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    Explore "pleaser" with insightful episodes like "Paloa om at være people pleaser i sengen og have sex selvom hun ikke har lyst", "Episode 152: Unlock Your Productivity: How the Enneagram Can Help You Overcome Procrastination", "150. 6 Ways To Stop Being A People Pleaser So You Can Live The Life You Want Instead Of The Life You Think You Should Live", "Ep103 - Kitt O'Malley: Finding Balance with Bipolar Disorder" and "Ep 3: Confessions of a Passive Husband" from podcasts like ""Bare Sex", "Your Enneagram Coach, the Podcast", "The Fit Mess: A Men's Mental Health Podcast", "HIListically Speaking with Hilary Russo" and "Not Your Average Man"" and more!

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    Paloa om at være people pleaser i sengen og have sex selvom hun ikke har lyst

    Paloa om at være people pleaser i sengen og have sex selvom hun ikke har lyst
    "Er du sikker på, at du har lyst til at tage med ham hjem?" spørger Paulines veninde, efter Pauline har fortalt hende, at hun smutter hjem med en fyr. "Ja da," siger Pauline, for hun har jo lyst.. Ikke?

    I dette afsnit snakker vi med sanger Paloa, hvis borgerlige navn er Pauline. Vi dykker ned i hvor svært det kan være at mærke sine grænser, samt mærke hvornår man slet ikke har lyst til sex vs. hvornår man bare ikke har så meget lyst som før, men stadig nok til at fortsætte. Vi snakker om at gå i kropsterapi, for at lære sig selv at kende, samt hvorfor det kan være altødelæggende at tage sine people-pleaser-tendenser med i sengen. Og så kommer Pauline ind på en oplevelse hun havde, hvor hun endte med at gå over sine egne grænser, så hendes krop måtte sige fra, fordi hun ikke selv kunne. Pauline kommer også ind på hvad der har hjulpet hende med at finde styrken til at sige fra. Til sidst besvarer vi sammen på lytterspørgsmål, som er blevet sendt ind til vores brevkasse.

    Medvirkende: Paola, sanger og sangskriver



    Episode 152: Unlock Your Productivity: How the Enneagram Can Help You Overcome Procrastination

    Episode 152: Unlock Your Productivity: How the Enneagram Can Help You Overcome Procrastination

    Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut of procrastination? Are you looking for a way to unlock your productivity and get more done?

    The Enneagram, using a gospel lens, is a powerful tool that can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses, and make lasting changes that will help you break free from procrastination. In this video, we'll show you how to use the Enneagram to overcome procrastination and unlock your productivity.

    Order Beth and Jeff’s new book, More Than Your Number: https://amzn.to/3z9OZ7e 

    Discover your Type, learn what it means, and transform your life with the Discovering You course: https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/discoveringyou 

    Learn how your Enneagram Type affects your marriage with Beth and Jeff’s book, Becoming Us: https://amzn.to/3vEhyrh 

    Accelerate your personal growth and spiritual renewal with The Enneagram Collection Journals: https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/journals 
    References:
    It’s About Time: The Six Styles of Procrastination and How to Overcome Them https://amzn.to/3Pv1QYg 

    #Enneagram #Productivity #PersonalityType

    Get your ticket at yourenneagramcoach.com/datenight.

    Get your ticket at yourenneagramcoach.com/datenight.

    150. 6 Ways To Stop Being A People Pleaser So You Can Live The Life You Want Instead Of The Life You Think You Should Live

    150. 6 Ways To Stop Being A People Pleaser So You Can Live The Life You Want Instead Of The Life You Think You Should Live

    About This Episode

    What if you could create a life that you love? Better yet, what if you could learn to do this by tuning into who you truly are, instead of looking outside of yourself for approval? Your life is not your own if you always care what others think. When you truly know to your core that you are here to be the highest version of yourself and that you are the one who gets to define what that is, the pressure is off. Life is completely up to you. It’s now your game. You get to choose. You are free. 

    Tracy Secombe has helped thousands of people pleasers to become Soul Pleasers® after experiencing chronic burnout from chasing recognition her entire life. By following her six simply explained steps, you will remember your true essence of joy and be who you want to be so you can relish in wonderful relationships, health, abundance, and fulfillment. Tracy can help to unlock who you are meant to be.



    In this episode of The Fit Mess we discuss:

    • How to help others without sacrificing your own wellbeing 
    • Your natural ability to share what’s true for you without offending others 
    • What you really love and want to do with life and how to gain the confidence to pursue it 
    • How to finally love yourself no matter what and set that example for your children 

    Don’t let the conversation end there. Join us in our Facebook Group where you and fellow Fit Mess listeners can connect for monthly challenges, accountability to reach your goals, and a supportive community. 

    Like this show? Please leave us a review here – even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!

    Resources:

    Get your Free One Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens!

    Get Tracys' book here: From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser  

    You can download Tracy’s free 60-second emotion switch here: https://go.soulpleaser.com/optin
     

    Join the Soul Pleaser community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/soulpleaser 

    Learn more about Tracy’s coaching services here: https://www.tracysecombe.com 

    Contact Us

    If you enjoyed this episode, check out:

    How To Live Your Most Authentic Life Through The Power Of Surrender With Kute Blackson

    Ep103 - Kitt O'Malley: Finding Balance with Bipolar Disorder

    Ep103 - Kitt O'Malley: Finding Balance with Bipolar Disorder

    Imagine being a young therapist who walked away from her career due to her own mental illness.

    As a mother and wife, Kitt O’Malley was confronted with that choice when she noticed a shift in behavior that was detrimental to herself and others.

    On this episode of HIListically Speaking, she shares more about the stigma between bipolar and depression that haunted her for two decades.

    How her psychotherapy background helped her show up powerfully for her son and his emotional well-being and some sage advice to parents when it comes to accountability.

    What it means to successful.

    And a reminder from one perfectionist to another, you are enough.


    To grab a copy of Kitt O’Malley’s book,  Balancing Act - Writing Through a Bipolar Life, find it on Amazon. 

    You can also connect with her on her website https://www.kittomalley.com or instagram at  @kittomalley

    If this conversation touched, moved or inspired you in any way... leave a review, pass it along, and

    consider signing up to receive info on upcoming HIListically Speaking episodes at http://hilisticallyspeaking.com/

    Connect with Hilary on Social Media @hilaryrusso

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/hilaryrusso

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hilisticallyspeaking/

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    Website: http://www.hilaryrusso.com/


    Watch on Youtube:

    https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLD9Zog7G0YoglxYEiftvGqtJbirq474J3

     

    HIListically Speaking with Hilary Russo

    Created/Hosted by Hilary Russo

    Music by Lipbone Redding

    Edited by 2 Market Media

    Ep 3: Confessions of a Passive Husband

    Ep 3: Confessions of a Passive Husband

    Chris went all the way from Greece to Japan and back just to avoid conflict.

    Sure, it was for lunch at Epcot, but there still is quite a bit of distance between the two. Believe it or not, many men would go to even more extreme lengths to avoid conflict or to avoid an upset wife. You might even be one of them.

    On today’s episode Chris not only confesses his struggle in life as a passive husband, but he’s also sharing all the different ways it affected his marriage and his children, and what steps he took to “recover”. If you think you might struggle with passivity, there’s hope. You don’t need to always settle for what everyone else wants. There really is a better way. Join us to learn what it is!

     

    Have feedback or something you want to discuss? Drop us a line at email@notyouraverageman.com

     

    Don’t forget to Follow us so you don’t miss out on future episodes where we discuss some real issues and also hear from other better than average men.

    When Nice Girls Set Boundaries with Seryna Myers

    When Nice Girls Set Boundaries with Seryna Myers

    In this episode you'll meet sacred transformation mentor Seryna Myers, who helps us understand the sacredness of anger. In our culture, we try to either push down our own anger, or we try to help other people not feel anger. But the truth is if we can feel anger and move through that that's actually incredibly helpful to ourselves, and to the people that we share spaces with.

    This interview is so powerful: Seryna brings such a calm to any space she's in. We talk about energetic sovereignty, and also how curiosity can save us.

    Seryna is a sacred transformation mentor and author of the book Sacred Anger. Her divinely guided coaching guides recovering people pleasers. Seryna has personal and professional commitment to exploring the shadow side of light work in safe and sacred spaces are what make her coaching programs have deep and lasting impact.  

    You can connect with Seryna here:

    Instagram
    Facebook

    The Nice Girl's Guide to Luscious Living: the secrets behind getting more of what you want

    To reach out to Merideth Bisiker, host of the Bound for Change podcast, you can email podcast@talktomycoach.com.

    Timestamps:

    4:24 Seryna's definitions of boundaries

    6:21 How being a nice girl is built into the social construct of being a woman and how that impedes our ability to set boundaries

    7:51 How the pandemic has brought a positive change and wiped the slate clean for folks who want to set new boundaries

    12:39 Setting new boundaries and not letting everyone in on shifts and growth that is happening in Seryna's personal life

    15:45 Media and advertisers' ability to take advantage of the fact that their audiences have "checked out" and struggle with  their mind body connection

    17:15 Seryna's personal experience in setting boundaries, which began with a sad event at the age of 17

    20:47 The uncomfortable truth of being a people pleaser / nice girl

    24:06 Energetic sovereignty and denying others the experience of allowing them to navigate life themselves by doing it with them

    28:57 The relationship between capacity and boundaries; how do you KNOW what your capacity is?

    33:14 The way to discover your energetic baseline and thus your boundaries

    35:13 The benefits of just saying "No"

    38:57 How empaths respond to emails in an efficient and respectful way

    44:53: TicTok and Schitt's Creek: How we manage our personal boundaries around media and tech

     

    Ep. 52: How to Know if You are a People Pleaser in Your Marriage

    Ep. 52: How to Know if You are a People Pleaser in Your Marriage
    Do you ever find yourself pursuing the happiness of your spouse at the expense of your own well being or your own desires? Perhaps you’re married to someone who struggles with this. If this is you, then today’s episode is for you! Join us and find out what the roots of that people pleasing may be and what to do about it. You both deserve a voice in your marriage!  

    Don’t forget to check out Episode 26 if it relates too. “Growth for the Passive Husband

     

    Find our show notes at https://www.expeditionmarriage.org/podcast

     

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    Ep. 136: How to Go Faster by Slowing Down - Steve Prentice

    Ep. 136: How to Go Faster by Slowing Down - Steve Prentice

    “We respond to things emotionally faster than we do logically.”

     

    Time is precious. There are so many things to do and there are even more distractions. Maybe the hardest things to overcome in the game of time are our own habits and mindsets related to work and relaxation. Steve Prentice suggests slowing down, BUT that doesn’t mean moving slowly. It means being in control. He’s mastered time management through an emphasis on living intentionally. He’s isolated and found solutions for many work related behaviours and patterns that hinder efficiency and health.

    Steve Prentice is an author, speaker, mentor, and project manager who helps people find better ways to blend talent, technology, and time. He’s the author of two best-selling books, Cool Time - A Hands On Plan For Managing Work And Balancing Time, and Cool Down - Getting Further By Going Slower. As president of the consulting firm, The Bristall Group, he delivers workshops in time management, project management, business writing. He lectures in the Management Program at the University of Ontario Institute of Technology in Toronto and is also regularly called on as an expert and consultant by major media to comment on issues of workplace overload, time management, and technology. He delivers numerous keynotes each year and also writes columns on productivity and technology.

     

    Expert Action Steps:

    • Record your ideas on paper as clear as your short-term memory.
    • Invest time to communicate with mentors.
    • Manage your expectation of what is available in a day. Identify the best things that you can work on during the day and focus on that.
    • BONUS. Go to cool-time.com, enter the user name: reader, and password: cooltime to get access to a wealth of time management tools.

     

    https://www.steveprentice.com/

     

    Also mentioned in this episode:

    Parkinson’s Law.

    Temple Grandin Ph. D.

    Raymond Aaron has shared his vision and wisdom on radio and television programs for over 40 years. He is the author of over 100 books, including Branding Small Business For Dummies, Double Your Income Doing What You Love, Canadian best-seller Chicken Soup for the Canadian Soul, and he co-authored the New York Times best-seller Chicken Soup for the Parent’s Soul.

    www.Aaron.com

    Ep 75 - Are You A People Pleaser?

    Ep 75 - Are You A People Pleaser?

    Many women in my community struggle with people pleasing and in this week’s episode, I’m diving into what people pleasing is, how to identify it and how to put your own needs first.

    A general definition of a people pleaser is a person who has the emotional need to please others, often at the expense of their own needs or desires.

    In this episode, I share:

    • Four key signs that you’re a people pleaser
    • A description of my “Likeable Lucy” persona to help you identify how people pleasing may be impacting your leadership style
    • Why we are constantly training others how to treat us
    • How to set and communicate healthy boundaries

    HELPFUL LINKS

    Ep 58 – The Challenges We Face as Women in the Workplace:

    https://carla-miller.mykajabi.com/blog/ep-58-women-in-the-workplace

    Ep 32: Why We Look To Others For Validation:

    https://carla-miller.mykajabi.com/blog/ep-32-why-we-look-to-others-for-validation

    Brené Brown’s Power of Vulnerability TED Talk:

    Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability

    Find Brené Brown’s Books here:

    https://brenebrown.com/books-audio 

    BE BOLDER

    Increase your confidence and assertiveness at work in my new 4 week course for women.

    Learn how to set healthy boundaries, say no more often, speak up more confidently in meetings, worry less about what others think of you, have the courage to have challenging conversations and be more assertive in your communication.

    Find out more here: https://www.carlamillertraining.com/be-bolder

    WORK WITH CARLA

    As well as coaching women leaders to have more influence, make more impact and be kinder to themselves in my programme Influence & Impact, I also give keynote speeches and trainings to organisations wanting to develop women in leadership roles.

    Get in touch to find out more or book a call with me.

    Keynotes, training and coaching: https://www.carlamillertraining.com/employers

    Influence & Impact: https://www.carlamillertraining.com/influence-impact

    CONNECT WITH ME:

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlamiller1/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisiscarlamiller/

    Website: https://www.carlamillertraining.com/

    Thanks for listening!

     

     

     

    #112 - How to Recognise Our Mental Negative Saboteurs. with Eva Gruber

    #112 - How to Recognise Our Mental Negative Saboteurs. with Eva Gruber

    INTRO

    Eva Gruber is a Habit Coach and Mental Fitness Advocate. She supports entrepreneurs, managers, and teams who “have too much on their plate” to improve their peak performance, wellbeing, and relationships through a mental fitness practice and good habits. She lives in Vienna/Austria with her French fiance, her yoga mat, and an adventurer’s mind.

    What this Episode is about

    Eva talks about our mental saboteurs, which we all have to some degree or another. They include -

    • Controller,
    • Judge
    • Procrastinator
    • Victim
    • Hyper achiever
    • Hyperrational
    • Pleaser
    • Avoider

    As you can imagine they can have a negative effect on our behaviours and beliefs. Eva talks in this episode about two of these. The Judge and Pleaser and how they can sabotage us. But as Eva explains we also have the Sage Powers who can help us combat those saboteurs. Listen in to learn more.

     

    Eva Gruber

    BIO

    Eva Gruber is a Habit Coach and Mental Fitness Advocate. She supports entrepreneurs, managers, and teams who “have too much on their plate” to improve their peak performance, wellbeing, and relationships. How?

    • By establishing a strong mental fitness practice (through discovering one's mental self-sabotage caused by mental saboteurs like the Hyper-Achiever, Controller, Pleaser, Avoider, etc.).
    • By creating supportive routines, stopping bad habits, and starting good ones.

    As only 1 out of 5 people use their mental potential and 6+ hours of one's day are based on mostly unconscious habits, this is a game-changer! By training 3 brain muscles and good habits, you

    • improve peak performance especially when stressed, angry, or insecure,
    • live healthier relationships with your team, clients, and family, and
    • feel happier.

    Eva Gruber founded 2 ventures and supported hundreds of challenged people. She is trained by and collaborates with leading researchers and experts, like Professor BJ Fogg PhD (Stanford University) or neuroscientist Shirzad Chamine (Positive Intelligence). She has been featured as a speaker at entrepreneurship or wellbeing events and podcasts, as a co-author of soon-to-be-launched books, and as an executive contributor for the top-magazine Brainz. She lives in Vienna/Austria with her French fiance, her yoga mat, and an adventurer’s mind.   

     

    CONTACT DETAILS / LINKS

    Webpage -   https://evagruber.org/ 

    Email - hi@evagruber.org

    Newsletter -  https://bit.ly/EmailListEvaGruber

    LinkedIn -  https://www.linkedin.com/in/habit-coach-eva-gruber/ 

    ‣ Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/eva_gruber_habit_coach/

     

    ABOUT WENDY CAPEWELL

    Wendy is a Psychotherapist, Coach, Public Speaker, and Author. She helps people who are stuck either in their personal, professional or relationships, get to the root of the problem which is holding them back, let go - and move forward into a happier more successful life. 

     Connect with Wendy Here......

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Copewelltherapies

    Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendycapewell/

    Website - https://www.wendycapewell.co.uk/

    Book –‘From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship’- Link to Amazon

    Email – info@wendycapewell.co.uk

    Email me if you would like to receive my newsletter. which contains my latest news, articles and special offers.

    If you have enjoyed this show then please leave a review.

     

     

     

    Faith Moves: Are You A People Pleaser?

    Faith Moves:  Are You A People Pleaser?

    FAITH MOVES:  Are You A People Pleaser?

    WOW- People Pleaser a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires.

    Check Your Faith: It’s ok to put others first but not at the expense of your happiness.  Don’t overload yourself with other people’s responsibilities.  Learn you and what makes you happy...and don’t worry about what other people think.  It may be difficult at first, I know, but take the step to a happier, healthier you!

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    -Do you need to check your faith?  We can help!

    Contact us at: 

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    EP81: Are you a people pleaser?

    EP81: Are you a people pleaser?

    Are you a people pleaser? Michaela breaks down what people pleasing is in relation to empaths and aura colors! Find out what makes you a people pleaser, how it affects your life in a multitude of ways as well as strategies to work around it. Scott takes a quiz to find out if he is a people pleaser! Listeners share their own stories of getting stuck in awkward situations after saying “yes” when they should have said “no”! Scott shares a touching story about a listener with a life changing manifestation story!

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    EP81: Are you a people pleaser?

    EP81: Are you a people pleaser?

    Are you a people pleaser? Michaela breaks down what people pleasing is in relation to empaths and aura colors! Find out what makes you a people pleaser, how it affects your life in a multitude of ways as well as strategies to work around it. Scott takes a quiz to find out if he is a people pleaser! Listeners share their own stories of getting stuck in awkward situations after saying “yes” when they should have said “no”! Scott shares a touching story about a listener with a life changing manifestation story!

    Mystic Michaela Instagram

    Mystic Michaela Website

    Mystic Michaela Facebook Group

    Mystic Michaela Podcast Itunes

    Mystic Michaela Bonus Episode - Every Aura Color Explained

    Get a free trial of Premium Membership at SkillShare.com/kya

    Get a 30 free trial at DipseaStories.com/kya

    Find out how to lower your monthly payments today Upstart.com/kya

    More podcasts at WAVE!

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