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    280. Being Better: How to form a habit that STICKS!

    enJanuary 06, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Understanding Habits for Efficiency and ProductivityHabits are repeated behaviors that save mental energy, make up 45% of daily actions, and can be used to improve productivity and well-being.

      Habits are automated behaviors that help streamline our lives by reducing the need for decision making and motivation. They make up approximately 45% of our daily actions, and the brain forms them in an effort to seek efficiency. A habit is a behavior that is repeated in the same context or environment, and over time, it becomes a subconscious process. By understanding this and focusing on forming good habits, we can transform our lives and make daily tasks easier to manage. The importance of habits extends to both the short and long term, as they help us save mental energy and improve our overall productivity and well-being. So, instead of relying on motivation and willpower to get things done, try to make them habits. It's a powerful way to make positive changes in your life.

    • Understanding brain's preference for efficiency and habit formationOur brain forms neural connections for repeated thoughts or actions, creating habits. Habits can be powerful and hard to break due to brain's preference for familiarity. Decision-making capacity decreases as the day progresses, making deliberate choices crucial when fresh.

      Our brain is wired to favor efficiency and habit formation. It creates shortcuts by forming neural connections when we repeatedly think or do something. These habits, whether good or bad, can be powerful and hard to break due to the brain's preference for familiarity. Moreover, our decision-making ability is limited, and we make the best decisions when we're fresh. As the day progresses and we get tired, our decision-making capacity decreases, making it more challenging to make efficient choices. Understanding this can help us be more mindful of our habits and make deliberate choices when our decision-making quota is at its peak.

    • Start your day with a routine to save decision-making energyEstablish a morning routine with a series of habits to maximize decision-making capacity and save mental energy for important tasks.

      The first hour of your day should be an automated process with a series of habits to maximize your decision-making quota for important tasks. According to the discussion, making decisions in the evening is less efficient and can lead to wasted energy. By establishing a routine at the start of the day, you can save mental energy for more significant tasks. This routine should include a set of behaviors you do back to back in the same order every day, eliminating the need for decision-making and allowing you to start your day feeling fresh and focused.

    • Establishing new habits sets the tone for the dayFocus on creating new, positive habits to replace unwanted behaviors instead of solely trying to eliminate them

      Developing new habits is an effective way to build discipline and improve daily routines. The initial effort required to start a habit is the most challenging part, but once it becomes a routine, it becomes easier to add new habits to your daily regimen. The morning is an ideal time to establish new habits as it sets the tone for the day. However, it's essential to be flexible and not be too hard on oneself if evening habits are not consistently met. When trying to break a habit, it's more productive to focus on creating new, positive habits rather than solely trying to eliminate the unwanted behavior. The brain forms connections based on frequent activities, so instead of trying to break a habit, focus on overriding it with a new, desirable habit. For instance, instead of trying to stop taking a certain path that leads to an unwanted behavior, create a new path that leads to a positive habit. This approach is more effective in the long run.

    • Focus on creating new positive habits instead of eliminating old onesInstead of wasting energy trying to destroy old habits, put effort into strengthening new positive ones for long-term change

      Instead of focusing on eliminating unwanted habits or thoughts by trying to break them directly, it's more effective to put energy into creating new, positive alternatives. This concept can be compared to a footpath where the grass grows over an unused path. Instead of wasting energy trying to destroy the old path, weaken it by using our energy to strengthen the new path. This requires conscious effort and attention, but once a deep groove is formed, the old habit becomes less appealing and harder to return to. So, instead of trying to delete unwanted habits, focus on overriding them with new, positive ones.

    • Replace old habits with new onesConsistently repeat new behaviors until they become automatic to effectively change habits

      Forming new habits and breaking old ones involves more than just eliminating the unwanted behavior. According to the discussion, it's crucial to replace old habits with new, fulfilling ones to prevent the brain from slipping back into old patterns. This concept is particularly important for individuals dealing with addictions. The repetition of new behaviors, as in cognitive behavior therapy or physical skills like dancing or tennis, helps the brain become more efficient and rewards us by making the new behavior automatic. So, to effectively change habits, focus on consistently repeating the new behavior until it becomes second nature.

    • Establishing a morning routine can conserve mental energyCreating a consistent morning routine with habits helps structure your day, reduces decision-making, and conserves mental energy

      Developing good habits can significantly improve your daily life, particularly in the morning. According to the discussion, the number of decisions we make each day depletes our cognitive energy, making it essential to establish routines to conserve mental resources. Creating a consistent morning routine, which includes habits, can help structure your day and reduce the number of decisions you need to make. For a more detailed explanation, check out the linked episode on habits in the show notes. Remember, be kind to yourself and your brain, and don't let others or yourself bring you down.

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