Podcast Summary
Things we own can inspire us to achieve exceptional things: Owning exceptional possessions can inspire new experiences and opportunities, from turning a home into an Airbnb to landing a coveted interview
Exceptional possessions can inspire us to do exceptional things. Whether it's a snowboard that convinces a newbie to tackle the mountain or a luxurious car with advanced features that opens up new possibilities, what we own can significantly impact what we achieve. Similarly, turning a home into an Airbnb not only brings in extra income but also allows us to share a piece of ourselves with travelers from around the world. In the case of the Jordan Harbinger Show, a candid interview on Impact Theory led to a significant boost in listeners and opportunities. Overall, the things we have can inspire us to reach new heights and create meaningful experiences.
Embrace the challenge of deliberate practice: Focus on strengthening weaknesses and hone strengths for personal growth. Seek out challenges and forbidden knowledge to unlock full potential.
The importance of deliberate practice in personal growth. Jordan Harbinger, the former phone hacker turned podcast host, emphasizes the need to focus on strengthening weaknesses while continuing to hone strengths. Most people neglect this approach, preferring to avoid addressing their weaknesses or practicing indiscriminately. Harbinger's impressive background, including experiences in North Korea, language fluency, and successful business ventures, is a testament to the power of deliberate practice and curiosity. By seeking out the forbidden or esoteric, Harbinger has amassed a wealth of knowledge and skills, making him a sought-after speaker and coach. Embrace the challenge of deliberate practice to unlock your full potential.
Focusing on building relationships instead of outworking everyone: Rebelling against traditional paths, focusing on building relationships led to valuable network and success
Sometimes, the most unconventional paths can lead to great success. The speaker shares how they felt like an outsider at Wall Street and instead of trying to outwork everyone or make themselves smarter, they focused on building relationships. At the time, this was a counterintuitive approach, but it paid off. They learned this skill from a partner who worked from home and generated business for the firm through relationships. The speaker then dedicated their life to mastering this skill, which gave them a significant time advantage over their colleagues. This approach allowed them to build a valuable network and eventually teach these skills to others, leading to success and a reputation as someone who knew everyone. The speaker's rebellious streak and desire to understand why people were trying to keep something a secret led them to this unconventional path, and it ultimately paid off.
From basements to the airwaves: The evolution of podcasting: Started in basements, podcasting grew from a niche hobby to a successful business through determination, serendipitous opportunities, and charging for expertise.
The podcasting industry began as a niche hobby with limited reach, but through determination and serendipitous opportunities, it transformed into a successful business. The speaker, Jordan Harbinger, started podcasting with a friend in their basements, distributing MP3 files through iTunes. They initially saw potential when their conversations reached listeners in different parts of the world. Podcasting was still in its infancy, with only a few hundred shows on iTunes at the time. The speakers saw no monetization potential initially, but as listeners began to request coaching, they started charging for their expertise. This led to a steady stream of income and eventually caught the attention of SiriusXM satellite radio, who offered them their own show. The business aspect of podcasting didn't fully materialize until they started charging for coaching services, but the initial focus was on sharing knowledge and connecting with a growing audience.
From personal transformation to business success: By sharing their personal experiences and transformation, the founders of the coaching business discovered a demand for their services and turned it into a successful business using the 'doorway principle' of practicing confidence and authenticity until it becomes natural.
The foundation of their coaching business was built on the demand for their services and the transformation they brought to their clients. Their first client flew in and lived with them for a week, paying for the rent in exchange for coaching. This experience showed them that people were willing to invest in learning from them, leading them to realize that they could turn their coaching into a business. The coaching techniques they used were based on their own experiences, specifically overcoming shyness by acting more confident and allowing people to treat them differently. This concept of acting confidently until it becomes natural is encapsulated in the "doorway principle," which involves practicing body language and behavior in new situations until it becomes second nature. This approach, as described by Bruce Lee, is about "kicking until you don't think kick, I just kick." Overall, their business and coaching techniques were driven by the demand for their services and the transformation they brought to their clients, and the importance of confidence and authenticity in creating positive first impressions.
Resetting body language at doorways for positive first impressions: Practice resetting body language at doorways for confident, open posture to make positive first impressions consistently.
Our nonverbal communication, especially our body language, plays a significant role in making first impressions, often before we even speak. This is an evolved behavior that happens subconsciously. To make a positive first impression consistently, we can practice resetting our body language every time we walk through a doorway. This simple action can help us create a habit of open, upright, confident body language, which can lead to better interactions and more positive responses from others. By reminding ourselves with visual cues like Post-it notes at doorways, we can train ourselves to make a good first impression without having to think about it consciously. Other psychological principles that can have real-life applications include understanding the power of revision and review, the importance of social proof, and the impact of framing and priming on our perceptions and decisions.
Deliberate practice of strengths and weaknesses: Focus on improving weaknesses as much as strengthening strengths for personal growth and effective communication. Immerse yourself in new skills through real-life experiences and seek guidance from a coach for optimal learning.
Deliberate practice of both strengths and weaknesses is crucial for personal growth and effective communication. The speaker, who identifies as a nerd and a fan of psychology, emphasizes the importance of focusing on improving weaknesses as much as strengthening strengths. He believes that most people neglect this aspect and instead prefer to avoid addressing their weaknesses or practice everything indiscriminately. Another valuable insight shared by the speaker is the power of immersion in learning new skills, especially languages. He recounts his personal experience of learning German as an exchange student in Germany, where he was surrounded by the language and had to immerse himself to communicate effectively. This experience led him to realize that he could learn languages much more effectively through immersion than through traditional classroom methods. Lastly, the speaker emphasizes the importance of having a coach or teacher when learning new skills. He believes that while self-teaching can be effective, learning with a coach provides the best results. Overall, the speaker encourages listeners to focus on deliberate practice, embrace immersion, and seek out the guidance of a coach to maximize their learning potential.
Building Meaningful Relationships Takes Time and Effort: Persistently reach out to individuals you admire, focus on giving without expecting anything in return, and build relationships before they're needed. Offer value and avoid only thinking about what's in it for you.
Building meaningful relationships takes time and effort, even if it means reaching out to someone you admire and asking for their guidance. Jordan Harbinger shared his experience of persistently reaching out to individuals he respected until they agreed to mentor him. He emphasized the importance of giving without expecting anything in return and building relationships before they are needed. Harbinger also warned against the common mistake of only thinking about what's in it for you when reaching out to others. Instead, focus on what you can offer and provide value to the person you're trying to connect with. By adopting this mindset, you'll increase your chances of forming meaningful and mutually beneficial relationships.
Unexpected opportunities from helping others: Helping others without expecting anything in return can lead to unexpected opportunities and create a ripple effect. Avoid keeping score in relationships and focus on building genuine, authentic connections.
Helping others without the expectation of anything in return can lead to unexpected opportunities. The speaker shared a personal story about how he needed a dentist urgently but couldn't find one until a random stranger helped him out. This stranger, in turn, was later introduced to an entrepreneur who needed graphic design work. The graphic designer got a full-time job because of this introduction, and the speaker didn't even know about it until later. This shows that helping others can create a ripple effect and lead to opportunities that you might not even be aware of. Another important takeaway is to avoid keeping score in relationships. The speaker warned against creating covert contracts in your head, where you expect something in return for your help or kindness. If someone doesn't reciprocate, don't hold a grudge or be passive-aggressive. Instead, focus on building genuine, authentic relationships based on mutual respect and support. Remember, people are more likely to help you if they feel appreciated and valued, rather than if they feel like they owe you something. So, be generous with your time, energy, and resources, and trust that the universe will bring opportunities your way when you're ready for them.
Building strong relationships requires selflessness and trust: Be selfless, give without expecting return, don't keep score, and build genuine relationships for a vast network of supportive friends and opportunities.
Building strong relationships requires selflessness and trust. The speaker emphasizes the importance of digging wells before being thirsty, giving without expecting anything in return, and not keeping score. By following these principles, one can create a vast network of supportive friends and opportunities. The speaker's personal experience of leaving a long-term job and starting anew illustrates the power of having a strong network and the importance of being vulnerable and authentic. Despite initial fears and doubts, the speaker was able to reach out to friends and mentors for help, leading to a successful reinvention of his career. Ultimately, the speaker's advice is to focus on building genuine relationships, trust, and a strong network, as these will provide invaluable support and opportunities throughout one's life.
Preparation and planning lead to success during uncertain times: Research, put a unique spin, focus on long-term perspective, draw on past experiences, and maintain a financial safety net can help alleviate anxiety and lead to greater success.
Preparation and financial planning are crucial for success, especially during uncertain times. The interviewee emphasized the importance of doing one's own research and putting a unique spin on things to stand out in a crowded arena. He also shared his experience with overcoming anxiety by focusing on the long-term perspective and drawing on past experiences. Despite feeling anxious and uncertain, he emphasized the importance of having a financial safety net to allow for focused and deliberate action towards long-term goals. Planning ahead and maintaining a long-term perspective can help alleviate anxiety and lead to greater success.
Focusing on action can help alleviate suffering: Taking action, even when feeling sorry, can provide a distraction and direction, helping to alleviate some suffering.
Taking action can help end suffering, even if it's not a universal solution. When Jordan Harbinger found himself feeling sorry for himself after losing a business, he realized that every second spent feeling sorry was a waste of time. Instead, he focused his energy on getting back to work and producing his podcast, The Jordan Harbinger Show. This not only distracted him from his suffering but also gave his energy a direction and helped him feel better. Action may not eliminate all suffering, but it can alleviate some of it. This discovery was an accidental find for Jordan, but he encourages others to try taking action instead of wallowing in their suffering. You can find Jordan and his new show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow him on Instagram @TheJordanHarbingerShow for updates and new episodes.
Providing valuable insights for personal growth: Jordan Harbinger's podcast delivers actionable knowledge to listeners, enabling them to build upon it and make meaningful improvements in their lives.
Jordan Harbinger, the host of The Jordan Harbinger Show, is deeply committed to delivering value to his audience by providing them with actionable insights they can use to improve their lives. He sees his show as a way to provide "one piece Legos" of knowledge that listeners can build upon over time, creating a meaningful impact on their lives. Harbinger's approach to podcasting is authentic, generous, and inspiring, and he is a master at holding two competing ideas in his head – striving for greatness while remaining humble and focused on helping others. His dedication to building genuine relationships and nurturing friendships is a testament to his character and a reminder of the power of authentic connection.
The Importance of Building Relationships Before They're Needed: Consistently nurture relationships for success; don't wait until the last minute to establish connections
Building strong relationships takes consistent effort and cannot be neglected until a need arises. During an amazing episode with Tom Bilyeu, Jordan Harbinger opened up about his past experiences and the importance of nurturing relationships. He emphasized that it's crucial to establish connections before they are needed and not wait until the last minute. Jordan encouraged listeners to check out his Level 1 course at advanced human dynamics.com/levelone for insights on how to build relationships effectively. Additionally, he invited listeners to share their thoughts on the episode and engage with him on social media. The show was produced in association with Podcast One and coproduced by Jason DeFilippo and Jen Harbinger. Remember, life is like a highway, and it's essential to make the most of opportunities when they come along. Don't miss out on the Mcrispy chicken sandwich detour – enjoy the journey and connect with others along the way.