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WARNING: This episode is explicit and detailed in the descriptions of attempted suicide, self-harm, rape, and sexual assault. It is not appropriate for children, and extreme discretion is advised in keeping the listening audience restricted to only appropriately aged and emotionally capable persons. If you are activated and are having thoughts of suicide and need immediate help, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988. Or, if you are activated and need immediate help regarding a past rape or sexual assault, call the National Sexual Assault telephone hotline, call 1-800.656.hope (4673).  This is the concluding episode of Bailie’s powerful and impactful interview. Since it is the second part of an interview that was broken into two parts, I have added 20 seconds of the last part of her first episode, to the beginning of this episode, for the sake of context and continuity. Bailie’s life was a difficult and complex reaction to what she understands to possibly be part genetic predisposition, and part patterned behavior that comes from family culture, lifestyle, environment, social impacts from those around her, and worldview. And all of this is part and parcel of what she believes inclined her to have suicidal ideation, self-harm acts, and attempts on her own life. And Bailie also has a very strong belief and understanding that she is alive today because of the insights and self-compassion she has gleaned from therapy, and from having a safe place for her to talk to those who care about her and want her to be safe, alive, and mentally secure in daily life. And to her credit, Bailie has done a lot of hard work to get where she is today…secure in the thought that her suicidal past is her past. Bailie is an active, strong, and proud leader and participant in the LGBTQ community in the Napa County area. She offers hope, guidance, support and encouragement to anyone who asks her for help. And she has graciously agreed to be there for anyone in the SASS audience who is a childhood sexual assault victim or survivor, who is part of the LGBTQ community who is struggling on their journey towards dealing with and healing from their difficult past. Contact Bailie; she’s willing to listen and help in anyway she can. And she’s offering do to this from a safe space. So, don’t be shy…reach out to her. Her contact information is below. Thank you for listening to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. Please subscribe to the podcast to help it grow, and to avail yourself to new episodes as they are released. And if you’re willing, please rate the podcast (5 stars is my personal favorite!), and feel free to leave me a comment about how SASS has impacted your life in positive ways.   Finally, let’s all do our part in bringing justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. Start by Believing. Stop victim blaming. Be empathic and listen. Because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. **September is National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Suicide is a major public health concern and a leading cause of death in the U.S. Please help the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) raise awareness by sharing resources that help others recognize the warning signs for suicide and know how to get help. And call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988 if you are looking for immediate help and support with thoughts of suicide, or if you know someone who needs help. ** #suicideprevention #lgbtqconnection #SPM23 #safeinharmsway #projectbeloved #saan #irishangel #crimevictimsassistancecenter #coloradoassociationofsexcrimeinvestigators #girlsfightback #outdoordefense #worthfightingfor #thejanbrobergfoundation #thrivivors #sassyselfdefenseguide #ericbarreras #badassselfdefense #imworthfightingfor #vawa #baylor #ashforduniversity #uofaglobalcampus #psychologymajor #amandacoleman #remembermolly #fightrapeculture #gettraumainformed #forcescience

WARNING: This episode is explicit and detailed in the descriptions of attempted suicide, self-harm, rape, and sexual assault. It is not appropriate for children, and extreme discretion is advised in keeping the listening audience restricted to only appropriately aged and emotionally capable persons. If you are activated and are having thoughts of suicide and need immediate help, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988. Or, if you are activated and need immediate help regarding a past rape or sexual assault, call the National Sexual Assault telephone hotline, at 1-800.656.hope (4673). Bailie’s horrendous story of childhood sexual assault and rape is only the beginning of a life filled with confusion, pain, and despair. In this gripping Part I episode, Bailie and I go deep into Bailie's harrowing past, where she faced unimaginable injury and trauma, and grappled with multiple suicide attempts. Yet, against all odds, Bailie found the strength to rise from the cinders of her darkest moments, emerging as a resilient advocate for sexual assault survivors and a beacon of hope, on multiple levels, for the LGBTQ community. Bailie uncovers the raw, unfiltered story of her transformation and the vital work she does at an LGBTQ resource center, shedding a bright, powerful light on her remarkable journey towards empowerment and healing. Let’s all do our part in bringing justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. Start by Believing. Stop victim blaming. Because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. September is National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Suicide is a major public health concern and a leading cause of death in the U.S. Please help the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) raise awareness by sharing resources that help others recognize the warning signs for suicide and know how to get help. #suicideprevention #SPM23 #safeinharmsway #projectbeloved #saan #irishangel #crimevictimsassistancecenter #coloradoassociationofsexcrimeinvestigators #girlsfightback #outdoordefense #worthfightingfor #thejanbrobergfoundation #thrivivors #sassyselfdefenseguide #ericbarreras #badassselfdefense #imworthfightingfor #vawa #baylor #ashforduniversity #uofaglobalcampus #psychologymajor #amandacoleman #remembermolly #fightrapeculture #gettraumainformed #forcescience https://linktr.ee/coachbailie

This episode is an edited version of the most recent Thrivivors Online Community, of The Jan Broberg Foundation, and features a presentation hosted by me. My presentation topic was "The Imposed Shame of Rape/Sexual Assault: what do we do with it?" and the members of the online community participated in a discussion and Q & A session on of the impact of shame on the lives of victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. It was an honor to be asked to be a guest presenter of the Thrivivors Community, and even more of an honor that Austen Tanner and Jan Broberg gave me their permission to use this presentation on this week’s SASS episode!   We discussed how shame is often imposed on victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault by society, the media, and even their own families and friends. This imposed shame can lead to a number of negative consequences, including: Self-blame: Victims and survivors may blame themselves for what happened, even though they are not to blame. Isolation: Victims and survivors may withdraw from friends and family, or avoid social situations, out of fear of being judged or rejected. Depression: Victims and survivors may experience depression, anxiety, and other mental health problems. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): Victims and survivors may develop PTSD, which can cause flashbacks, nightmares, and other symptoms. The presentation was concluded by discussing how to cope with the imposed shame of rape and sexual assault. He emphasized the importance of self-compassion, self-talk, exercise, seeking counseling, meditating, and dwelling on gratitude. We also discussed the importance of victims and survivors to speak out about their experiences, in order to break the silence and raise awareness about this important issue.   If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape or sexual assault, it is important to seek help. There are many resources available, including The Jan Broberg Foundation’s Thrivivors Community, your local rape crisis center, and counseling. I encourage you to do whatever you can to seek help and support if you are struggling with the impacts of rape or sexual assault. Here are some links to help you in your healing journey: Cite for research paper discussed by Dave: Bhuptani, P. H., & Messman, T. L. (2022). Self-compassion and shame among rape survivors. Journal of interpersonal violence, 37(17-18), NP16575-NP16595.

45. Caroline Markel Hammond: Getting Caught Up & Hearing the Exciting Latest News! After my first episode with Caroline (Episode 19, Feb. '23), she and I became very good friends and we keep in touch frequently: checking in on each other, reminding each other of how important our respective work responsibilities are for the victim/survivor community, and making sure that we are both doing what we should to assure that we are each taking steps toward self-care and rest. This past week, when Caroline texted, she suggested that we should call to talk and get caught up, and I suggested that we should turn that call into a SASS episode. Caroline graciously agreed, and that is exactly what happened! Listen in to this conversation and get caught up on what’s going on with Caroline, her organizations, and her collaborations and big plans for Safe in Harm’s Way!  This is an enjoyable episode, with new collaborative news that has occurred between SIHW and OhanaLink Purple, perspective on SIHW growth, laughs, and the excitement of some yet to be disclosed changes that are coming for Safe In Harm’s Way and Epizon Strategy Solutions. You won’t want to miss this! Also, the invitation is still open for my listeners to reach out to me if you feel you are ready to tell your sexual assault or rape story in order to further your healing journey, or to help others on theirs. Just email me at: , and we’ll discuss the possibility of you being on this show. And, as always, please tell everyone you know about this podcast. And if you would, please, take the time to subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, write a review, and rate the podcast. It helps this podcast grow, and it means the world to me that you are doing your part to make sure that we’re helping bring justice to victims of rape and sexual assault. Another great way to do this is to Start By Believing! Here are some really great opportunities to become more aware of what Caroline Markel Hammond is doing with Safe in Harm’s Way, Epizon Strategy Solutions, and her two campaigns to help curtail the impact of domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape: The Last I’m Sorry, and Feeling Small: please check out these sites, and make yourself aware of their importance.

Hey there, SASS listeners! Welcome to another riveting episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories—The SASS Podcast. I'm thrilled you're joining me on this empowering journey. This week, I'm bursting with excitement to introduce you to a true powerhouse—Jessica Pride from The Pride Law Firm in San Diego, California. Picture this: She's not just a civil litigation attorney whose sole clientele is victims and survivors of rape or sexual assault, she's a beacon of hope in providing justice! I stumbled upon a reel she produced on Instagram and knew in a heartbeat that she had to be a guest on our show; it's not only because she fiercely fights for justice, but also because she leads with empathy, believing survivors from the get-go. Her mix of passion to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault,  and her trauma-informed approach, was my motivation for inviting Jessica to be my guest this week. You’re about to be inspired because this episode is a deep dive into her world of strength, resilience, and unyielding determination. Jessica Pride isn't just an attorney; she's a force of change, a true advocate for those whose voices have been stifled. She's a true superhero on a mission for justice, ready to stand up against the rape culture that is so prevalent in our society. Her commitment is more than just professional—it's personal, it's heartfelt, and it touches the lives of survivors who've needed someone to believe in them. I want to extend a massive shout-out to Jessica Pride for sharing her insights and inspiring journey with us. Her dedication is like a ripple in a pond, creating waves of positive change. And to all of my SASS listeners: a huge thank you for being here, for lending your ears to these vital stories. If you're moved by what you've heard, please write a review, rate, and subscribe—your support fuels the growth of this podcast. To those who have experienced rape or sexual assault and feel you are ready to share your story and healing journey, reach out to me at davemarkel@gmail.com. You could be the next beacon of hope for someone seeking solace and justice. Remember to Start By Believing, because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. Stuff I’d appreciate for you to check out: https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

WARNING: This episode is explicit and detailed in the descriptions of rape and sexual assault. It is not appropriate for children, and extreme discretion is advised in keeping the listening audience restricted to only appropriately aged and emotionally capable persons. In this powerful episode I invited my daughter, Cashaye Barrera, as a special guest to share her courageous journey in seeking justice for herself and others who have endured and survived sexual assault. Listen as Cashaye delves into the heart-wrenching reality of systemic disbelief, victim-blaming, and the hurdles rape survivors encounter within the criminal justice system. Discover the tenacity and passion that drives Cashaye's advocacy for victims and her relentless pursuit of change. Tune in to hear a personal account that sheds light on the urgency of believing survivors and the crucial role we all play in supporting their pursuit of justice. Don't miss this eye-opening episode. And don’t forget to Start By Believing, because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault.   https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

41. Nicole Florisi: The Impact of Vicarious Trauma on Our Unsung Heroes: Victim Advocates There is a population of unsung heroes in the criminal justice world: victim advocates. In the realm of sexual assault within the criminal justice system, victim advocates play a crucial role that often goes unnoticed and unappreciated. These dedicated individuals provide much-needed support, guidance, and empowerment to survivors throughout their harrowing journey. Despite the immense importance of their work, victim advocates often go unrecognized, quietly championing the cause of survivors and tirelessly working to bring about justice and healing. Furthermore, victim advocates are instrumental in bridging the gap between survivors and the criminal justice system. They act as liaisons, working closely with law enforcement, prosecutors, and other professionals to ensure survivors' needs are met and their rights are respected. Advocates help survivors navigate the legal system, accompanying them to court proceedings, providing information about their case's progress, and advocating for their wishes to be heard. Their tireless efforts and dedication often lead to improved outcomes for survivors, as they help reduce retraumatization and create a more survivor-centered approach within the criminal justice system. However, the intensity of the work that victim advocates undertake can take a devastating toll on their own well-being. Constant exposure to the traumatic experiences of survivors puts them at risk of experiencing vicarious trauma. Witnessing the pain and suffering endured by survivors can deeply impact victim advocates, leading to symptoms such as emotional exhaustion, compassion fatigue, and a decline in mental health. The weight of hearing survivors' stories and witnessing their trauma firsthand can become overwhelming, eroding their own resilience and leaving them vulnerable to the long-term effects of vicarious trauma. Despite the profound impact they have on the lives of survivors, it is crucial that we acknowledge and address the immense challenges faced by victim advocates, providing them with the necessary support and resources to protect their own mental and emotional well-being. Nicole Florisi, a three-time guest on this show, joins us to help us understand the dynamics that she knows all-too-well. Nicole is a mental health therapist, a former cop, and a current instructor to the criminal justice profession; she has experienced herself the impact that vicarious trauma has on victim advocates and front-line responders who hear and face the horrors of victim and survivor trauma on a daily basis and absorb the compounding effects of vicarious trauma. This is a powerful, insightful, and healing episode…with an eye toward prevention of PTSD and the effects of neglecting vicarious trauma. Give this episode a listen…then, rate it, and leave a comment for Nicole to tell her how much this episode helped you understand more about the work victim advocates do, and how much they need our support and help to fight back against the impacts and effects of vicarious trauma.   Keep an eye out for updates to these notes, including links to the books that Nicole talks about, and some additional details on some of the techniques and strategies that anyone can, and should, use to help alleviate the impact of vicarious trauma, as well as direct trauma. In the meantime, please do all you can to help bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. And, as always, Start by Believing!

In this intensely courageous episode, we have the privilege of hearing the powerful story of Mallory Tingey, an adult survivor of childhood, intra-familial sexual assault. Mallory is a good friend of my niece, Melissa, who shared with Mallory some information about this podcast. Melissa knew of Mallory’s history of being sexually assaulted at the hands of Mallory’s step-brothers and suggested that Mallory would be a great guest for this show. Mallory took the time to listen to a few episodes and told Melissa that she’d be willing to be on the show. So, when Melissa told me about Mallory’s willingness to be on the show, I contacted Mallory and we began conversing with each other via text messages, then a phone call. Mallory agreed to share her story of sexual assault and shares her experiences of the abuse perpetrated by three of her stepbrothers, shedding light on the lasting impact of such trauma. One of the painful aspects of being a child victim of sexual assault that Mallory talks about is the ripple affect that intra-familial sexual assault has on the entire family. Prior to the assaults, Mallory had a trusting, if not loving, relationship with her siblings. But that all changed when the sexual assault began, first at the hands of her older step-brother, who soon after left on a church-related mission, and then, the same day he left, a second step-brother, and later a third step-brother began sexually assaulting Mallory. The details of the broken relationships that these assaults caused are heart-breaking, but necessary to know about in order for us to have a better grasp on how these cases are so deeply destructive, not only to the victim, but to the entire family, and how complicated the once-solid trust system can become in navigating the normal, daily routines of family life after sexual trauma comes in. Mallory’s story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the capacity for healing and resilience. Through her vulnerability, Mallory provides valuable insights for survivors, their loved ones, and anyone seeking to understand the profound challenges faced by survivors of childhood sexual assault. Remember, if you're a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any form of interpersonal violence, and would like to be a guest on our show, please email me; let's have a conversation about the possibility. I would greatly appreciate you taking the time to rate this episode and subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. I would also appreciate your comments of support and encouragement to Mallory, both in the episode comments, and if you’d like, by emailing me. Thank you for being part of our efforts, and for your loyalty in listening to the show. Please share this podcast with everyone you know.  And remember to do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…together we can make a difference if we all Start By Believing; because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

This week I ventured out into a realm that's a bit different, but no less important, than the customary platform of a sexual assault or rape story; I had the extreme privilege of conducting an interview with Nicole Snell, owner and CEO of Girls Fight Back, and the Founder of Outdoor Defense. I urge you to go to nicolesnell.com and read all you can about Nicole…she’s a powerful person who knows what it means to have the need for verbal and physical skills to confront the dangers we face in our world; On a recent vacation with a friend, Nicole was attacked as she was about to board a ride-share vehicle. Because of her personal knowledge and the training she’s received, and now teaches, she successfully thwarted the attacker and was able to get away from him with her expert use of both her physical and verbal defensive skills. Nicole offers these skill sets professionally to girls and women, and all genders, from young to old, from Military personnel to corporate professionals, to privately own companies and non-profit organizations, to educational institutions as well as individuals who want to travel and explore the world solo, so that people can live with less fear and enjoy “life without limits.” This episode interview was a true joy, as I was able to explore the many facets of her training and how what she teaches keeps people safer, both physically and mentally. These are research-based tactics and methods to be used in confrontational scenarios which actually lessen the fear in potentially dangerous situations and provide a knowledge base that helps the brain fend off post-traumatic stress. I encourage everyone to get this type of training from Nicole. Her contact information will be included below. Please share Nicole’s episode with everyone you know…this information and the tactics that Nicole teaches may save yourself, and your loved ones. And, as always, Start By Believing, because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault.

38. Dave Markel: My Words on Being Trauma Informed Being trauma informed is one of the educational aspects of this podcast that I emphasize most heavily to those who are professionals that work with people who’ve experienced rape and sexual assault, and to those who personally know someone who has experienced that kind of trauma, which is pretty much every one of us. For victims and survivors to be able to talk about their rape or sexual assault, they need to feel safe. And heard. And believed. I can’t say it enough: we all need to be trauma informed. Being trauma informed goes beyond basic knowledge of trauma and aims to create that safe and supportive environment that promotes talking about the rape or sexual assault, which then leads to healing, resilience, and empowerment. In this episode I delve into some of the key aspects of what it truly means to be trauma informed. https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

37. Alan Manwaring: Revisiting Perspectives on His Healing Path Back in early April, I introduced you to my good friend, Alan Manwaring. He was my guest on Episode 26. Alan is not only my good friend, but he is also a mutual friend of Jan Broberg, and in fact, is Executive Director of The Jan Broberg Foundation! So, Alan and I work together on that board, but we also have many aspects of our lives with which we share several commonalities. Another one of our commonalities is that we both have had experiences of having been sexually assaulted. It was that commonality that I believe drew us together initially in our early friendship, and it has bonded us on several levels as we share with each other our personal trauma stories. (If you haven’t listened to Episode 26, it would probably be enlightening for this episode.) In this week’s episode, Alan and I pick up where we left off with that previous episode, and we discuss Alan’s continuing obstacles and hurdles on his healing path. Alan and I share some of the same obstacles and hurdles. And I think you’ll find that all of us who are on that same healing path, have many of the same obstacles and hurdles. It’s why this podcast is growing. We’re helping each other on that same healing path. This episode is short, but power-packed; I think you’ll find it inspiring and helpful. Remember, if you're a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any form of interpersonal violence, and would like to be a guest on our show, please email me; let's have a conversation about the possibility. I would greatly appreciate you taking the time to rate this episode and subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. I would also appreciate your comments, both in the episode comments, and if you’d like, by emailing me and telling me your thoughts about the show…how it has impacted your life or the life of someone you know. Thank you for being part of our efforts, and for your loyalty in listening to the show. Please share this podcast with everyone you know.  And remember to do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…together we can make a difference if we all Start By Believing; because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. Please take note of and visit the important links below; and where applicable, your monetary donation would be greatly appreciated: https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

36. Cassie Nicholas: A Trauma-Informed Journey of Healing & Hope  Cassie Nicholas was born and grew up in the remote Appalachian Mountains of southwestern West Virginia. Her early childhood memories include sexual assault and consequently trying to call 911 at the age of three, but not having any success. Now, as an adult, she has a complex merging of childhood and adolescent memories: a loving and kind but oppressed mother, who herself grew up in a sexually and physically abusive home;  a strong, loving bond with her special-needs older sister; and the traumatic sexual trafficking she endured at the hands of her emotionally and sexually abusive father to neighbors and affluent members of the small town where she grew up, including various town doctors.   Leaving the abuse wasn’t easy…nor was it the answer to her problems. She later became married to an emotionally and sexually abusive wife. Her story of escape from interpersonal, marital violence, into a life of homelessness and hardship, all the while trying to heal through becoming trauma-informed is inspiring and captivating: Cassie tells her story with an enthralling, storytelling talent that is articulate and mesmerizing. And by the end of this interview, she’ll have captured your heart and compassion, like she did mine; Cassie is an enthralling narrator. Cassie is one of my SASS listeners who reached out to me at my invitation to be on the show to utilize the podcast platform to inform and educated others about the tactics and manipulations of predators, but also about the path to surviving and healing from rape and sexual assault. I am truly honored to know Cassie and privileged to have had the opportunity of interviewing her. It is truly a pleasure to have her on my show. If you're a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any form of interpersonal violence, and would like to be a guest on our show, please email me; let's have a conversation about the possibility. I would greatly appreciate you taking the time to rate this episode and subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. I would also appreciate your comments, both in the episode comments, and if you’d like, by emailing me and telling me your thoughts about the show…how it has impacted your life or the life of someone you know. Thank you for being part of our efforts, and for your loyalty in listening to the show. Please share this podcast with everyone you know.  And remember to do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…together we can make a difference if we all Start By Believing; because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. Please take note of and visit the important links below; and where applicable, your monetary donation would be greatly appreciated:   https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

35. Katie Stewart: 25 Years of Doubt and Confusion; Finally Finding Answers Warning: This episode is explicit and is not suitable for children or those who are particularly sensitive to the topic of rape and the associated terminology. Please use discretion when listening to thie episode. Rape trauma is an incredibly distressing experience that can have profound effects on a person's memory, emotional well-being, and overall sense of self. One of the common consequences of such trauma is memory loss, where survivors may struggle to remember specific details of the assault due to the brain's natural defense mechanism of dissociation. Bessel van der Kolk, a renowned trauma researcher and psychiatrist, has extensively studied the profound impact of trauma on individuals, including the severe consequences of rape trauma. His research has shed light on the phenomenon of memory loss in survivors of sexual assault, where the trauma can be so severe that it leads to a total loss of memory regarding the rape itself. Such was the case of this week’s guest, Katie Stewart. Now in her 40’s, Katie was gang raped at age 19. The impact of that heinous act was so devastating to Katie, that for the next 25 years, Katie had only fragmentary memories of the summer events that happened after the rape, and intrusive flashbacks that made her question what really happened. Van der Kolk's research emphasizes that memory loss in rape survivors should not be interpreted as evidence of fabrication or falsehood. Instead, it highlights the complex and adaptive nature of the brain's response to trauma. The memory loss is a manifestation of the brain's attempt to shield the individual from the overwhelming pain and distress associated with the traumatic event. It was through counseling, for unrelated personal issues, that Katie started having flashback memories of the horrific experience she suffered. This, in turn, led to her eventual piecing together some of the puzzle that she is now working through to discover healing and a new perspective on life. Understanding the mechanisms behind memory loss in rape trauma is crucial for validating survivors' experiences and dispelling misconceptions. Van der Kolk's research contributes to a broader understanding of the psychological impact of sexual assault and underscores the need for trauma-informed approaches to support survivors, like Katie, in their healing journey. By recognizing the complexity of trauma and memory, we can foster empathy, provide appropriate care, and empower survivors like Katie to reclaim their lives. And this story is a prime example of why we should all Start by Believing. Give Katie's episode your close attention; it may have keys to unlocking some of your questions about the devastation of rape and sexual assault. Please share this episode with everyone you know. And also, please do your part to help bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

It is an absolute pleasure and honor to welcome Jan Broberg back to the studio for this engaging conversation. Since Jan's initial appearance on Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, much has transpired, making it an incredible opportunity to catch up with her. If you haven’t listened to Episode 2 of this show, I strongly encourage you to do so…you’ll then be caught up as Jan and I delve into this thought-provoking discussion about the profound impact that watching "A Friend of the Family" had on Jan, and the various paths she continues to pursue on her journey of healing. Plus, Jan gives us some insights into the growth and exciting future of The Jan Broberg Foundation! This episode is truly remarkable, and she and I are thrilled to share it with you! Please tell everyone you know about this episode, and the podcast, and please rate the episode and subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, if you haven’t already. In addition, I’d love to hear from you directly, so please feel free to email me at the address below and let me know your thoughts about this podcast! Also, please take note of the important links below: https://saprea.org

The last time I spoke with last week’s guest, Tim Cocanougher, aside from the episode interview, Tim was anxious to share with me his experience in working with the child forensic interviewer that had conducted the interviews for the last child sexual assault case that Tim had prosecuted. Tim excitedly told me how amazing she was, especially with regard to her level of education, knowledge and experience with the trauma-informed interviewing principles that we both strive to utilize iand teach in our work. He went on to say that she would be an excellent guest for my podcast and proceeded to give me the contact information for McCall Allen of the Barren River Area Child Advocacy Center in Bowling Green/Warren County Kentucky. McCall and I spoke by phone a few days later, and I learned that Tim was spot on: not only is McCall a child forensic interviewer, but also a clinical therapist, and a staunch advocate of trauma-informed interview principles that we hold dear on this podcast. It took a few short minutes of conversation before I knew that Tim was right: McCall would make an excellent guest on this podcast. It is a true privilege to introduce you to McCall in this episode. As you listen to her, you’ll recognize how McCall's passion for her work shines through as she educates us on the critical role played by child advocacy centers in our communities. These centers provide a safe space for child and teen victims and survivors to share their experiences and receive the support they need. As a clinical therapist and a child forensic interviewer, she has witnessed firsthand the positive impact child advocacy centers can have on the lives of these children and teens. These centers serve as a vital link between law enforcement, social services, and mental health professionals, ensuring that children are provided with comprehensive care. Through trauma-informed interview principles, McCall ensures that child and teen sexual assault and rape survivors are treated with respect, empathy, and understanding during the interview process. McCall and the BRACAC truly help bring justice to victims and survivors of sexual assault and rape.   To all my listeners: please remember to rate this episode, and to subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories whether you listen to every episode or not; your rating and subscription help make the podcast grow and be available to even more people, which also helps bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault.  I also want to make you all aware of my new sponsor, Ciera Lancaster, a Younique Presenter. Younique is a make-up and skincare company whose mission is to uplift, empower, and validate women. Ciera joined me in the studio to introduce herself and Younique to my podcast listeners, and to describe the "Younique" relationship between SASS and Younique, especially with regard to Saprea.org. Check out Ciera's short spot in this episode, and learn why I am excited for this connection. And, check out Ciera’s links below on Facebook and Instagram to find out how you can order Younique products through Ciera. Please take note of the important links below:

31. A Perspective Inspired by her Sister’s Courage: Donnell Cameron Tells of Her Own Experience of Sexual, Physical, and Emotional Assault. WARNING: This episode is explicit and detailed in the descriptions of rape, sexual assault, and interpersonal violence. It is not appropriate for children, and extreme discretion is advised in keeping the listening audience restricted to only appropriately aged and emotionally capable persons. I won’t pretend that I wasn’t shocked when, after last week’s episode of Leanne Cameron sharing her devastating experience of being raped for several years by her mother’s boyfriend when Leanne was young, I was contacted just a day after that episode aired by Leanne’s sister, Donnell. When I saw Donnell’s last name in the heading of the email she sent to me, my stomach dropped at the prospect that maybe Donnell was writing to tell me that she was not happy about her sister being on my podcast. But that wasn’t the purpose of her email at all…Donnell was reaching out to me to express her desire to also be on the show, and to tell her version of being sexually assaulted by the same person who had raped her sister. And not only sexually assaulted, but physically and emotionally assaulted as well. This week’s episode is a multi-leveled listening experience. You’ll hear Donnell bravely tell her perspective of what it was to experience sexual, physical, and emotional assault at the hands of the same person who had raped her sister; and how different that impact was, even though it was assault from that same perpetrator. And how Donnell’s emotional response to the assaultive behaviors was totally different from the responses of her sister. And how those totally different responses have had a totally different outcome in Donnell’s life, contrasted to the outcomes in Leanne’s life. And yet, how all those differences are somehow the same when it comes to healing and caring enough to share those experiences with others to further their healing journey. Trying to describe these immense differences in these episode notes wouldn’t do justice to the way Donnell is able to relate her experience courageously and succinctly. So, I’ll just let you get to the listening... Please listen to this episode, then tell everyone you know to give it a listen. And please rate this episode and subscribe to this podcast…even if you don’t listen to every episode; your listening helps bring justice to victims and survivors, and helps this podcast grow! Thank you for being a part of these efforts. It matters, because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. And by the way, if you’re a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any type of interpersonal violence, and you would like to be a guest on this show, email me…let’s talk about it!

30. Leanne Cameron: New to Telling Her Story, and Grateful She Did! WARNING: This episode is explicit and detailed in the descriptions of rape and sexual assault. It is not appropriate for children, and extreme discretion is advised in keeping the listening audience restricted to only appropriately aged and emotionally capable persons.  As with every victim/survivor who has been a guest on my show, the impact of their story has been evident and palpable, and it has made a difference in someone’s life. It’s the reason this podcast exists, and it’s why I am honored and privileged every time a survivor agrees to talk with me. But it never ceases to amaze me when someone reaches out to me, instead of me reaching out to them. Such is the case with this episode: as a response to last week’s invitation to email me if one of you, my listeners, wanted to be considered to be on this show, Leanne Cameron emailed me and shared her story of being raped as a child. Her story was compelling, and I immediately wrote back to Leanne. Those emails led to me having the privilege of having a Zoom call with Leanne, at first with the intention of discussing the possibility of having her on this show; but it only took about one minute to determine that Leanne would make an exceptional guest. She came across as articulate, able, and willing to tell her story. And it was obvious that telling her story would impact many listeners in very positive ways. It is an honor to introduce you to Leanne Cameron. Leanne’s desire in being on the show is to help other victims and survivors realize that they are not alone while, at the same time, bringing awareness to the magnitude of the widespread scourge of rape and sexual assault. Leanne has a deep desire to help bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault, and felt that by telling her story, and telling others to Start by Believing, she would accomplish this, and more; in her words, “I want to change people’s perceptions of victims, stop victim blaming, help Start by Believing, and understand why we can’t talk about [rape] straightaway.” Well, Leanne, you’ve got a great start on all of this. And it’s a job well done. Please listen to this episode, then tell everyone you know to give it a listen. And please rate this episode and subscribe to this podcast…even if you don’t listen to every episode; your listening helps bring justice to victims and survivors, and helps this podcast grow! Thank you for being a part of these efforts. It matters, because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. And by the way, if you’re a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any type of interpersonal violence, and you would like to be a guest on this show, email me…let’s talk about it!

27. Nicole Florisi: A Conversation on Trauma Impact, Recovering, and Surviving! I have the true pleasure and honor of hosting Nicole Florisi this week, as she returns to the show. She was a guest back in mid-January with her training colleague, and a good friend of mine, Von Kliem. I’m excited to have Nicole back for this episode. Nicole shares with us her vast knowledge of the neuroscience of trauma, and I think even more importantly, the impact of interpersonal trauma on our daily lives. Because of Nicole’s astounding educational and experiential background, she can speak to the many different intricacies and complexities of the impact of trauma, but she does so in such a unique and comprehensive way, that listening to her is enlightening AND entertaining. Nicole is passionate and zealous about helping people…it’s in her veins to do so. And that passion and zealous heart comes out as you listen to her. I know you’ll feel it…it’s impossible not to. So, my deep appreciation and gratitude go out to Nicole for her willingness to come back and speak to us! Nicole mentioned, in our conversation, that she would be willing to answer any questions you might have about the topics we discussed in this episode. So, I’m posting her email below. And mine to!...don’t be shy, we would both love to hear from you! Please share this episode with everyone you know…you’ll be helping to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. And another way to do that is to Start by Believing. These are both intensely important, because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. https://.org

23. Tracy Matheson: We Can Move Beyond ‘Sorry’ So Molly’s Death is Not In Vain Molly Jane Matheson was raped. Then murdered. Molly’s mother, Tracy, found Molly’s body, half-naked, in Molly’s apartment shower. Molly could be alive; her killer was a reported, known rapist.  Yet there were failures, in law enforcement, in prosecution; Molly’s killer could have been in jail for rape—long before Molly was killed. “Everyone says they’re sorry…and, of course, they’re sorry…that is the only thing that anyone can say, really, is that they’re sorry. That’s not going to get us anywhere, ya know?...like, we’re just gonna stay sorry. I think we can move beyond sorry, and kind of, openly look at…’mistake’ is such a minor word for what they were…but…those failures, and how they happened, and how they could have been avoided. And how we can learn from them. And how we have to learn from them. And how we can’t keep doing things the way we’ve done them; there’s not room for that anymore.” Those are Tracy Matheson’s words…this episode is Tracy Matheson’s plea to law enforcement, and prosecutors, and all of us, to move past the rape culture we’ve been stuck in. And to become trauma-informed. And my plea is to all of you, too…to Start by Believing. And become trauma-informed. That can be your part to help bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. Because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. And sometimes…murder. Join Tracy’s efforts. Check out her Project Beloved website. And do something to help.

Still Bringing The Good… Revisiting Haley Roma Episode 18 You may remember my interview with Haley Murphey last December…if not, be sure to go back and listen to Episode 11! Well, Haley has since gotten married, and is now Haley Roma. And that’s not all that’s changed…she’s also gotten a promotion at the Crime Victims Assistance Center in Binghamton, New York. Haley continues to excel, but now in her new admin position of Assistant Director of Education and Training. I won’t give away all the great information that Haley shared, here in these notes; you’ll have to listen to the episode to get the fantastic updates and information that Haley gives us. But I will let you know that Haley wants to hear from you, about how she and the CVAC can better serve victims and survivors of rape, sexual assault, and interpersonal violence. Haley is fantastic at what she does, but realizes that there’s always room for improvement. And she wants to hear from you if you have some creative and constructive ideas on ways that she and the Center can accomplish that. Her email address is: Please share this episode with everyone you know, and don’t forget to subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories – the SASS Podcast, even if you don’t listen to every episode. Your subscription helps the podcast grow, which is important because it helps in doing your part to bringing justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. And remember to Start by Believing.