#misattunement

When a child’s needs aren’t being met by their caregiver, by not being fed or feeling safe, they develop a distorted view of relationships. This attachment schema is the lens through which they examine the behavior of others, impacting their ability to form relationships and lead a healthy, happy life.

In past episodes, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have talked about connection being one of our survival needs, but an insecure attachment directly challenges this need. Being close to others, feeling vulnerable and connected, can also be very dysregulating to those who learned to survive with unemotional or unreliable caregivers.

So, how can you overcome your learned patterns to create healthy relationships with yourself and others? The answer is nervous system training.

In this episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth will walk you through attachment schema, how the three insecure attachment styles develop and show up as behavioral outputs, and how nervous system regulation has helped them work toward lasting change.

Tune in for all this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Attachment style from the NSI perspective

• How insecure attachment schema affects social development

• Nervous system regulation as a way to change our patterns

• The areas of the brain responsible for creating neuro tags

• How the 3 insecure attachment styles develop and are expressed

• Misconceptions about avoidant attachment style

• Disorganized attachment and complex trauma

 

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One thing you’ve probably heard over and over again on this season of Trauma Rewired is that nervous systems affect one another. In fact, our nervous systems are continuously responding and adapting to each other’s signals — a process called coregulation.

Coregulation is important for maintaining safe, healthy relationships but can have a negative impact on the nervous system when someone is dysregulated or experiencing misattunement. A lack of connection through coregulation also impacts our ability for emotional self-regulation, which can lead to maladaptive behaviors like drinking, binge eating and codependency.

During this episode, Elisabeth and Jennifer define coregulation and attunement, and explain their role in self-regulation and emotional expression. They dive deeper into the importance of coregulation and the development of self-regulating behaviors in childhood, as well as the impact mothers, and even fathers, have on an infant’s stress response. Finally, you’ll hear how you can create change in your nervous system, and the positive results Elizabeth has noticed in her own life because of her own nervous system work.

As Jennifer says in this episode, “knowledge is power when you put it into action.” So give this episode a listen now!

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• What it looks like to have a regulated nervous system

• Our definition of coregulation

• How nervous systems impact each other and our ability to regulate

• Coregulating with pets or nature

• When we learn how to be self-regulators

• The role of attunement for regulation

• The effects of misattunement in childhood

• Can your children inherit your trauma response?

• How the body responds to stress and the HPA axis

• Creating change and repatterning your nervous system

• The influence of fathers on infant’s development

 

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“How many experiences in love do we have to have (where we burn it down or blow it up) before we actually understand love is real, and we start to change our response to those people or those situations?” 

Emotions are necessary for our survival, telling us when to be scared or cautious for our own protection. Trauma causes us to view situations and people through the lens of our past experiences, making us hypervigilant and sensitive to any perceived threat of danger. This dysregulation of our emotions, and in turn our nervous system, undoubtedly has a profound effect on our health and relationships. 

The quote above comes directly from this episode of Trauma Rewired, in which host Jennifer is joined by Elisabeth Kristof of Brain-Based Wellness and Matt Bush of Next Level Neuro, both founders of the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching Certification Program. They explore the topic of emotions with a neuro somatic intelligence approach. 

You’ll learn how emotion is stored in the body, why emotional regulation is important for our body’s functioning, and how trauma affects our expression or suppression of emotions. Matt also shares new and exciting discoveries in the study of emotions. 

Tune in for an in-depth conversation on emotions, including the physiology and why they’re important for the healing process! 

Topics discussed in this episode: 

● Emotions and the limbic system 

● Why emotions are necessary for survival 

● Homeostasis and emotional regulation 

● Feelings vs. emotions 

● How trauma affects how we express (or don’t express) emotions 

● Elisabeth gives an example of suppressing her emotions 

● The personal experience of pain 

● Where emotions are stored in the body 

● Mechanism of memory in relation to trauma 

● Creating and releasing tension/trauma in the body 

● Emotions as triggers 

● How do we train ourselves to perceive emotions/relationships differently? 

 

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