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    Best Of: How to Squirt & Find Your G-Spot w/ Deborah Sundahl

    enJune 02, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Exploring the Ability to Squirt and Finding the G SpotEvery woman can squirt, connected to the G spot, and it's not urination but a fluid build-up in the body. Learn practical tips from experts to achieve this unique sexual experience.

      Every woman has the ability to squirt, and it's connected to the G spot. The G spot is a consistent location in every woman's body, and finding it can lead to this unique sexual experience. Squirting is not urination but rather a fluid build-up in the body. It's important to understand the difference between squirting and orgasm. Deborah Sundahl, a sex educator and female ejaculation expert, shares practical tips on how to achieve squirting with a partner. Embracing the mess and using tools like the PlayDrop sex mat can make the experience more enjoyable. Emily encourages listeners to explore their bodies, prioritize pleasure, and demystify squirting through her book, articles, and live events.

    • Explore and enhance your sex life this summerTry new products like Promescent's delay spray and warming arousal gel, explore the G-spot with the Magic Wand, and learn from sex experts like Deborah Sundahl for longer-lasting pleasure

      Summer is the perfect time to explore and enhance your sex life with the help of some exciting products and experts. Use code Emily10 at checkout on Playdropmats.com for a 10% discount and a free bonus play rag. Try Promescent's legendary delay spray or warming arousal gel for longer-lasting pleasure. The iconic Magic Wand, a vibrator and cultural icon, is available in various models to suit different lifestyles. Deborah Sundahl, a pioneer in female ejaculation and G-spot exploration, shares her expertise and advocacy for sex education. Feminism led Deborah to explore female sexuality and discover the G spot and female ejaculation in the 1980s. Embrace the summer's steamy energy and unlock new heights of pleasure. Check out promescent.com/emily and sexwithemily.com/magicwand for exclusive discounts and exciting discoveries.

    • Understanding the complexities of female sexual anatomyThe g spot, or female prostate, and clitoris have distinct differences in location and nerve structure, but are interconnected in female sexual response.

      The popularity and accessibility of pornography over the last decade have brought topics like female ejaculation into the mainstream, despite common misconceptions that all women can ejaculate due to the existence of the female prostate. However, many women are still unaware of how to find their g spot or the difference between clitoral and g spot orgasms. The g spot, or Goddess Spot, is actually the female prostate and its surrounding erectile tissue, which can be accessed through the roof of the vagina. The clitoris, on the other hand, is primarily erectile tissue with a different nerve structure. Despite earlier misconceptions, recent discoveries have shown that the clitoris extends inside the body, making it all the more important to understand the interconnected nature of female sexual anatomy.

    • Exploring unique orgasms: G-spot and prostateWomen have a prostate linked to the vagus nerve, leading to full-body orgasms. Learn about anatomy, practice pelvic floor exercises, and be open to new experiences for greater sexual satisfaction.

      Women have a prostate, which is connected to the pelvic branch of the vagus nerve and can lead to unique orgasmic experiences. These orgasms, often referred to as G-spot or prostate orgasms, are characterized by long, slow breaths, body movement, and relaxation instead of clenching. Unlike clitoral orgasms, which are more focused and require quick stimulation, these full-body orgasms can be accessed through self-exploration and touching the prostate. Women can start by learning about their anatomy, practicing pushing out their pelvic floor muscles to see the ridges of their G spot, and being open to new experiences. Understanding this difference in orgasms can lead to greater sexual satisfaction and pleasure for women.

    • Exploring the body: Prostate and vaginal pleasurePatience, knowledge, and a shift in perspective are key to understanding and enjoying the body's unique pleasures, whether it's the prostate or the vagina. Prioritize health goals while still enjoying favorite foods, like hero bread, and focus on the experience for new levels of pleasure.

      Understanding and exploring the body, whether it's the prostate or the vagina, requires patience, knowledge, and a shift in perspective. The prostate, once considered non-existent or irrelevant, is now recognized as an essential part of sexual pleasure for many individuals. Similarly, the vaginal orgasm, often overlooked or misunderstood, can be achieved through slow and deliberate stimulation of the g spot or prostate. The key is to approach sexual exploration as an art, not a mechanical process. Additionally, in relation to the sandwich discussion, it's important to prioritize health goals while still enjoying favorite foods. Hero bread offers a solution for those looking to reduce carb intake without sacrificing taste or texture. By slowing down and focusing on the experience, both in and out of the bedroom, individuals can unlock new levels of pleasure and understanding of their bodies.

    • Exploring Intense Orgasms: Breathing, Movements, and CommunicationFocus on breathing and body movements during sex for intense orgasms, including g-spot and female ejaculation. Communication and trusting pelvic floor muscles enhance these experiences.

      During sexual activities, focusing on breathing and body movements can lead to intense orgasms, including g-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. These experiences are not limited to specific positions or the use of toys or hands, but rather involve the whole body and the release of pleasure throughout. Orgasm and ejaculation are separate functions, and all women have the capacity to ejaculate. To enhance these experiences, it's essential to communicate with your partner, be aware of your body, and trust the natural processes of your pelvic floor muscles. Additionally, it's important to note that the sensation of needing to urinate during sexual activity is a common misconception and should not deter you from exploring these pleasurable experiences.

    • Understanding Female Ejaculation: It's Not UrineFemale ejaculation is a real phenomenon, providing nutrients and protective elements for sperm. Overcome fears, relax, and embrace this unique orgasmic experience with the right circumstances and supportive partner.

      Female ejaculation is a real phenomenon, and it's important to understand that it's not urine but rather a fluid rich in nutrients and protective elements for sperm. The urge to ejaculate can sometimes be mistaken for the need to urinate, but letting go and allowing it to flow is key to experiencing this unique aspect of sexual pleasure. The fear of peeing during ejaculation can be a major obstacle, but with relaxation, acceptance, and the right circumstances, including a supportive and understanding partner, women can embrace this emotional and powerful orgasmic experience. It's essential to prepare for potential messiness with blankets or other protective measures and to build up to the ejaculate as part of the overall pleasure. The key is to let go of any judgments or fears and trust the process.

    • Exploring the G Spot for SquirtingExplore the G Spot with tenderness and patience for a new level of intimacy and pleasure, not just for male obsession or large penises.

      Helping a partner achieve vaginal squirting is about connection, respect, and self-discovery. It's not just about male obsession or having a large penis. Instead, it's about learning how to massage the g spot with tenderness and patience. This technique involves identifying the area with the finger, starting from the urethral canal and moving down to the vaginal opening, and going in about 2 inches. It's important to remember that the g spot is not deep inside but rather an inch and a half to 2 inches from the belly button. This discovery can lead to a new level of intimacy and pleasure for both partners. Ultimately, it's essential to approach this experience with respect and understanding, recognizing that it's a natural part of the body and not a shiny new toy or a shiny new car.

    • Exploring your G-spot: A journey of self-discoveryTake responsibility for your sexual pleasure, explore your body mindfully, and stay connected to enhance orgasms and feel more aroused.

      Exploring and understanding your own body, specifically the G-spot, is a process of awareness and self-discovery. It's important to approach it slowly and without pressure, taking the time to notice the texture, temperature, and structure of the area. The G-spot is a common feature in all women, but everyone's experience is unique. By staying connected to your body and relaxing, you can enhance your own orgasm and feel more aroused. It's empowering to take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure and explore your body in a mindful and intentional way.

    • Exploring the vagus nerve for fulfilling orgasmsActivating the vagus nerve during sex can lead to powerful, relaxing orgasms. Practice slow, intentional touch to engage the nerve and reduce stress.

      The key to a fulfilling and powerful orgasm lies in activating the vagus nerve, which is often referred to as the "meditation nerve" or the "anti-stress nerve." Deborah Sundahl, an expert on female ejaculation and the G-spot, emphasizes the importance of tender loving care and slowing down during sexual activities to engage the vagus nerve effectively. This nerve not only leads to the prostate orgasm but also promotes relaxation and reduces stress. Sundahl encourages women to explore their bodies and learn about their own sexuality, emphasizing that everyone is responsible for their own orgasm. Her book, "Female Ejaculation and the G Spot," is a valuable resource for those interested in this topic. By focusing on the vagus nerve and practicing slow, intentional touch, individuals can enhance their sexual experiences and unlock new levels of pleasure.

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