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    Why Your Unresolved Trauma is Keeping You Stuck & How to Rewire Your Brain to Move Forward with Laverne Cox

    enAugust 09, 2024
    What role does emotional embrace play in personal growth?
    How do podcasts like 'She Pivots' inspire career changes?
    In what ways can Calm aid mental health management?
    What does Lemon's story reveal about resilience?
    Why is empathy important in conversations about differing viewpoints?

    Podcast Summary

    • Embracing Past ExperiencesOur past experiences, whether positive or negative, shape who we are and can provide valuable lessons for personal growth. Prioritizing mental health and utilizing resources like podcasts and tools can help us navigate emotions and learn from our past.

      Our past experiences, whether traumatic or seemingly insignificant, shape who we are today. Radi Devluke encourages us to embrace our emotions and learn from our past through his podcast "A Really Good Cry." Emily Tisch Sussman's podcast "She Pivots" highlights inspiring stories of women who have made significant shifts in their careers, reminding us that every experience, good or bad, contributes to our personal growth. Mental health is a priority, and resources like Calm offer accessible tools to help manage stress and anxiety. Lemon's story of overcoming bullying and finding identity through dance and public speaking demonstrates the power of resilience and self-acceptance. Overall, these podcasts and personal stories remind us to tune in to our emotions, learn from our experiences, and prioritize our mental well-being.

    • Experiences and IdentityOur past experiences, positive or negative, shape our identity and provide us with the tools to overcome challenges. Owning our stories and acknowledging traumas, while focusing on neutral and positive experiences, can help us develop resilience and re-write our stories.

      Our past experiences, even those filled with trauma and adversity, can shape our identity and provide us with the tools to overcome challenges. The speaker shares how her experiences in middle school, despite the bullying and rejection, helped her develop a strong sense of self-worth based on her intelligence and talent. She also emphasizes the importance of owning our stories and acknowledging the traumas we've faced, while also recognizing the resources and affirmations that helped us get through. The speaker's journey to re-parent her inner child involves shifting focus from the traumas to the neutral and positive experiences, using techniques like somatic work and mindfulness to deepen resilience and create new neurotransmitters in the nervous system. Overall, the speaker encourages embracing the both/and of our experiences and focusing on the neutral and positive to build resilience and write a brave new ending to our stories.

    • Emotional ResilienceAcknowledging and addressing difficult emotions is crucial for emotional resilience and overall well-being, as unprocessed emotions can lead to negative health outcomes.

      Acknowledging and addressing difficult emotions, rather than denying them, is essential for true resilience and overall well-being. Our bodies and minds are interconnected, and unprocessed emotions can lead to negative health outcomes if left unaddressed. Practicing tools like tracking emotions and finding neutral or positive places can help deepen our resilience zone and create a healthier response to stressors. Denial can be harmful as it keeps us from living in the truth and dealing with past traumas, which can manifest physically and emotionally. It's important to recognize and address the historical roots of our reactions to ensure long-term growth and healing.

    • Thoughts and emotionsRecognizing and regulating disruptive thoughts can help manage emotions and improve well-being. Historical events and attachment relationships play a role in shaping our thoughts and emotions.

      Our thoughts and past experiences can significantly impact our emotions and behavior in the present. The speaker shared an experience of getting caught up in a shame spiral, which she realized was rooted in historical events and not about the current situation or the person involved. She emphasized the importance of recognizing and regulating our thoughts, especially those that disrupt our nervous system and create stories that aren't based in reality. The speaker also highlighted the role of attachment theory and safe relationships in helping us navigate difficult emotions and build resilience. Overall, the conversation underscores the importance of self-awareness, mindfulness, and the power of human connection in managing our emotional well-being.

    • Personal growth and success through experiencesEvery experience, no matter how small or challenging, contributes to our personal growth and success. Celebrating the humanity and resilience of marginalized communities, like the transgender community, is crucial for a more inclusive and accepting society.

      Every experience, no matter how seemingly insignificant or challenging, contributes to our personal growth and success. This idea is explored in depth through the inspiring stories of women on the She Pivots podcast. Additionally, it's important to acknowledge and address the struggles and challenges faced by marginalized communities, such as the transgender community, and to celebrate their humanity and resilience. The current backlash against transgender rights is a deeply concerning issue, but it's crucial to hold on to the reality of their lives and the beauty and talent they bring to the world. By sharing their stories and recognizing their humanity, we can challenge the propagandistic misinformation campaigns and work towards a more inclusive and accepting society.

    • Systemic causes of mental health issuesUnderstanding systemic causes of mental health issues, such as white supremacy, cisnormativity, patriarchy, and capitalism, can help reduce feelings of hopelessness and empower individuals to live with dignity and self-respect.

      Mental health and wellness are deeply connected to the structures of domination in society, such as white supremacy, cisnormativity, patriarchy, and capitalism. Indigenous cultures around the world have long recognized the existence of third and fourth-gender traditions, making trans and non-binary people nothing new. For individuals, especially those from marginalized communities, mental health journeys involve unlearning internalized oppression and systemic biases. Education and critical consciousness are essential tools to help individuals take responsibility for their lives and navigate the intersecting structures of domination. Understanding the systemic causes of stress and frustration can help reduce feelings of hopelessness and empower individuals to live with dignity and self-respect.

    • Defending personal autonomyChallenge dehumanizing narratives, defend personal autonomy in gender identity and reproductive rights, promote media literacy, offer empathy to those radicalized, and foster a more compassionate society.

      It's crucial to challenge dehumanizing narratives and defend personal autonomy, particularly in regards to gender identity and reproductive rights. Trans people and their families, as well as those seeking abortions, should have the right to privacy and expert-guided care without outside interference. Media literacy and critical thinking skills are essential in navigating information and understanding the underlying motivations behind harmful narratives. Ultimately, it's important to recognize the emotional and psychological factors that drive people towards harmful beliefs and offer empathy and understanding to those who have been radicalized, while also acknowledging the consequences of their actions. By fostering a more compassionate and informed society, we can create a more inclusive and supportive environment for all individuals.

    • Empathy in conversationsApproach conversations with empathy and a desire for understanding, especially during times of conflict and disagreement. Foster human connections and promote genuine dialogue to challenge misconceptions and create a more inclusive society.

      During times of conflict and disagreement, it's essential to approach conversations with empathy and a desire for understanding. Instead of siloing ourselves with like-minded individuals, we should aim for open and respectful dialogue with those holding differing viewpoints. Joe Rogan, with his diverse range of guests and topics, could be an ideal conversational partner for such a discussion. The ongoing debate around trans people in sports is a prime example of misinformation and fear-mongering spreading through media outlets, leading to unnecessary bans and restrictions. In reality, trans women have not dominated sports, and there's a lack of substantial evidence supporting the claim that they hold an unfair advantage. By fostering human connections and promoting genuine dialogue, we can challenge misconceptions and create a more inclusive and empathetic society.

    • Transphobia in debatesTransphobia, not fairness or children's welfare, drives debates about trans people in sports and gender-affirming care. It's important to recognize the humanity of all individuals and promote understanding and acceptance.

      The ongoing debates about transgender people in sports and gender-affirming care are not primarily about fairness or children's welfare, but rather a deep-seated discomfort and fear of trans people existing. These issues serve as a distraction from the real goal of erasing trans people from public life. The conversation around gender roles and women's independence adds to the confusion and anxiety for some people, making trans people a convenient scapegoat. Ultimately, the fear of uncertainty and the need for a binary understanding of gender contribute to the efforts to legislate against trans people's existence. It is essential to recognize the humanity of all individuals involved in these discussions and work towards understanding and acceptance rather than division and exclusion.

    • Human connectionsHuman connections can bring understanding and acceptance despite differences. Open conversations and building relationships can challenge preconceived notions and bridge gaps between communities.

      Human connections can transcend differences and bring about understanding and acceptance. The speaker, Leven Cox, shares her personal experiences of being trans and encountering people from diverse backgrounds, who saw past her identity and appreciated her for who she is. These experiences have left a profound impact on her, as she believes that everyone, regardless of their background or identity, is deserving of love and acceptance. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of having open conversations and sitting down with people to build connections and challenge preconceived notions. These connections can lead to meaningful experiences and help bridge the gaps between different communities.

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    24:54 Step 5: Limit Potions

    25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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    Alexis Ren & Allie Michelle: 3 Ways to Stop Putting a Guard up in Love & Why You Need to Change Your Mindset On What Success Means in Dating

    Alexis Ren & Allie Michelle: 3 Ways to Stop Putting a Guard up in Love & Why You Need to Change Your Mindset On What Success Means in Dating

    How can you start letting your guard down in love?

    How can you become more open and vulnerable in your relationships?

    Today, let's welcome Alexis Ren and Allie Michelle. Alexis is a model, entrepreneur, and social media influencer with over 18 million followers on Instagram. Known for her advocacy of mental health and self-empowerment, Alexis has leveraged her platform to promote wellness and personal growth. She is also the co-founder of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

    Allie is a bestselling author, spoken word artist, and certified yoga, breathwork, meditation, Reiki, and craniosacral therapist. She is passionate about holistic health and personal development, which she incorporates into her work. The duo are the co-founders of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

    Alexis and Allie's friendship began when they were preteens and they share how their relationship has been a cornerstone of their personal growth, providing mutual support through life's challenges. A significant turning point in their friendship occurred when Alexis's mother passed away, leading to Allie’s family adopting Alexis. 

    A significant theme throughout the discussion is the balance of masculine and feminine energies, which Alexis and Allie explore in depth. They describe how these energies play out in their lives and work, with Alexis often taking on a more masculine, action-oriented role, while Allie embodies a more feminine, intuitive approach. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and honoring both energies within oneself and in others, as this balance has been crucial in their personal and professional lives.

    Alexis and Allie also address the societal pressures that women face, particularly around beauty standards and career expectations. Both women emphasize the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and societal expectations to find deeper fulfillment and authenticity.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to support a friend

    How to manage criticism

    How to build a strong friendship

    How to stay authentic

    How to handle creative blocks

    How to empower others

    Embrace the balance of your masculine and feminine energies, break free from societal expectations, and empower each other to thrive on the journey to self-discovery and growth.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 03:38 Beginning of a Friendship 
    • 08:25 Growing Together Independently
    • 10:21 Going Through Big and Small Changes
    • 15:19 Creative and Emotional Intelligence
    • 18:30 Validating and Complimenting Each Other 
    • 21:59 Types of Archetypes
    • 27:18 What's Holding Women Back?
    • 29:46 Start Embracing Your Feminine Energy
    • 33:38 Why Did It Trigger You?
    • 41:00 How to Prepare for Life
    • 45:23 Living an Internally Peaceful Life
    • 52:44 Balance Between Masculine and Feminine Energy
    • 01:02:25 Dealing with the Imbalance in Your Energy
    • 01:07:00 You Can Do Uncomfortable Things
    • 01:10:16 The Best Journaling Practice
    • 01:14:39 Speak to Your Subconscious
    • 01:16:55 Try Leaning Into the Moment
    • 01:23:27 Relationship Checklist 
    • 01:28:38 Alexis and Allie on Final Five 
    • 01:37:46 Giving Each Other the Grace of Change

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