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    Wedding Confessions: Budget, Who Paid, and Biggest Learnings

    enJuly 27, 2022

    Podcast Summary

    • Everyone's wedding journey is uniquePersonal circumstances and preferences greatly influence wedding costs, and the decisions surrounding wedding size and cost are deeply personal.

      Personal preferences and circumstances significantly impact the cost of a wedding. Katie, the host of Money with Katie, shared her experience of having a smaller, courthouse wedding in 2021 for tax benefits and later having a larger ceremony and reception in 2022. She acknowledged the judgment that comes with discussing wedding expenses but decided to share openly to reduce the taboo around the topic. Despite her initial reluctance to plan a wedding due to the stress and cost, she ultimately decided to have a larger ceremony for personal reasons. The expenses associated with the bigger event were significantly higher than the courthouse wedding. Katie's experience highlights that everyone's wedding journey is unique, and the decisions surrounding the size and cost of a wedding are deeply personal.

    • Unexpected elopement leads to larger wedding with family involvement and significant costsUnexpected expenses and emotional labor come with traditional weddings, but finding joy and meaning can make it worthwhile

      The speaker's unexpected elopement in Dallas led to a larger, more traditional wedding with family involvement, which came with a significant financial cost. The speaker acknowledges her privilege in having parents who could contribute financially, but also highlights the challenges and emotional labor involved in wedding planning as a woman. The speaker shares that if she could do it again, she would have started with securing a venue and involving family earlier in the process. Despite the unexpected expenses and challenges, the speaker ultimately found joy and meaning in the wedding experience.

    • Unexpected costs in popular wedding destinationsConsider less popular days, opt for all-inclusive venues with preferred vendors, be aware of hidden costs, and minimize decorations and wedding party size to save on a destination wedding.

      Planning a destination wedding, especially in a popular venue, can come with unexpected costs. The speaker shared her experience of planning a wedding in Colorado, where she found beautiful venues but was surprised by the high prices. She noted that getting married on less popular days of the week, like Thursdays or Fridays, can help save money. Additionally, opting for an all-inclusive venue with preferred vendors can simplify the planning process but may also come with a higher price tag. The speaker emphasized the importance of being aware of hidden costs and being mindful of budget while making selections. She also shared that minimizing decorations and having a smaller wedding party can help keep costs down. Overall, the key takeaway is to carefully consider the costs and be prepared for potential unexpected expenses when planning a destination wedding.

    • Unexpected wedding costs can exceed budget expectationsBe aware of potential hidden wedding costs and stick to a budget, using digital save the dates and online RSVPs to save on paper and postage costs.

      Wedding costs can quickly add up and potentially exceed initial budget expectations. The speaker shared her experience of being surprised by the high costs of various wedding expenses, including flowers ($45,100), photographer ($3,000), videographer ($38,100), DJ ($2,000), day of coordinator ($25,100), and her wedding dress ($25,100). She also mentioned unexpected costs, such as tips for vendors and service charges, which added to the overall expense. Despite her efforts to keep costs low, the final cost came in at around $48,000, even without additional decorations or extras. The speaker emphasized the importance of being aware of potential hidden costs and sticking to a budget as best as possible. She also recommended using digital save the dates and online RSVPs to save on paper and postage costs.

    • Unexpected costs in wedding planningCareful planning, transparency, and communication are crucial to avoiding unexpected expenses in wedding planning and staying within budget.

      The wedding industry can come with unexpected costs, and budgets can quickly spiral out of control. Anna Braff, founder of Providence Rentals, shared her experience of the financial creep in wedding planning, where one expense leads to another. The pandemic has caused some couples to opt for smaller, more affordable weddings, while others have gone all out. Hidden fees, such as cash tips and unexpected venue costs, can add up quickly. It's crucial for couples to read their contracts carefully and understand what they are responsible for. Transparency is essential when working with vendors, and treating them with respect is important, as they too have business costs. Overall, careful planning and communication are key to avoiding unexpected expenses and staying within budget.

    • Avoid unexpected wedding costs by overbudgeting and reading contractsOverbudget for potential additional costs and read contracts carefully to prevent unexpected expenses from last-minute changes, rush rates, taxes, and damages.

      When planning a wedding or event, it's essential to overbudget and thoroughly read contracts to avoid unexpected costs. Service fees, damages, additional staff, and last-minute changes can significantly increase the final bill. Vendors may charge rush rates for last-minute additions, and taxes are usually added to rentals and services. It's also crucial to ask about contingencies for unforeseen circumstances, such as a vendor getting COVID-19. Planning for potential additional costs and being flexible can help ensure a successful event. As one speaker mentioned, "you're always gonna spend more than you think you are," whether it's building a home or planning a wedding.

    • Understanding Wedding Policies and ContingenciesSet a budget, trim the guest list, research vendors, ask questions, and be prepared for unexpected costs and contingencies in wedding planning.

      It's crucial to understand the policies and potential unknowns when planning a wedding, especially regarding cancellations and substitutions. Vendors may freelance for each other, and unexpected events like illness or inclement weather can lead to additional costs. Setting a budget, trimming the guest list, and researching vendors thoroughly are essential strategies for staying within budget. Don't hesitate to ask questions, even if they seem obvious, to ensure a clear understanding of costs and contingencies. Wedding planning involves many uncertainties, so being informed and prepared is essential.

    • Prioritize what's important for your wedding and consider cost-effective optionsExplore thrift stores, sample sales, and digital invitations for cost savings without sacrificing the experience. Research and do the work to find the best deals.

      When it comes to planning a wedding or any significant event, it's essential to prioritize what's important to you and narrow down your options accordingly. You don't have to go for the cheapest or most expensive option; instead, consider reliability, convenience, and personal style. For instance, a TikToker found her perfect wedding dress at a thrift store for a fraction of the cost of a new one, while another bride found her dream Monique Lilier dress at a sample sale. Moreover, there are various ways to save costs without compromising the experience. For example, opting for digital invitations, reducing waste, or finding alternative solutions for minor details like the basket for the flower girl. It's essential to be willing to do the work and research to find the best deals and options. Lastly, having a photographer who provides a checklist can help ensure that you capture all the essential moments of your wedding day.

    • Planning a Stress-Free Wedding with a Day-of CoordinatorConsider hiring a day-of coordinator to manage logistics and enjoy your wedding day stress-free. Prioritize what's important and allocate resources accordingly to create a memorable wedding experience while managing costs.

      Planning a unique and memorable wedding involves careful preparation and consideration, which can include hiring a day-of coordinator to help manage the logistics. This can be especially worthwhile for couples who want to enjoy their wedding day without the stress of coordinating vendors and schedules. Additionally, wedding planning costs can vary widely, with some couples relying on family support and others financing the wedding themselves. It's important for couples to carefully consider their budget and explore ways to save on costs while still creating a memorable wedding experience. Ultimately, the key is to prioritize what's most important to the couple and allocate resources accordingly.

    • Social media creating unrealistic wedding expectationsFocus on creating a memorable and meaningful wedding within budget, instead of trying to live up to unattainable social media standards.

      Social media can create unrealistic expectations for weddings, leading to financial strain and unnecessary stress for couples and their guests. The ideal weddings portrayed on Instagram, Pinterest, and TikTok often come with hefty price tags that are not within reach for most people. The pressure to keep up with these ideals can result in a competitive and toxic environment, where comparisons can steal joy. Couples should remember that the average person cannot afford a 6-figure or multi-6-figure wedding, and it's essential to focus on what's realistic and affordable for their unique situation. Instead of trying to live up to unattainable standards, couples should focus on creating a memorable and meaningful wedding experience for themselves and their guests, without breaking the bank.

    • Teaching Kids About Money: Parents' Role is CrucialParents' behaviors and attitudes towards money significantly influence children's understanding and relationship with it. Focus on savings, delayed gratification, and informed decisions.

      Teaching children about personal finance is an important task that starts at home. While formal education can help, children learn most about money through observing their parents' behaviors and attitudes towards it. Parents' language around money and their priorities can have a significant impact on children's understanding and relationship with money. It's essential to be mindful of the messages we send about money, focusing on the importance of saving, delayed gratification, and making informed decisions. By involving children in financial discussions and decisions, we can help them develop healthy financial habits that will serve them well in the future.

    • Talking to Kids About Money: Ted's ApproachBe open and honest with kids about money, consider their age and maturity level, and use educational resources to foster healthy financial habits.

      Being intentional and thoughtful about how we educate our children about money is an important role for parents. Ted, as an example, is already demonstrating this by considering how to approach the topic with his own kids. It's essential to have open and honest conversations about money to help our children develop healthy financial habits. The Money with Katie show, produced by Morning Brew, aims to provide valuable insights into personal finance. The team behind the show includes Nick Torres, Katie Gaddi Tassan, Sarah Singer, Henna Velez, Sam Cat, and Jojo Beans. Each episode, they discuss various topics to help listeners improve their financial literacy. By tuning in, you'll gain knowledge and skills to manage your money effectively and confidently.

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