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If over half of marriages end in divorce, what are the skills to make sure your relationship stays in the successful 50%? Drs. John and Julie Gottman are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. In this conversation the Gottman’s and Steven discuss topics such as, the 3 skills you need for a healthy relationship, the steps to repair a relationship after an argument, why kissing can extend your life, and how cuddling leads to a better sex life. (00:00) Intro (02:07) What mission are you on & Why study love? (06:30) Studying traits of successful couples (08:27) Link between relationships & our health (12:15) What is the love lab? (15:05) The misconceptions about relationships (17:16) How to connect with your partner (27:08) What is the 'attuned' framework? (32:10) Why does typical couples therapy often fail? (34:41) The 7 Principles of a successful marriage (38:09) Do partners' dreams need to be aligned? (40:09) 69% of our problems are not solvable (48:05) What to do when your partner wants to change you (50:43) The four horsemen (57:45) What is flooding? (1:02:55) What's a 'caretaker' in a relationship (1:05:55) Conflict misunderstandings (1:07:58) How to become a master at conflict resolution (1:11:05) How to repair/fix relationship issues (1:18:46) What have you learnt about the role of kissing (1:21:49) The role of sex in a relationship (1:29:22) Our society is becoming more sexless (1:31:42) Men struggling to figure out where they fit into society (1:37:14) What do women really want in a man? (1:39:23) Talking about sex makes your sex life better (1:43:54) Betrayal in a relationship (1:44:38) The traits that show a failing relationship (1:48:44) Asking your partner their dreams (1:50:52) Advice to give a relationship its best shot (1:52:45) The most interesting conclusions from the love lab (1:55:03) What does Julie mean to you, John (1:56:00) What does John mean to you, Julie (1:58:02) Why did you write this book (1:59:18) The Last Guest's question You can purchase the Gottman’s new book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection’, here: https://amzn.to/3TDm5Fx Follow the Gottman’s: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3xcZA2z Instagram - https://bit.ly/4cC2UVl YouTube - https://bit.ly/4awssRS Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Sponsors: ZOE: http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO2024 for 10% off Linkedin Ads: https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 Shop the Conversation Cards: https://thediary.com/products/the-cards  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when you put friendship at the center of your life?

NPR's Rhaina Cohen has been thinking about this question for years. It started when she met someone. This someone was not a lover, but a friend. As their relationship deepened, Cohen began to wonder why there wasn't a special term for a platonic relationship that felt romantic, or an understanding of partnerships that went beyond the status of "best friend."

In today's episode of The Sunday Story, host Ayesha Rascoe sits down with Rhaina Cohen to talk about her forthcoming book, The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center.

You can listen to the song, "Dear Friend," by Rings of Maple here.

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How do we bring our full selves into our relationships without fear of rejection?  Today, Abby shares more about what’s been happening in her life since she’s stopped “bright siding” including powerful truth-telling she’s unleashed in business and her family of origin. Glennon shares how Abby embracing her full emotions has led to deeper intimacy and connection, and a feeling of “un-loneliness” in their partnership – the opposite of what Abby feared might happen.  Plus, we discuss how toxic positivity and polarized dynamics in relationships can lead to emotional disconnection and loneliness.  For the first part of our conversation, check out 258. Abby Asks, “Why Can’t I Love Myself?” To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On today’s show, we hear about: - A woman whose husband is second-guessing their marriage - A woman questioning whether she’s a good person - A mom wanting to protect her daughter from being bullied To pre-order John's new book Building a Non-Anxious Life click here. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show.  Support Our Sponsors: BetterHelp DreamCloud Hallow Thorne Add products to your cart create an account at checkout Receive 25% off ALL orders Resources: Anxiety Test Own Your Past, Change Your Future Questions for Humans Conversation Cards Redefining Anxiety Quick Read John’s Free Guided Meditation Listen to all The Ramsey Network podcasts anytime, anywhere in our app. Download at: https://apple.co/3eN8jNq These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. https://www.megaphone.fm/adchoices Ramsey Solutions Privacy Policy

Get ready for some hard truths as we take a look at the behaviours you want to be aware of when you are dating someone, have a crush on or are causally seeing someone. Do their actions mean they like you or are they just not that into you?

 

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The listener this week is struggling to know whether to stay in her relationship. Feeling unseen and unheard but so in love with her partner, she can't make sense of what's acceptable or not. 

Katie and Helen pick apart what's going on, where it came from and how to move forward. 

 

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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr Tari Mack to discuss the psychology of pacing, dating and the slow grow vs. the euphoric rollercoaster romance. ⠀Louise Rumball & Dr Tari explore: ⠀⇢ Pete Davidson and Kim Kardashian and why everything moves so damn quickly in life and in Hollywood⠀⇢ Why pacing is one of the magic bullets in a relationship⠀⠀⇢ Why people struggle with pacing⠀⇢ Why we attach super quickly⠀⇢ How to information gather and date smart⠀⇢The psychology of losing ourselves in a new relationship⠀⇢The benefits of the go-slow rather than the rollercoaster romance⠀⇢Why the initial parts of a relationship are the equivalent to taking drugs.⠀Louise also shares her own experiences, particularly in relationship to the benefits of the slow grow and how to hold onto the roller coaster romance. ⠀Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack⠀⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

According to the field of attachment theory, each person has a unique attachment style that informs how that person relates to intimacy: secure, anxious or avoidant. We talk with Amir Levine, a neuroscientist and co-author of the book Attached, about how your attachment style can impact your relationships.

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Join me this week as I break down how true vulnerability creates intimacy in your life, and how to practice it. The only person who can make you feel vulnerable is you, so I want you to take this work and think about how you might be inflicting your own emotional pain.

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