Life After Divorce Coaching

Let’s talk about the holidays and how to make it a little brighter this year!  I share my tips and experiences in hopes that you embrace change and go into the holiday season with some fresh ideas and a peaceful mind.

What is buffering?  Divorce stirs up so many emotions and often they linger.  In this episode, we explore all the different ways we turn to outside pleasures to suppress emotions and get a dose of dopamine.  This is a natural response to a grief but let’s talk about why and how we can change this behavior.

What role do your thoughts play when things don’t go your way?  We talk about turning down the volume on your negative thoughts - and using your positive thoughts to rebuild something that has fallen apart.

 

In my practice, I work with so many women along their divorce journey. I want you to meet Valeria, hear her story and listen as we talk about her struggles and where she is now.

 

Today we talk about fear and why it holds us back from making decisions.  No one goes into a marriage thinking they will get divorced but sometimes people grow apart or make choices the marriage can’t overcome.  If we don’t change our thought patterns and let fear control our decisions, we can’t create the life we want.  Join me as we dive into fear and explore those emotions deeper, understand them, and hopefully learn from them so we can keep moving towards happiness!

Today is all about getting back to the foundation using "The Model." Whether you're new to this process or just need a refresher, it's a powerful skill for when you notice your thoughts are not serving you. 

You have the absolute ability to change your results by changing your thoughts - and I'm going to help you do just that. 

Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

In this episode, I will give you advice on how you can create a positive co-parenting relationship and why it is so important for your kids.  For example, treat your relationship with your ex as you would a business partner- keep emotions out of it.  I know my situation is unique, but a civil partnership CAN be accomplished if we just focus on the goal – children who know they are loved.

Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

In the last episode, we talked internal boundaries, the ones we set for ourselves. Today, we're setting external boundaries, meaning boundaries with others. How many of us need help in this area? In this episode, I'll help you define your boundaries and teach you how to communicate them clearly. 
 
When we learn how to set boundaries and how to enforce them:

• We start to take care of ourselves on a whole new level
• We start to love yourself more
• We start to respect the time that you have, how you want to spend it and who and how you want to deal with people

Reminder: What I'm teaching you as a life coach can be applied, not only to circumstances surrounding your divorce, but they apply to other circumstances and other people in your life.

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

 

In the next two episodes, we're talking boundaries -- boundaries you set for yourself and for others. Today is all about you.

In this episode:

• What are boundaries
• How setting boundaries can help us to stop wasting time and energy
• How boundaries can be the key to building strength within

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

 

As women, we’re conditioned to unrealistically, in my opinion, believe that when we marry the person of our dreams or what we think the person of our dreams is, that we will live this make-believe story, which includes a handsome prince who will take care of us, a home with a white picket fence, perfect children and maybe one Golden Doodle. Oh and we'll look amazing and never age. 

We're taught that marriage is the perfect formula for our life ever-after of happiness and bliss. But I ask you, if life is a combination of good and bad, then how is it possible to have a happily ever after? In this episode, we talk about how to have an amazing life post divorce, even when it's not perfect. 

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

One of the things I tell all my clients is that it's a 50/50 life. The sooner we get it, the happier we'll be. Life is 50% good, 50% not so good and knowing that is the key to some amazing days ahead. How you feel today about your divorce is not how you will feel forever -- I promise. So let's dive in. 

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

After divorce, you're likely feeling a bit numb, sad, unmotivated.  There is a time and a place to mourn this, to permit yourself the chance to grieve and to not be hard on yourself. It's important to your healing and then it's important to taking action to your best future self and life.  So part of what I believe is important to becoming the best version of ourselves is to have goals.  

In this episode, we talk: 

• Why we need goals as humans and how they help us on such a larger scale and with a bigger  picture in mind to create a life you want. 
• How to set a defined goal that will motivate you to keep going
• How to create a system that will help you achieve any goal
• What you can do to fee more happy, healthy and balanced

If you don't have a purpose for the future, if you're not striving towards certain goals,  then the present doesn't have any meaning. I'd love to hear more about your goals. Message me here and let's talk!

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

Are you dealing with any feelings of regret stemming from the breakdown of your marriage? I bet the answer is yes. For some of you, it may be a lot of regret that you're thinking about on a more regular basis and for others, it might creep in every so often. I don't want you to get stuck in that regret mode. In this episode, we dive into the feeling of regret and how you can use regret to your advantage, to create a better life for yourself by avoiding the same mistakes and instead going for your dreams. 

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

We're talking one of my favorite subjects, I hope that it rocks your world as much as it did mine.

I call this the manual.

Think about it: You know this very thick manual that you've written for your ex, have you ever let him see it or read it? Does he know what he's supposed to do in order to operate himself in your life post-divorce so that his relationship with you worked correctly? When I ask this of my clients, I get this perplexed look. The manual is like a playbook or rulebook on how the other person should behave, what he should and should not do and a manual is basically your instruction book that you have written for someone else.

While that, in and of itself, is not an issue, it's when we are all tied up in letting our emotional state be dependent on whether this person follows the rules and expectations you've set in this manual that he has never even seen.

Today, we let go of the manual. Let's do this together.

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

 

 

Could you be stuck in divorce victim mentality? It's quite possible.  But you have the ability to change your thoughts and create an amazing life after divorce.

In this episode, I'll give you the tools that I've learned going through my own divorce,  being a child from divorce and dealing with thousands of clients as a divorce attorney for over 26 years.

• How to identify victim mentality and get out of it.
• How to stop playing the blame game
• How to respond to comments that could fuel the flames
• How to surround yourself with others who don't feed the victim mentality

And most importantly, how to take back your own personal power.

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

I know you want to move on to your amazing life, and because I know that you have what it takes to get going, we're  going to start making changes today. 

You are likely searching for something to get you through your divorce and onto your best life. I have no doubt that if you stay with me on this journey, you will understand happiness and fulfillment and truly accomplish and have anything you want in your life. 

In this episode: 

• How to become accountable for yourself and not leave your happiness in the hands of your ex. 
• How you can have an even better life post-divorce
• The four ways most people handle divorce
• The key mistakes that can keep you stuck (and how to avoid them)

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.

What if your divorce could end up being one of the best things that could ever happen to you? Host Doreen Yaffa is a marital and family lawyer and certified life coach who's coached and consulted women for over 26 years -- she's seen it all. Now she's sharing her expertise and own personal experience to help you turn a difficult time into Your Amazing Divorce. 

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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives.  The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship.  As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.