manners

It often seems like we live in a very inconsiderate, indifferent, and ill-mannered time and that the cure for what ails our abrasive and disjointed relations is a lot more politeness. But my guest would say that what we really need is a revival of civility.

Today on the show, Alexandra Hudson — author of The Soul of Civility: Timeless Principles to Heal Society and Ourselves — explains the difference between politeness and civility, and how being civil can actually require being impolite. We discuss how civility ensures the health of democracy, and good government relies on citizens' ability to govern themselves and check each other, which may require acting a little like . . . Larry David. We talk about what Homer's Odyssey can teach us about the art of hospitality, the relationship between civility and integrity, and more.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• AoM Article: How Manners Made the World
• Class: A Guide Through the American Status System by Paul Fussell
• AoM Podcast #746: The Confucian Gentleman
• AoM Article: The Manly Art of Hospitality
• "Chat and cut" scene on Curb Your Enthusiasm 
• The Odyssey translated by Emily Wilson

Connect With Alexandra Hudson

• Alexandra's website
• Alexandra's Substack: Civic Renaissance 

The charge to be well-mannered, to treat others with civility, kindness, and respect, is perennial. But the rules for how to carry those manners into action, the rules of good etiquette, change over time.

Given all the cultural and technological changes modern society has experienced, it's not always easy to know the best practices for a contemporary gentleman. Here to offer some guidance on that front is Thomas Farley, aka, Mr. Manners. Today on the show, Thomas offers some answers to the frequently asked questions around modern etiquette, including when to send a handwritten thank you note, whether "no problem" is an appropriate response to "thank you," if it's okay to ghost someone, how to deal with our ever proliferating and out-of-control tipping culture, whether it's okay to exclude kids from your wedding, if you should still open a door for a woman, and more.

Resources Related to the Podcast Extensive Manners and Etiquette Archives

• How Manners Made the World
• The Importance of Good Manners
• How to Acquire Good Manners
• The Art of Thank You Note Writing
• The Unclassified Laws of Etiquette
• How to Accept a Compliment With Class
• The Ins and Outs of Opening a Door for a Woman
• A Primer on Wedding Etiquette
• How to Tame the Timing Anxiety Around Texting
• Podcast #718: How to Use Digital Body Language to Build Trust and Connection
• Podcast #162: Digital Manners & Etiquette For the Modern Man
• Podcast #422: Men & Manners — Tipping, Emojis, and Much More

Connect With Thomas Farley

• Thomas' website

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Welcome back to another edition of the Art of Manliness podcast. In this week's episode we talk to Walker Lamond, author of the newly released book Rules for My Unborn Son. Walker is a writer and television producer that lives in Washington, D.C. with his wife and newborn boy.
You can buy Walker's book at Amazon.com and make sure to check out his blog that inspired the book, 1001 Rules for My Unborn Son.