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    Explore "attachmentstyles" with insightful episodes like "237: How To Find Love With Anxious Attachment", "How to stop being attracted to the wrong people ft. Haley Hoffman Smith", "HOW MEN CONTROL YOU", "(Rewind): How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationships" and "129 - ATTACHMENT - Alix Earle, The Avoidant Attachment, Hyper-Independence & The Trust Wound ft. Dr Tari Mack" from podcasts like ""Love Life with Matthew Hussey", "Date Yourself Instead", "The Slumflower Hour", "Love Life with Matthew Hussey" and "OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball and leading therapists"" and more!

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    237: How To Find Love With Anxious Attachment

    237: How To Find Love With Anxious Attachment
    Matt and Audrey had the pleasure this week of sitting down with Mark Groves, author of the new book "Liberated Love" and host of the Mark Groves podcast.

    In this episode, we discuss anxious vs. avoidant attachment styles in love, how to overcome co-dependency, getting back together after a break up, and the crucial importance of TRUE honesty and facing reality in having fulfilling relationships.

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    How to stop being attracted to the wrong people ft. Haley Hoffman Smith

    How to stop being attracted to the wrong people ft. Haley Hoffman Smith

    I'm so excited to introduce you to my BFF and spiritual EFT coach, Haley Hoffman Smith. In this episode, we cover one of the most important questions - How do I stop getting attracted to the wrong people?

    Attracitng the wrong people can be a COMMON pattern, and something that happens over and over again - to the point where you start questioning if it's your own doing. Haley dives into the power of our subconscious mind and how healing our subconscious can actually help us heal these toxic patterns.

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    HOW MEN CONTROL YOU

    HOW MEN CONTROL YOU

    This episode was voted for by my patrons over on Patreon!

    In an age where women seem to not grasp that men are swindling them for sex, what can we do to raise our awareness of the ways men passively control women to get what they want from us?

    Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions!

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    (Rewind): How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationships

    (Rewind): How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationships
    We often learn our attachment style very early in life. And it can go on to affect all of our romantic relationships. But how? And to what extent should we excuse people's behaviour because of their attachment style?

    In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Audrey discuss attachment styles, what they mean, and how we can our awareness of them use to navigate relationships.

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    129 - ATTACHMENT - Alix Earle, The Avoidant Attachment, Hyper-Independence & The Trust Wound ft. Dr Tari Mack

    129 - ATTACHMENT - Alix Earle, The Avoidant Attachment, Hyper-Independence & The Trust Wound ft. Dr Tari Mack
    Alix Earle is avoidantly attached! Today, Louise sits down with clinical psychologist and celebrity relationship expert Dr. Tari Mack to dissect all things Alix Earle & Braxton Berrios. The pair discuss recent soundbites from Alix Earle discussing her romantic life and use these to get inside the mind of the Avoidantly Attached so we can better understand those who relate to Aix. Louise & Dr. Tari discuss: The roots of avoidant attachment to childhood  How unconscious attraction keeps us replicating our past patterns How her Father’s infidelity shaped her and developed a ‘trust wound’ The impact of family communication styles on adult attachment ‘Independence vs. Hyper Independence’ and how an emphasis on independence can lead to distancing behaviors Viewing relationships as ‘hard work’ requiring ‘lots of time, attention and investment’ The pair also discuss ‘The Trust Wound’ and the impact of its ability to trust others around us, particularly in dating. ----- ⭐ Want weekly bonus episodes, access to our community room ‘The House’ + access to our ‘Ask A Therapist’ room? Join OPENHOUSE Premium. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Dr. Tari Mack on Instagram: @drtarimack Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    (Matt Monday): How to Stop Addictive Thoughts About Someone Bad for You

    (Matt Monday): How to Stop Addictive Thoughts About Someone Bad for You
    “How can I stop addictive thoughts about someone who’s wrong for me?”

    When we really like someone but know there are signs of problems, we’ll often overvalue them for their charisma and charm . . . and set ourselves up for massive future heartbreak. 

    If you find yourself getting fixated on someone too quickly—trying to make them fit into a relationship based on who they could be—then watch this week’s episode (taken from my Live Retreat) to figure out when someone is truly worthy of your investment.

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    76. Can a Scapegoat & Golden Child have a relationship?

    237. Why We Love the Way We Love: Attachment Styles with Dr. Becky Kennedy

    237. Why We Love the Way We Love: Attachment Styles with Dr. Becky Kennedy
    Glennon and Amanda share why they love this wildly popular conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy and how it radically changed their approaches to parenting their kids (and reparenting themselves).  Dr. Becky Kennedy guides us through Attachment Styles, how our past comes alive in our present – and how to free ourselves and raise freer kids. 1. Why attachment styles are at the heart of our most intense conflicts (in ourselves and with others). 2. How to rewire our original mental coding (75% of which is complete by age 3), so we can have more peace. 3. How our physical and emotional attractions in adulthood are dictated by childhood attachments. 4. Why it’s never too late to initiate relationship repair, and the warning signs that we’re starved for connection. 5. How we can help our kids trust their instincts, use parenting as a path to grow in the ways we’ve always wanted to grow, and build empathy for our own imperfect parents. For our other conversations with Dr. Becky Kennedy, check out:  130. Breaking Cycles and Reparenting Yourself with Dr. Becky Kennedy 131. How to Raise Untamed Kids with Dr. Becky Kennedy 170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy About Dr. Becky: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and mom of three, named “The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine.Dr. Becky is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be and founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky’s complete parenting content collection all in one place. Her podcast “Good Inside with Dr. Becky” – was one of Apple Podcasts “Best Shows of 2021.” TW: @goodinside IG: @drbeckyatgoodinside To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    119: Toxic Relationships, Red Flags & THE ICK Ft. LalalaLetMeExplain

    119: Toxic Relationships, Red Flags & THE ICK Ft. LalalaLetMeExplain

    Hello tiny winies, we have an extra special treat for you this week!! Sophie and Melissa are joined by the anonymous relationship extraordinaire LalalaLetMeExplain. 


    From decoding red flags, limerence and toxic relationships, Lala will be talking through all things relationships with the girls. Don’t miss it! 


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    95 - ATTACHMENT - Should The Anxiously Attached Stop Demonizing The Avoidant Attachment Style?

    95 - ATTACHMENT - Should The Anxiously Attached Stop Demonizing The Avoidant Attachment Style?
    Should we stop demonizing the avoidantly attached? In this exclusive OPENHOUSE Voice Note from Lu (usually available only for our OPENHOUSE Premium Subscribers), we dive into the world of the avoidantly attached and ask - should they really be demonized? Louise delves into: Unmasking the reasons behind the avoidantly attached getting a bad rap – are they truly out to hurt us? Cultivating compassion by unraveling their underlying fears and understanding the biological and physical responses that shape their attachment style. Exploring how understanding their behavior helps us comprehend the potential impact they can have on our lives. Shedding light on why the anxiously attached tend to be more vocal and expressive compared to their avoidant counterparts. And the ultimate question: Should you consider dating someone with an avoidant attachment style or steer clear? This episode is sponsored by Lilybod. To redeem your 40% off your Healing Girl outfit, click here and use code ⭐ OPENHOUSE40 ⭐ at checkout:AU: https://lilybod.com/discount/OPENHOUSEUK: https://uk.lilybod.com/discount/OPENHOUSE ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⭐ Want more Home Truths and Voice Notes from Lu? Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM today for weekly bonus episodes, a full back catalogue of episodes, access to our vibrant Community Area 'The House,' and our exclusive 'Ask A Therapist' room with guaranteed therapist responses. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumballConnect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselifeSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    88 - DATING - Why Your Body Hates 'Healthy Relationships' + The Biology of The Spark, The Chase & The Ick

    88 - DATING - Why Your Body Hates 'Healthy Relationships' + The Biology of The Spark, The Chase & The Ick
    Chasing hot and cold behavior, tolerating inconsistency & trying to change emotional unavailability doesn’t sound attractive, so why the F is it attractive to some of us? Does the truth lie within our nervous system? Sarah Murphy, biology of trauma expert, would say yes and that someone with a dysregulated nervous system, who is wired for a high baseline of stress, will find stable relationships and people *boring* and will search for a chemical cocktail of excitement from people who are just not quite right for them. The pair get into:  How attraction ties back to our nervous system Why we keep attracting the same types of people repeatedly Why we search for a highs through romantic love and romantic drama Why stable relationships feel so boring to some of us Why Mr. Nice Guy, or Mr. Nice Girl can feel so uncomfortable too Why the spark disappears as the relationship progresses The biology of the ick ‘Love addiction’ and whether being addicted to someone is the same as being addicted to a drug The biochemical drivers of cheating Louise also shares her experience of how her ex reaching out to her after two years impacted her on a VERY interesting biochemical level. ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––40% OFF YOUR HEALING GIRL OUTFIT WITH LILYBOD This episode is sponsored by Lilybod. To redeem your 40% off click here, using code ⭐ OPENHOUSE40 ⭐ at check out:AU: https://lilybod.com/discount/OPENHOUSEUK: https://uk.lilybod.com/discount/OPENHOUSE Louise selects: Baseline Legging - https://lilybod.com/products/c12-leggings-baseline-black?_pos=1&_sid=aba8df7b0&_ss=r Sam Shelf Bra - https://lilybod.com/collections/tops/products/lilybod-sam-shelf-bra-top-tarmac-black-lc95-tb Astrid Sports Bra - https://lilybod.com/products/c12-sports-bra-astrid-tarmac-black?_pos=1&_sid=f23f65ea9&_ss=r Harmony Ribbed Tank - https://lilybod.com/products/core-collection-top-harmony-ribbed-tank-white?_pos=2&_psq=ribbed%20tank%20white&_ss=e&_v=1.0 Layla Sweater - https://lilybod.com/collections/tops/products/c14-tops-jackets-layla-obsidian-gray The Mental Health Mushroom - LIONS MANE - 20% OFF with code OPENHOUSE: https://mytwentytwo.co.uk/ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumballFollow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselifeConnect with Sarah on Instagram: @thepotentplantSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    200. Your pain and discomfort is the ticket to the life you want (encore)

    200. Your pain and discomfort is the ticket to the life you want (encore)

    This is an encore episode of one of my most shared episodes.

     

    I decided to re-release this one as lately I have received many questions from my listeners that I think are covered in detail in this episode, and I feel can provide many answers. No matter if you are going through pain, or have gone through a painful time in the past, there is something in this episode for everyone.

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    (Matt Monday): How to AVOID Dating Time Wasters

    (Matt Monday): How to AVOID Dating Time Wasters

    Have you ever felt like a magnet for avoidants or wondered if commitment-phobic people are all that’s left in the dating pool?
     
    It’s as if you can’t even get anything off the ground, because consistent communication is never in the cards with the people you’re dating. And when you’re dating someone where everything’s falling into place EXCEPT for the fact that they’re avoidant, it can be tempting to rationalize any reason to stay.
     
    But why do we do this, and why does this situation make us want to hold on so tightly to a person who’s not giving us what we need?

    Today’s new episode will help you reconnect with your value so you can approach these kinds of situations with a clear head and a sense of worthiness. After all, the faster you say “no” to the wrong person, the sooner you can say “yes” to the right one.

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    62 - DATING - Why does anxious attachment + dating make us feel CRAZY AF? And how to start healing

    62 - DATING - Why does anxious attachment + dating make us feel CRAZY AF? And how to start healing
    UPDATE: ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT THERAPY EBOOKS NOW AVAILABLE⇢ The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating  - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE⇢ The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating  - a 14 Page Script PDF - linkedHERE ---- Do you feel full of dread every time you go on a date, or when it has ended? Do you constantly focus on whether they are into you or whether they’re going to text back or ask you out again -  rather than focusing on getting to know you? Do you hate it when they don’t reply, or are sat online and constantly wonder if they are about to ghost you or reject you? If you’re anxiously attached and in the dating world- it’s painful, and you’re not alone.Louise talks with Dr Tari Mack, clinical psychologist and relationship expert on how to make the dating world a little more manageable.  The pair talk:⇢ Why dating and an anxious attachment style do not mix well together⇢ The 6 things you need to understand to navigate the dating stage more easily ⇢ The concept of neutral, negative and positive cues when dating⇢ How and when you can start talking about things they do that trigger you⇢ When you should talk about your anxious attachment (and how) ⇢ The psychology of words and actions aligning⇢ The concept of ‘communication’ and then ‘observation’ And more  ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumballConnect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcastConnect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimackSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list & to get access to our free community area, THE HOUSE at www.thisisopenhouse.com ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀ Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    41 - DATING - Are they poor at communication or are they avoidantly attached? Exploring the Avoidant Attachment Style

    41 - DATING - Are they poor at communication or are they avoidantly attached? Exploring the Avoidant Attachment Style
    Ever dated an avoidant man or woman? They disappear when conflict starts or a conversation heats up? You feel like you get close to them, but never quite fully there? Maybe you are one yourself and other people feel ‘too needy, too much’, or that being independent and alone is safer and less hectic. Maybe you don't see the point in talking about your feelings, don't like to depend on others for help, think relationships are a lot of work or just prefer 'being mysterious?'If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you. After the success of our anxious attachment series, we know you will take deep value from this episode  Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss: ⇢What is an avoidant attachment style⠀⇢How did it form in childhood⠀⇢What are avoidantly attached people actually scared of (you might be surprised!)⠀⇢Why do the avoidantly attached live life with a ‘buffer’ between them and others ⠀⇢Why the fear of true intimacy drives an intermittent reinforcement cycle ⠀⇢Why an anxiously attached person is often an avoidantly attached person’s worst nightmare ⠀⇢Why you can never truly thrive with an avoidant attachment until you are working on it ⠀⇢How conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style And more! Louise also shares her own experiences with:⠀The difference between solutions based love and reassurance based love when in conflict⇢⠀⇢Tolerating avoidantly attached relationships⠀⇢Trying to pull men closer to get them to experience true intimacy; and⠀⇢ Dr Tari shares why there is only one person who can fully break the cycle. If you are anxiously attached, be sure to listen to Episodes 38, 39 and 40 of the podcast before getting into this one.  ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball ⠀ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife ⠀ Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack ⠀ Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀Quote OPENHOUSE for your discount on a relationship reading with Dr Tari - https://www.drtarimack.com/ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀ Music Sources ⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud ⠀ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    #140 TKP Insights: Sex and Relationships

    #140 TKP Insights: Sex and Relationships

    In the first of a new series of themed episodes of the podcast, The Knowledge Project curates essential segments from five different past episodes all revolving around one theme: sex and relationships. Combining some of the most illuminating insights from the leading minds in the fields of psychology and sex therapy, this episode breaks down how we first find our mate, the important conversations to have early in a relationship, the different kinds of sex we have, the differences and connections between desire and arousal, and how healthy lines of communication can improve your relationship and make you a better business leader.

    The guests on this episode are clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Sue Johnson (Episode 62), psychotherapist Esther Perel (Episode 71), sex educator and author Emily Nagoski (Episode 66), psychologist and sex therapist Suzanne Iasenza (Episode 75), and business leader Kat Cole (Episode 117).

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    39 - ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT - How To Heal Your Anxious Attachment (Part 2) + The 4 stages of your Anxious Attachment Style

    39 - ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT - How To Heal Your Anxious Attachment (Part 2) + The 4 stages of your Anxious Attachment Style
    UPDATE: ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT THERAPY EBOOKS NOW AVAILABLE ⇢ The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE ⇢ The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating - a 14 Page Script PDF - linked HERE --- PLUS ... ⭐ Want to get more of your therapy fix? Want to 4 - 6 bonus episodes a month for just $3? ⭐ Get access to The House & OPENHOUSE's weekly premium content as well as asking our therapists anything + get access to our our community area for more love and support --- The feedback from pt. 1 of this episode was phenomenal. You guys really went crazy for our first anxious attachment podcast episode where myself and clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack looked at the anxious attachment style that over 20% (1 in 5 people ) in the global population live with, after having it form in childhood.  After a lot of requests, in today’s episode, Louise & Dr Tari go deeper into this, looking at: ⇢Breaking down the four stages of an anxious attachment style  ⇢The underlying fears behind an anxious attachment style  ⇢The triggers that provoke an anxious attachment attack ⇢The activation of your attachment cycle - understanding what happens in your body when your attachment style is activated + how to handle it ⇢The concept of protest behaviours and why we use them to try and re establish connection Louise & Dr Tari also discuss: ⇢Why you can’t have reassurance on tap all of the time ⇢How to calm and regulate your anxious attachment style ⇢How to heal it in the long run ⇢The concept of meeting in the middle with whoever you are dating ⇢ Can you heal and date at the same time?  ⇢ A couple of Q&A topics from Louise’s recent TikToks  Louise also shares:  ⇢ The concept of ‘positive intent’ which has changed her life ⇢ Her personal experience fears, triggers and protest behaviours ⇢How soon is too soon to share your trauma with someone you are dating? Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify. ⠀ Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball ⠀ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife ⠀ Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack & book a relationship reading with Dr Tari at https://www.drtarimack.com/ - QUOTING OPENHOUSE for a discount ⠀ Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list and be the first to receive access to the Healing your Anxious Attachment Style course & live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀ Music Sources ⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    What's your attachment style?

    What's your attachment style?
    According to the field of attachment theory, each person has a unique attachment style that informs how that person relates to intimacy: secure, anxious or avoidant. We talk with Amir Levine, a neuroscientist and co-author of the book Attached, about how your attachment style can impact your relationships.

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