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Developing Anxiety Tolerance
An End to Over-Functioning
Don't Waste a Good Crisis
- You’re not alone. The demands of work and family combined with your drive for perfectionism creates an impossible strain. It’s entirely human, and not a sign of weakness or vulnerability.
- Use this experience wisely. It’s inviting you to withdraw, do a piece of awareness work and find support to move your life forward to a much better place.
The Past Doesn't Define You
What are Your Rules for Life?
Do You Discount the Positive?
Catastrophising- Unhelpful Thinking Style #3
Doe you sometimes leap to the worst possible outcome for a situation?
Does your mind like to scare you with exaggerated and terrible possibilities?
MIne too.
It's called catastrophising, and it's very common.
Naturally, anxiety is fuelled by this type of thinking and mood is also affected, resulting in a perfect storm for further catastrophising.
Medical students know this syndrome well, as I read pathology books I had every disease described...or at least the beginnings of them....
Join me today as we dive deeply into what it is and how to interrupt the process.
Unhelpful Thinking Styles Series - Magical Thinking
Unhelpful Thinking Styles Series - Black and White Thinking
Your Invitation to Provence!
I'm off today to Nice, where I'll spend a week with my family before joining my retreat ladies in Villefranche-sur-Mer.
It's very exciting and uplifting to be at this point.
I came up with the idea of adventure-wellbeing retreats a while ago and started off going to Bali every six months.
I know that many of you are hungry for adventure, and also hungrey to travel with a group of like-minded women.
We will be exploring sights, museums, restaraunts together while also doing a serious piece of wellbeing work.
I'd love to invite you into my community so you can experience the joy of adventure while looking after yourself with yoga, meditation and music.
Join me today for more.
You're Not Who You Think You Are
Personality has huge of momentum.
The stories we tell ourselves have often been running for decades, and consolidate into who we think we are.
But actually, they're just that.
Stories.
Which arise from experiences and meaning-making when we're small, vulnerable and prone to another of our unhelpful thinking styles, personalisation.
This is where we make the event all about us.
I'll be exploring this in more detail in a few weeks time, but for now, let's feel into the momentum these stories develop, and how they can come to feel rigid, stuck and inescapable.
'I'm just a depressed person'
'People don't like me"
'I don't belong.'
These are some of the fundamental beliefs which can arise from our meaning-making and the repetitive stories we choose to tell ourselves.
The good new is, this can change.
Join me today on the podcast to hear more.
Doing what you Love
How did you spend your Easter break?
How often do you do what lights you up?
Whether walking in nature, camping on a deserted (except for 1000 4WD's) island, making music, playing sport; how do you find pleasure in life?
I can hear the sharp intake of breath.
Is it ok for us to take pleasure or should it be all hard work?
It's not an uncommon belief that taking pleasure is too much, too lax. It will make us soft and it will lead to failure.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
So today I'm exploring how do you find fun and enjoyment in life and how often do you make this a priority?
Come join me.
Poser - Life in 23 Yoga Poses
Joy is Simple
Release Yourself from Self-Judgement and Shame
Self-judgement and shame.
It's a potent dynamic. I know it well first-hand and see it a lot in my work.
Are you quick to judge yourself when you have a 'difficult' emotion, like anger, fear, rage, jealousy?
Do you rush to hide them away where no-one will ever know you could be so out of character?
I would answer yes and yes to both those questions, and today in the podcast I'm exploring how to exchange this self-judgement with curiosity.
Because all our emotions are information towards growth. They are emergy which is supposed to move us. Our challenge is to allow them and find a skillful way fro them to move us!
When we hide them away we make ourselves stuck, becoming rigid and uncomfortable.
One way to work with this is to take a step back, examin the whole situation and engage your interest and curiosity instead.
A healthy dose of self compassion can also be helpful!
Join me for todays episode.
I Made a Boundary and it Feels Good!
I made a boundary this week, and it feels so good.
It's one reason this episode is 'late'.
Today I'm exploring how I made the boundary and why, as well as how I'm feeling afterwards - spoiler alert - I feel good!
Our boundaries shape our lives. If your life isn't looking the way you want it, where do you need to make a better boundary?
Sometimes the boundary is with yourself. Exercise daily, eat better, walk in nature once a week. Sometimes it's with other people or screens or social media.
We are bombarded with data, like never before, and good boundaries with the digital world have never been more needed.
How many of you would flinch if I suggested checking facebook once or twice a day instead of 1700 times a day?
No judgement, I've been there too!
I'd love to hear where in your life you've made a fresh, shiny, sparkling boundary, and how thats working out for you!
Here's the link to the webinar replay on boundaries.