling books, emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and recognizing that our perception of ourselves can be influenced by others. Additionally, taking care of mental wellness through apps like Calm can help manage stress and promote overall well-being. Whether it's through podcasts, books, or self-care practices, embracing vulnerability and personal growth can lead to meaningful connections and inspiration.

    • Character assessmentBe aware of potential negative influences and their weak character traits, such as defensiveness, inability to handle stress, and lack of humility, to avoid toxic relationships and focus on personal growth

      It's crucial to be aware of the people we let into our lives and their potential impact on our character and well-being. Negative individuals, such as narcissists, can be charming and deceiving, but their weak character traits, like inability to take criticism or handle stress, can be detrimental. To avoid getting entangled in negative relationships, it's essential to recognize the signs of weak character, such as defensiveness, inability to handle stress, and lack of humility. Additionally, being aware of our own weaknesses and vulnerabilities can help us avoid being drawn to toxic individuals. Ultimately, focusing on personal growth through work, ideas, and continuous learning can help fill the emptiness within and reduce the attraction to negative influences.

    • Emptiness and InterconnectednessFinding balance between work, identity, and emptiness/interconnectedness is crucial for inner peace. Writing and ideas provide purpose, while meditation helps understand emptiness. Empathy is inherent, but often overlooked due to societal pressures and individual focus. Letting go of thoughts and embracing empathy can lead to a more meaningful life.

      Our work and experiences shape our identity, but it's important to find balance and appreciate the emptiness or interconnectedness with others and the world around us. The speaker shared how writing and ideas give him a sense of purpose and humanity, while meditation helps him understand the emptiness and interconnectedness of all things. He also observed that people respond kindly to those in need, revealing an inherent empathy within us that is often overlooked due to societal pressures and individual focus. To cultivate this empathy and find inner peace, recognizing and letting go of thoughts as phantoms rather than reality is essential. Social media, with its engaging and emotionally manipulative nature, can be a hindrance to this practice. Embracing the emptiness and empathy within us can lead to a more meaningful and connected life.

    • Perspective and RealityBecoming aware of our thoughts and perspectives can lead to personal growth and transformation. Practicing thought editing and mindfulness can help us challenge limiting beliefs and shape a positive reality.

      Our thoughts and perspectives shape our reality, and becoming aware of this can lead to personal growth and transformation. This was a common theme that emerged during a conversation with friends, who emphasized the importance of listening to one's body and having meaningful conversations to navigate life's challenges. Radi Devlukea's podcast, "She Pivots," explores inspiring stories of women who have made significant shifts in their lives, highlighting the personal reasons behind their pivots. Another example of the power of perspective comes from the story of "Afghan Star," a talent show that brought music back to Afghanistan despite the Taliban's ban on music. The participants faced great danger, but their passion for music and the joy it brought to the nation ultimately prevailed. Additionally, our thoughts, although not real in themselves, can become our reality through repetition and belief. Practicing thought editing and mindfulness can help us become more aware of our thoughts and challenge any limiting beliefs that may be holding us back. As John O'Donohue said, "The mind is basically Topsy Turvy. It's upside down," and it's essential to remember that our thoughts are not our reality.

    • Self-evaluationConstantly questioning beliefs and values leads to authentic self-discovery, but it can also cause uncertainty and identity crisis. Differentiating internal from external influences helps prevent losing oneself.

      Constantly questioning and evaluating our beliefs and values is a healthy process that helps us discover and build our authentic selves. However, it can be challenging as it leads to uncertainty and identity crisis. To effectively question ourselves without losing ourselves, we need to differentiate between what truly resonates with us and what is influenced by external factors. It's essential to understand that our self-perception may differ from how others perceive us, and it's important to stay true to ourselves while sharing our passions and knowledge with the world. Ultimately, this process leads to a deeper understanding of our purpose and essence, providing a sense of certainty and fulfillment in life.

    • Perceptions and ComplexityPeople are complex and multifaceted, and being labeled or categorized based on perceived similarities can limit understanding. Self-reflection and acknowledging imperfections are crucial for ongoing growth.

      People often label and categorize others based on their perceived similarities, but individuals are complex and multifaceted. Robert Greene, the author of "The Laws of Human Nature," shares his own struggles with being perceived as someone he's not and the burden of living up to others' expectations. He emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and acknowledging one's flaws and imperfections. The concept of a linear "before and after" journey is misleading, as challenges and emotions are cyclical and require ongoing growth and self-awareness. Greene's work is inspired by the ideas that old concepts can yield new ideas and that the ability to explain complex ideas simply is a sign of a deep understanding.

    • Creativity and UnknownEmbrace discomfort and uncertainty to discover new ideas, find inspiration in old texts, and trust the process to create unique and challenging work.

      Creativity and significance lie in the unknown and the unfamiliar. Robert Greene, in his conversation, emphasized the importance of not repeating the same work and instead, striving for new challenges. He finds inspiration in old texts, appreciating their timeless human truths and the privacy and intimacy of the creator's work. Greene's creative process involves embracing discomfort and uncertainty, trusting that the ideas will eventually come. He also shared his experience of writing and the struggle of making each book unique and challenging. In essence, the essence of creativity lies in the journey of discovery, the exploration of the unknown, and the trust in the process.

    • Language and cultureExposing ourselves to diverse languages and cultures can deepen our understanding of ourselves and the world, broaden our perspectives, and unlock new ideas

      Expanding our language and exposing ourselves to diverse cultures and perspectives can help us open up our minds and access deeper, more profound understandings of ourselves and the world around us. The speaker emphasizes the importance of getting at the core of what we're trying to express and connecting with readers on a personal level. They also highlight the limitations of language in English and the need to explore other languages and cultures to unlock new ideas and ways of thinking. The speaker encourages the use of various mediums like books, music, and history to expand our consciousness and challenge our one-dimensional perspectives shaped by technology and social media.

    • Ancient civilizations and human consciousnessExploring ancient civilizations can broaden our perspective and offer unique insights into different ways of thinking and accessing reality due to their raw sensory experiences and distinct cultural practices.

      Delving into the sensory experiences and rich internal worlds of ancient civilizations, as described in Robert Greene's new book, can broaden our perspective and offer unique insights into different ways of thinking and accessing reality. The absence of modern conveniences and the prevalence of raw sensory experiences in ancient societies can lead to a more textured and nuanced understanding of human consciousness. Reading texts from these periods can provide an entree into these distinct ways of thinking, as exemplified by the metaphors and practices of Zen monks, Aztecs, Hawaiians, and Bhutanese cultures. While modern life may be sanitized and homogenized, these ancient perspectives offer a refreshing contrast and a reminder of the richness and diversity of human thought.

    • Origins of consciousnessExploring the unknown, including the origins of consciousness, is crucial for personal growth. Old perspectives on right and wrong evolve as we age, and engaging in thought-provoking conversations with philosophers can broaden our understanding.

      Our perspectives and understanding of life's complexities, such as right and wrong or good and evil, evolve as we age. Robert shared his fascination with the Paleolithic era and the origins of human consciousness, highlighting the importance of exploring the unknown. At the dinner table, he would invite Friedrich Nietzsche, Buddha, and Socrates for a thought-provoking conversation. Robert is currently learning to be more forgiving towards himself, recognizing that self-indulgence is a challenge. The conversation touched on various topics, from the origins of religion and spirituality to the importance of forgiveness and self-compassion. It's a reminder that continuous learning and exploration are essential for personal growth.

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    17:26 Step 1: Become More Conscious

    19:19 Step 2: Wait an Hour Before Going Online

    21:18 Step 3: The WiFi-Free Meal

    23:45 Step 4: Watch What You Consume Online

    24:54 Step 5: Limit Potions

    25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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    Alexis Ren & Allie Michelle: 3 Ways to Stop Putting a Guard up in Love & Why You Need to Change Your Mindset On What Success Means in Dating

    Alexis Ren & Allie Michelle: 3 Ways to Stop Putting a Guard up in Love & Why You Need to Change Your Mindset On What Success Means in Dating

    How can you start letting your guard down in love?

    How can you become more open and vulnerable in your relationships?

    Today, let's welcome Alexis Ren and Allie Michelle. Alexis is a model, entrepreneur, and social media influencer with over 18 million followers on Instagram. Known for her advocacy of mental health and self-empowerment, Alexis has leveraged her platform to promote wellness and personal growth. She is also the co-founder of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

    Allie is a bestselling author, spoken word artist, and certified yoga, breathwork, meditation, Reiki, and craniosacral therapist. She is passionate about holistic health and personal development, which she incorporates into her work. The duo are the co-founders of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

    Alexis and Allie's friendship began when they were preteens and they share how their relationship has been a cornerstone of their personal growth, providing mutual support through life's challenges. A significant turning point in their friendship occurred when Alexis's mother passed away, leading to Allie’s family adopting Alexis. 

    A significant theme throughout the discussion is the balance of masculine and feminine energies, which Alexis and Allie explore in depth. They describe how these energies play out in their lives and work, with Alexis often taking on a more masculine, action-oriented role, while Allie embodies a more feminine, intuitive approach. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and honoring both energies within oneself and in others, as this balance has been crucial in their personal and professional lives.

    Alexis and Allie also address the societal pressures that women face, particularly around beauty standards and career expectations. Both women emphasize the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and societal expectations to find deeper fulfillment and authenticity.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to support a friend

    How to manage criticism

    How to build a strong friendship

    How to stay authentic

    How to handle creative blocks

    How to empower others

    Embrace the balance of your masculine and feminine energies, break free from societal expectations, and empower each other to thrive on the journey to self-discovery and growth.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 03:38 Beginning of a Friendship 
    • 08:25 Growing Together Independently
    • 10:21 Going Through Big and Small Changes
    • 15:19 Creative and Emotional Intelligence
    • 18:30 Validating and Complimenting Each Other 
    • 21:59 Types of Archetypes
    • 27:18 What's Holding Women Back?
    • 29:46 Start Embracing Your Feminine Energy
    • 33:38 Why Did It Trigger You?
    • 41:00 How to Prepare for Life
    • 45:23 Living an Internally Peaceful Life
    • 52:44 Balance Between Masculine and Feminine Energy
    • 01:02:25 Dealing with the Imbalance in Your Energy
    • 01:07:00 You Can Do Uncomfortable Things
    • 01:10:16 The Best Journaling Practice
    • 01:14:39 Speak to Your Subconscious
    • 01:16:55 Try Leaning Into the Moment
    • 01:23:27 Relationship Checklist 
    • 01:28:38 Alexis and Allie on Final Five 
    • 01:37:46 Giving Each Other the Grace of Change

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