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    204. Should we be thinking about kids in our 20s?

    enJune 14, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Role of children in our futureConsidering the role of children in our future involves reflecting on whether to be younger parents or focus on careers, with resources like podcasts available for self-care, making friends, career success, and personal development at any age.

      During our 20s, we begin to consider the role of children in our future, whether we want to be younger parents or focus on our careers. Melissa Fumero and Stephanie Beatrice, hosts of the More Better podcast, encourage listeners to reflect on self-care, making friends as adults, and listening to oneself. Meanwhile, Gabby Collins hosts Bridgerton The Official Podcast, inviting fans to dive deeper into the show. Jesse Hempel's Hello Monday Podcast discusses the complexities of midlife career success, and Leah Smart's Everyday Better podcast focuses on personal development. Perez Hilton's podcast keeps listeners informed on pop culture news. Regardless of age or life stage, there are various resources available to support personal growth and exploration.

    • Young parenthood decisionsConsidering having children in your twenties can offer more freedom and choice in the long run, but it's important to consider factors such as ethics, climate change, and personal readiness before making a decision. Delaying the conversation may lead to missed opportunities.

      Considering having children in your twenties can bring up many questions and decisions that may feel daunting, but it can also provide more freedom and choice in the long run. Hearing stories from friends and others who have children or are planning to have them can offer valuable insights into family and future planning. The decision to have children is a personal one, but it's important to consider factors such as ethics, climate change, and personal readiness. Delaying the conversation may seem easier, but it can also lead to feeling strapped to a timeline and missing opportunities. Ultimately, having an open and honest conversation about having children, even in your twenties, can lead to a clearer understanding of your priorities and goals for the future.

    • Reproductive DecisionsMaking the decision to have children involves considering the impact on career, travel, relationships, and personal growth, while also considering the biological clock for women

      The decision to have children or not, and when to have them, significantly impacts various aspects of our lives. For women, there is a biological clock that affects our ability to have children naturally, which can influence the timing of this decision. However, delaying having children comes with its own benefits, such as greater freedom and financial stability. So, it's essential to consider the potential consequences on career, travel, relationships, and personal growth before making a choice. Ultimately, it's a personal decision that requires careful thought and planning.

    • Romantic pressure and family planningAs people age, the pressure to find a partner and start a family can increase, leading to anxiety and stress. It's crucial to prioritize finding a connection and ensuring alignment on important life decisions, but also important to remain flexible and adaptable in the face of uncertainty.

      As people age, the pressure to find a romantic partner and start a family can increase, leading to feelings of anxiety and stress. This is not just due to societal expectations, but also the realization that the window for having children may be closing. For those who have not yet found a partner who shares their values and goals, the process of finding one can feel daunting and urgent. The stakes are higher, as the decision to have children is a significant one that requires careful consideration and alignment with a partner. While it's important to prioritize finding a connection, it's also crucial to ensure that both parties are on the same page regarding important life decisions, such as having children. The pressure to make this happen can lead to milestone anxiety, as people may feel that they are not where they want to be in their lives or that they are missing a key ingredient for the life they dream of. However, it's important to remember that relationships and family planning are complex and influenced by factors beyond our control, such as chance, timing, and fate. Despite our best efforts and preparations, unexpected events can still occur, and it's essential to remain flexible and adaptable in the face of uncertainty.

    • Fertility in your twentiesInvesting in your fertility in your twenties can lead to better outcomes for future family planning, as chances of natural pregnancy decrease after late twenties, and advances in fertility treatments continue to improve options.

      Considering fertility in your twenties is an important investment in your future health and potential family planning. A friend's experience of being told her chances of having a natural pregnancy were low if she waited past her late twenties served as a wake-up call. Ignorance may seem blissful, but being informed about your fertility can help you make informed decisions about your future. This includes considering the possibility of starting a family earlier rather than later. While it may seem intense or premature, treating fertility as seriously as other aspects of your life, such as career goals, can lead to better outcomes in the long run. Additionally, advances in science and technology continue to improve fertility treatments and options. So, even if you're not currently thinking about starting a family, being informed about your fertility can empower you to make informed decisions when the time comes.

    • Reproductive decisions in 20sMaking informed decisions about having children and taking care of one's health and fertility in the 20s can have significant implications for the future, and considering personal experiences and expert advice can help navigate these choices.

      Making decisions about having children and taking care of one's health and fertility in one's 20s can have significant implications for the future. The ability to make informed decisions based on current information, such as egg freezing, can provide a sense of control and flexibility. It's essential to consider whether one wants children in the future and whether starting a family in one's 20s is the right choice. Listening to personal experiences and expert advice can help individuals navigate these decisions. Ultimately, the choices we make in our 20s can impact our lives in profound ways, and it's crucial to consider the potential consequences.

    • Embracing uncertainty and finding joyExplore stories of individuals who have faced tough challenges and come out stronger, emphasizing the importance of empathy, resilience, and a growth mindset. Embrace uncertainty and find joy in the journey of personal development and growth.

      Life presents us with complex questions and situations, and it's essential to approach them with empathy, resilience, and a growth mindset. From the upcoming season of Family Secrets, we'll explore stories of individuals who have faced tough challenges, including a sister wrongfully convicted, and come out stronger. Meanwhile, Everyday Better podcast emphasizes the importance of personal development, building internal resources, and enjoying the journey towards growth. For parents, the Perfect Kids podcast, Koala Moon, offers a solution to bedtime struggles. And for those who have chosen to have children in their 20s, the decision may be unconventional but valid, as one mother shares her experience of having a baby at 23 and facing stigma. Overall, these podcasts encourage us to embrace uncertainty, learn from others, and find joy in the journey.

    • Young Decisions, Meaningful LifeMaking decisions based on personal priorities and values, rather than societal pressure, can lead to a more fulfilling life, even if those decisions involve having children earlier than the norm.

      Having choices and knowledge at a younger age can lead to more meaningful decisions in life, even if those choices involve having children earlier than the societal norm. The speaker shared stories of individuals who had children young or discovered unexpected circumstances that drastically altered their plans, but ultimately found value in their experiences. These stories highlight the importance of considering one's priorities and values early on, and the potential benefits of making decisions based on those considerations, rather than societal pressure or expectations. Additionally, the speaker emphasized that having children is not the only way to live a fulfilling life and that having choices and knowledge can lead to a sense of peace and clarity, regardless of the ultimate decision.

    • Family Planning in our TwentiesConsider the role of children in life plans during twenties, but remember science advances, more info equals more choices, make conscious decisions based on desires and circumstances

      During our twenties, it's essential to consider the role of children in our life plans, but it's important to remember that science is advancing, and it's never too late to make decisions about starting a family. More information equals more choices, and if we want children, considering factors like dating choices and health during this decade can give us more power. If we don't want children, that's okay too, and we can change our minds. The episode emphasizes the importance of thinking about children as a significant aspect of our life plans, just like we consider retirement, dream jobs, and relationships. It's a reminder to be informed and make conscious decisions based on our desires and circumstances. Additionally, the hosts encourage listeners to share their thoughts, stories, and opinions on the topic and invite them to follow the podcast for future episodes.

    • Perspective and GrowthThe importance of shifting perspectives and embracing growth is a valuable lesson from the debate over Taylor Swift's supposed greater influence and success compared to Michael Jackson, reminding us that personal opinions and context significantly impact our perceptions.

      While both Taylor Swift and Michael Jackson have made significant impacts on the music industry, the claim that Swift is "bigger" than Jackson is subjective and open to interpretation. Leah Smart, host of the Everyday Better podcast, shares insights from personal development stories and research-backed ideas to help listeners lead more fulfilling lives. In a recent episode, she discussed the importance of shifting perspectives and embracing growth. Meanwhile, on the Perez Hilton podcast, a debate ensued about Swift's supposed greater influence and success compared to the late Michael Jackson. Perez Hilton, the podcast host, argued that Swift's popularity is unmatched, while another guest disagreed, recalling the media frenzy surrounding Jackson's career. Ultimately, the discussion highlights the complexity of measuring success and influence in the entertainment industry. While both artists have made remarkable contributions, the debate serves as a reminder that personal opinions and context play a significant role in shaping our perceptions. To listen to more thought-provoking discussions and personal development insights, tune in to the Everyday Better podcast, and for the latest entertainment news, catch the Perez Hilton podcast. Both are available on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you get your podcasts.

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